best club for newbies

30 Jan 2006

we noticed there is a club in tayside we weren't aware of. is it a good place to meet people if you are nervous and inexperienced?what are the best clubs in the north of england?we're thinking of taking a little trip down there. confused

:? :? to try to bust our swinging cherry lol

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30 Jan 2006

If you want my advice.... I don't think the club scene is the best way to bust your "swinging cherry" as you say....
I think you might find it a little bit to over whelming.

30 Jan 2006

cheers lilmiss all advice is welcome smile

but it is frustrating looking for the elusive single bi!!!! sad

30 Jan 2006

I know wot you mean.... but believe me... they are not all sat waiting in clubs either.
There is more single bi fems than you may think you know... you just have to seek them.

30 Jan 2006

we know we get impatient sooooo easily rolleyes

:roll: :roll: but sometimes you wonder if people are genuine but guess they wonder about us confused

31 Jan 2006

That's the problem is you are a long way from anyone else. I can imagine how frustrating it is!
What's more, if you travel a long way to meet someone, and things don't go well, the time spent travelling simply magnifies the disappointment.
Maybe you could take a long weekend which coincides with a Glasgow or Edinburgh munch might be a start? There was a thread about a month ago, which seemed to show quite a lot of interest - see http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/65651.html
Good luck!

31 Jan 2006

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31 Jan 2006

Quote by R n M
There are usually a few newbies each time we visit La Chambre in Sheffield. The manager always offers them a tour of the club, explaining everything and putting them at ease-as far as possible. It's a good place to start because downstairs is similar to a "normal" club, you can stay at the bar or lounge for as long as you like and either chat to others or keep to yourselves. You can also have a look in the rooms without having to go in and get involved if you're not ready.

That's a good idea... But bare in mind that they are very new to the scene and haven't yet dabbled in swinging. I haven't been to the sheffield club... and don't know what it's like. The last thing a new couple want is to go to a club where it is over run with single men... This can be a very big put off for newbies to the scene. But of course there are cpls nites too. I'd also advice that if you do decide to go to a club, that you choose 1 where there isn't a "towel" code. You need to be relaxed and under no pressure.
I agree with the advice on a munch or social 1st, thats what i did. I travelled all the way to essex from blackpool... I was very nervous.
Which ever way you decide to go.... Good luck and enjoy

1 Feb 2006

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1 Feb 2006

thanks all for the advice we have already been to one munch in glasgow and enjoyed it
so perhaps our best way forward is to attend another one smile

:)

1 Feb 2006

We were going to visit the Office club in Bristol on a couples night. Before we arranged to go we got a PM from another memeber who had been to the office telling us that they went on a couples night and single men are allowed in, figure that. Dont know if thats the same at any other clubs but it sure put us off going. We dont mind single men being there so much but were also told by several users that the single men at the office hang round the pool table being loud and only approach the woman from a couple when say the man goes for a WC. Very slimey in my opinion. I think you need 5 very good referances for a club before deciding to go as a first time swingers event.
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