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Best club in the South East for newbies AND a very shy wife?

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Usual scenario I imagine.. the male is pushing for some club/swinging action and the female is VERY unsure....
I am almost desperate to spice things up and venture into a club situation with my lovely wife. She likes a bit of porn but has a fear of being seen, being pushed into action that she didn't want to get into, and generally feeling uncomfortable or our of her depth.
I can completely understand this so I am looking for a way to break her into this world gently.
Therefore, what I am looking for initially is a BUSY club in the south east that is friendly and welcoming to newbies with no huge pressure to get involved.
I know some people get pissed off with people just watching but I feel this is a necesary first step with the missus. I think that if I get her through the front door then she will loosen up and find it stimulating and hopefully would then go to the club again and perhaps escalate things up one step at a time. If i rush her then it is all over.
Perhaps, I should just forget about it and deal with the fact that she will never get into that lifestyle. She would let me do it with other girls but I want to do it with her!
I think she would only feel half-comfortable in a fairly dark club where she doesn't have to dress too 'slutty', where voyeurism (initially) is acceptable. She would probably be okay in a bikini in a hot-tub, which would half-hide her and get her used to nakedness.
Any advice?
I appreciate your thoughts and time in advance.
I should add that we would only be at a club 'watching' where it was permitted and encouraged by the viewee/s.
I am just keen to coax and warm her right up to it.
Anything resembling a bad early experience will put the permanent mockers on it.
Although your profile is that of a couple, you do state at the end of your blurb that we should consider you a 'single male'..does that mean that your wife is not aware of this account you have? It would be a shame, because my suggestion would be for her to talk to other females wave who have experienced the club scene both alone and as part of a couple and that could help with giving her a woman's perspective, calming her nerves, and answer any reservations she might have..
Start on holiday....... Topless on the beach, then find a nude beach. Have sex in the sea on the nude beach.
Don't push her, let her enjoy the freedom.
Next step is to try nudism in the UK - Eureka in Kent is a good place to start. They have parties where some people play. It is a good introduction if you have already been nude on the beach on holiday.
We meet so many "single" guys in Clubs who admit to being married and can't even have a conversation about it with their wives. We find that really quite sad.
You are going to have to come up with a plan and be open and honest with yourself and her about what you want to achieve.
Diving straight into a busy Club might just be a risky first step if you suspect that she would be reluctant anyway.
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Usual scenario I imagine.. the male is pushing for some club/swinging action and the female is VERY unsure....
I am almost desperate to spice things up and venture into a club situation with my lovely wife. She likes a bit of porn but has a fear of being seen, being pushed into action that she didn't want to get into, and generally feeling uncomfortable or our of her depth.
I can completely understand this so I am looking for a way to break her into this world gently.
Therefore, what I am looking for initially is a BUSY club in the south east that is friendly and welcoming to newbies with no huge pressure to get involved.
I know some people get pissed off with people just watching but I feel this is a necesary first step with the missus. I think that if I get her through the front door then she will loosen up and find it stimulating and hopefully would then go to the club again and perhaps escalate things up one step at a time. If i rush her then it is all over.
Perhaps, I should just forget about it and deal with the fact that she will never get into that lifestyle. She would let me do it with other girls but I want to do it with her!
I think she would only feel half-comfortable in a fairly dark club where she doesn't have to dress too 'slutty', where voyeurism (initially) is acceptable. She would probably be okay in a bikini in a hot-tub, which would half-hide her and get her used to nakedness.
Any advice?
I appreciate your thoughts and time in advance.

When we came to the UK my wife was open to the idea but timid. We lived in the South, so Studland was an obvious choice. She got used to the idea and feeling of being naked at the beach all day. She started to enjoy it when men looked at her as she walked naked from the dunes to the beach to go for a swim. At first, she insisted that I was always with her, but by the end of the first summer, she wanted to go alone and have me watch as she slowly walked past all the others on the beach, and she even chose a path that led her past the places were there more men. We also walked at the back of the dunes, and she enjoyed it when we came across a few men who were engaging in some gay action, once she watched in amazement as we turned around a little wood, and in a hidden spot, there was a big old gay guy bumming a much younger man.

That winter, we then started regularly going to Bristol Gardens Health Club in Brighton, and she loved the sauna, steam rooms, jacuzzis and plunge pools. We first went in the evening on weekends, when there were only couples. She loved how both men and women looked at her and while we did not engage with anyone she clearly was fascinated to watch when other couples enjoyed swinging and swapping in the big play/rest area and she was always intrigued to see who disappeared into the private playrooms and would always make me stop on the way to the sauna or the bar and listen to the noises coming from the rooms.

On the next visit, she asked me if we could go to the private rooms, as all of this made her very horny, and she wanted me to fuck her. She noticed that some couples left the door open so others could watch them even though they did not want anyone with them in the room or engaging with them. She asked me if I wanted to do the same. I said that it would be better to ask someone to come in with us and tell him clearly that we were just there to watch because, leaving the door ajar, there was no control that suddenly a group of men thought it was a good idea to just suddenly burst in.

Then, on another visit on a Friday evening, we got chatting to a much older guy than us. My wife and I were 35 then, and this very attractive and distinguished-looking gent would have been close to 60 or even older. He had a very nice way about him, was very attractive and fit, white hair, white beard and a good size and thick cock, even when flaccid. So I asked him outright if he was interested in coming to a room with us but that we only wanted to be watched. He smiled and nodded and said that it would be a privilege and honour to watch us and to help fulfil our fantasies.

So I took my wife by her hand, took the big towel away and led her naked past all the other men and our mature friend followed us. Once in the room, my wife had not noticed that I had invited our friend into the room, and he locked the door, and when my wife turned around she gasped and I explained that this nice man is her to watch us and she looked at him and said, that she had been watching him all evening and was very pleased that I had chosen so well and perhaps, if it was ok with me he was also willing to do a little more than just watch, and with that she pressed herself between us and started kissing men and then kissing him, soon after we had our hands all over her and my wife had for the first time in her life to big dicks in her hands, and we lifted her up, spread her legs, I had my hand under her bum and our mature attractive friend worked his experienced fingers into her love hole and my wife moaned and sighed and seemingly melted between us, and came for the first time all over our friend's hand and covered his hand and arm with a huge gush of her love juices. Then we placed her on the bed and massaged and licked her all over, fingers in her mouth, in her vagina and one small finger in her anus; she sucked me, then him, and then I spread her legs, whispered in my wife's ear, "Do you want him inside you! And she just opened her eyes wide, nodded and whispered, "Yes, please. I want him now and I want him inside me, and I want him to cum inside me! Is that OK?" And I gave her a French kiss and nodded. Then I watched how this mature man with his dick that had by now grown to a really big long and very thick cock started to ease his dick into my wife's willing and eagerly waiting pussy and he started to fuck her slowly and with a steady rhythm, my wife moaned, he soon was all the way inside her, my wife came again, and he kept fucking her slow, fast, very fast, very gently and very hard, he was a very skilful lover, he took his time, and then he pulled out and ask me to replace him, and so for some time we fucked her alternately, and when my wife was clearly in a state of bliss, I gave him signs to fuck her again and to finish off inside her and to unload his cum into her. He whispered, "Is she on the pill?", I shook my head but gave a thumbs-up sign that we were OK with that, and then he gave her a final round of expert fucking that seems to go on for ages and with a low moan he clenched his buttocks and filled up my wife's fertile pussy with his hot cum and wife climaxed again. He then slowly pulled out, and I followed, and for the first time, I experienced something I had often heard about but never had done before. Since then, I have been totally hooked on sloppy seconds. Nothing feels better for me than fucking a warm, pre-fucked, pre-used silky pussy full of another man's cum, especially if it is my wife's pussy.

The feeling was so intense for me that I only got to about 15 strokes when I exploded into my wife. We all lay down on the bed with my wife between us and we rested for a while in silence and then chatted and laughed, and as if by magic a little later we were all ready to go again and we started our journey into a life of wife sharing and lots of generous donations of potent male sperm into my wife's receptive vagina and my new found passion for sloppy seconds.