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BBW - to be or not to be, that is the question !

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I don't see you going off on one Andy, I see a lot of sense, but big handsome man? I sincerely hope not. Perhaps I'm just not sensitive enough, but I struggle with claiming to be happy with myself and then wanting to describe myself in some way other than fat. It just strikes me as a tacit admission that I am something I don't like therefore I will find a more flowery name for it.
What's my preference I hear you ask??? I prefer big, tall, strapping blokes just in case anyone wants to volunteer........
oh dear we havn't had a fat birds thread for ages lol
personally i think a size 16+ is classed as a BBW tho hight has to come into it, i'm a size 18, 5ft6 and fat lol my friend is a size 18 and 6ft tall and does not look fat, so high has to be accounted for as well
But no matter what size you are there's someone for everyone so don't worry wink
I've never described myself as BBW. I don't want to be labelled in that way.
I've fought all my life to try to become something I'm never going to be. Sure I've lost a bit of weight in the past few months but I'll never be that so called perfect size.
I'm starting to realise that I'm fine as I am (size 16) - I do make sure people know my size before I meet them as it's only fair to give that info but I don't dress it up to be something else or put a label on it.
Fair enough to those that call themselves BBW....I just choose not to. Then again, being big does not automatically make you conventionally beautiful. I would personally find it insulting if someone was to call me BBW.
I don't think there is a cut-off point as such.... it all depends on how well you carry it. Height etc must come into it as someone who is the same weight/size as me but taller will look thinner....would we both then classed as BBW? No idea.
Think i'm rambling now.... best stop!
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Women are beguiling, bewitching beautiful beings and size (as we all well know) doesn't matter, it's what you do with it that counts or to put it another way the more yo' mamma gave ya', the more you have at your disposal to shake.
Betty Page was a size 16 and I don't know of any men who would've turned her down on account of her size.
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Women are beguiling, bewitching beautiful beings and size (as we all well know) doesn't matter, it's what you do with it that counts or to put it another way the more yo' mamma gave ya', the more you have at your disposal to shake.
Betty Page was a size 16 and I don't know of any men who would've turned her down on account of her size.

maralyn monroe was a size 16
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okay.... well if you look at the latest statistics for the average uk woman... she is 5ft 6 tall and a size 16...she is apparently has a 36c bust as well..but i have not felt enough handfuls to judge so i know enough people who consider themselves to be a BBW when they are in fact either ... or just above ms average...
very much about how people persieve themselves.....
sean xxxxxxxxxxxx

Think I fall into the average catagory then!!!
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okay.... well if you look at the latest statistics for the average uk woman... she is 5ft 6 tall and a size 16...she is apparently has a 36c bust as well..but i have not felt enough handfuls to judge so i know enough people who consider themselves to be a BBW when they are in fact either ... or just above ms average...
very much about how people persieve themselves.....
sean xxxxxxxxxxxx

Think I fall into the average catagory then!!!
Its scary tho when the countrys that unhealthy that what was once considered over weight is now being called avarage confused
and no i'm not calling over weight people cause i am one of them makes u think tho don't it?
well if i was 6' tall i would be just right for my weight but im only 5'2 so some people say im bbw but then i don't care what anyone says about me if they don't like what they see then they should stop looking biggrin
i never seem to have any problems when im out but i suppose my personality and my loud mouth gets everyone's attention unless its because i flash my tits maybe that could be it lol

sharron
Well, As MQ once said here, the average woman is a dress size 16, so looking at it purely mathematically, anyone above the average is big. Indeed, some BBW communities and dating websites say, purely as an non-obligatory guideline, that they welcome women of size 16 or over. But there are no definite or reliable boundaries, and as people have already said here, plenty of larger women hate the description BBW anyway.
Mike.
iI still see no reason for labelling yourself BBW- by placing that in an Ad your using it as a selling point.
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iI still see no reason for labelling yourself BBW- by placing that in an Ad your using it as a selling point.

But if you advertise then you are "selling" yourself, so to speak. We all sell ourselves in one way or the other every day hun.
It's part of the labeling system too. We accept the ones we find complimentary to us individually and reject the more negative labels as generalised trash.
Surely the easiest way to categorise yourself is to look around you and compare your self to those around you, it will then become self evident what you are.
That’s how I came to the view I’m of average height, build and looks for my age simple really rolleyes
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well if i was 6' tall i would be just right for my weight but im only 5'2 so some people say im bbw but then i don't care what anyone says about me if they don't like what they see then they should stop looking biggrin
i never seem to have any problems when im out but i suppose my personality and my loud mouth gets everyone's attention unless its because i flash my tits maybe that could be it lol

sharron

i totally agree, noone is for everyone and if people don't like you they don't have to look at you, saying that having met you i would not class you as a BBW anyway but then it depends on what people like, i used to be a size 22 and on BBW sites got turned down for not being big enough, went on a diet and got down to a size 14 and still got turned down for being to big, then put some back on and don't really give a shit anymore what others think :lol:
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iI still see no reason for labelling yourself BBW- by placing that in an Ad your using it as a selling point.

personally i have never decribed myself as a bbw to be honest i don't care much for the tearm (gosh that sounded posh lol) but i don't see it as just a selling point, so someone who likes 'BBWs' it is but to those who don't its just a polite way of saying 'hey i'm over weight you know', to be honest so long as you put up a true pic of youself i don't see why you have to tell people your size anyway they can see if your big or not, i usually just drop into the conversation i'm not ur perfect size 10 lol
I had to add to the point that it dosent matter what size you are. i wouldent put an add up saying i was bbw some guys think you would go with anyone becouse you couldent get anyone else.... im size 16 ish but tall at 5ft 8 so its up to the guys how they see me i never have any complants ( i still shag well) rotflmao
My favourite club was critisied in the clubs and parties section by some contributers for having a clientel that was rather large. The funny thing is this club is probably the most successfull in the country. So there must be loads out there that love BBW. I must admit that I prefer women that are a size 14 and upwards. My wife is a beautifull size 16. smile
I don't much like the term BBW really....but I use it in terms of myself because I think it's only fair to let people know that if they are going to sleep with me that I'm larger than life so to speak......some people aren't into larger women and some people are.....
Personally I think that it's not what you look like but what you are like on the inside.....I have met loads of men that are larger and I love that.....but I also like slimmer men......oh heck, I just like men...... :twisted:
I wouldn't want to know if someone liked me BECAUSE I'm large, I would rather people look at me for who I am......I'm not the most beautiful woman in the world but I have a few men chasing me because they like me for who I am not for my outside packaging.....
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i wouldent put an add up saying i was bbw some guys think you would go with anyone becouse you couldent get anyone else.... rotflmao

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thats is so true
Men on here who are just after a quick shag think the larger ladies are a easy option cause a lot think big = desparate, i have experienced this first had and had to put up with the abusive comment when i have turned someone down, in a 'how dare you say no to me' type mannor
I am not,never have been, or ever will be desparate confused
Quote by fabio grooverider
okay.... well if you look at the latest statistics for the average uk woman... she is 5ft 6 tall and a size 16...she is apparently has a 36c bust as well..but i have not felt enough handfuls to judge so i know enough people who consider themselves to be a BBW when they are in fact either ... or just above ms average...
very much about how people persieve themselves.....
sean xxxxxxxxxxxx

Im average, pmsl!! :haha:
Not a 36C though, does 38DD mean my boobs arnt average?
Bit of a pick'n'mix :P
xx
Well I call myself Da Fugly Bugga not because I think i'm F**kingUgly , I aint no oil painting but I aint that bad lol , but because i'm happy with who I am and my size means nothing to me.
Its who you are that counts not what ya look like
Davie
BBW are officially described in Dr Myron P Schwingers Dictionary of Poop abreviations as follows :-
Any swinging woman (usually on the internet,and hence invisible) who weighs enough to beat Davej in a game of tug-o-war . So anyone over seven stone and a size 8, I guess .
I know Ive asked before , but where have all the Big Ugly Women gone since the internet was invented ??
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but where have all the Big Ugly Women gone since the internet was invented ??

rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
really its a good question
i think the phrase BBW is ment for people who think big IS beautiful not that all big women are beautiful
BBW are officially described in Dr Myron P Schwingers Dictionary of Poop abreviations as follows :-
Any swinging woman (usually on the internet,and hence invisible) who weighs enough to beat Davej in a game of tug-o-war . So anyone over seven stone and a size 8, I guess .
I know Ive asked before , but where have all the Big Ugly Women gone since the internet was invented ??
.....davej looks at the pictures on the mantle piece and thinks he knows the answer...
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but where have all the Big Ugly Women gone since the internet was invented ??

rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
really its a good question
i think the phrase BBW is ment for people who think big IS beautiful not that all big women are beautiful
Well I kinda get your point , but saying big IS beatiful is kinda like saying REDHEADS are beautiful and anyone who has seen both Nicole Kidman and Mick Hucknall will know that a statement like that is simply not true ! lol
Quote by Silk and Big G
but where have all the Big Ugly Women gone since the internet was invented ??

rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
really its a good question
i think the phrase BBW is ment for people who think big IS beautiful not that all big women are beautiful
Well I kinda get your point , but saying big IS beatiful is kinda like saying REDHEADS are beautiful and anyone who has seen both Nicole Kidman and Mick Hucknall will know that a statement like that is simply not true ! lol
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but where have all the Big Ugly Women gone since the internet was invented ??

rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
really its a good question
i think the phrase BBW is ment for people who think big IS beautiful not that all big women are beautiful
Well I kinda get your point , but saying big IS beatiful is kinda like saying REDHEADS are beautiful and anyone who has seen both Nicole Kidman and Mick Hucknall will know that a statement like that is simply not true ! lol
:cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
Oh got you just can't win can you :lol:
3 cheers for red heads :haha:
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i wouldent put an add up saying i was bbw some guys think you would go with anyone becouse you couldent get anyone else.... rotflmao

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thats is so true
Men on here who are just after a quick shag think the larger ladies are a easy option cause a lot think big = desparate, i have experienced this first had and had to put up with the abusive comment when i have turned someone down, in a 'how dare you say no to me' type mannor
I am not,never have been, or ever will be desparate confused
Well said NN....
I... as the people who have met me know... am BBW...i am also only 5'3... which doesn't help.... its all my parents faults.... they r both small and not perfectly shaped...
I also perfare to tell a bloke that im BBW because it wouldn't be nice for him (or me)..to meet me thinking hes getting a perfect 10 figure and not!! Just coz i am BBW doesn't in any way mean i would just "go" with any1.... i have standards and i am VERY picky!!! Infact...to picky so ive been told....
I have been in swinging for over a year now....and i have only met and played with a handful of guys... not because i can't pull them.... but because i chose to play it that way....Like its been drummed in all thru this topic...its not all about the figures... personality is a big part too... and i think i have a BIG bubbly 1 of those to go with my BBW figure biggrin
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..i am also only 5'3...

Naughty Wigan, all 5'0" of her, goes off to her corner to dream about what it would be like to be sooo tall! lol