Could be any number of things.
They might be afraid that they'd like it.
They might be afraid that they'd be jumped by the other people of the same sex (something that's been covered)
They might just be uncomfortable with same-sex action
Although respecting people's boundaries are important, there's nothing more fun than seducing someone to the dark side with "cookies" :twisted:
I am not accusing anybody on here of holding this prejudice.
I have observed that an awful lot of folk avoid bi-males because they believe that sex with them carries a higher risk of acquiring HIV.
Not a perspective I share but it seemed to have not been discussed as part of the debate.
rofl well you should see the palpitations a bi guy can set off in a 'str8' guy :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
I would like to talk from a straight couple point of view, neither of us have any desire to have sex with the same sex. I have chatted in the past to loads of Bi females and Bi guys, (I am the female half of the couple) and I respect anyone for their personal preference what people want to do I feel they should do without question or prejudice.
What quiet often I did find by quiet a few people is that I was the one that was questioned, especially by Bi woman, why was it I was straight, that in some way I must be homophobic and quiet often felt unaccepted and dismissed for not having the same views. It seemed from some that to not share the same views sexually meant I wasn’t worth getting to know as a person, something I always found to be very shallow minded and at times felt some needed almost reassure that what they were doing was right.
I must stress that the majority of my time in the chat rooms I was accepted as a straight woman from a straight couple and found other Bi women that were fine and I felt we shared the same level of respect for each other.
Why is it that they specifically ask women who offer to donate blood, if you have ever had sex with a man who has had sex with another man, with or without condoms? I don't know if you would be prevented from donating if you answered "yes".
We are a strait couple and I consider myself strait, however on a few occassions, one very recent and very sexy evening too, I played with the lady of the couple who is bi, the lady didn`t jump on me or make me do anything I didn`t want to and it was a very rauchy evening, however its not something we look for but not avoid either if I`m honest.
I`m of the mind that if its sexy and fun then I will do what feels good and hope that BMW enjoys the view (he loved it too), boundaries are made before we meet people but like everything they can shift, but if you don`t want that sort of attention then "NO" is a very good word to use, and I really don`t think bi women are out to corrupt us any more than bi men are out to " " the strait men.
i think the type of person that comes out with a comment like that prob has never and never will meet anybody and just using that as an excuse or one of them, we call them wannabes or dreamers.
Wasn’t sure whether to post on this thread or not, because normally if you’re straight and have encountered bad experiences in the past which makes you wary and uncomfortable meeting bisexual people, people tend to call you narrow minded or homophobic.
As a straight female, yes that’s straight, one who knows she’s straight because she’s experimented, not because she’s homophobic, I can honestly say with hand on heard that our experiences meeting couples with bi females hasn’t been very good, however have had no bad experiences meeting bisexual males.
Two out of our three meets with bi couples have resulted in advances from the female, this occurred after long chats and boundaries were set before meeting, where its made clear I have no interest whatsoever in playing with another female, the other couples had no problem with that, or so they said.
We’ve also chatted to lots of couples, and again can honestly say that 7 times out of 10, the chatting turns towards fem-fem fun, even when you make it clear you’re not interested, some tend to think, notice I said some, not all, that you just haven’t met the right person yet and they’re the ones that can turn you.
I know we’ve just been unlucky, we’re not naïve enough to think that this is the norm, because we know deep down its not, we ourselves don’t tend to let bad experiences put us off, and it hasn’t, but we also know it might put others off, these people would tend to be called homophobic or such like or these threads, because people assume it does not happen because it hasn’t happened to them.
It hasn’t put us off one bit, but it DOES happen, and telling someone that someone being bisexual doesn’t mean they’ll jump on you, when they’ve experienced that exact thing, is like telling someone you’re dog wont bite when they’ve been bitten by one.
Thank you for your honesty frisky, I very much appreciate it and vale your perspective.
All our meets are MMF meets, some times I watch, some times I join in. I am a straight male. I am not bothered by the other Male's sexuality, as boundary's are made before the meet. I believe lines become blurred in the swinging world any way, if you are to have a MMF sexual encounter it would be very difficult not to have some form of contact with the other male, however careful you might try to be.
The men are chosen by the wife, if she thinks they are hot and sexy then that's all I need to know. The rest of the ground rules can be drawn up pre-meet, just as we might say no anal and only safe sex.
You'd have to think you were G*d's gift to the world that you could a) turn a straight person bi-cur at the mere flick of a tongue, and b) think you were clever enough to assuage the second party involved's consternation having just seen their straight partner molested outside the agreed boundaries, and c) be insensitive enough to not care all that much about getting a) and b) completely wrong, and d) not really give a flying one about the subsequent rejection. :?
