Are the encounters/meetings generally pre-planned affairs or do people go on spur of the moment type encounters? Sorry for the silly question I'm just trying to gauge protocol and the way in which one should behave. Don't want to go upsetting people sending messages asking them to suck my cock do I lol.
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Arranged or spur of the moment?
Sex God
Quote by Ste-n-Kez
Another good idea us maybe get yourself in the chat rooms and try to join in as much as you can. This can be daunting at first but stick it out. Think of it as a pub you have never been in before. You wouldn't expect everyone in the pub to give you full attention on your first visit would you.
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Hi and :welcome:
The advice above is definitely worth it's weight in gold. The analogy of the pub couldn't be more accurate!
Your original question of whether to arrange something in advance or go with it on the spur of the moment depends on two things:
1. You
What would you prefer? Spur of the moment? Or do you need to arrange time to slip away from home?
2. The person(s) your meeting.
As you are predominantly looking for couples you may find that they prefer to arrange meets in advance. There are lots of reasons behind this, for example they may both be working and need a time when they are both available or they may need to arrange for the kids to be somewhere else.
If you want to play it safe why not treat every possible meet as one that needs to be arranged in advance, and if the other person(s) says can you come over now go for it!
Sex God
You already have some good advice from fellow forumites, so welcome to the forum and the site.
From my own experiences, although I seldom use the site to hook up, I've always met people through the chatrooms. Go in and introduce yourself, and if you're prepared to show yourself on cam you'll be treated more seriously than if you remain anonymous. I've been 'ere for years, nobody wants to see me on cam any more :sad:
There are a number of people who will meet on the spur of the moment, in fact my first ever meet from the site was initiated by a young lady who saw me on cam and asked me straight out if I'd visit her that day.
From my own experiences, although I seldom use the site to hook up, I've always met people through the chatrooms. Go in and introduce yourself, and if you're prepared to show yourself on cam you'll be treated more seriously than if you remain anonymous. I've been 'ere for years, nobody wants to see me on cam any more :sad:
There are a number of people who will meet on the spur of the moment, in fact my first ever meet from the site was initiated by a young lady who saw me on cam and asked me straight out if I'd visit her that day.
Sex God
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There are a number of people who will meet on the spur of the moment
Our profile has always said that if we are on cam we are available to meet. We've had more fun that way than trying to organise things in advance.
Mind you the kids are getting older now and it is getting a little more difficult.
Hi there mate,
If you find the formula and actually get to meet someone and have some fun please drop me a line with your secret.
As any educated person i did my homework and read all the advice there is and tried to follow as much of it as possible.
You know the usual be polite, be nice the legendary "no one liners" etc. the lot. I have been poetic, direct, honest, pleading, cheerful, bubbly intelligent it seems that there is something notoriously wrong about me
But having said that my most positive responses (even the little i have had) have always come back from being really polite and honest with people. Ask for permission to whisper, engage them with some nice conversation and do not go dick first into every conversation. A but of politeness and niceness will do you good in most of the cases. At least as far as actually someone talking to you is concerned from there on you are on your own mate :)
Sincerely,
T
If you find the formula and actually get to meet someone and have some fun please drop me a line with your secret.
As any educated person i did my homework and read all the advice there is and tried to follow as much of it as possible.
You know the usual be polite, be nice the legendary "no one liners" etc. the lot. I have been poetic, direct, honest, pleading, cheerful, bubbly intelligent it seems that there is something notoriously wrong about me
But having said that my most positive responses (even the little i have had) have always come back from being really polite and honest with people. Ask for permission to whisper, engage them with some nice conversation and do not go dick first into every conversation. A but of politeness and niceness will do you good in most of the cases. At least as far as actually someone talking to you is concerned from there on you are on your own mate :)
Sincerely,
T
Sex God
Tintiri mentions some positive replies he has had. So in line with Tintiri's advice could I also add one more, hopefully useful bit of advice.
If you have a reply saying 'thanks, but no thanks', just ask why? Maybe you might learn something to your advantage
If you have a reply saying 'thanks, but no thanks', just ask why? Maybe you might learn something to your advantage
Thanks for all the useful tips and the welcomes chaps
My situation only really allows for early evening and days really but hey ho you never know what might pop up (pardon the pun). I guess I better get my ugly mug on cam then and we'll see how it goes from there.
Don't have to be naked do I? I'm shy in front of strangers :rascal:
My situation only really allows for early evening and days really but hey ho you never know what might pop up (pardon the pun). I guess I better get my ugly mug on cam then and we'll see how it goes from there.
Don't have to be naked do I? I'm shy in front of strangers :rascal:
Sex God
IMHO most people prefer to see face cams, at least at first they do 
Well I've now been on cam a few times and have too say, yes it is a bit daunting but already spoken to a few and have to say there really are some lovely people on this forum, not only friendly but also some stunning people of all types!
Still a bit unsure whether you just butt in to conversations or wait to be spoken too but I'm sure I'll figure that one out.
Just want to say thanks for all the advice you have given me I guess it's all down to me now!
Still a bit unsure whether you just butt in to conversations or wait to be spoken too but I'm sure I'll figure that one out.
Just want to say thanks for all the advice you have given me I guess it's all down to me now!
Sex God
Good luck, and remember the analogy of the pub :cheers:
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Good luck, and remember the analogy of the pub :cheers:
Thanks Trev or should I say cheers! I will but I wouldn't just go up to a complete stranger in a pub and chat, this is where the conundrum of do I just stick my oar in or wait
I'll just play it by ear and see what happens.
Sex God
I like spur of the moment. We have arranged a lot of meets and it's so much hassle! Hours of trawling through profiles, eventually finding a mutual attraction, email tennis, and then when you eventually meet, spending ages talking shite when everyone knows what they want but it takes so long to get around to it!!
At the moment, I prefer going to a club, seeing who's there on the night, quick chat then go play ... Simples!!
We do spur of the moment in chat sometimes too. When you get all the "phwarrrr! I'd love to meet you" type messages, it's good to say "come on then". It's amazing how many excuses come out! Fun and exciting when it works though!!
As for the chat rooms, if you sit back and watch then no one will know that you're there! Be loud and proud and show off your personality!! I would never meet someone if i didn't know what they looked like, so going on cam is a good idea. I am the founding member of the cock cam appreciation society so I don't look at face cams unless someone intrigues me. I believe that most women would prefer to see a face though.
If you get the chance, go along to some socials (they're rarely entirely social) and can lead on to lots of fun in the future!
At the moment, I prefer going to a club, seeing who's there on the night, quick chat then go play ... Simples!!
We do spur of the moment in chat sometimes too. When you get all the "phwarrrr! I'd love to meet you" type messages, it's good to say "come on then". It's amazing how many excuses come out! Fun and exciting when it works though!!
As for the chat rooms, if you sit back and watch then no one will know that you're there! Be loud and proud and show off your personality!! I would never meet someone if i didn't know what they looked like, so going on cam is a good idea. I am the founding member of the cock cam appreciation society
so I don't look at face cams unless someone intrigues me. I believe that most women would prefer to see a face though. If you get the chance, go along to some socials (they're rarely entirely social) and can lead on to lots of fun in the future!
Warming the Bed
We've found that spur of the moment meets and well planned in advance meets both have their good points, the common denominator with both being, at least for us, making sure it happens with good people and in the right setting, so that we always feel good about it afterwards and live on the interest when we relive our experience on our own as a couple.
Personally I find the chat rooms full of 'hi hun how's u' one-liners and very little in the way of chat and even less in the way of erotic chat, which is a real pity.
Personally I find the chat rooms full of 'hi hun how's u' one-liners and very little in the way of chat and even less in the way of erotic chat, which is a real pity.
I have had some nice chats in the chatroom and some really friendly, sociable people in there, can't comment on the meets unfortunately as I have't had one :sad: I think I'm going to have to call it a day on the site as although it's a great sociable place on line I don't believe it's going to go any further.
I think I just don't fit in to what people are looking for which I believe is down to the domestic position I'm in, it obviously from recent threads puts a lot of people off, or it could be I'm just not good enough either way I can't see the point in continuing the subscription just to have a chat as much as I have enjoyed them so will let it expire at the end of the month.
I think I just don't fit in to what people are looking for which I believe is down to the domestic position I'm in, it obviously from recent threads puts a lot of people off, or it could be I'm just not good enough
either way I can't see the point in continuing the subscription just to have a chat as much as I have enjoyed them so will let it expire at the end of the month. 