Don't know of any Asian clubs but surely it's not the clubs who decide the race of someone? Maybe there aren't many Asian people at clubs because not many Asian people swing?
I saw this post at the time but was holding my tongue. I guess it is something I feel the need to respond to now.
There are few asian people at clubs because they are made to feel unwelcome. Prejudices & stereotypes are very common, atleast in my experience, so much so that I have given up going.
I have been in the scene for the past 8 years, having been to a number of clubs in Manchester, the Midlands & the South East. I wll admit that I have an additional strike against me by virtue of being a single male but what I have come across is suspicion & hostility. And internet sites are not much better.
Not to say that there were not pleasant meets & nice people but they have been few and far between.
p.s: Not bitter, just resigned. Maybe there is an opportunity there to set up a specialist facility.
would a all asian club be allowed? think its classed as racist to not let someone in a public place based on their colour isnt it ;)
Mike: I agree with you about the sensitivities surrounding race. FYI I have been open to all races. I am presuming that the reasons are mixed but there were a few articles about swinging (one in the Indy comes to mind) which included a socio-economic categorisation of participants etc. I have known Asian couples who swing & not many of them use clubs.
Winchwench: You posted your comment in-line & hence it displays as part of my text. It has not been deleted. All I can say is lucky guy & I wish it was me.
Mallock: I agree that an explicit bar on racial grounds wouldn't work but there are informal networks / unspoken rules anyway which is how 99% of things happen in practice. And my feeling is that most of the ghettoisation happens because of feeling unwelcome, in subtle ways.
Freckledbird: I accept point (b). However when it is Asians who are open to others, your point falls down & it is my assumption that there are a lot more people in this group than the other.
jaymar The original poster asked for clubs that have MORE asians not just asians.
Jaymar: The point I was making was that it doesn't have to be explicit. People don't go where they are made to feel unwelcome. This doesn't even have to be by design.
As for me, I haven't been to a club for years. I meet people more casually.
Mr Powers: If you say so. Though I wonder which of us could claim first-hand knowledge. And in any case Asian swingers are hardly being traditional, be they singles or couples.
Freckledbird: Lots do & there have been threads on the forum before where other posters (including those who have posted on this thread) have defended it. Again, I am not bothered & if anyone doesn't want to meet, I am not insisting that they do. This is a discussion.
NW-cpl: Sounds interesting. So which one is this?
Mr Powers: Er, you shot yourself in the foot there. What I did say was that the atmosphere could be uncomfortable for some Asians. You denied that & claimed it was ciltural. It hardly seems reasonable for you to then state in the next post that whites are being called prejudiced when they choose not to play with Asians.
The reply to Freckledbird was that there were non-Asians specifying preferences excluding Asians in the same way that the OP had expressed a preference for Asians. They don't get flamed in the way that she supposed. Thank you for illustrating my point.
Mr Powers: And this is where you misunderstand. It is equally as likely that I would not approach your wife because she might not be to my tastes. So it is not about people being attracted to me or otherwise. I am who & what I am and a glance at my profile will tell you that. But you are happier to state that there might be a cultural issue rather than consider that there might be a problem originating from your side (not you personally, a figure of speech). It is about keeping an open mind & trying to walk a mile in the other persons shoes.
Mr Powers: Again you misunderstand. You are mixing up two separate points.
NW cpl: Possibly, which is why I expressed it as in my experience & as my opinion, not a total statement of fact. And I did also say that there are good people around too. I have been to Liaisons but that was 6 yrs ago I think, so possibly different now. True re Asian women & indeed most of that is cultural but even allowing for that there is a discrepancy.
Duncan / Mallock: I agreed with you but was pointing out that such slanted behaviour does not have to be explicit.
