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we like to have fun with single males
the thing is once weve had some fun with them they either dont want to know or they just dissapear and the wife is very fit and good looking, its as though they like the first meet then thats it.
are all single males like this or are there any that do like a regular meet up ??????????? sad
no, some single women are like that too. I only meet once.
It is up to the individual in how they want to conduct their life.
Make your expectations clear. eg 'if we all have a great time and fancy each other, would you like to make a regular thing of it?' if they reply 'yes, by golly that sounds marvellous' you know you are onto a winner.
(if after meeting and having sex with you/your wife etc. They decided not to meet again, they are still allowed but it narrows down the reasons for 'disappearing')
I always tell the men (and women) that I meet that I only meet once. There are a few that think they will be the one that change my mind. I can sleep easy knowing that I have spelt out my expectations prior to them removing their y-fronts.
have fun.
Quote by soft_swinging
we like to have fun with single males
the thing is once weve had some fun with them they either dont want to know or they just dissapear and the wife is very fit and good looking, its as though they like the first meet then thats it.
are all single males like this or are there any that do like a regular meet up ??????????? sad

We find couples are like that too. It's like the first meeting there is a buzz, but they don't think the second meet will be as good. We have met guys more than once but even for us after a couple of meets with the same person, the novelty if that is the right word, wears off.
Quote by soft_swinging
we like to have fun with single males
the thing is once weve had some fun with them they either dont want to know or they just dissapear and the wife is very fit and good looking, its as though they like the first meet then thats it.
are all single males like this or are there any that do like a regular meet up ??????????? sad

it depends..... I get that sorted out before I meet, as to whether it is likely to be a one off, or somthing on a more regualr basis...
I like the regular meet thing, but i know a lot of couples who just do the former, whether they fear it will lead to attachment issues or just the buzz of meeting a stranger, or something else i don't know......
Quote by splendid_
I have spelt out my expectations prior to them removing their y-fronts.

What if you don't wear y-fronts.............. rolleyes
Quote by markz
I have spelt out my expectations prior to them removing their y-fronts.

What if you don't wear y-fronts.............. rolleyes
this is not a ploy for you to talk about your crotchless G-string again is it ?
Quote by splendid_
I have spelt out my expectations prior to them removing their y-fronts.

What if you don't wear y-fronts.............. rolleyes
this is not a ploy for you to talk about your crotchless G-string again is it ?
No...............its a ploy just to talk to you........it worked...... :mrgreen:
I would say that it's a simple case of setting out your expectations from the start. As a single gal I feel I must stick up for my single male counterparts here, some will and some won't want more regular arrangements. You just need to ask/clarify that in the first place. Maybe meet socially for a setting out the boundaries/expectations chat before ever you play? That way you can check what they want and all of you should be able to tell if there is a chemistry there that might lend itself to a regular arrangement.
I tend to prefer one off meets, but then there are some people I have met/do meet more often. Just depends... but then I always make that clear at the start!
Hope you have fun.
Nola x
aside:
Isn't a crotchless g-string just a ...string
lp
Quote by LondonPlaything
aside:
Isn't a crotchless g-string just a ...string
lp

you need to speak to markz about it... he loves his. rolleyes
Quote by splendid_
aside:
Isn't a crotchless g-string just a ...string
lp

you need to speak to markz about it... he loves his. rolleyes
I doo like string, however, there are limits, don't you know!
lp
Quote by LondonPlaything
aside:
Isn't a crotchless g-string just a ...string
lp

you need to speak to markz about it... he loves his. rolleyes
I doo like string, however, there are limits, don't you know!
lp
hey your wearing a dress.......... :roll:
do you know what this is the sort of thread that really gets my back up.
Do not take this as a go at you just the scene in general. I'm a single guy I'm respectful and so I'm told by several singles and couples on here as a all round nice guy.
So why dont I get all the fun where is it dunno then you come on saying where are all the single guys :dunno: I just dont get it, am I invisible or is it just a north south divide thing again.
confused
Quote by invisibleman
do you know what this is the sort of thread that really gets my back up.
Do not take this as a go at you just the scene in general. I'm a single guy I'm respectful and so I'm told by several singles and couples on here as a all round nice guy.
So why dont I get all the fun where is it dunno then you come on saying where are all the single guys :dunno: I just dont get it, am I invisible or is it just a north south divide thing again.
confused

rolleyes
Quote by markz
do you know what this is the sort of thread that really gets my back up.
Do not take this as a go at you just the scene in general. I'm a single guy I'm respectful and so I'm told by several singles and couples on here as a all round nice guy.
So why dont I get all the fun where is it dunno then you come on saying where are all the single guys :dunno: I just dont get it, am I invisible or is it just a north south divide thing again.
confused

rolleyes
your point is :dunno:
personally i prefer to only meet once.... however it does happen where i meet the same person more than once. i have fuck buds for regular meets
Quote by Ukwineman
do you know what this is the sort of thread that really gets my back up.
Do not take this as a go at you just the scene in general. I'm a single guy I'm respectful and so I'm told by several singles and couples on here as a all round nice guy.
So why dont I get all the fun where is it dunno then you come on saying where are all the single guys :dunno: I just dont get it, am I invisible or is it just a north south divide thing again.
confused

rolleyes
your point is :dunno:
on the top of my head.............. :roll:
Quote by soft_swinging
we like to have fun with single males
the thing is once weve had some fun with them they either dont want to know or they just dissapear and the wife is very fit and good looking, its as though they like the first meet then thats it.
are all single males like this or are there any that do like a regular meet up ??????????? sad

Not everyone wants a regular meet with the same people. For some, the thrill in swinging is different people, different experiences.
As I was advised to say to one guy who wouldn't leave me alone after our meet - "No thanks, I've had you".
I kind of resent the "wife is fit and good looking" part in your post. Does that mean ugly fat mingers shouldn't expect a second shag then?
Quote by markz
do you know what this is the sort of thread that really gets my back up.
Do not take this as a go at you just the scene in general. I'm a single guy I'm respectful and so I'm told by several singles and couples on here as a all round nice guy.
So why dont I get all the fun where is it dunno then you come on saying where are all the single guys :dunno: I just dont get it, am I invisible or is it just a north south divide thing again.
confused

rolleyes
your point is :dunno:
on the top of my head.............. :roll:
your wit and humor is something i very much love to see and enjoy, but in this thread i dont see the point of it sorry.
Quote by markz
hey your wearing a dress.......... rolleyes

and nooo string!
Quote by soft_swinging
we like to have fun with single males
the thing is once weve had some fun with them they either dont want to know or they just dissapear and the wife is very fit and good looking, its as though they like the first meet then thats it.
are all single males like this or are there any that do like a regular meet up ??????????? sad

No offence meant but being fit and good looking doesn't automatically mean your great company now does it lol... smile Might be many factors as to why they don't come back... have you asked any of them??
As for us.. we see people many times.. become friends and even share things like holidays etc.. Not that we are in anyones pockets either mind.. we just prefer friendship as well as rampant dirty sex... and tend to stick with people with a similar outlook..
Hope it works out for you..
Mike
Quote by LondonPlaything
aside:
Isn't a crotchless g-string just a ...string
lp

No - it's two.
.
We like to play regulary if possible, sex getters better with people you already know as there isn't first nerves to overcome and you already have some idea how to push each others buttons.
We aren't always in the mood to play with single guys, though we would rather if possible play with someone we knew already but then its always a case of if all parties are free at the right time.
Also some people aren't always truthful about their situation with their partners and claim they're free when they really are not.
Hence some single guys play only once in a while.
ahem, i think you may be mistaken about the string bit lp, u have some hanging from your boots!!!! x lol
Amazed no-one has yet mentioned cheese strings! :throwsup:
Sorry redface
To the point, as Splendid so splendidly said, it's horses for courses. We once had a rule that meets would be one off, in order to avoid the "risk of complications."
I now find that I'm happier with someone I've got to know & trust.
Just because someone only wants one off meets, does not mean they're not proper swingers, or not to be respected. However, they should have the courtesy to let you know their boundaries too. :thumbup: Good luck.
As said before not all single males are the same ( as couple's, single fems etc are not).
We are a couple who mostly play with single guy's and there are some that I would only want one night with and some that I would be happy seeing on a long term basis.
It's all down to personal choice yet again.
The only way around it is to be upfront from the start about what you want.
louise xx
Quote by louise_and_joe
As said before not all single males are the same ( as couple's, single fems etc are not).
We are a couple who mostly play with single guy's and there are some that I would only want one night with and some that I would be happy seeing on a long term basis.
It's all down to personal choice yet again.
The only way around it is to be upfront from the start about what you want.
louise xx

i think this sums it up the best.
i dont believe that swinging is an exact science, and, whilst some "rules" do exist in general, much of what we do (or dont do) arises out of personal choice.
id love to meet a regular couple,single fem, but alas, out of the many meets i have had the majority of them have only ended up as "one night affairs".
im quite lucky that i have met a group of people who meet as a group and some of the partys have been fantastic, but im not sure things would b so good if we met on a more exclusive basis.
as i say, swinging is very fluid and for now i just intend to go with the flow.
Quote by Ukwineman
your wit and humor is something i very much love to see and enjoy, but in this thread i dont see the point of it sorry.

Perhaps because the originator of the thread at no point said anything remotely like 'where are the single men?'. Your comments did not relate to what was asked or was being discussed, hence the confusion. Just my interpretation.
Quote by Unc

your wit and humor is something i very much love to see and enjoy, but in this thread i dont see the point of it sorry.

Perhaps because the originator of the thread at no point said anything remotely like 'where are the single men?'. Your comments did not relate to what was asked or was being discussed, hence the confusion. Just my interpretation.
Not just me then.
Quote by westerross
aside:
Isn't a crotchless g-string just a ...string
lp

No - it's two.
.
two strings is nearly a vest!
Quote by Alandtra69
ahem, i think you may be mistaken about the string bit lp, u have some hanging from your boots!!!! x lol

oh blimey!
Trust me, all dresses up and feeling the part, and Lo!
Knickers round me ankles!
lp
"feeling the part"????