i just thought i would say hi curvyvenus,
having attended a couple of clubs in the past, all i can say is, bbw's do not seem to be short of admirers, they always seem popular with others.
i myself love the "company" of bbw's.
so dont feel you have to confine yourself to bbw's only events, just join in with everyone else.
teppic
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BBW Swingers Parties
Must seem strange, to some folks reading this thread, that the idea of a BBW party is so popular.
But having spent most of my adult life in the deliriously delicious wonderful company of bigger girls, I can well understand it why it seems such a good idea to some people.
The fact is that most men, after the age of impressionable pubescence, love bigger girls. Why? Well, men like tits and arses and thighs..... and bigger girls have more of those assets than thin ones. They generally also - I say from experience - have much bigger appetites for life and love, and men sooner or later discover this.
Simple as that......
Thirty years ago, when the art directors of national papers and magazines were heterosexual and 30+, everybody knew bigger girls are more fun, and the pin-ups were girls like Diana Dors and Sophia Loren. Now the ADs are all 22 year-old metrosexual shirtlifters, so they favour pin-ups who look like lads.
But on a day-to-day basis, the problem isn't with the men, but with other women: they spend half their lives starving themselves to death to look "fit", and then when they go to a club or party and see all the men ogling someone who's a bigtitted wobbly size 20, they get VERY nasty.
So all BBWs get used to spending ages making themselves look nice, and then winding up in the lav in tears because some woman - and it is always a woman - says, in a stage whisper: "Look at the state of that", or "How can she have the nerve".
One of the things I enjoy about the lifestyle is that generally it's so non-judgmental: no-one generally worries too much about age or race. It's about time the courtesy was more generally extended to normal women
But having spent most of my adult life in the deliriously delicious wonderful company of bigger girls, I can well understand it why it seems such a good idea to some people.
The fact is that most men, after the age of impressionable pubescence, love bigger girls. Why? Well, men like tits and arses and thighs..... and bigger girls have more of those assets than thin ones. They generally also - I say from experience - have much bigger appetites for life and love, and men sooner or later discover this.
Simple as that......
Thirty years ago, when the art directors of national papers and magazines were heterosexual and 30+, everybody knew bigger girls are more fun, and the pin-ups were girls like Diana Dors and Sophia Loren. Now the ADs are all 22 year-old metrosexual shirtlifters, so they favour pin-ups who look like lads.
But on a day-to-day basis, the problem isn't with the men, but with other women: they spend half their lives starving themselves to death to look "fit", and then when they go to a club or party and see all the men ogling someone who's a bigtitted wobbly size 20, they get VERY nasty.
So all BBWs get used to spending ages making themselves look nice, and then winding up in the lav in tears because some woman - and it is always a woman - says, in a stage whisper: "Look at the state of that", or "How can she have the nerve".
One of the things I enjoy about the lifestyle is that generally it's so non-judgmental: no-one generally worries too much about age or race. It's about time the courtesy was more generally extended to normal women
Quote by Kniphofia
But on a day-to-day basis, the problem isn't with the men, but with other women: they spend half their lives starving themselves to death to look "fit", and then when they go to a club or party and see all the men ogling someone who's a bigtitted wobbly size 20, they get VERY nasty.
So all BBWs get used to spending ages making themselves look nice, and then winding up in the lav in tears because some woman - and it is always a woman - says, in a stage whisper: "Look at the state of that", or "How can she have the nerve".
Sorry but as a over weight woman i totally disagree with you there, i find to be honest with you the vast majority of people who call you to put u down are younger lads in their late teens early 20s, i have had much more name calling and snide comments from men than women, not that name calling ever hurt anyone really but just though i'd share that with you lol
also i resent being called wobbly
also being a fat woman (can i say fat? lol) i have never noticed guys talking to me rather than thin ladies i do and always have believed men like slim women, most just made do with me
Sex God
What's a normal woman, then?
What's a shirtlifter, whilst we're doing definitions? And yes, I do know what it means; I happen to think it's quite an offensive term though.
What's a shirtlifter, whilst we're doing definitions? And yes, I do know what it means; I happen to think it's quite an offensive term though.
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What's a normal woman, then?
What's a shirtlifter, whilst we're doing definitions? And yes, I do know what it means; I happen to think it's quite an offensive term though.
he just ain't got a way with words at all really lol
i mean big titted and wobbly and this from a guy who from what i can tell likes big ladies
lol im a larger lady and yes i know it is mostly my own fault, i like a drink and i like my food, i work full time in an office sitting all day and the last thing i want when i get home is to spend the evenings down the gym.
i am quite a happy and easy going person
who usually gets on with everyone but i am also a very insecure person, mainly about my weight and attractiveness. :violin:
i got to a lot of bike rallies and most of the time i feel ok about myself but then there are times when you see the slimmer women in the skimpy clothes and, oh how i wish it was me.
You do find that when a slimmer scantilyclad woman walks accross the floor the men watch her every move, which doesnt seem to happen when walk accross the room
, i think if i were to try and dress like them i would get look, but i think they would be more like looks of horror 
i am glad this thread has been started cause i have been sitting in the shadows not knowing if larger ladies are accepted(if you know what i mean), i think i had the impression everyone was a size 10 dolly bird, its nice to know everyone is different and accepted for being just that
hopefully ill be able to go to a munch and talk to you all in person
i am quite a happy and easy going person
who usually gets on with everyone but i am also a very insecure person, mainly about my weight and attractiveness. :violin: i got to a lot of bike rallies and most of the time i feel ok about myself but then there are times when you see the slimmer women in the skimpy clothes and, oh how i wish it was me.
You do find that when a slimmer scantilyclad woman walks accross the floor the men watch her every move, which doesnt seem to happen when walk accross the room
, i think if i were to try and dress like them i would get look, but i think they would be more like looks of horror i am glad this thread has been started cause i have been sitting in the shadows not knowing if larger ladies are accepted(if you know what i mean), i think i had the impression everyone was a size 10 dolly bird, its nice to know everyone is different and accepted for being just that
hopefully ill be able to go to a munch and talk to you all in person
Orgasminator
I may not qualify as a BBW at size 32+ but here are my thoughts:
Any woman can be attractive as long as she believes she is attractive.
People who attract others are people who feel good in themselves.
I have been to BigGirlsParadise party nights in London and felt on top of the world not because I was in a place with other fat women but because I knew I looked good with my hair and makeup and clothes. I knew when I walked into the room that heads would turn and everyone would be wondering who I was. I once even dared to go in a mini dress (oh my!) because my then partner wished me to. It was exhilarating to do something so unlike me (I normally dress in dark colours, long skirts, roomy tops) and appear in pubic in a mini dress that you could nearly see my bottom and black stockings held up by a suspender belt. That night I flirted with friends and forgot all about my size.
I have also been to the same place and felt miserable and ugly because my then partner had had a fight with me and did not compliment my looks and spent time with other women. When I felt so downtrodden, nobody wanted to speak to me which made me feel even worse. This is why I say attitude is everything.
Finally in my experience men may gawk at the model type of female but they prefer a woman of substance for the longer term. Substance exists in all sizes fortunately!
Any woman can be attractive as long as she believes she is attractive.
People who attract others are people who feel good in themselves.
I have been to BigGirlsParadise party nights in London and felt on top of the world not because I was in a place with other fat women but because I knew I looked good with my hair and makeup and clothes. I knew when I walked into the room that heads would turn and everyone would be wondering who I was. I once even dared to go in a mini dress (oh my!) because my then partner wished me to. It was exhilarating to do something so unlike me (I normally dress in dark colours, long skirts, roomy tops) and appear in pubic in a mini dress that you could nearly see my bottom and black stockings held up by a suspender belt. That night I flirted with friends and forgot all about my size.
I have also been to the same place and felt miserable and ugly because my then partner had had a fight with me and did not compliment my looks and spent time with other women. When I felt so downtrodden, nobody wanted to speak to me which made me feel even worse. This is why I say attitude is everything.
Finally in my experience men may gawk at the model type of female but they prefer a woman of substance for the longer term. Substance exists in all sizes fortunately!
Hi everybody, I have read through every post on this thread and agree with nearly everything that has been said.
I am oneof those women who starved herself to death for years thinking i was huge and ugly and its a terrible thing to do.
These days i look at people differently its how they feel and think about themselves thats important not how big or small they are.
I would rather see a happy confident woman than someone afraid to eat for fear of gaining a few pounds.
Be who you are and enjoy life.
its taken me years to get to this stage and its thanks to my hubbie loving me for who i am and not what i want to be. I am very lucky.
I aint ever going to be pamela anderson but i'm me.
lisamarie
I am oneof those women who starved herself to death for years thinking i was huge and ugly and its a terrible thing to do.
These days i look at people differently its how they feel and think about themselves thats important not how big or small they are.
I would rather see a happy confident woman than someone afraid to eat for fear of gaining a few pounds.
Be who you are and enjoy life.
its taken me years to get to this stage and its thanks to my hubbie loving me for who i am and not what i want to be. I am very lucky.
I aint ever going to be pamela anderson but i'm me.
lisamarie
Quote by LisaMarie
.....These days i look at people differently its how they feel and think about themselves thats important not how big or small they are.
I would rather see a happy confident woman than someone afraid to eat for fear of gaining a few pounds.
Be who you are and enjoy life.
its taken me years to get to this stage and its thanks to my hubbie loving me for who i am and not what i want to be. I am very lucky.
I aint ever going to be pamela anderson but i'm me.
lisamarie
Hiya Lisa Marie, and :welcome: to the "We are who we are and fuck what anyone else thinks' faction
can I pour anyone a drink?
:smoke: Sex God
Oooooooooo I've just had one of those 'I didn't want to meet you anyway' emails. BUT she said would my hubby like to meet her anyway, have some real fun instead of shagging a fat cow? :shock:
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Oooooooooo I've just had one of those 'I didn't want to meet you anyway' emails. BUT she said would my hubby like to meet her anyway, have some real fun instead of shagging a fat cow? :shock:
:lol: i had one of them once a young skinny bird offered to meet my hubby so she could show him what hes been missing cause she felt sorry for him having to shag a fat bird who didn't make a effort for him, then went on to giving me a lecture on why men play away its cause after marrage most women let themselves go so their hubbies look elsewhere
Orgasminator
Well it is true that both men and women tend to let themselves go when the chase is over and they have secured a mate. And when a new fresh person arrives there will always be a temptation.
Sex God
Hey chin up all you lovely ladies
You are all wonderful and feel free to drink and dance with me anytime.
Regards
Harry Jones
You are all wonderful and feel free to drink and dance with me anytime.
Regards
Harry Jones
so is this party happening now or not got a pm of d and he ssaid would let me know!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! how many people are actually up for it and roughly when????????????????????????
dont mind helping out, sorting the party out.
will be my first and i would love to make it 1 i never forget? so who is up for it please?
dont mind helping out, sorting the party out.
will be my first and i would love to make it 1 i never forget? so who is up for it please?
Forum Virgin
I started this thread as a newbie who wasn't sure how the scene worked and whether my BBW curves would be appreciated. Jjust for the record, I've come across a couple of swingers clubs/parties that have specifically said I'm NOT welcome as they prefer "young and attractive people" - startlingly bigotted and short-sighted but from the encouraging mesages posted, clearly not the norm for the scene which is great.
So I'll let those particular groups get on with their "young and attractive" parties - their loss. Personally, I'm taking my first plunge into the scene at the Our PLace 4 Fun Hellfire Club party night on 29th September - if anyone is planning on going come and say hi! I@ll be the really enthusiastic BBW!
So I'll let those particular groups get on with their "young and attractive" parties - their loss. Personally, I'm taking my first plunge into the scene at the Our PLace 4 Fun Hellfire Club party night on 29th September - if anyone is planning on going come and say hi! I@ll be the really enthusiastic BBW!
Quote by curvyvenus
I started this thread as a newbie who wasn't sure how the scene worked and whether my BBW curves would be appreciated. Jjust for the record, I've come across a couple of swingers clubs/parties that have specifically said I'm NOT welcome as they prefer "young and attractive people" - startlingly bigotted and short-sighted but from the encouraging mesages posted, clearly not the norm for the scene which is great.
There was a club that opened near me about 2 years ago, swinging club i mean that only allowed women in a size 12 and under and under 35, lasted about 5 months b4 it was bought out and now is a swingers clubs that is open to all.
Master of Sex
im a bit late with adding to this conversation but..... a party like that i would surely be up for..
its great to get into a place and know you are going to be appreciated for who you are and not what you look like... on the other hand i'd feel a lot happier knowing that the guys going to a party like that were wanting to go because they liked bigger women and not because they are randy little net geeks looking for a hole to spurt their stuff...
you know... any hole will do, that sort...
As for it being a size-ist party then why not? just add it to a list of many different nights you could have at a club... you get Bi night as it is, why not a bbw night or a slimline night, that way no one is put out by not getting in to a club or party...
Just think of the fun the women could have when the "More Than 8" night was on.... sooo many opportunities!
on a serious note, theres a private club up here in scotland, if you want to join you first of all have to send a face pic and a letter, and if they pick you you get to attend an interview!! now does that sound like fun?
swinging is swinging and it should be open to all, no matter what you look like, colour, size, disabilities...
its great to get into a place and know you are going to be appreciated for who you are and not what you look like... on the other hand i'd feel a lot happier knowing that the guys going to a party like that were wanting to go because they liked bigger women and not because they are randy little net geeks looking for a hole to spurt their stuff...
you know... any hole will do, that sort...
As for it being a size-ist party then why not? just add it to a list of many different nights you could have at a club... you get Bi night as it is, why not a bbw night or a slimline night, that way no one is put out by not getting in to a club or party...
Just think of the fun the women could have when the "More Than 8" night was on.... sooo many opportunities!
on a serious note, theres a private club up here in scotland, if you want to join you first of all have to send a face pic and a letter, and if they pick you you get to attend an interview!! now does that sound like fun?
swinging is swinging and it should be open to all, no matter what you look like, colour, size, disabilities...
Warming the Bed
Dear CurvyVenus
Would you mind telling us what the name of those clubs are?
If you dont want to or the mods dont allow it no problem!
Would you mind telling us what the name of those clubs are?
If you dont want to or the mods dont allow it no problem!
