From an early (legal) age I have enjoyed sex in so many ways and so many places. I love the swinging community and would love nothing more than to swing but, my wife will not ever. She is well aware of my passions and desires with regard to this and while she repects this then I must respect her views.
Somewhere in the wilderness at a point in time she may well change her opinion. I'm not looking for your opinion (if it's a judgemental or damming one) but would like to know and for you all to share your road to swinging.
Has it always been your desire? or were you turned? Would you have done it in a previous relationship? etc etc
Come one ppl please share your stories for the good of the SH forum!!
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I don't think that people can be turned (especially if they are 100% against it)
In the past both Ty and myself have been with people who were not into it and neither of us ever felt that those people were the right 'fit' for us sexually.... thats not to say that we didn't have good sex with those respective partners, nor that we weren't happy when we were with them, but there were things that we would have liked to have done that we couldn't while being with them
I know you aren't asking for other comments, but I do hope that you aren't pinning your hopes on the fact that a lot of women are going to come on here and say 'Well, I was never up for it, but then I was turned and this was how....' as I imagine thats not that likely in all honesty.
I think that deep down inside people know pretty much off the bat, once they start becoming sexual beings, whether they would be comfortable in swinging situations and if they are offered he opportunity and are interested they will. If they aren't interested or even slightly curious they wont.
L x
In the past both Ty and myself have been with people who were not into it and neither of us ever felt that those people were the right 'fit' for us sexually.... thats not to say that we didn't have good sex with those respective partners, nor that we weren't happy when we were with them, but there were things that we would have liked to have done that we couldn't while being with them
I know you aren't asking for other comments, but I do hope that you aren't pinning your hopes on the fact that a lot of women are going to come on here and say 'Well, I was never up for it, but then I was turned and this was how....' as I imagine thats not that likely in all honesty.
I think that deep down inside people know pretty much off the bat, once they start becoming sexual beings, whether they would be comfortable in swinging situations and if they are offered he opportunity and are interested they will. If they aren't interested or even slightly curious they wont.
L x
Thanks for your reply. I know it's a contentious subject bearing in mind my profile. Initially when I joined, I was looking for something that I am not now.
I haven't met anyone yet and am not in a rush to. During love sessions with my wife she has fantasized about her with three other men but it's not gone further than that. Maybe one day she will be open to it. I think it's her conservative nature that prevents her.
I'm just happy to be here with like minded people until things change but accept that it may never !
But please keep your own stories comming.
I haven't met anyone yet and am not in a rush to. During love sessions with my wife she has fantasized about her with three other men but it's not gone further than that. Maybe one day she will be open to it. I think it's her conservative nature that prevents her.
I'm just happy to be here with like minded people until things change but accept that it may never !
But please keep your own stories comming.
You just have to be sure that you don't pressure her - in our experiences there is nothing worse than meeting up with a couple where the man is 'weehey - lets do it DO IT!!' and the female is less than bothered. It kills anything dead right there (and its more common that you'd think - I think that perhaps some women do it to keep their man happy, but it is not a comfortable place to be if you meet with a couple that is like that, let alone if you go any further with them)
Fantasies are often just that because they are safe - not all fantasies are necessarily something that people would want to do or be comfortable with persuing in reality, and as such not all people who have fantasies that could be considered 'racy' will then want to gradute into the world of swinging given time and patience.
Fantasies are often just that because they are safe - not all fantasies are necessarily something that people would want to do or be comfortable with persuing in reality, and as such not all people who have fantasies that could be considered 'racy' will then want to gradute into the world of swinging given time and patience.
i think some people enjoy a high sex life from a young age and the pleasures it brings and others just learn things as they go on in life, their likes and dislikes, their do's and WONT EVER DO!
I do believe what happens in your life can change your out look to sex
i was highly sexed when i was young but due to moving back to England i stopped being active and was shy! i meet my ex hubby when i was 20yrs and we parted when i was 25 yrs old! Sex was ok (well, i was in love with him
)! but it didn't rock my boat!
I then went 10 yrs without sex! for personal reason ... my family meant more than any man can!
Due to losing someone very dear to me i learnt that life is very short and you never know when your number is up plus i did promise that special person ..... I WOULD LIVE LIFE TO THE FULL! i try my hardest!
the hardest part is trying to balance your normal life, work etc. and living with an open minded view and finding people that you can get on well with and enjoy their company as much as they enjoy yours at the same time enjoying life and respecting others views and likes/dislikes .....having some fun, games and laughs
some women find it hard to look open minded at swinging, i think this is down to the way some men see and treat women, there are lot of men who do not nor ever can respect women who swing! :shock: Some men think that swinging is just free sex (sorry if this offends some poeple ....but i think you know too well that i am not shooting arrows at individuals, i have meet with some very nice poeple over the last year
and i hope to continue, it is sites like this one that has a very good basic purpose in my type of life style ... be honest you know too well this type of man is on swinging sites plus perhaps in most people local club or even work place! 
) it is because of these few men that some women find swinging hard to open up to
i don't believe it is something that you can be turned to .... it is more your view point moves with time but there are people who will never become more open minded NO MATTER WHAT! sometimes this is because they are scared of what others may think or just because they simple don't want extras and are happy with their sex life
it is nice that you can respect your wife view point on this matter .....but as others have said ....perhaps her view will never change
I do believe what happens in your life can change your out look to sex
i was highly sexed when i was young but due to moving back to England i stopped being active and was shy! i meet my ex hubby when i was 20yrs and we parted when i was 25 yrs old! Sex was ok (well, i was in love with him
)! but it didn't rock my boat!I then went 10 yrs without sex! for personal reason ... my family meant more than any man can!
Due to losing someone very dear to me i learnt that life is very short and you never know when your number is up plus i did promise that special person ..... I WOULD LIVE LIFE TO THE FULL! i try my hardest!
the hardest part is trying to balance your normal life, work etc. and living with an open minded view and finding people that you can get on well with and enjoy their company as much as they enjoy yours at the same time enjoying life and respecting others views and likes/dislikes .....having some fun, games and laughs
some women find it hard to look open minded at swinging, i think this is down to the way some men see and treat women, there are lot of men who do not nor ever can respect women who swing! :shock: Some men think that swinging is just free sex (sorry if this offends some poeple ....but i think you know too well that i am not shooting arrows at individuals, i have meet with some very nice poeple over the last year
and i hope to continue, it is sites like this one that has a very good basic purpose in my type of life style ... be honest you know too well this type of man is on swinging sites plus perhaps in most people local club or even work place! ) it is because of these few men that some women find swinging hard to open up toi don't believe it is something that you can be turned to .... it is more your view point moves with time but there are people who will never become more open minded NO MATTER WHAT! sometimes this is because they are scared of what others may think or just because they simple don't want extras and are happy with their sex life
it is nice that you can respect your wife view point on this matter .....but as others have said ....perhaps her view will never change
Quote by Cherrytree
A member of my family was very ill at a young age, and was not expected to survive. When they DID recover, I changed my mind about a lot of things, based on the fact of how short life can be. Thats when I joined this world
With you on that one....
Been there and realise there is more to life than not enjoying and worrying what people think.. Not saying I was born to swing but I do know I was born to enjoy..... enjoy we do lol enjoy we do.....
Quote by maidenfair
i think some people enjoy a high sex life from a young age and the pleasures it brings and others just learn things as they go on in life, their likes and dislikes, their do's and WONT EVER DO!
I do believe what happens in your life can change your out look to sex
i was highly sexed when i was young but due to moving back to England i stopped being active and was shy! i meet my ex hubby when i was 20yrs and we parted when i was 25 yrs old! Sex was ok (well, i was in love with him
I then went 10 yrs without sex! for personal reason ... my family meant more than any man can!
Due to losing someone very dear to me i learnt that life is very short and you never know when your number is up plus i did promise that special person ..... I WOULD LIVE LIFE TO THE FULL! i try my hardest!
the hardest part is trying to balance your normal life, work etc. and living with an open minded view and finding people that you can get on well with and enjoy their company as much as they enjoy yours at the same time enjoying life and respecting others views and likes/dislikes .....having some fun, games and laughs
some women find it hard to look open minded at swinging, i think this is down to the way some men see and treat women, there are lot of men who do not nor ever can respect women who swing! :shock:
i don't believe it is something that you can be turned to .... it is more your view point moves with time but there are people who will never become more open minded NO MATTER WHAT! sometimes this is because they are scared of what others may think or just because they simple don't want extras and are happy with their sex life
it is nice that you can respect your wife view point on this matter .....but as others have said ....perhaps her view will never change
Where the fook did you spring from......
Good to see you back.... well ok good to see your bum too lol xxx
Quote by mdr2000
i think some people enjoy a high sex life from a young age and the pleasures it brings and others just learn things as they go on in life, their likes and dislikes, their do's and WONT EVER DO!
I do believe what happens in your life can change your out look to sex
it is nice that you can respect your wife view point on this matter .....but as others have said ....perhaps her view will never change
Where the fook did you spring from......
Good to see you back.... well ok good to see your bum too lol xxx
iv been here all the time hun xx
just not posting ...just perving
:shock: :shock: :shock: iv got a BIG BUM!
thanks hun 
ops: :oops: i always do ,,,,,, funny thing is i like my pic taken so usually its my own pic's im perving! :oops: :oops: :oops: plus some nice arty ones of others 
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