I have just been informed by someone in the chatroom, that most str8 couples wont meet a couple with a bi female incase the srt8 lady gets jumped on. I think this is rather odd as surely people chat about such things before they ever get into that situation. And being a bi female doesnt mean you have no respect for someone who is str8.
I just thought I would put this one in and see what comments come back, if any.
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Quote by goldsmithbut how can a person speak for all swinging site members , but if we meet a str8 cpl our lass wont jump on her mind she has good gaydar
I have just been informed by someone in the chatroom, that most str8 couples wont meet a couple with a bi female incase the srt8 lady gets jumped on. .
its just mindless ppl saying things like that ,end of the day on sites like this you message meet up and discuss what both partys would like to happen, in a club same type thing asking what any ones into .dont let this put you off . Quote by Kaznkev
i never heard this myself , but since straight couples seem to believe that bi men are gonna the male given half a chance i can believe it,
To be honest , and i am in a bad mood so this is something im gonna regret in the morning,it seems typical of the attitudes of those who are not swingers but believe that a little dalliance in nsa to enhance there sex lives is just the ticket.
i am not saying that bi/straight/gay/poly/pan/trans are designations of swingers, you can be any all or none of these,however i do believe that an openness to others and acceptance of them is the only point the silly word has.
Bring back the contact mag days i say , then these feckers with a credit card can all hang out togeather and share stories of wild nights
tola ya i wasnt a fluffy bunny right now :giggle:
Really? Thats a bit of a generalisation,you do have the facts to back that up don't you?
People who worry about being jumped by bi people when they're straight aren't using much common sense. If you agree to meet up and everyone knows the score then it's just going to ruin the fun if people are put into uncomfortable positions. I can understand being in an uncomfortable position with single guys, but bashing them is for another thread.
I'm bi-curious and the missus is bi, but we're both respectful of boundaries and wouldn't jump a straight person. Even if it is fun to be someone's first, but only when it's agreed by all parties or outside of the swinging scene
I'm bi-curious and the missus is bi, but we're both respectful of boundaries and wouldn't jump a straight person. Even if it is fun to be someone's first, but only when it's agreed by all parties or outside of the swinging scene
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I have just been informed by someone in the chatroom, that most str8 couples wont meet a couple with a bi female incase the srt8 lady gets jumped on. I think this is rather odd as surely people chat about such things before they ever get into that situation. And being a bi female doesnt mean you have no respect for someone who is str8.
I just thought I would put this one in and see what comments come back, if any.
I'll tell you of our first experience on the swinging scene,it was in a club and we were in one of the play areas and another couple approached us...the usual touching and fondling started,until the lady of the other couple started doing the same to my wife, my wife made a polite wave of her hand that she was not interested in her, well you should have seen the strop this woman put on, like what my wife had done was the biggest insult ever. We have been to many clubs and we have seen quite a few women assume they can just go up to other women and grope them without even asking,like it's their god given right, because your a woman and your in a swingers club, you must be bi!
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People who worry about being jumped by bi people when they're straight aren't using much common sense. If you agree to meet up and everyone knows the score then it's just going to ruin the fun if people are put into uncomfortable positions. I can understand being in an uncomfortable position with single guys, but bashing them is for another thread.
I agree with that, when we meet new couples we always make sure we all know what's what before we ever get to the playing stage. It did baffle me really that the person who mentioned it to me said she had come across lots of people who wouldnt meet them because she was bi and they didn't want their lady half of the couple 'jumped' on. I would never, ever expect to play with a str8 female of a couple, its not only disrespectful, its a sure fire way of ruining what could potentially be a good time.
However, just to put the cat among the pigeons, we dont meet bi guys, not because we are afraid that they will 'jump' on silver, but because we choose not to for reasons which we feel comfortable with. Hypocritical or not, that's our rule which we stick to.
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People who worry about being jumped by bi people when they're straight aren't using much common sense. If you agree to meet up and everyone knows the score then it's just going to ruin the fun if people are put into uncomfortable positions. I can understand being in an uncomfortable position with single guys, but bashing them is for another thread.
I agree with that, when we meet new couples we always make sure we all know what's what before we ever get to the playing stage. It did baffle me really that the person who mentioned it to me said she had come across lots of people who wouldnt meet them because she was bi and they didn't want their lady half of the couple 'jumped' on. I would never, ever expect to play with a str8 female of a couple, its not only disrespectful, its a sure fire way of ruining what could potentially be a good time.
However, just to put the cat among the pigeons, we dont meet bi guys, not because we are afraid that they will 'jump' on silver, but because we choose not to for reasons which we feel comfortable with. Hypocritical or not, that's our rule which we stick to.
From experience we have found bi guys to be less pushy than bi girls.
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People who worry about being jumped by bi people when they're straight aren't using much common sense. If you agree to meet up and everyone knows the score then it's just going to ruin the fun if people are put into uncomfortable positions. I can understand being in an uncomfortable position with single guys, but bashing them is for another thread.
I agree with that, when we meet new couples we always make sure we all know what's what before we ever get to the playing stage. It did baffle me really that the person who mentioned it to me said she had come across lots of people who wouldnt meet them because she was bi and they didn't want their lady half of the couple 'jumped' on. I would never, ever expect to play with a str8 female of a couple, its not only disrespectful, its a sure fire way of ruining what could potentially be a good time.
However, just to put the cat among the pigeons, we dont meet bi guys, not because we are afraid that they will 'jump' on silver, but because we choose not to for reasons which we feel comfortable with. Hypocritical or not, that's our rule which we stick to.
From experience we have found bi guys to be less pushy than bi girls.
If you read what I said, thats not the reason we dont meet bi guys.
Quote by goldsmith
People who worry about being jumped by bi people when they're straight aren't using much common sense. If you agree to meet up and everyone knows the score then it's just going to ruin the fun if people are put into uncomfortable positions. I can understand being in an uncomfortable position with single guys, but bashing them is for another thread.
I agree with that, when we meet new couples we always make sure we all know what's what before we ever get to the playing stage. It did baffle me really that the person who mentioned it to me said she had come across lots of people who wouldnt meet them because she was bi and they didn't want their lady half of the couple 'jumped' on. I would never, ever expect to play with a str8 female of a couple, its not only disrespectful, its a sure fire way of ruining what could potentially be a good time.
However, just to put the cat among the pigeons, we dont meet bi guys, not because we are afraid that they will 'jump' on silver, but because we choose not to for reasons which we feel comfortable with. Hypocritical or not, that's our rule which we stick to.
Each to their own I say. Although I'm only bi-curious I know I wouldn't jump on any straight guys or try anything sneaky. I've no idea of your reasons but I'd suspect a lot of couples wouldn't choose to meet with a couple with a bi-guy as socially ingrained homophobia would make them uncomfortable around a bi-guy
Quote by bigDewi69
People who worry about being jumped by bi people when they're straight aren't using much common sense. If you agree to meet up and everyone knows the score then it's just going to ruin the fun if people are put into uncomfortable positions. I can understand being in an uncomfortable position with single guys, but bashing them is for another thread.
I agree with that, when we meet new couples we always make sure we all know what's what before we ever get to the playing stage. It did baffle me really that the person who mentioned it to me said she had come across lots of people who wouldnt meet them because she was bi and they didn't want their lady half of the couple 'jumped' on. I would never, ever expect to play with a str8 female of a couple, its not only disrespectful, its a sure fire way of ruining what could potentially be a good time.
However, just to put the cat among the pigeons, we dont meet bi guys, not because we are afraid that they will 'jump' on silver, but because we choose not to for reasons which we feel comfortable with. Hypocritical or not, that's our rule which we stick to.
Each to their own I say. Although I'm only bi-curious I know I wouldn't jump on any straight guys or try anything sneaky. I've no idea of your reasons but I'd suspect a lot of couples wouldn't choose to meet with a couple with a bi-guy as socially ingrained homophobia would make them uncomfortable around a bi-guy
OMG I was waiting for that, I am certainly not homophobic, ingrained or not. I work in theatre, which is like the cast from the Rocky Horror show at times lol. But you may be right, perhaps some couples attitudes are like you describe.
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People who worry about being jumped by bi people when they're straight aren't using much common sense. If you agree to meet up and everyone knows the score then it's just going to ruin the fun if people are put into uncomfortable positions. I can understand being in an uncomfortable position with single guys, but bashing them is for another thread.
I agree with that, when we meet new couples we always make sure we all know what's what before we ever get to the playing stage. It did baffle me really that the person who mentioned it to me said she had come across lots of people who wouldnt meet them because she was bi and they didn't want their lady half of the couple 'jumped' on. I would never, ever expect to play with a str8 female of a couple, its not only disrespectful, its a sure fire way of ruining what could potentially be a good time.
However, just to put the cat among the pigeons, we dont meet bi guys, not because we are afraid that they will 'jump' on silver, but because we choose not to for reasons which we feel comfortable with. Hypocritical or not, that's our rule which we stick to.
From experience we have found bi guys to be less pushy than bi girls.
If you read what I said, thats not the reason we dont meet bi guys.
Did i say it was?
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Sorry, I wasn't implying that you were. I added that I didn't know your reasons, but I'm sure that some other couples would have that reason
I re read your post and edited mine, great minds think alike eh?
It would be good for people reading this topic to here your own personal reasons though, as I cant think of anything other than homophobia to a lesser or greater degree, and that exists within the theatrical community. Whether that's to a lesser or greater degree it does exist,
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Sorry, I wasn't implying that you were. I added that I didn't know your reasons, but I'm sure that some other couples would have that reason
I re read your post and edited mine, great minds think alike eh?
It would be good for people reading this topic to here your own personal reasons though, as I cant think of anything other than homophobia to a lesser or greater degree, and that exists within the theatrical community. Whether that's to a lesser or greater degree it does exist,
I am sure it would, but it really isn't important what the reasons are, they are our choices. If I was homophobic, would I be bi - I think not!
Quote by goldsmith
Sorry, I wasn't implying that you were. I added that I didn't know your reasons, but I'm sure that some other couples would have that reason
I re read your post and edited mine, great minds think alike eh?
It would be good for people reading this topic to here your own personal reasons though, as I cant think of anything other than homophobia to a lesser or greater degree, and that exists within the theatrical community. Whether that's to a lesser or greater degree it does exist,
I am sure it would, but it really isn't important what the reasons are, they are our choices. If I was homophobic, would I be bi - I think not!
Perhaps not,but is your partner?
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Sorry, I wasn't implying that you were. I added that I didn't know your reasons, but I'm sure that some other couples would have that reason
I re read your post and edited mine, great minds think alike eh?
It would be good for people reading this topic to here your own personal reasons though, as I cant think of anything other than homophobia to a lesser or greater degree, and that exists within the theatrical community. Whether that's to a lesser or greater degree it does exist,
I am sure it would, but it really isn't important what the reasons are, they are our choices. If I was homophobic, would I be bi - I think not!
Perhaps not,but is your partner?
No - I don't like homophobic people, so I wouldn't be with him if he was. And if he was homophobic, would he be with me? I doubt it.
Quote by goldsmith
Sorry, I wasn't implying that you were. I added that I didn't know your reasons, but I'm sure that some other couples would have that reason
I re read your post and edited mine, great minds think alike eh?
It would be good for people reading this topic to here your own personal reasons though, as I cant think of anything other than homophobia to a lesser or greater degree, and that exists within the theatrical community. Whether that's to a lesser or greater degree it does exist,
I am sure it would, but it really isn't important what the reasons are, they are our choices. If I was homophobic, would I be bi - I think not!
Perhaps not,but is your partner?
No - I don't like homophobic people, so I wouldn't be with him if he was. And if he was homophobic, would he be with me? I doubt it.
But your not a gay or bi guy are you,so why wouldn't he be with you.
Quote by Mr-Powers
Sorry, I wasn't implying that you were. I added that I didn't know your reasons, but I'm sure that some other couples would have that reason
I re read your post and edited mine, great minds think alike eh?
It would be good for people reading this topic to here your own personal reasons though, as I cant think of anything other than homophobia to a lesser or greater degree, and that exists within the theatrical community. Whether that's to a lesser or greater degree it does exist,
I am sure it would, but it really isn't important what the reasons are, they are our choices. If I was homophobic, would I be bi - I think not!
Perhaps not,but is your partner?
No - I don't like homophobic people, so I wouldn't be with him if he was. And if he was homophobic, would he be with me? I doubt it.
But your not a gay or bi guy are you,so why wouldn't he be with you.
homophobic - prejudiced against homosexual people - I suppose that means bi too, so that answers your question i think.
Quote by goldsmith
Sorry, I wasn't implying that you were. I added that I didn't know your reasons, but I'm sure that some other couples would have that reason
I re read your post and edited mine, great minds think alike eh?
It would be good for people reading this topic to here your own personal reasons though, as I cant think of anything other than homophobia to a lesser or greater degree, and that exists within the theatrical community. Whether that's to a lesser or greater degree it does exist,
I am sure it would, but it really isn't important what the reasons are, they are our choices. If I was homophobic, would I be bi - I think not!
Perhaps not,but is your partner?
No - I don't like homophobic people, so I wouldn't be with him if he was. And if he was homophobic, would he be with me? I doubt it.
But your not a gay or bi guy are you,so why wouldn't he be with you.
homophobic - prejudiced against homosexual people - I suppose that means bi too, so that answers your question i think.
ah but what about the guys with the "i don't mind my bird having abit of lesbian sex but not two blokes,it ain't normal" mentality.
Quote by Mr-Powers
Sorry, I wasn't implying that you were. I added that I didn't know your reasons, but I'm sure that some other couples would have that reason
I re read your post and edited mine, great minds think alike eh?
It would be good for people reading this topic to here your own personal reasons though, as I cant think of anything other than homophobia to a lesser or greater degree, and that exists within the theatrical community. Whether that's to a lesser or greater degree it does exist,
I am sure it would, but it really isn't important what the reasons are, they are our choices. If I was homophobic, would I be bi - I think not!
Perhaps not,but is your partner?
No - I don't like homophobic people, so I wouldn't be with him if he was. And if he was homophobic, would he be with me? I doubt it.
But your not a gay or bi guy are you,so why wouldn't he be with you.
homophobic - prejudiced against homosexual people - I suppose that means bi too, so that answers your question i think.
ah but what about the guys with the "i don't mind my bird having abit of lesbian sex but not two blokes,it ain't normal" mentality.
Well they are entitled to their opinions as we all are. But why should anyone have to justify their preferences? Let me reiterate though, that we both don't want to play with bi guys, not just silversmith.
It's the 'bum -sex' thing I think, we've had this debate before but then not all gay and bi guys do bum-sex but then how do you/we find out who's who and who does what? Anyways, bum-sex can take some planning but blow jobs are quite simple, and great.. and we all know they are much better from guys anyway
Good on you anyway for being honest goldsmith, we all have choices, I won't play with people who wee or poo on one another either as I think that's dirty but I will do bum-sex... sometimes ;)
Mr Powers - can we have a fiddle please? No bum sex... unless you beg and are OK doing it with you on your back as you have a nice face. Oh, and I like kissing too and doggy makes that difficult :twisted:
There does seem to be a lot more bi women 'out' then bi men on here, it seems socially/swingilly somehow more acceptable. However, my take on this is simple - if anyone tried to jump on me, regardless if their/my preference I'd tell them to 'stuff off' if I wasn't interested.
Bioke x
Good on you anyway for being honest goldsmith, we all have choices, I won't play with people who wee or poo on one another either as I think that's dirty but I will do bum-sex... sometimes ;)
Mr Powers - can we have a fiddle please? No bum sex... unless you beg and are OK doing it with you on your back as you have a nice face. Oh, and I like kissing too and doggy makes that difficult :twisted:
There does seem to be a lot more bi women 'out' then bi men on here, it seems socially/swingilly somehow more acceptable. However, my take on this is simple - if anyone tried to jump on me, regardless if their/my preference I'd tell them to 'stuff off' if I wasn't interested.
Bioke x
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It's the 'bum -sex' thing I think, we've had this debate before but then not all gay and bi guys do bum-sex but then how do you/we find out who's who and who does what? Anyways, bum-sex can take some planning but blow jobs are quite simple, and great.. and we all know they are much better from guys anyway
Good on you anyway for being honest goldsmith, we all have choices, I won't play with people who wee or poo on one another either as I think that's dirty but I will do bum-sex... sometimes ;)
Mr Powers - can we have a fiddle please? No bum sex... unless you beg and are OK doing it with you on your back as you have a nice face. Oh, and I like kissing too and doggy makes that difficult :twisted:
There does seem to be a lot more bi women 'out' then bi men on here, it seems socially/swingilly somehow more acceptable. However, my take on this is simple - if anyone tried to jump on me, regardless if their/my preference I'd tell them to 'stuff off' if I wasn't interested.
Bioke x
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