Are you too scared to ask?

31 Oct 2008

Is there anything you would really like to do sexually with a partner but would be too afraid to ask?
This is a simple question with a yes/no poll to guage how brave we are or maybe how many of us have a sexual fantasy/secret
No one has to put post anything unless they want to do. Of course if they do then :cool:

31 Oct 2008

No, as part of the reason I had chosen the person to be my partner is because I was sure we were similarly inclined.

31 Oct 2008

I vote no, you dont ask you don't get. wink

1 Nov 2008

Quote by Theladyisaminx
I vote no, you dont ask you don't get.

What even if it was really really odd?

1 Nov 2008

Quote by Peanut
No, as part of the reason I had chosen the person to be my partner is because I was sure we were similarly inclined.

But as relationships evolve hopefully they evolve closer but dynamics can change can they not? After time would you still say no?

1 Nov 2008

Quote by Lost
No, as part of the reason I had chosen the person to be my partner is because I was sure we were similarly inclined.

But as relationships evolve hopefully they evolve closer but dynamics can change can they not? After time would you still say no?
I'd still have no compunction about suggesting something because, hopefully, that similar inclination would evolve with us.
For instance I would no longer choose a partner who wasn't kinky because I don't want to have to go through the shite I went through with my ex-wife. Even there I had no problems asking, but pretty soon one gets pissed off with hearing no all the time... or even worse hearing "yes" then subsequently hearing lots of excuses instead.

1 Nov 2008

Rich and i are never scared to ask each other about any subject.
If either of us dont like the "idea" etc of anything, then it stays as a fantasy.
No point in having fun if the other one isnt interested. {but Rich did say he would suffer Robbie Williams in concert lol

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dee

1 Nov 2008

no not now smile

could never ask anything with my ex ... he thought it was kinky having sex with the light on let alone anything else i might wanna try !!!!!

1 Nov 2008

Nope, not scared to ask. It's getting to that point that's harder - actually establishing that someone is interested at all.

1 Nov 2008

I think how openly you can discuss sex with your partner depends on how long you've been together and whether you met as swingers etc.
My ex hubby and I were together for 10 years before we would openly discuss sex even though we used to experiment with positions and stuff, it took him some time before he would approach me with something new and there were things I didn't know how to tell him.
One way we found really good for getting to the real intersting stuff was to make 2 lists each - one for things you've always wanted to try and are willing to and the other for fantasies which will stay just that. Then we swapped papers and compared notes. That was how I told him about my bi tendencies though it wasn't until after we split that I joined this site and did something about it :giggle: Not only do you find out what your partner has in mind to experiment with but also what their boundaries are
These days I have no problem with discussing likes and dislikes with a sexual partner biggrin

1 Nov 2008

No

1 Nov 2008

No

1 Nov 2008

No, I would ask away

1 Nov 2008

...But the thought of blood so often has people running!
lp

1 Nov 2008

Quote by __random_orbit__
...But the thought of blood so often has people running!
lp

depends on the context.... am not adverse to blood.. infact would rather that than sperm...
I vote no.