you look at a profile, you like what you read and see.
so you send a polite email, message complimenting them on their profile and photos and even request a poss meet.
then what, nothing, diddly squat. not even a polite answer just to say thanks for taking the time to write.
are people really that ignorant?
is it just bad manners?
are they the same in the real world?
we always answer mails even if to thank them for taking the time to write.
even to single men who we request not to contact us we answer with the jane n john book reading club then they are added to the ignore list.
rant over.
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Are people really ignorant?
Yes Karrob,
You have hit the nail on the head. Many couples ARE ignorant and have little in the way of manners when it comes to responding to an approach. Seems you, like us and countless others have taken time to approach someone and as you say probably compliment them on their ad, profile or pics. Many are too 'blind' to see that they are being paid a complement. Same with replies from single guys. We are not playing at the moment but to circumstances but do receive responses from single guys who we have not asked to reply. We are flattered that someone has responded and ALWAYS reply. Many just ask how is Maddy progressing and that's nice. A little bit of ettiquette goes a long way in daily life and goes a damn sight further in our swinging community. OK off my soapbox now!
Smooth2
You have hit the nail on the head. Many couples ARE ignorant and have little in the way of manners when it comes to responding to an approach. Seems you, like us and countless others have taken time to approach someone and as you say probably compliment them on their ad, profile or pics. Many are too 'blind' to see that they are being paid a complement. Same with replies from single guys. We are not playing at the moment but to circumstances but do receive responses from single guys who we have not asked to reply. We are flattered that someone has responded and ALWAYS reply. Many just ask how is Maddy progressing and that's nice. A little bit of ettiquette goes a long way in daily life and goes a damn sight further in our swinging community. OK off my soapbox now!
Smooth2
Sex God
well i reply to all messages we get but then we don't get many guess that speaks volumes 
Orgasminator
There are probably as many answers to this as there are members.
Generally, we will always reply to a mail that fits what we’ve detailed in our profile. However, we will ignore those who send ‘winks’ or the classic one liner’s with “gr8 profile – lets fook (or similar).
Those that have taken the time to read the profile, complied a reasonable mail will get a respectful reply either in the affirmative or negative.
When we approach other members either via mail or in the chatrooms, we’ve done our ‘homework’ read their profile, addressed the salient points and are generally successful in our approach.
We do agree that it’s annoying to have sent mail only for a silence to arrive as a response. These day’s we now look at it as positive and that he/she/they are not quite the person/people we were hoping to meet.
Generally, we will always reply to a mail that fits what we’ve detailed in our profile. However, we will ignore those who send ‘winks’ or the classic one liner’s with “gr8 profile – lets fook (or similar).
Those that have taken the time to read the profile, complied a reasonable mail will get a respectful reply either in the affirmative or negative.
When we approach other members either via mail or in the chatrooms, we’ve done our ‘homework’ read their profile, addressed the salient points and are generally successful in our approach.
We do agree that it’s annoying to have sent mail only for a silence to arrive as a response. These day’s we now look at it as positive and that he/she/they are not quite the person/people we were hoping to meet.
Sex God
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/303753.html
Here's one I prepared earlier! :giggle:
Here's one I prepared earlier! :giggle:
Master of Sex
I always reply to mails....not sure if Si does though as he usually gets me to answer mails he gets lol..but he's a lazy man. Saying that most the mails I get are from single guys who haven't read the profile first, saying that I do prefer a mail saying something polite rather than one just saying 'Hi'.
It's just basic manners to reply to mails as you would if someone spoke to you in person I think.
It's just basic manners to reply to mails as you would if someone spoke to you in person I think.
If we send a nice message to anyone we would HOPE to get a reply back, and being honest, we would only contact people who have an active ad running looking to meet, however if we got no response it would be assumed we are not what they were looking for and leave it at that, we certainly wouldn’t see it as bad manners, although it might be bad manners on our part if we EXPECT a reply from anyone.
Sex God
Do i reply to all mails?? No.
A few months back I removed my ad and replaced the written paragraph on my profile saying 'I was only here to chat at the moment'. I received more mails asking to meet than ever.
I also don't meet cpls or have the box ticked in my profile to meet cpls... but still get mails from cpls asking to meet.
When i have an ad i state the age group i look for.. So when i get a guy 10 yrs over that mailing saying he has read it and is interested... i ignore.
Am I wrong to do this? No. Why do i do this? Because these people have not read anything. I am very pacific if what i look for and state it very clearly when seeking fun so therefore have not got the time to keep too-ing and fro-ing mails of 'Sorry you don't fall in the catagory of what im looking for' to be asked.. 'Why?' or told 'you don't know what your missing'.
Breath.
A few months back I removed my ad and replaced the written paragraph on my profile saying 'I was only here to chat at the moment'. I received more mails asking to meet than ever.
I also don't meet cpls or have the box ticked in my profile to meet cpls... but still get mails from cpls asking to meet.
When i have an ad i state the age group i look for.. So when i get a guy 10 yrs over that mailing saying he has read it and is interested... i ignore.
Am I wrong to do this? No. Why do i do this? Because these people have not read anything. I am very pacific if what i look for and state it very clearly when seeking fun so therefore have not got the time to keep too-ing and fro-ing mails of 'Sorry you don't fall in the catagory of what im looking for' to be asked.. 'Why?' or told 'you don't know what your missing'.
Breath.
ffs..not this again
we don't always reply.......are we arrogant?......
those people we choose to meet make their own mind up about that
and whilst we are on the subject......where on our profile does it say...
please mail us.....write whatever shite you want....and it's your right that we reply?
don't think it does......but you'd think so sometimes :smile:
surely... not recieving a reply is a no thanks......can't poeple work that out for themselves?
take a leaf out of brucie's book.....reading his thread made him realise what not getting a reply really means :wink:
we don't always reply.......are we arrogant?......
those people we choose to meet make their own mind up about that
and whilst we are on the subject......where on our profile does it say...
please mail us.....write whatever shite you want....and it's your right that we reply?
don't think it does......but you'd think so sometimes :smile:
surely... not recieving a reply is a no thanks......can't poeple work that out for themselves?
take a leaf out of brucie's book.....reading his thread made him realise what not getting a reply really means :wink:
Sex God
The OPs have been on this site for more than 2 years. This subject has come up many times in that period. So, this isn't really a request for information - it's a rant. Fair enough - I like a good rant myself. But the question has been answered, hundreds of times and dozens of ways.
Sex God
Quote by foxylady2209
The OPs have been on this site for more than 2 years. This subject has come up many times in that period. So, this isn't really a request for information - it's a rant. Fair enough - I like a good rant myself. But the question has been answered, hundreds of times and dozens of ways.
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Quote by Freckledbird
The OPs have been on this site for more than 2 years. This subject has come up many times in that period. So, this isn't really a request for information - it's a rant. Fair enough - I like a good rant myself. But the question has been answered, hundreds of times and dozens of ways.
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Oi :kick:
I was about to do that.
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I dont reply to every email and I make no apology. I try to reply but some days you just get sick of those who cant read my ad/profile .... if I replied would they be able to read that ??
To those I reply the majority accept with no more contact and some say thanks for reply but I do get some that turn nasty and that also makes me not want to reply to the next email.
If you think I am ignorant then you probably wouldn't want to meet me anyway so saves a lot of hassle lol
To those I reply the majority accept with no more contact and some say thanks for reply but I do get some that turn nasty and that also makes me not want to reply to the next email.
If you think I am ignorant then you probably wouldn't want to meet me anyway so saves a lot of hassle lol
Sex God
As an interesting aside we have received mail from people we've never mailed saying they are replying to our mail
I like those ones best because then I get to mail them back with some really obscure perversion invented from the back of my mnd saying that they'd agreed to it from our original correspondence (of course there had been none) :D
I like those ones best because then I get to mail them back with some really obscure perversion invented from the back of my mnd saying that they'd agreed to it from our original correspondence (of course there had been none) :D Sex God
I thought just occured to me. Must have been wind, but I'll post it anyway.
A person has every right to choose to send me a mail.
But surely I have a right to choose too?
When I get home I find a handful of envelopes on the mat. I look at them and I make a decision - to respond or not. Them sending me the mail does not give them the right to force/expect me to reply.
Surely the same applies to unsoliciated mail on here. OK, replying would be 'polite'. But if I don't want to I don't have to. I certainly haven't told the sender that I will so I'm not breaking any agreement. What perhaps would be polite is making contact in chat or on the forum before sending me mails.
Summary:
So if I HAVE to reply, then a random person CHOOSING to send me a random mail takes away my right to choose. That isn't acceptable is it? One of the main themes of swinging is making concious choices, not being blindly led by social opinions, and not being foced to act against our wishes just cos of someone else's expectations.
Told you - must have been wind.
A person has every right to choose to send me a mail.
But surely I have a right to choose too?
When I get home I find a handful of envelopes on the mat. I look at them and I make a decision - to respond or not. Them sending me the mail does not give them the right to force/expect me to reply.
Surely the same applies to unsoliciated mail on here. OK, replying would be 'polite'. But if I don't want to I don't have to. I certainly haven't told the sender that I will so I'm not breaking any agreement. What perhaps would be polite is making contact in chat or on the forum before sending me mails.
Summary:
So if I HAVE to reply, then a random person CHOOSING to send me a random mail takes away my right to choose. That isn't acceptable is it? One of the main themes of swinging is making concious choices, not being blindly led by social opinions, and not being foced to act against our wishes just cos of someone else's expectations.
Told you - must have been wind.
Sex God
we got round to it in the end........
Sex God
Quote by Freckledbird
The OPs have been on this site for more than 2 years. This subject has come up many times in that period. So, this isn't really a request for information - it's a rant. Fair enough - I like a good rant myself. But the question has been answered, hundreds of times and dozens of ways.
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known em way more than 2 years.....Karob...littluns 11 !!!!!
Quote by foxylady2209
I thought just occured to me. Must have been wind, but I'll post it anyway.
A person has every right to choose to send me a mail.
But surely I have a right to choose too?
When I get home I find a handful of envelopes on the mat. I look at them and I make a decision - to respond or not. Them sending me the mail does not give them the right to force/expect me to reply.
Surely the same applies to unsoliciated mail on here. OK, replying would be 'polite'. But if I don't want to I don't have to. I certainly haven't told the sender that I will so I'm not breaking any agreement. What perhaps would be polite is making contact in chat or on the forum before sending me mails.
Summary:
So if I HAVE to reply, then a random person CHOOSING to send me a random mail takes away my right to choose. That isn't acceptable is it? One of the main themes of swinging is making concious choices, not being blindly led by social opinions, and not being foced to act against our wishes just cos of someone else's expectations.
Told you - must have been wind.
Spot on. I'm not asking for mail. My choosing not to reply to an unsolicited PM doesn't make me ignorant.
