Are single, desperate males something we just have to put up

29 May 2010

Now I understand this is controversial, but we are both sick of a few things, first of all is the effort we have to go to have a convo in the chat rooms, having to sift through all the "nice tits" "would love to fuck you" etc etc etc and second of all is the endless messages from single guys who obviously dont read profiles properly!!!
Now I dont mind you guys telling us your wrong, but we thought "swinging" was a "couples" activity, a life style, a way of life, not an excuse for singles to try and get laid......
rant over
Mrs Atlast x

29 May 2010

Quote by flower411
Now I understand this is controversial, but we are both sick of a few things, first of all is the effort we have to go to have a convo in the chat rooms, having to sift through all the "nice tits" "would love to fuck you" etc etc etc and second of all is the endless messages from single guys who obviously dont read profiles properly!!!
Now I dont mind you guys telling us your wrong, but we thought "swinging" was a "couples" activity, a life style, a way of life, not an excuse for singles to try and get laid......
rant over
Mrs Atlast x

Maybe you should take off the bit about looking for singles on your profile.
That would avoid further confusion lol

And the single females need to be removed from your profile as they are not a couple.......or are single females allowed in the scene as that is your preference?
Dave_Notts

29 May 2010

Live and let live I say, its a pain when people dont read the profile but most do. If it wasnt for a good friend of mine who is a lone wolf swinger we as a couple would never have known anything about it

29 May 2010

Quote by Dave__Notts
Now I understand this is controversial, but we are both sick of a few things, first of all is the effort we have to go to have a convo in the chat rooms, having to sift through all the "nice tits" "would love to fuck you" etc etc etc and second of all is the endless messages from single guys who obviously dont read profiles properly!!!
Now I dont mind you guys telling us your wrong, but we thought "swinging" was a "couples" activity, a life style, a way of life, not an excuse for singles to try and get laid......
rant over
Mrs Atlast x

Maybe you should take off the bit about looking for singles on your profile.
That would avoid further confusion lol

And the single females need to be removed from your profile as they are not a couple.......or are single females allowed in the scene as that is your preference?
Dave_Notts
Silly Dave, we all know single females are a completely different matter, don't we? After all, it's only single males who look to get laid, not single females confused

(tic)

29 May 2010

Quote by Freckledbird
Now I understand this is controversial, but we are both sick of a few things, first of all is the effort we have to go to have a convo in the chat rooms, having to sift through all the "nice tits" "would love to fuck you" etc etc etc and second of all is the endless messages from single guys who obviously dont read profiles properly!!!
Now I dont mind you guys telling us your wrong, but we thought "swinging" was a "couples" activity, a life style, a way of life, not an excuse for singles to try and get laid......
rant over
Mrs Atlast x

Maybe you should take off the bit about looking for singles on your profile.
That would avoid further confusion lol

And the single females need to be removed from your profile as they are not a couple.......or are single females allowed in the scene as that is your preference?
Dave_Notts
Silly Dave, we all know single females are a completely different matter, don't we? After all, it's only single males who look to get laid, not single females confused

(tic)
:doh: silly me
Dave_Notts

29 May 2010

I was expecting that, but do single fems conduct themselves like some single men on here??
No dave is your answer!
Mrs Atlast x

29 May 2010

Most single guys are good respectful people and have just as much rights to be in the scene as couples/females do, Like any activity we do there is always the odd person that's a bit OTT.
Tony ;-)

29 May 2010

Quote by atlast___
I was expecting that, but do single fems conduct themselves like some single men on here??

Some do, some don't
Tony ;-)

29 May 2010

Quote by atlast___
I was expecting that, but do single fems conduct themselves like some single men on here??
No dave is your answer!
Mrs Atlast x

YES is the answer to that.... Being a Chat op on the site, i spent a lot of time in all the rooms, so at times do get to see Fems and some couples for that, being obnoxious, rude. but this doesnt mean everyone on the site is the same.
Being a single male i get rather offended by these types of forum posts... yes, i understand that there are the odd few that come on here thinking that they will get a shag with in 5 mins of chatting.. but there are a lot more that do put the effort it.. the genuine Single Guys have the hardest role on here.... as they are tarred with the same brush from the start.. they have to work harder to show people that they can be desent and honest people.

29 May 2010

Quote by Optix
I was expecting that, but do single fems conduct themselves like some single men on here??
No dave is your answer!
Mrs Atlast x

YES is the answer to that.... Being a Chat op on the site, i spent a lot of time in all the rooms, so at times do get to see Fems and some couples for that, being obnoxious, rude. but this doesnt mean everyone on the site is the same.
Being a single male i get rather offended by these types of forum posts... yes, i understand that there are the odd few that come on here thinking that they will get a shag with in 5 mins of chatting.. but there are a lot more that do put the effort it.. the genuine Single Guys have the hardest role on here.... as they are tarred with the same brush from the start.. they have to work harder to show people that they can be desent and honest people.
Totaly agree with the above.
And if it wasnt for single males on here, i for one would not be swinging.
I have yet to meet a single male, that has been anything but
respectfull.....single females on the other hand....the stories i could tell!!!!!

29 May 2010

Not this single fem!!

30 May 2010

I'll just nip out and get some Tar and a Brush............... Single guys get enough bad press on here as it is and like the other posts I also get fed up of seeing them all being tarred with the same brush......... be it on here or in the local pub or round town there will always be the odd ones who spoil it for the rest........ wheat and chaff also come to mind, thats for couples, single men and single women.
I have heard it before that single's can't be swingers (dont have a few either way on that one) but what about the couples that look for single men and single women, what would they do?

30 May 2010

were couples single people once?
sounds like discriminating against a section of the community to me.
everyone has bad days,sometimes we sound off and say things we do not really mean.
The important thing is to remember that everyone is different.
and no thank you often does the trick.

30 May 2010

I spend a lot of time in the chatrooms and I do that because I enjoy the chat, the banter and the laughs and believe it or not, single guys are a big part of that!! Surprising as it may be to you, most of them can actually hold a conversation!!:shock:
The "nice tits" comments are generally to women who have their tits out on cam and please correct me if I am wrong, but this may be exactly what those women want to hear???
The "I'd love to fuck you" comments, believe it or not, are compliments!! This is a swinging site and people are on the pull. Although some have, most of us are not here to find a life partner. If you're after romance then maybe you've come to the wrong site!!
People will get away with what they can. For example, we went to a club last night and left early as there were flocks of really pushy single guys following us everywhere on the off chance of getting laid. I asked one of them why he came to the club and he said "It's easier than going down town and having to buy someone drinks all night!" Now that is not his fault that he has come to that conclusion .... the club does not enforce rules for single guys and doesn't limit numbers. In most clubs the single guys are very respectful. In the chatrooms, it's the same .... if they can get away with it they will and that is exactly why we have rules and chatroom ops who do a fantastic job!! It is everyone's responsibility to keep the chatrooms enjoyable and safe. If you don't appreciate someones comment then tell them!!! Most of the time a simple "Sorry mate, we're not interested" will do the trick.
Single guys are not the only people who don't read profiles .... we often have to reply to messages from couples and singles (girls included) telling them that we don't think we are looking for the same things. Our profile is very detailed and so all of these people have not read it. You do get more of these messages from single guys, but there are more of them on the site so it's bound to happen!! Take it as a compliment and either delete them or send a message back saying "Thanks but no thanks".
Swinging has different meanings to everyone. Some see it as couples full swapping, some people prefer 3somes and for some one half of the couple likes to watch. These are their individual preferences and without the single guys and girls on here that could never happen!! I agree with Kaz, it is a hobby. People who enjoy sex get together to enjoy sex in whatever form that may come.
Rant over!! lol

30 May 2010

Quote by atlast___
I was expecting that, but do single fems conduct themselves like some single men on here??
No dave is your answer!
Mrs Atlast x

I have come across (not literally) some very pushy single girls in the chatrooms and had some very persistant messages from them.
If you ask a single guy to stop whispering they generally do, but many single fems seem to be of the opinion that the ask before whispering rule doesnt apply to them and when you are asking them not to whisper ..... well you must be talking to someone else!?!?
So to answer your question ,.... yes!! There are single guys, single girls and couples who conduct themselves in a way that people dislike .... shit happens but don't blame it all on the single guys!!

30 May 2010

Quote by atlast___
I was expecting that, but do single fems conduct themselves like some single men on here??
No dave is your answer!
Mrs Atlast x

I have come across (not literally) some very pushy single girls in the chatrooms and had some very persistant messages from them.
If you ask a single guy to stop whispering they generally do, but many single fems seem to be of the opinion that the ask before whispering rule doesnt apply to them and when you are asking them not to whisper ..... well you must be talking to someone else!?!?
So to answer your question ,.... yes!! There are single guys, single girls and couples who conduct themselves in a way that people dislike .... shit happens but don't blame it all on the single guys!!

30 May 2010

atlast....you have an opinion...and thats fine...however what makes you think i am desperate ?? Are you saying couples don't say " nice Tits ".." Fancy a shag "...does that make them desperate ?
I have now been here 6 years, and I enjoy the friendship, banter, and socail side of this site. The sexual side is a bonus. I am single, but not desperate, thankyou very much. I prefer the use of the word quality instead of quantity.
There are disrespectfull people, in all walks of life. They come in all genders, sizes and colours. I have found as a single guy, that I get treated very well, and with great respect by most couples, and I am thankfull of that, and I hope, give them respect back.

30 May 2010

Are single males desperate? Or are they just having to work harder to find what they're looking for? Whether people admit it or not, there's a distinct pecking order in the swinging lifestyle:
1) Single bi fems
2) Single straight fems
3) Couples
4) Single bi men
5) Single straight men
OK... the categories may blur around the middle but you have to agree it's pretty much the way things are. It's like being the worst footie player in the playground: If you don't jump up and down, waving your hand in the air, and shouting "Me! Me! Me!" you'll always end up being the last to get picked.
In my experience as a site moderator I can categorically state that single men are no more likely to cause an upset than single women or couples. In fact, most single men are far more respectful because they know they need to play nice to get a meet. Couples and single fems know they have an upper hand and so don't have to be as respectful.

30 May 2010

Quote by deancannock
atlast....you have an opinion...and thats fine...however what makes you think i am desperate ?? Are you saying couples don't say " nice Tits ".." Fancy a shag "...does that make them desperate ?
I have now been here 6 years, and I enjoy the friendship, banter, and socail side of this site. The sexual side is a bonus. I am single, but not desperate, thankyou very much. I prefer the use of the word quality instead of quantity.
There are disrespectfull people, in all walks of life. They come in all genders, sizes and colours. I have found as a single guy, that I get treated very well, and with great respect by most couples, and I am thankfull of that, and I hope, give them respect back.

guess the wind up interwebby thingymabob is working is deepest darkest wales then

30 May 2010

We were gonna reply to this whinging properly but it seems pretty much everyone has covered all we wanted to say
to summarise - in all walks of life there are cretins
swinging is no different - doesn't matter if they are singles couples or undetermined - there still out there

30 May 2010

Quote by atlast___
I was expecting that, but do single fems conduct themselves like some single men on here??
No dave is your answer!
Mrs Atlast x

In your experience. However, anecdotally there has been a number of site members who have had single females conduct themselves like the single males you refer to. Just read the replies above for example.
The most interesting word in the quote above is the word "some". This will conjure up in the members imagination one or two, ten or twenty, or hundreds, depending on who is reading it. In a site of thousands it can be expected that a few people will be obnoxious, rude, arrogant, etc. If they are then report them to admin if they have been abusive to you. This way the rest of the site will not be affected by them. If it is just that you do not like single males then that is a problem that you will have to overcome on your own as the site is open to all who have an interest in this lifestyle.
One thing that I have had to learn from this site and its members is to accept peoples preferences. Even if it is nothing that I would do or be involved in. This way I have made some good friends, even though we would never swing with them. We just accept them for who they are, even though their preference makes us go :scared:.
There is a way (Cubes the Mod can chip in here as he knows all the buttons lol

) where you can "ignore" people in chat if you want to exclude certain people, you can block sections of the site from PM'ing you if they do not match up with your criteria as well. You have to apply the site filters and this should make your time more enjoyable for you by excluding the people that you do not want to contact you.
Dave_Notts

30 May 2010

What I would say here is that Atlast has got a right to their opinion, and it seems they have been slated somewhat for it.
We look for single guys and we have to say there has only ever been one guy that gave us a tad of grief and he learnt very quickly from me the term..." fuck off ". lol

Other than that ALL the guys have been respectful and decent guys.
The percenatge of single guys on this site for instance far outweighs any other catagory, so there will usually be more problems with that higher percentage.
Yes we notice on a fri or Sat night after about pm the drunken tossers appear who can be abusive, but that is no different to anywhere else.
This thread or on similar lines has been done many times before, with pretty much the same comments as in this thread.
IF you are NOT looking for single guys then make sure you put that clearly in your profile, in the chat rooms you can block whispers which certainly is a help from uninvited people.
On a site like this you will of course get tossers, but ignore them is my advice and as I have said already....write clearly on your profile what you are looking for and a written profile always helps....not always but on most occasions.
Remember nothing is perfect, and this site or some of the members are no exception to that.

30 May 2010

Quote by atlast___
Now I understand this is controversial, but we are both sick of a few things, first of all is the effort we have to go to have a convo in the chat rooms, having to sift through all the "nice tits" "would love to fuck you" etc etc etc and second of all is the endless messages from single guys who obviously dont read profiles properly!!!
Now I dont mind you guys telling us your wrong, but we thought "swinging" was a "couples" activity, a life style, a way of life, not an excuse for singles to try and get laid......
rant over
Mrs Atlast x

Hmmm, so if it's couple they are engaging in a 'lifestyle' and if it's a single male he just 'wants to get laid'. Rather a prejorative attitude you have there. Sweeping statements to the detriment of whole sections of the memebrship are hardly going to recommend you to the rest of the membership.
Perhaps negative assumptions like that are at the root of the problem. I've always found I get get treated in a way that reflects how I have treated others. dunno

In chat you get comments about nice tits, you get offers of an immediate shag, you get (by your measure) endless private messages offering sex. And as a result of all this attention you have to apply some effort in filtering to get to what you specifically want.
If that is the extent of the problems you have on here maybe you should be happy. There are loads of really nice people who -having got over the nerves and fear of rejection we all suffer from - struggle to get replies to any carefully thought through messages, who get blanked in chat and have to work harder than you to get even an acknowledgement. And the fact they are single and male doesn't make that right.

30 May 2010

We look for single guys and we have to say there has only ever been one guy that gave us a tad of grief and he learnt very quickly from me the term..." fuck off ". lol

Other than that ALL the guys have been respectful and decent guys.
The percenatge of single guys on this site for instance far outweighs any other catagory, so there will usually be more problems with that higher percentage.
Yes we notice on a fri or Sat night after about pm the drunken tossers appear who can be abusive, but that is no different to anywhere else.
This thread or on similar lines has been done many times before, with pretty much the same comments as in this thread.
IF you are NOT looking for single guys then make sure you put that clearly in your profile, in the chat rooms you can block whispers which certainly is a help from uninvited people.
On a site like this you will of course get tossers, but ignore them is my advice and as I have said already....write clearly on your profile what you are looking for and a written profile always helps....not always but on most occasions.
we know n have met some nice cpls.....but play with single guys.. not married ones. we still get them saying nearly single. find that single guys can talk more than a lot of cpls. we don t like the wispers in chat room if we don t know them. find single guys will put in a effort to talk....n if u have some one that can t stop whispering then turn them off n let them talk to there selfs.....we find that the guys from cpls r the most rude......tell peeps what u looking for n weed out the ones that don t match.

30 May 2010

Sorry but i am afraid that i myself am abit offended with the post.................
a) WE ALL started off in life as SINGLE, whether we stay SINGLE is upto the individual/s and not the 'other person/s own census/opinion.
b) Swinging IS NOT a 'couples' past-time, it is a 'past-time' for whomever wants to take part............i call it a past-time as for me the wording 'hobby' or 'lifestyle' really doesnt describe it too well. Swinging is what you make it, be you single or a couple, it really is what YOU want it to be, not what somebody else tells you it should be !
c) I myself am part of a couples account, as well as holding our single's account..........both me and my SH counterpart both see ourselves as 'Single' - why.......we both live seperate lives, both have our own commitment and both live in different parts of the UK.
d) I for one do get rather hissed off with the amount of flak that the 'Single' men actually get.........yes there are some 'twats' out there but as we all know, it is a case of weeding out the ones that we dont want to play with or meet up with..............this actually goes for everybody that swings, it's a fact of life within this scene, so please have the courtousy to accept the situation as it is and stop winging about the 'Singles', be it male or female.
Lets face it we all experience the same situations, be you a single or a couple............but please STOP tarring peeps with the same brush !!!!!!!
my rant over, remember this is my opinion and we all have our own opinions, slat me if you wish but please remember, never judge a book by its cover smile

30 May 2010

Come on now everyone... play nicely! ;)

Cos everyone knows this is how it actually works!

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
:therethere: Nevermind atlast. You'll learn! ;)
Mwhahahahahahahahahahahaha :twisted:

30 May 2010

Quote by atlast___
Now I understand this is controversial, but we are both sick of a few things, first of all is the effort we have to go to have a convo in the chat rooms, having to sift through all the "nice tits" "would love to fuck you" etc etc etc and second of all is the endless messages from single guys who obviously dont read profiles properly!!!
Now I dont mind you guys telling us your wrong, but we thought "swinging" was a "couples" activity, a life style, a way of life, not an excuse for singles to try and get laid......
rant over
Mrs Atlast x

Well the last time i had a think about whether swinging was a couple only activiy i had to conclued it isnt,when i join the site i was a single bloke,and lo and beholed i am now in a loving relationship,with a great person i meet through swinging.
So for you to think that swinging is a couples only activiy,is a slight mis judgement on your part,and if you are on cam in the chatroom your are always going to get the 'nice tits' and other such comments.
So it is all part of the chatrooms and as for getting a lot of attention from single blokes just sit bask in the glory and appreciate the attention...

30 May 2010

<<<< Is waiting to be tarred....
Can someone also tell me where the bdsm chatroom is located lol

:lol:

30 May 2010

Quote by atlast___
I was expecting that, but do single fems conduct themselves like some single men on here??
No dave is your answer!
Mrs Atlast x

I'm glad you said SOME single males. Presumably you can report someone being very offensive?
Plim :sad:

30 May 2010

Quote by little gem
Come on now everyone... play nicely! ;)

Cos everyone knows this is how it actually works!
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
:therethere: Nevermind atlast. You'll learn! ;)
Mwhahahahahahahahahahahaha :twisted:

Oh, it would appear that you are a second hand car dealer.
Plim wink