Warming the Bed
lets face it we dont go down the street with banners saying gay pride n f'ck u but would u do it n say swing pride do we live online but cover in real life n denigh us all when it comes to life ??
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are we ashamed
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lets face it we dont go down the street with banners saying gay pride n f'ck u
Yes we* do...ok, so there's no "f*ck u" on the banner but there is a banner
Quote by angleseyfella
but would u do it n say swing pride do we live online but cover in real life n denigh us all when it comes to life ??
I'm sure some people are very open about their swinging, others don't hide it but don't advertise it and the rest keep it to themselves - not much different to the gay community I imagine
*By we, I do not mean me as even if I were a lesbian I would still be far too lazy to walk further than the car
Sex God
Hmmmmm?
As with the gay community. i expect we as a swinging couple dont really mind people knowing that we swing. A problem arises with the effect on our families and friends.
One of the delights of meeting at swing social events is that we need not "hide" with other swingers and can talk freely. Where as, if we discussed openly we would be leaving our children/parents to possibly suffer. And suffer for our lets face it - social life and indulgences ..
I hate bulliying and victimisation of any discription and would do as much as i could to prevent my family (and anyone else if its within me) suffering for the choices made privately by my wife and I.
Rather than run any risks we keep the swing side of our lives seperate from the day to day hum drum of everything else. This also gives it a little something that is secret and special. And. ok lets face it, i think naughty that my wife and i can do enjoy the odd secret smile and wink at each other whilst living in the non-swing part (95%) of our lives.
Although i can say i support people and there freedom to choose, express etc. But, on this subject i am happy to let those more courageous and upfront than I take the lead as I wave the banner secretly for them from under the duvet.
Could write loads of pro's n cons but think i said 'nuff'
Lost Bloke
As with the gay community. i expect we as a swinging couple dont really mind people knowing that we swing. A problem arises with the effect on our families and friends.
One of the delights of meeting at swing social events is that we need not "hide" with other swingers and can talk freely. Where as, if we discussed openly we would be leaving our children/parents to possibly suffer. And suffer for our lets face it - social life and indulgences ..
I hate bulliying and victimisation of any discription and would do as much as i could to prevent my family (and anyone else if its within me) suffering for the choices made privately by my wife and I.
Rather than run any risks we keep the swing side of our lives seperate from the day to day hum drum of everything else. This also gives it a little something that is secret and special. And. ok lets face it, i think naughty that my wife and i can do enjoy the odd secret smile and wink at each other whilst living in the non-swing part (95%) of our lives.
Although i can say i support people and there freedom to choose, express etc. But, on this subject i am happy to let those more courageous and upfront than I take the lead as I wave the banner secretly for them from under the duvet.
Could write loads of pro's n cons but think i said 'nuff'
Lost Bloke
Sex God
Rather than run any risks we keep the swing side of our lives seperate from the day to day hum drum of everything else. This also gives it a little something that is secret and special. And. ok lets face it, i think naughty that my wife and i can do enjoy the odd secret smile and wink at each other whilst living in the non-swing part (95%) of our lives.
Lost Bloke
:thumbup: Couldn't have put it better myself Lost Bloke
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Sex God
Quote by lostboysandgirls
Hmmmmm?
As with the gay community. i expect we as a swinging couple dont really mind people knowing that we swing. A problem arises with the effect on our families and friends.
One of the delights of meeting at swing social events is that we need not "hide" with other swingers and can talk freely. Where as, if we discussed openly we would be leaving our children/parents to possibly suffer. And suffer for our lets face it - social life and indulgences ..
I hate bulliying and victimisation of any discription and would do as much as i could to prevent my family (and anyone else if its within me) suffering for the choices made privately by my wife and I.
Rather than run any risks we keep the swing side of our lives seperate from the day to day hum drum of everything else. This also gives it a little something that is secret and special. And. ok lets face it, i think naughty that my wife and i can do enjoy the odd secret smile and wink at each other whilst living in the non-swing part (95%) of our lives.
Although i can say i support people and there freedom to choose, express etc. But, on this subject i am happy to let those more courageous and upfront than I take the lead as I wave the banner secretly for them from under the duvet.
Could write loads of pro's n cons but think i said 'nuff'
Lost Bloke
Yep, that's pretty much us too!
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Fire xxx
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Where as, if we discussed openly we would be leaving our children/parents to possibly suffer. And suffer for our lets face it - social life and indulgences ..
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This also gives it a little something that is secret and special. And. ok lets face it, i think naughty that my wife and i can do enjoy the odd secret smile and wink at each other whilst living in the non-swing part (95%) of our lives.
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damn. you give good forum lost
that's the reason we keep it under wraps, the effect it would have on some of our friendships. It's sad that some people we know wouldn't accepts it but they have other good points and are generally very good friends. LIke you a major concern as well is the effect on the kids; we can choose this lifestyle and it would be fantastic to be open about it (would probably get more opportunity for meets for a start
) but it would be a nightmare for our kids in school.We love the secret little smiles and knowing looks we can share, but , it's also difficult not to blurt out little things in the middle of conversations, been so close so many times to blowing it, but have just got away with it
it's good to have a few naughty secrets anyway, makes it that bit more exciting.
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i'm not ashamed that i swing, my mum and sister know, as do some very good close friends but after all i have kids so i wouldn;t tell people in the street as i wouldn't want it getting to their kids and then them having a go at my kids for it, after all what we do should not come back on our children, its not a case of being ashamed its more being a caring responsable parent
Casanova
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i'm not ashamed that i swing, my mum and sister know, as do some very good close friends but after all i have kids so i wouldn;t tell people in the street as i wouldn't want it getting to their kids and then them having a go at my kids for it, after all what we do should not come back on our children, its not a case of being ashamed its more being a caring responsable parent
After all kids are naive as are alot of adults and can be very cruel regarding things they dont understand or are unusual. Found this out last year when i moved house and quite inocently a female friend and her two kids moved with me for a few months. We couldnt understand why the other mums and parents at the village primary school wouldnt look us in the eyes or talk with us and put it down to village mentality ......untill my 8 year old son came home and asked what a was :shock: it then came out that every one thought we were the only gays in the village
was funny for us adults but not funny at all for the kids 
But after a few visits to the local pub and talking to the nosey lady in the post office the village were soon put right. And suddenly our children were invited to birthday partys and for sleep overs.......so yes swinging isnt something i would shout about but i'm not the one embarressed its those that dont understand the lifestyle that are :lol: nicky
Up to a point, yes, when it comes to friends and family. My sex life, which no longer exists within marriage (partner switched off completely) has to take place in a covert way, so although I 'swing' as a cheating male, I really don't want the society in which I live to know. Sad, yes, but our cultures and religions are powerful weapons against the non-conformist in any activity. Even naturism has still to fight it's corner in present 'liberal' society!!
Quote by angleseyfella
lets face it we dont go down the street with banners saying gay pride n f'ck u but would u do it n say swing pride do we live online but cover in real life n denigh us all when it comes to life ??
In my opinion being gay and being a swinger are very different. Swinging is a sexual preference, your sexuality isn't a choice.
Do I tell people I've just met that I'm in a relationship with a female. Yes! Do I tell people that sometimes I like to use my strapon on a man? No!
Quote by swing_fun_cpl
After all kids are naive as are alot of adults and can be very cruel regarding things they dont understand or are unusual. Found this out last year when i moved house and quite inocently a female friend and her two kids moved with me for a few months. We couldnt understand why the other mums and parents at the village primary school wouldnt look us in the eyes or talk with us and put it down to village mentality ......untill my 8 year old son came home and asked what a was :shock: it then came out that every one thought we were the only gays in the village
nicky
That's so sad that someone's 'supposed' sexuality has such a negative effect on children & people close to them. SO small-minded and, lets face it, homophobic.
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