Are We doing something Wrong?????

14 Dec 2006

We have been on the chat rooms, chatted to a lot of people who are genuine lovely people who are into swinging.
We arranged a couple of meets - the first we said this is the weekend we are free because my parents were babysitting and asked the couple to email us to confirm - they didn't even bother to let us know what was happening.
The second we arranged everything and they were up for a meet and coming to us, but never turned up - found out that instead of meeting us there were on line. They had confirmed with us the works. They didn't even bother to get in contact to let us know what happened.
I know there are some genuine swingers out there but we feel seriously let down by a few. I don't know whether it is something we are doing or whether its others.

14 Dec 2006

doubt your doin anythin wrong.
unfortunatly there are loads and loads of time wasters on here, ive had that problem myself.
ive met a few genuine people and had great times but for every one genuine contact i must have had 4 time wasters.
v ery frustraiting wish they would all fuck off and leave the genuine ones to have r fun
kev.
ps profile looks great xx

14 Dec 2006

Thanks Scouskev for the complement
It gets to the point that we are doubting ourselves because of the folk that mess us around. Feels as if it is us.
And really gets us down
:taz:

14 Dec 2006

Well, what can you say.....
It is a sad fact that there are those amongst us who enjoy the thought of swinging far more than the doing of.
It is all a part of the game, is it right? No of course not, but it will always happen.
Always said, we have no problem if people have to let us down, sometimes its unavoidable, but let us know, thats all we ask.
Trust me its not just this site either, every swinging site has its share of dreamers and fantasist's.
In summary, its more than likely not you at all, always look for the silver lining....it's all part of the learning process and you'll know some of the signs for next time.
Chin up!
Staffys xxxxxx biggrin

14 Dec 2006

anyone knows why that is ? you do all the effort to line sth up .. and then dont show up ? are people getting scared in the last minute ? Or are they just playing and not intending to come in the first place ?
puzzles me !

14 Dec 2006

I am starting to think that the timewasters have a finely tuned radar for people who they will find to be (sorry no offence) gullible dunno

I don’t doubt timewasters are out there – I think I encountered one in the summer… but that’s it… one this year confused

14 Dec 2006

Sounds perfectly normal, happens to everyone at some point.
Don't take it to heart, if you do you will sound off with every couple you try to arrange something with and find the same thing happening time over.
If things are meant to happen they will.....

14 Dec 2006

I think for a lot of people just the thought of the meet is enough to give them their thrill. I've suffered from time-wasters too, but I have also had some fantastic meets through this site.
Keep your chin up, and keep trying.......................don't let the arseholes ruin it for you biggrin

14 Dec 2006

Don't feel let down. If they didn't bother to turn up or even let you know that they wern't coming over to see you then fuck them.
Believe us there really are genuine couples on here. My partner and i met a couple on here about 5 years ago and we still meet up even though they live in Malta. Not just swinging playmates but friends.
My advice to you is once you feel comfortable with them talk girl to girl on the phone, we can always tell a time waster a mile away.
Love BDSM Couple Chester xxx

14 Dec 2006

No,as others have said,you aren't doing anything will happen for you both for sure,no doubt!
You never know,yes,some are timewasters,some DO lose their nerve,and some may actually have very genuine reasons why they have to cancel a meet.
Good luck with the future,soon these few disappointments will be a mere memory!

14 Dec 2006

I dunno,
Imho if someone cant turn up but lets you know, not really a problem is it?
We dont think so, i mean after all life does get in the way sometimes, the real buttock pains are the ones who just can't be arsed to even text to say 'we aint coming'
These are the ones that cause the most problems. I'd imagine getting a few of these when first starting out could have a real detrimental effect on peoples ideas of the 'lifestyle'
I suppose we were lucky, but we know a few people who wer'nt, including two or three couples who actually give it all up as a bad job simply because of this very problem.
So please........send a text or ring biggrin

you know it makes sense!
Staffys xxxxxx

14 Dec 2006

We arranged a couple of meets - the first we said this is the weekend we are free because my parents were babysitting and asked the couple to email us to confirm - they didn't even bother to let us know what was happening.
The second we arranged everything and they were up for a meet and coming to us, but never turned up - found out that instead of meeting us there were on line. They had confirmed with us the works. They didn't even bother to get in contact to let us know what happened.

That the reason we like to arrange to meet either in swingers clubs or at a pub near a swingers club, then if they don't show up, well we will have fun in the club anyway.
John & Shel

14 Dec 2006

Hi, yes there are very genuine swingers on here, we know.. we've met some.
Don't be too disheartened you've just had some bad luck that is all... wink

15 Dec 2006

That the reason we like to arrange to meet either in swingers clubs or at a pub near a swingers club, then if they don't show up, well we will have fun in the club anyway.
that's a really great ides then you haven't wasted your time and can still have a good time too. thanks for that. might try it when we finally get to meet up with others,
curvy

15 Dec 2006

Hi, can I just say that my outlook on the whole swinging scene has changed dramatically since I came here.
I was a little nervous but soon calmed down, what advice I was given I shall give to you. And that is take your time, get to know people and get to see the genuine real nice folk here.
I personally never bother with chatrooms, never liked them never will, don't get me wrong i'll have a peek every now and then but i'm really not arsed. I'd rather have fun here in forums and pm'ing friends-making new friends that way too.
My ads have changed, my profile has changed, pics too.
I'm just going with the flow, and if anything happens along the way then great, but if it doesn't then who gives a shit?
I like being here, like the fun and i've made some great friends without meeting anyone yet, so i'm chuffed.
Yes I wanted something different when I arrived here but, if I get to a munch which i'm hoping to soon, then i'll be fighting them off me!! ok I lied about that bit... lol

Good luck i'm sure it will happen.
You're friendly ARGT