Beauty and the beast - which one's for you?

4 Jun 2012

A few months ago there was a thread about fancying who you play with, and the majority of people said there has to be attraction or chemistry, otherwise it is a no-go. My question is, how big a part do appearances play in who you fancy?
Are you mostly after "fit", good-looking people? Do you ever vet prospective playmates on appearance alone? Do you get the hots for people that don't look so good to you but have an irresistible attitude/personality? Would you go with someone that was physically attractive but with whom you couldn't hold a simple conversation? Does the appeal of someone's appearance go up or down as you get to know them? Can horniness/eagerness trump looks in the fancy stakes? Are there any physical traits that you find an instant turn-off? Instant turn-on? Any thoughts/anecdotes, all welcome.

4 Jun 2012

Quote by mincepie
Are you mostly after "fit", good-looking people? Do you ever vet prospective playmates on appearance alone? Do you get the hots for people that don't look so good to you but have an irresistible attitude/personality? Would you go with someone that was physically attractive but with whom you couldn't hold a simple conversation? Does the appeal of someone's appearance go up or down as you get to know them? Can horniness/eagerness trump looks in the fancy stakes? Are there any physical traits that you find an instant turn-off? Instant turn-on? Any thoughts/anecdotes, all welcome.

Ok... now since I have been dabbling loosely in the swinging scene, I have had my eyes opened in terms of what I consider "sexy".
I have learned that 'doable' is, for me, as much about someone's attitude/personality as it is about just looks.
Yes, there has to be some sort of attraction, but that attraction can for me be a mental thing as much as a physical.

4 Jun 2012

Are you mostly after "fit", good-looking people?
Mostly, yes. Personality and all the rest is important too but I'm not fucking someone just 'cos they're a nice person.
Do you ever vet prospective playmates on appearance alone?
No, it's part of a full package.
Do you get the hots for people that don't look so good to you but have an irresistible attitude/personality?
Ummmm ... Certainly a fantastic sense of humour, intelligence, an instant "click", all that makes an average-looking person more attractive to me but I wouldn't shag a total minger just 'cos they're witty.
Would you go with someone that was physically attractive but with whom you couldn't hold a simple conversation?
Only in a random one-off situation like a club. Not for one-to-one meets.
Does the appeal of someone's appearance go up or down as you get to know them?
Without a doubt, yes.
Can horniness/eagerness trump looks in the fancy stakes?
Only when I've been a bit tipsy which hasn't happened for years now.
Are there any physical traits that you find an instant turn-off?
Instant turn-on?
Yeah .. depends on the person though. What I find attractive in one person, I might despise in another. I do like little quirks ... a big nose or crooked teeth or an unusual scar - something like that might just nail it!
Any thoughts/anecdotes, all welcome.
I have taken full advantage of being a single female and being able to pick and choose. I know how much that pisses the guys off but ... well, tough. I can so I will. I'm known to be exceptionally fussy in my requirements. I have, in the past, had very detailed profiles and instantly dismissed potential meets on the tiniest thing.
I think it goes without saying I've been slated for this. Apparently, I'm nothing special and how dare I be so arrogant blah blah .. god knows, these men wouldn't give me a second glance out in the real world etc. Well, so what? I think I am summat special and I'll be as fussy as I like 'cos this isn't the "real world". In fact, it's the only world I know where women have any control so why the hell shouldn't I take advantage of it.
Besides, it can be a lot of aggravation trying to get to know someone and arrange a meet. I haven't got time to waste on people who might be alright; I need to feel like there's a very good chance they're gonna be awesome! I made a few mistakes in the beginning but I learned a lot along the way and this "system" worked for me - I generally got what I wanted. The were a few dry spells along the way but for me, it's definitely quality over quantity. My libido isn't quite at the level that I'll just have sex for the sake of having sex ... you know?
edit ... sorry ... can I just say, I know I come across a proper bitch but really, I'm just being honest. To me, this site was about fulfilling my fantasies so I always sought fantasy men. The thing about fantasy is that, if made reality it has to be perfect otherwise it's ruined. So, if I couldn't get exactly what I wanted, I'd rather do without. In many areas of my life, I've had to settle for second best. This was my fantasy life and I wanted the best. Otherwise, what's the point?

Appearances are massively important and anyone who says otherwise is a big fibber. No one really goes for personality alone, otherwise all the ugly people would be getting laid more. OK< I've said too much. bolt

9 Jun 2012

Quote by Marya_Northeast
Fuc*ing loads said here fuc*******ing loada!

I think Marya is ace and I'm so glad she's posting once more too - Ahhh she's witty good looking sardonic plus lots of other things too but must admit I wouldn't f*ck in essence I'm a nice guy and I wouldn't want to ruin her for anyone else coming after me.:)

9 Jun 2012

only one thing matters in this game.
you turn up when arranged.

10 Jun 2012

I'm really fussy.....if it's clean and sweet smelling then I'll have some of it.
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10 Jun 2012

Quote by Lost
Fuc*ing loads said here fuc*******ing loada!

I think Marya is ace and I'm so glad she's posting once more too - Ahhh she's witty good looking sardonic plus lots of other things too but must admit I wouldn't f*ck in essence I'm a nice guy and I wouldn't want to ruin her for anyone else coming after me.:)
Hahahahah! You're absolutely right, of course ;)

10 Jun 2012

Quote by mincepie
how big a part do appearances play in who you fancy?
Do you ever vet prospective playmates on appearance alone?

In our experience it's all down to why we are here in the first place. We are here to act on our fantasies, and we really aren't bothered in long drawn out email trails and coffee here, then a drink there, a few texts, more emails and then tentatively arranging a date etc. We are happy to arrange meets on face value, literally, and then get on with it.
Personality, dick size, hobbies, career, favourite TV programme, best Christmas present you ever received from your gran and a myriad of other things are more appropriate if you want a long term relationship, not a one off night of passion and lust.
So to us, the answer is yes, looks are important. But don't get me wrong we aren't Brad and Angelina and we accept the fact that there are more than enough men out there that aren't in the least bit attracted to Mrs T.

10 Jun 2012

I think if looks aren't important to someone, in other words they'll shag absolutely anyone then they're either desperate or they have no pride in themselves. Having said that, perhaps I mean appearance rather than just looks. People can't help their looks or their bodily flaws that give them their individuality, especially as they get older, but they can care about how they appear and we know from experience there are some people in this game that couldn't care less.
However, and I know this is stating the obvious, we all know beauty's in the eye of the beholder and in the same vein so is ugliness. For example, speaking only for myself and unlike most straight men it seems, I can't stand big tits - on women, hm, or men for that matter smile

In fact I find them such a turn off it would ensure I wouldn't be able to perform with such a person. So when we see ads where the couple need to mention the size of the F's enormous boobs it would put us off immediately. Shallow? Perhaps, but it's just one aspect of how we see beauty. We wouldn't describe such a person as either fit or good looking, but I believe there are many that would.
So yes, appearance is important to us looks less so. We've met some truly wonderful, sexually fantastic people with bodies we find very appealing who you'd never describe as lookers but who have presented themselves superbly.
Fortunately there's so much diversity and variety in the world that I don't think anyone can generalise on fit, good looking people. Each to their own :)

10 Jun 2012

Well as a single lady too I wholey agree with all of Marya's comments; which is unusual for me to agree wholey with anyone lol
I need a Beauty in bed with me, but what I class as a Beauty may be a Beast to another!
I dont mind quirks, imperfections or that they dont quite fit my 'spec'; if I click with them I click, nothing else matters!!
Usually for me it's a 'kaboom!' attraction at first sight that really gets me going, but I have found that I have got to know someone and got the hots later too.
So Beauty or Beast is completely in the eye of the beholder for me and I never take it personally if someone thinks I am a Beast :P
Pam xx

11 Jun 2012

I can find people less or more attractive by personality however I have to be attracted to them in the first place or there is no room for said growth. I cant shag someone I am unattracted to just cus they have a GSOH, does not work for me. I have however shagged one person whom I did not particularly take to personality wise but she was what I would consider fit so it worked for me. Tried taking one for the team once and that was an utter disaster that will never be repeated. Very shallow or just the way I am wired dunno

but I do have to fancy the woman I am going to play with in a physical way.

11 Jun 2012

for us its less about the looks and more about someone being sexy :twisted:
someone that is sexy is far more appealing than someone who is just attractive

11 Jun 2012

I have to be physically attracted to someone although I find people a lot more attractive if they don't consider themselves to be. I have said this before but people with 'hot' etc in their username or profile text wouldn't get a second glance from me. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and if they think they are 'hot' then in my opinion, they are up their own arse and would probably be watching themselves in the mirror while they were at it! lol

I am not a stunner and don't go for stunners (pretty much for the same reason as above). I do feel that people can become more attractive as you get to know them and I would play with someone who I wasn't overly attracted to at first glance, if their personality won me over but I also don't go for mingers, no matter how wonderful their personality!
I don't need to be able to hold an in depth conversation with someone as many of our meets have been one offs, however, how people approach me/us and the initial introduction is important. Respect and politeness goes a long way and manners cost nothing ... no matter how good looking the person is.

12 Jun 2012

Quote by Andy_Jules
Respect and politeness goes a long way and manners cost nothing ... no matter how good looking the person is.

Respect yes, always. politeness, not so sure about that, if needs must and urges need to be quelled (that's a posh word aint it) then a little less on the manners side wouldn't get in the way of carnal desire.
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Oh, did I change my name then? rolleyes

12 Jun 2012

hmm... i`m pretty tall... so i like big tall guys who make me look petite... but some guys personality kinda outweigh that.....

12 Jun 2012

Quote by Funlovers2009

Respect and politeness goes a long way and manners cost nothing ... no matter how good looking the person is.

Respect yes, always. politeness, not so sure about that, if needs must and urges need to be quelled (that's a posh word aint it) then a little less on the manners side wouldn't get in the way of carnal desire.
j
Oh, did I change my name then? rolleyes

What are you on about? dunno

Bloody Mod Edit buttons eh! :grin: bolt

Dave_Notts

13 Jun 2012

Quote by Dave__Notts

Respect and politeness goes a long way and manners cost nothing ... no matter how good looking the person is.

Respect yes, always. politeness, not so sure about that, if needs must and urges need to be quelled (that's a posh word aint it) then a little less on the manners side wouldn't get in the way of carnal desire.
j
Oh, did I change my name then? rolleyes

What are you on about? dunno

Bloody Mod Edit buttons eh! :grin: bolt

Dave_Notts
lol