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Quote by Vonneyuk
,phone call,if they dont have a phone then they dont live in the real world,good luck.
I know some people who dont have mobiles and would be reluctant to give their home phone number yet are genuine people.....
Does that make them timewasters who dont live in the real world
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We find phone conversations beforehand certainly reduces the likelyhood of no-shows. If they don't have a mobile, get them to call you. You can usually get a far more honest impression of someone on the phone than you can by e-mail or a chatroom.
Depending on you plans, arrange to meet in a pub to chat and get to know each other first. If they don't turn up, at least you get to have a drink or two to drown your sorrows!
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Depending on you plans, arrange to meet in a pub to chat and get to know each other first. If they don't turn up, at least you get to have a drink or two to drown your sorrows!
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We tend to have phone convo, but as already said, some dont like to give this out, if it is someone we have not chatted with before etc ..... and they are not forthcoming with a call, we then suggest msn cam to prove they and us are a couple - a few do say ohh we have not got that either, or their cam is not working - added all up together, we then stear clear of a meet with those people, as in our opionion - if they contact us and ask for our details, they should be forthcoming with theirs - one guy posing as a couple was caught out this way !!!
Hi.... sadly, meetings are a mood thing... and quite often, what folk agree to in one mood is frightening in the cold light of day.... providing a way out for someone getting cold feet has helped us in the past.... arranging a confirmation of intent to attend, and suggesting it's just to meet for drinks prior to a second meet for whooopy takes the pressure off, everyone turns up relaxed, gets plastered and makes whooopy ! Try not to put yourself out too much, and allow for genuine call off's - we all have real lives, swinging is just part of it !
Have thought for some time that it would be nice to have a 'feedback' section where no shows and nutters can be shamed.
Have thought for some time that it would be nice to have a 'feedback' section where no shows and nutters can be shamed.
Quote by Playpair
...Have thought for some time that it would be nice to have a 'feedback' section where no shows and nutters can be shamed.
Just think about that for one sec...
make it posible to name & shame anyone in public & it will be open to abuse!
Deep breath.... breathe & put it all down to experience....
chat chat more chat.... go out for a sticky cakey bun & tea have some more chat... then shag!
failing that... a lucozade bottle, pork chops & peas will do it some :twisted:
Quote by stdunstan
Having just experienced my 6th consecutive time-waster I was wondering if anyone had a system or ideas how they can be eliminated at an early stage ?
If you really, really want to avoid having your time wasted, meet at a club. Anything else runs a degree of risk. At a club it doesn't matter if your arrangements fall through because there will always be someone else there.
Quote by northwest-cpl
Having just experienced my 6th consecutive time-waster I was wondering if anyone had a system or ideas how they can be eliminated at an early stage ?
If you really, really want to avoid having your time wasted, meet at a club. Anything else runs a degree of risk. At a club it doesn't matter if your arrangements fall through because there will always be someone else there.
agreed...thats exactly what we do now.....rarely will we meet anyone other than at a club for the reason stated above!
I actually dont like the whole phone call thing ......yes its necessary of course, but talking bollox to someone i havent met for the sake of proving I'm fem and genuine etc etc feelstoo much like a 'test' (and me 'testing' them too).
If its someone I havent met I'm also 'cagey' about what details i give out, even in general chit chat, which in turn makes me sound dodgy
I just dont get that 'click' with people over the phone, and I hate awkward silences so, much prefer to meet face to face and take the risk of them not turning up ....or....only arranging to meet someone I've met socially already
If its someone I havent met I'm also 'cagey' about what details i give out, even in general chit chat, which in turn makes me sound dodgy
I just dont get that 'click' with people over the phone, and I hate awkward silences so, much prefer to meet face to face and take the risk of them not turning up ....or....only arranging to meet someone I've met socially already 
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Quote by makaveli69
Genuine people give out there mobile numbers or will go on the web cam when first talking to you from my exp
Not necessarily, I dont have a cam and wont give out my mobile or home phone number to someone I have never met, does that make me a time waster?
I really wish that people would not generalise and presume just because someone does not make arrangements in the way that you do, it makes everyone else none genuine
Some people also take the time to get to know people a bit before they arrange the meet, or they do what a few of the others have said and arrange to meet at a club so the impact is not as bad if the other person doesnt attend. Also munches and socials can be a good way of checking if someone is genuine (ie meet in a social setting and see if you both want to take it further).
You also have to remember that sometimes real life can get in the way and the best laid plans can sometimes go tits up, no matter how well it has been organised. I do think there person should at least let you know they cant attend, but again, sometimes real life can stop the contact being made.
Quote by makaveli69
Genuine people give out there mobile numbers or will go on the web cam when first talking to you from my exp
It's good to see that all genuine people, in your experience, give out their phone numbers or go on cam. I just wonder who is first to give the number or to show on cam if you aren't genuine until the phone number is exchanged?
Also, those checks only show that person ls who they say they are. Many of the complaints are about no-shows rather than people lying about who they actually are. A cam or phone call will not prove intent to actually meet in any way whatsoever until a cyber lie detector is invented.
It's amazing how no phone, no cam, no advert, no profile automatically equals non-genuine in so many people's eyes. We have no cam, would never swap a phone number with someone we've only 'met' online, have no advert and no real profile - shit, we must be fakes.
Before cams, profiles and advert links from chat I wonder how anyone managed to weed out the less than honest internet user? Possibly the old fashioned method of actually chatting and using common sense?
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Quote by sLeeper
one guy posing as a couple was caught out this way !!!
This one always amazes me ...... do they think you won't notice when you meet that they are lacking in the fem department :doh:
Dunno, maybe they think i'm such a raving nympho, that by the time I get there, I wont care what or who it is :shock: :giggle:
Quote by northwest-cpl
It's amazing how no phone, no cam, no advert, no profile automatically equals non-genuine in so many people's eyes. We have no cam, would never swap a phone number with someone we've only 'met' online, have no advert and no real profile - shit, we must be fakes.
Before cams, profiles and advert links from chat I wonder how anyone managed to weed out the less than honest internet user? Possibly the old fashioned method of actually chatting and using common sense?
Totally agree with what your saying, we use phone/cam generally but that is only after having either met or chatted for a while; if someone says for the first time "Hi, can we have your msn/phone?" its an automatic No from us. Thats not to say that it does not work for some or that those people are not genuine, it just does not work for us - but i will never say never
But, thinking again on the original post, its a bit of common sense and a whole lot of luck maybe :dunno:
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Quote by Juniper_couple
one guy posing as a couple was caught out this way !!!
This one always amazes me ...... do they think you won't notice when you meet that they are lacking in the fem department :doh:
Dunno, maybe they think i'm such a raving nympho, that by the time I get there, I wont care what or who it is :shock: :giggle:
Damn... well that is my plan A scuppered and out of the window then.......
:) Seriously... different people do it in different ways.... Me for example, will witter on spouting bolloxs to couples and singles to what can seem like years before i decide i want to meet, so to anyone that wants it "here and now without the e-mail ping pong" i am going to seem like a timewaster....... I am a fairly shy chappie by nature (oi!!! stop laughing) so don't like to be rushed into something........
other people like the da69ve's and northwest-cpl like to go to clubs... if it doesn't work out then there are plenty more fish in the sea so to speak......
basically do what you feel most comfortable with... if that is for example a phone call and webcam then so be it... but don't let yourself be bullied into something that you don't feel 110% comfortable with
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Quote by fabio grooverider
I am a fairly shy chappie by nature (oi!!! stop laughing) so don't like to be rushed into something........
Yeah, we know your shy
and dont like being rushed into anything. Hows the head :wink:
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Quote by stdunstan
According to this gentlemans profile he has only been let down 3 out of five times:
Medic obviously has no schooling in Ratios. The profile states 3in5 not '3 out of 5' Put another way it refers to an average ie 3:5
Moto is the old one :- >> If at first you dont succeed >>>>>>>>
Try harder.
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Stdundstan, why do you keep quoting this?
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Quote by northwest-cpl
Genuine people give out there mobile numbers or will go on the web cam when first talking to you from my exp
It's good to see that all genuine people, in your experience, give out their phone numbers or go on cam. I just wonder who is first to give the number or to show on cam if you aren't genuine until the phone number is exchanged?
Also, those checks only show that person ls who they say they are. Many of the complaints are about no-shows rather than people lying about who they actually are. A cam or phone call will not prove intent to actually meet in any way whatsoever until a cyber lie detector is invented.
It's amazing how no phone, no cam, no advert, no profile automatically equals non-genuine in so many people's eyes. We have no cam, would never swap a phone number with someone we've only 'met' online, have no advert and no real profile - shit, we must be fakes.
Before cams, profiles and advert links from chat I wonder how anyone managed to weed out the less than honest internet user? Possibly the old fashioned method of actually chatting and using common sense?
Excellent post. I totally agree.
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Yep agree with the common sense route. We try our best to weed out the blaggers, the advert is clear , the profile is clear and that keeps a few away, but there are still a significant number of chancers trying their arm who do manage to get past the wire, but a few emails (and I mean a few) generally weed them out. Now none of this automatically says we are still not going to get a 'no show' but it don't arf help.
We don't use web cams, can't stand the poxy things, nor give out a phone numbers and have had the odd 'blow out' but I think a few sensible precautions can work the number down to a reasonable ratio.
We don't use web cams, can't stand the poxy things, nor give out a phone numbers and have had the odd 'blow out' but I think a few sensible precautions can work the number down to a reasonable ratio.
Okay a question.... What sort of questions make your "timewaster" alarm bell start ringing??
Now we have a private gallery which have face pictures of both of us and a couple of more revealing pictures of me
but we dont have any "action" shots, nor do we ever email any out. If asked for a picture via email only ever send a picture of the 2 of us in which we are fully clothed. We do like to take pictures during a meet but those are strictly for our personal enjoyment and we never share them with anyone else apart from the other person/people involved.
I have been asked tonight for some action shots, despite me explaining that we dont pass them on etc so now my alarm bells are starting to warm up
Is there one question that does that to you??
Now we have a private gallery which have face pictures of both of us and a couple of more revealing pictures of me
but we dont have any "action" shots, nor do we ever email any out. If asked for a picture via email only ever send a picture of the 2 of us in which we are fully clothed. We do like to take pictures during a meet but those are strictly for our personal enjoyment and we never share them with anyone else apart from the other person/people involved.I have been asked tonight for some action shots, despite me explaining that we dont pass them on etc so now my alarm bells are starting to warm up
Is there one question that does that to you??
Quote by Shireen
Now we have a private gallery which have face pictures of both of us and a couple of more revealing pictures of me . . . . . .
Really ?
You do ?
. .. . and; have you mentioned that here ? ? ? ?
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