Does anybody have any advice on how to become less gullible?? Im soooo trusting its just silly and today im hurting again...
You would think after quite a few relationships, a failed marriage, four children and not exactly being a youngster i would have it all sussed out. Why do i believe everything thats said to me? Im worried that if i become all cynical and guarded then that wont be me. The real Suze will have disappeared.
Anybody any ideas on how to toughen up??
Suze x
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Quote by Suze43
Does anybody have any advice on how to become less gullible?? Im soooo trusting its just silly and today im hurting again...
You would think after quite a few relationships, a failed marriage, four children and not exactly being a youngster i would have it all sussed out. Why do i believe everything thats said to me? Im worried that if i become all cynical and guarded then that wont be me. The real Suze will have disappeared.
Anybody any ideas on how to toughen up??
Suze x
It's a difficult balance to maintain. Despite appearances I can be a very cynical git, even though I'm gullible too. I suppose, it's just best to "stand back" and evaluate the situation at the time. Mind you, I should take my own advice.....:doh:
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i would warn against being too gaurded though, if you are it can sometimes make you a it bitter and unhappy. i tend to be like you and trust people untill they give me a reason not too. sure you may have it backfire sometimes, but at least u can be secure in the fact that you gave everyone a chance
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Agreed, it's such a tough balance to maintain. A year ago, I suffered a scary incident at the hands of someone I'd been silly enough to trust. It could have been much worse- but it served as a warning shot not to be so trusting.
My best friend was stunned that I, of all people had been gullable enough not to see what the guy was up to. Her attitude was "all blokes are like that- expect it."
However, I can't, or won't see it that way. Yes, Im a little more guarded in the respect that next time I say no it will sound a whole lot more fecking convincing. But I don't want to assume that all guys are bad- I've met some bloody lovely ones who I know would never dream of taking advantage.
My best friend was stunned that I, of all people had been gullable enough not to see what the guy was up to. Her attitude was "all blokes are like that- expect it."
However, I can't, or won't see it that way. Yes, Im a little more guarded in the respect that next time I say no it will sound a whole lot more fecking convincing. But I don't want to assume that all guys are bad- I've met some bloody lovely ones who I know would never dream of taking advantage.
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Does anybody have any advice on how to become less gullible?? Im soooo trusting its just silly and today im hurting again...
You would think after quite a few relationships, a failed marriage, four children and not exactly being a youngster i would have it all sussed out. Why do i believe everything thats said to me? Im worried that if i become all cynical and guarded then that wont be me. The real Suze will have disappeared.
Anybody any ideas on how to toughen up??
Suze x
Don't toughen up
Why would you want to be all bitter, twisted and nasty?Stay exactly as you are. I like nice soft gentle people, they are my favourite sort!!! :kiss:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Quote by Suze43
...Im soooo trusting its just silly and today im hurting again...
That hurting feeling you have inside you is called pride...
It's called being alive...
It's having a conscience...
...it's all things to all people!
Once you give up on or lose that feeling then you might as well give up on yourself!
Learn to love yourself properly then you will know what it is like to be loved.
If to be trusting is within your nature of loving then DO NOT DENY IT orlet anyone take it away from you.
To love yourself is to be yourself & if anyone fails to see or appreciate that then they are a wasting their time & more importantly yourpersonal space & energy.
No hard n fast advice on how to 'toughen up'
just roll with the punches, wise up & get back in the ring :therethere:
Quote by Suze43
Does anybody have any advice on how to become less gullible?? Im soooo trusting its just silly and today im hurting again...
You would think after quite a few relationships, a failed marriage, four children and not exactly being a youngster i would have it all sussed out. Why do i believe everything thats said to me? Im worried that if i become all cynical and guarded then that wont be me. The real Suze will have disappeared.
Anybody any ideas on how to toughen up??
Suze x
I dont think you need to toughen up as such. More that you need to learn how to deal with the bits that go wrong. I too thought the same as you a while back but I came to the conclusion that I prefer the more gentle, caring trusting person that I am now. Im gradually learning to take the downs with the ups. Hopefully you wont have too many of those though
Louise xx
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Do you realise that gullible is not even in the dictionary 
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Quote by Suze43
Why do i believe everything thats said to me? Im worried that if i become all cynical and guarded then that wont be me.
Suze hun, even when folk are guarded & cynical about other people's motivations, dont trust as far as they could throw etc etc and have the twatometer set on high alert 24/7, they still get taken in sometimes :doh:
So dont change - take a deep breath, thank your self for actually not being that guillable (or you wouldnt be posting this!) and move on :thumbup:
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'kin ell Suze, can't help you there hun. 46 years on and I'm still getting myself into emotional shit :doh:
Hi Sassy,
Great aint it!! Bloody hell why does life just get harder and harder...
Suze xx
It sure does hun but you just need to shake it off and move on, easier said than done I know.
Failing that, get in the car to Cardiff and we'll get rip roaringly pissed together :thumbup:
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You have done the right thing Suze43 by asking the people on this site who are "clued" up on life and know some of the pitfalls that are out there.
If you need any help ask one of the well known respected members, (you will get to know them) and they will always lend a helping hand or an ear for a moan.
Woo
If you need any help ask one of the well known respected members, (you will get to know them) and they will always lend a helping hand or an ear for a moan.
Woo
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To echo Dark, we have all been there Suze and I am really sorry that this total arse has made you feel like this
Manipulating people, worming their evil little way into people's lives, so much charm it is sickening, telling you all the things that you need to hear, they feed on emotions and the more the merrier as far as they are concerned. Probably have a string of women they are playing their sordid little game with; sending them the same texts, telling them the same things and all with one eye on other potential prey and a hand on their pathetic offering of manhood as they lurk around the forums/pub/club/highstreet.
So don't change Suze, for every slithering snake there are ten times as many good guys and it would be a shame, if by changing who you are, you missed a good one passing by :kiss:
Can I have your babies :giggle: Quote by Sassy-Seren
'kin ell Suze, can't help you there hun. 46 years on and I'm still getting myself into emotional shit :doh:
Hi Sassy,
Great aint it!! Bloody hell why does life just get harder and harder...
Suze xx
It sure does hun but you just need to shake it off and move on, easier said than done I know.
Failing that, get in the car to Cardiff and we'll get rip roaringly pissed together :thumbup:
he he sounds like my kinda gal!!
Suze xx
Quote by Suze43
Does anybody have any advice on how to become less gullible?? Im soooo trusting its just silly and today im hurting again...
You would think after quite a few relationships, a failed marriage, four children and not exactly being a youngster i would have it all sussed out. Why do i believe everything thats said to me? Im worried that if i become all cynical and guarded then that wont be me. The real Suze will have disappeared.
Anybody any ideas on how to toughen up??
Suze x
Suze ... as someone who trusts very few people and only gets to trust people after a long while, don't be like that. It's horrible!
You're a true gem on this site. I can't offer any practical advice though.
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