So been in threesome with fuck buddy previously and had a whale of a time and very keen to play again but in a mff threesome and this time with no fuckable friend .
Certainly am able to separate sex from love( or even knowing- straight dirty fucking with dogging) , But know that I have to have a connection/like/ get on with/fancy someone involved in the playing and that has been fb up til now .
Found that threesomes is more prolonged, relaxed and more connection involved. Also playing with a fb - develops a level of intimacy based on caring and friendship. Nothing better after a fantastic evening of playing than in lying in post coital relaxation with holding,stroking, chatting and falling asleep in someone arms. I am thinking this is an intimacy that will and should be reserved for the couple - was in our case.
Just struggling to get my head around both the practicalities of playing, having fun and then just cleaning up, getting dressed, leaving the hotel room/ house to either return alone to my own room or drive home but also possibly the emotional ramifications too .
Would welcome ideas or advice from either singles in that situation or how couples have handled the parting of the ways , so to speak
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Being the single in a threesome
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We arranged a FFM threesome meet with a few months ago, prolonged, oh yes, she is still here and now lives with us permanently 
How does it work, it always seems to work out that only one of us is tired so 2 get to play and 1 gets some rest, sometimes its all 3 that are tired and sometimes all 3 that are horny (as many will vouch for in the cam rooms)
How does it work, it always seems to work out that only one of us is tired so 2 get to play and 1 gets some rest, sometimes its all 3 that are tired and sometimes all 3 that are horny (as many will vouch for in the cam rooms)
Sex God
Wantonwench what a beautiful description of what you experience. I love to join a secure loving couple and hope I can enhance/expand their physical pleasure as well as enjoying myself rather a lot too!But I know there is a special type of affection between them I can't cross over into, it's a bit like reading a code, knowing when to step you can meet with smiles and part with smiles that's all good.
mmf every time, unless of course the f thinks differently. However, more rest, more attention to f and unless the m is a bit hung up about his own sexuality, then nothing better than a handful of cock.
why is it that guys are so hung up about 'straight', why not bi curious and give it a go?
why is it that guys are so hung up about 'straight', why not bi curious and give it a go?
Casanova
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I am thinking this is an intimacy that will and should be reserved for the couple
Why?! (Rock says: "Fuck that!"
)I will speak as someone who has also been on both sides... The "third wheel" in a threesome should be a guest of honour. They are a real person with feelings and desires, they are not your fucking tool. Excluding kink and specific scenarios, I believe it is extreme bad manners to invite A WOMAN in your bed, make love to her/fuck her brains out, then not offer a decent cuddle, a little chat and a cup of tea to wrap things up.
"...just cleaning up, getting dressed, leaving the hotel room/ house"? As the joke says, that's what you pay escorts for, to leave! You are not providing a professional service, you are there to satisfy your own desires as well as facilitate the couple's. If you enjoy the intimacy as well as the crazy fucking, let this be known straight up. I don't think this has anything to do with love or relationships, this has more to do about looking out for each other and making sure the people you play with also have a positive experience.
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If you enjoy the intimacy as well as the crazy fucking, let this be known straight up. I don't think this has anything to do with love or relationships, this has more to do about looking out for each other and making sure the people you play with also have a positive experience.
That's exactly how I wanted to say it but you've said it better - cheers
was concerned that it comes across as wanting "more" from the encounter than just sex - which I guess in a threesome I do - I want respect,care and consideration as well as the crazy fucking, sensual stroking, erotic licking etc etc - doesn't mean I want a relationship or to stroll off into the sunset with the couple though.
Thanks for that - really helpful
Sex God
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If you enjoy the intimacy as well as the crazy fucking, let this be known straight up. I don't think this has anything to do with love or relationships, this has more to do about looking out for each other and making sure the people you play with also have a positive experience.
That's exactly how I wanted to say it but you've said it better - cheers
was concerned that it comes across as wanting "more" from the encounter than just sex - which I guess in a threesome I do - I want respect,care and consideration as well as the crazy fucking, sensual stroking, erotic licking etc etc - doesn't mean I want a relationship or to stroll off into the sunset with the couple though.
Thanks for that - really helpful
is that not the very least you should expect from a meet
Hi single pringle, long serving team player here lol
This thread is great ty .
Imo the meets themselves are down to the approach taken and build up. I have a keen interest in both members of the couple and feel its ness to click with both be it mf couple or ff couples. Put simply easy enter easy leave. Meets can be awkward but with the right start its gunna end well. I started here 10years ago as a couple and can relate on both sides of the situation, offer respect and keen intrest in the couple and not just the mrs and your usually off to a good sesh.
Reply via mobile sorry for poor reply lol
Happy swinging peeps x
Bes
This thread is great ty .
Imo the meets themselves are down to the approach taken and build up. I have a keen interest in both members of the couple and feel its ness to click with both be it mf couple or ff couples. Put simply easy enter easy leave. Meets can be awkward but with the right start its gunna end well. I started here 10years ago as a couple and can relate on both sides of the situation, offer respect and keen intrest in the couple and not just the mrs and your usually off to a good sesh.
Reply via mobile sorry for poor reply lol
Happy swinging peeps x
Bes
Orgasminator
Dear Wantonwench
All I can say is I feel for you and you are not alone in that situation. Don't stress too much about the logistics of getting some fun. Just get to know a few people first, communicate in all possible ways without resolving to cam play (otherwise the people will get their satisfaction on cam and never meet), have a safe meet in a public place to verify they are what you think they are, see if there is the connection you seek and then arrange a meet for another day. Can you imagine the sweet anticipation for all involved?
I don't think that if you are well matched and proceed carefully there should be any emotional problems when you part ways. This only happens in random meets that are poorly planned and totally unsatisfying.
It is wonderful that you are embracing life as a single, wonderful that you are only willing to play it safe and you know your priorities in life.
I predict you won't be alone for long!
All the best
Tania
All I can say is I feel for you and you are not alone in that situation. Don't stress too much about the logistics of getting some fun. Just get to know a few people first, communicate in all possible ways without resolving to cam play (otherwise the people will get their satisfaction on cam and never meet), have a safe meet in a public place to verify they are what you think they are, see if there is the connection you seek and then arrange a meet for another day. Can you imagine the sweet anticipation for all involved?
I don't think that if you are well matched and proceed carefully there should be any emotional problems when you part ways. This only happens in random meets that are poorly planned and totally unsatisfying.
It is wonderful that you are embracing life as a single, wonderful that you are only willing to play it safe and you know your priorities in life.
I predict you won't be alone for long!All the best
Tania
