This is my first posting on here and the question i would love an answer to is what does it mean to be a bi curious female? I ask because i always pass over adverts when bi curious female is stated it somehow has negative connotations for me.
Perhaps there's an explanation somewhere on this site and i've missed it.
Thanks
Hannah
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someone who is curious and/or would like to try things sexually with another person of the same sex as them
bi means a man or women who likes both sex so bi curious is just someone how has only tried a little or not tried at all but has thoughts about it
think im confusing myself now someone will be along soon with a better answer :welcome: to the forums
bi means a man or women who likes both sex so bi curious is just someone how has only tried a little or not tried at all but has thoughts about it
think im confusing myself now someone will be along soon with a better answer :welcome: to the forums
since joining SH, i have become bi curious.......and the way I see it is that I would possibly like to try something sexual with a woman, to see if its something I like. But its not something I want to try with every women.
as with fellas, there has to be an attraction there for me to want to do something, and of course, they have to feel that they want to reciprocate.
And also, it can be anything from a kiss to fondling/caressing to oral sex and more, its not just about wanting to shag them with a strap on
It has made me appreciate female beauty more, and notice the women I do find attractive.
hope this makes sense, and this is just my take and my feelings, on it all as i see it
as with fellas, there has to be an attraction there for me to want to do something, and of course, they have to feel that they want to reciprocate.
And also, it can be anything from a kiss to fondling/caressing to oral sex and more, its not just about wanting to shag them with a strap on
It has made me appreciate female beauty more, and notice the women I do find attractive.
hope this makes sense, and this is just my take and my feelings, on it all as i see it
Sex God
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since joining SH, i have become bi curious.......and the way I see it is that I would possibly like to try something sexual with a woman, to see if its something I like. But its not something I want to try with every women.
as with fellas, there has to be an attraction there for me to want to do something, and of course, they have to feel that they want to reciprocate.
And also, it can be anything from a kiss to fondling/caressing to oral sex and more, its not just about wanting to shag them with a strap on
It has made me appreciate female beauty more, and notice the women I do find attractive.
hope this makes sense, and this is just my take and my feelings, on it all as i see it
Well, that saved me typing anything as I couldnt have said it better myself.
Hannah, Im sure you will get loads of different answers and opinions on this and I dont think there is 'dictionary' definition but I think the above posts just about cover most aspects
Mrs BD just for info... I have been with mmmmmmm ..... quite a few women sexually, and I have only used a strap on with 5 of them.. and 3 of those were long term partners.(my longest relationship of 6 years I never actually used one at all, either giving or receiving) It certainly isn't ultimate experience of being with a woman IMHO.
I also rarely use sex toys and certainly haven't the first time I have been with a woman. I know I am not unique in that either.
I also rarely use sex toys and certainly haven't the first time I have been with a woman. I know I am not unique in that either.
Thanks for your replies.
Splendid, i agree with what you say about sex toys and strap ons. I've had countless relationships and casual sexual encounters whith women i've fancied and who have luckily fancied me, but, i've never wanted to use toys. I love the feel of a woman (not all women Mrs Bonedigger) rather than a piece of rubber but, that's just me.
I take the point about thinking about it kissing or touching another female. I knew when i was very young that i fancied certain females. So thing were pretty clear cut for me.
I've had several encounters from this site where the females status has been bi sexual and on those occassions there was very little iffing and butting. Because, we knew we fancied each other. However, when i have contacted females who described themselves as bi curious, the sexual element has missing. For example, they either wanted long term friedship or a period of socialising. On one occassion it became crystal clear that it was the husband who was actually 'curious' meaning, he wanted to see his wife with another woman and she was getting increasingly stressed because she was obviously 'straight'. Her relief was palpable when i called it off.
I'm not suggesting for one minute that the experiences i mention relate to all, sexuality is far to complex for that. But, i do wonder why people describe themselves as bi curious in their ads, for long periods of time.
I hope i haven't complicated the issue
Thanks
Hannah
Splendid, i agree with what you say about sex toys and strap ons. I've had countless relationships and casual sexual encounters whith women i've fancied and who have luckily fancied me, but, i've never wanted to use toys. I love the feel of a woman (not all women Mrs Bonedigger) rather than a piece of rubber but, that's just me.
I take the point about thinking about it kissing or touching another female. I knew when i was very young that i fancied certain females. So thing were pretty clear cut for me.
I've had several encounters from this site where the females status has been bi sexual and on those occassions there was very little iffing and butting. Because, we knew we fancied each other. However, when i have contacted females who described themselves as bi curious, the sexual element has missing. For example, they either wanted long term friedship or a period of socialising. On one occassion it became crystal clear that it was the husband who was actually 'curious' meaning, he wanted to see his wife with another woman and she was getting increasingly stressed because she was obviously 'straight'. Her relief was palpable when i called it off.
I'm not suggesting for one minute that the experiences i mention relate to all, sexuality is far to complex for that. But, i do wonder why people describe themselves as bi curious in their ads, for long periods of time.
I hope i haven't complicated the issue
Thanks
Hannah
splendid Im sorry if it seemed that I was making a sweeping generalisation that thats what women who fancied other women wanted to to to each other, that wasnt what I meant, and Im afraid that I may have worded my reply rather badly.apologies for any offence caused by my lack of ability to get thoughts from my head to screen properly this evening....
not having such a good night in here tonight 
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Warming the Bed
I think u are bicurious until you want it publicly (i mean in swinging circles) know that you are up for same sex fun, then you are bi. I consider myself bi but I have onyl had 4 experiences with guys and they where all great!
Sex God
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But, i do wonder why people describe themselves as bi curious in their ads, for long periods of time.
Maybe they haven't found the right female they are interested in yet?
Sex God
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apologies for any offence caused by my lack of ability to get thoughts from my head to screen properly this evening....
There was nothing wrong with what you posted
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apologies for any offence caused by my lack of ability to get thoughts from my head to screen properly this evening....
I saw it as you expressing the whole range of things you might like to do- From a little fondling to full on strap-on shagging......just one extreme to the other.
Chill out Mrs!
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apologies for any offence caused by my lack of ability to get thoughts from my head to screen properly this evening....
oh gosh lovely, I wasn't criticising. I was just pointing it out in case you had a secret fear that all a woman wanted to do was get her big strap on out and fuck you as the ultimate sex act.
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apologies for any offence caused by my lack of ability to get thoughts from my head to screen properly this evening....
oh gosh lovely, I wasn't criticising. I was just pointing it out in case you had a secret fear that all a woman wanted to do was get her big strap on out and fuck you as the ultimate sex act.
You mean it's safe to come out now? :scared: :shock: :lol:
Sexlightened
what I find with Naomi is she is more picky with girls than guys. She never thought of her self as Bi, but it just needs that chance play and things change. In her own words "I now find my self looking at girls in a differant way"
but I will bet lots of woman will add the girl thing to there fantascy, but will not admit it untill, swinging or chance incounter etc
but I will bet lots of woman will add the girl thing to there fantascy, but will not admit it untill, swinging or chance incounter etc
Sex God
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I am still waiting for the "Bi with certain special ladies" category to be added.
Oooh, now that would be fun!!
Nola xx
Sex God
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apologies for any offence caused by my lack of ability to get thoughts from my head to screen properly this evening....
Nowt wrong with what you posted.
In fact I've always wondered what attraction a strap-on really has in girlie sex - unless it's convenience - or penis envy (I would say that wouldn't I?)
From my experience what girlies get from being together is sensitive, meaningful and very well targeted sex. And by sex I really mean stimulation.
I have been with girls who have maintained they are straight and yet have enjoyed sex with a particular woman. That to me is so erotic - in so far as it is not straight sex or gay sex - it is sex with a person regardless of their sex. That just magnifies the experience to something beyond being physical.
I guess this could apply equally to men - but somehow I can't see it. Am I one-eyed?
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ty all...sorry for being such a numpty...a bit over sensitive tonight
I agree that I think it will take a particular woman to make me want to take it further than I have...which is a teeny bit of snogging and booby fondling, so far.....
still waiting for the woman who makes me feel like that.....watch this space :lol:
I agree that I think it will take a particular woman to make me want to take it further than I have...which is a teeny bit of snogging and booby fondling, so far.....
still waiting for the woman who makes me feel like that.....watch this space :lol:
Sex God
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Winchwench,
The category 'Bi with a certain lady' isn't necessary because being bi means that you 'fancy' certain women not all of them. Surely, curiosity has to get the better of people at some point?
Hannah
I hope i haven't offended anyone.
Well you certainly haven't offended me
The term 'bi-curious' obviously means different things to different people.
Sex God
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Winchwench,
The category 'Bi with a certain lady' isn't necessary because being bi means that you 'fancy' certain women not all of them. Surely, curiosity has to get the better of people at some point?
Hannah
I hope i haven't offended anyone.
I don't think curiosity necessarily will get the better. A girl can be confident in the knowledge that she enjoys sex with a particular woman and not become curious about whether she will with others. If the urge ain't there the curiosity won't follow.
Even if it does, there is nothing sinister in bi-curiosity being long-held or just fleeting. It can depend on circumstances or just the strength of the urge.
But who am I to say?
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I have bi-curious ticked on my profile merely because there's no other category I feel comfortable with. I have had experiences with women, both in a one-to-one situation and in a three or foursome. I've discovered that I like women but only if there's man involved. I can't tick bi on my profile because I feel I'd get approached by women on their own, even though my profile says I'm not looking for them.
I'm no longer curious but I don't know what else to call myself, I don't consider myself bi because I'm not really interested in a one-to-one encounter with another woman, which is what I would consider bi to mean.
H.x
I'm no longer curious but I don't know what else to call myself, I don't consider myself bi because I'm not really interested in a one-to-one encounter with another woman, which is what I would consider bi to mean.
H.x
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In fact I've always wondered what attraction a strap-on really has in girlie sex - unless it's convenience - or penis envy (I would say that wouldn't I?)
From my experience what girlies get from being together is sensitive, meaningful and very well targeted sex. And by sex I really mean stimulation.
Tune, just picking up on part of your reply - nothing personal, just made me think about a few things that I thought I might throw into the hat :thumbup:
It can be about a lot of different things but simply the feeling of being penetrated is the main one in my (and the Mrs's) experience.
What people don't always think about is that when using a strap on we're still having sex with each other, it's just a different, convenient way of getting off basically.
I'm not sure about the "sensitive, meaningful and very well targeted sex" thing though if I'm honest. I'm going to stick my head over the parapet here though and maybe suggest that girl on girl sex can be very different when it's between inexperienced/bi-curious women, sexually bi-women and women for whom bisexuality or lesbianism is their overall orientation.
If someone's foray into sex with other women is so they can experience a gentler or more female centric kind of sex then maybe you're comment is spot on, however, ours is usually vastly different to that but that might be because we are having sex with each other within the parameters of our relationship rather than just having sex with another woman - if that makes sense
???Maybe that's the reason that girl/girl strap on sex doesn't really seem to feature a lot on the swinging scene perhaps. In my experience lesbians don't tend to use strap ons until their relationship is well established so maybe the introduction of their use is a paralell to married women who decide that they'd like to use vibrators - its all about enhancement of sex and trying something new to keep things fresh or introduce a new dynamic.
And now, I'm going to stop rattling on
Sex God
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I have bi-curious ticked on my profile merely because there's no other category I feel comfortable with. I have had experiences with women, both in a one-to-one situation and in a three or foursome. I've discovered that I like women but only if there's man involved. I can't tick bi on my profile because I feel I'd get approached by women on their own, even though my profile says I'm not looking for them.
I'm no longer curious but I don't know what else to call myself, I don't consider myself bi because I'm not really interested in a one-to-one encounter with another woman, which is what I would consider bi to mean.
H.x
Hi Hannah
I'd echo Hx's thoughts here. I am classed as bi-curious but have kissed and dallied in oral sex with ladies as part of foursomes. For me I can easily fancy men but women I find I am much much fussier. To have a one on one with another female without men there, scares the hell outta me, so I shall stay bi-curious for now as I don't want f/f play to be an expected part of play as our ad clearly states.
pink x
I always find it amusing (no insult meant) when people say that they are 'bi with the right woman/women' - it seems to infer that they'll fuck any bloke but are picky when it comes to chicks?! Lol....
If that is the case then I'm straight for the right man, bi for the right couple and lesbian for the right woman (also known as very picky.. hehe...)
If that is the case then I'm straight for the right man, bi for the right couple and lesbian for the right woman (also known as very picky.. hehe...)
