That's great to hear Sal. I know myself that I have had my ego boosted hugely since I took my first tentative steps into the swinging scene. Now I have no problems about wearing a short skirt and I am quite proud of my boobs and the attention they attract! I still have hangups about the bits I hate but the positive attention I have received has helped me hugely to build my confidence and now there's at least one part of my life where I can be somebody that I actually enjoy being.
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Big is Beautiful???
I am glad to hear that there are so many people who feel the same as me. I agree that since joining the swinging scene it has completely changed my own opinion on how I feel about myself and what i look like. I have never felt better about myself, and have started to wear more adventerous clothing to.
Big, small, tall, short, male or female, whatever we are, we are all beautiful people inside and out, if we believe that about ourselves then we can't go wrong in life!!!
Big, small, tall, short, male or female, whatever we are, we are all beautiful people inside and out, if we believe that about ourselves then we can't go wrong in life!!!
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Wasn't it Marks & Spencer who had more curvy ladies in their advertising campaign the other year? I thought it was great!
Rick
I agree with your comments, however it did nothing for their sales figures and financial standing in the market place. In fact it probably brought on the demise of certain big time fat cat management. The company are revamping its marketing structure yet again and I feel we may well see a return to "standard" marketing techniques.
M&S shareholders don't particularly care who models their fashions, they are only concerned with the revenue it produces.
The market place not only governs fashion it governs most other things in our life too. If big was truly beautiful then diets would be out of style and Weight Watchers and many Gyms would be out of business.
I love BBW and all others down the line. The promotion of BBW is usually (not always) practised by BBW. The same applies to people who are thin they will often promote their own image types. Its like most other things in life, you wont see the Labour party promoting the Tories or vice versa.
Those that feel confident and safe within their own self, be it big or small probably don't need to promote their own image type. Just an opinion.
Judy
Judy, I didn't know that M&S's sales drive had failed..... It was just refreshing to see some real women on an advert, as opposed to the grinning baboons usually seen!
I really can't do with all these hair commercials either, what is it with them, they only seem to use American models....
"Pantene Pro-V, for American fashion addicts everywhere"......
What's wrong with using some good old home-grown British women?
Rick
Sex God
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I guess what im saying is either extreme of the size spectrum is gloing to be a turn off cos they have their own size issues that overpower any sexuality.
Agreed, and unfortunately, those "issues" are perpetuated not just by the fat/skinny people themselves, but by those who promote them. And I can't help noticing that the "BBW" brigade are by far the more guilty of the two camps: How many times a day do we read on this site the posts of desperate single men paying lip service to the supposed charms of grotesquely obese women, simply because they recognise that this website is dominated by them? And how gleefully do some of those fat women denigrate their smaller counterparts, casting aspersions on their worth as women in order to make themselves look better? I've yet to encounter any skinny women with quite such enormous chips on their shoulders.
Sex God
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LET'S HERE IT FOR THE LARGER LADIES
I rest my case.
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I guess what im saying is either extreme of the size spectrum is gloing to be a turn off cos they have their own size issues that overpower any sexuality.
Agreed, and unfortunately, those "issues" are perpetuated not just by the fat/skinny people themselves, but by those who promote them. And I can't help noticing that the "BBW" brigade are by far the more guilty of the two camps: How many times a day do we read on this site the posts of desperate single men paying lip service to the supposed charms of grotesquely obese women, simply because they recognise that this website is dominated by them? And how gleefully do some of those fat women denigrate their smaller counterparts, casting aspersions on their worth as women in order to make themselves look better? I've yet to encounter any skinny women with quite such enormous chips on their shoulders.
No , no i think you have got it wrong Ice Pie , as the last poster said fat (for that read anything abouve a size 14 in the eyes of the media and below a certain other size yet to be determined but probably about a size 26 after whic we are talking obese) women tend to be hapier. We eat without guilt we dont exercise to obssesion and we arent skinny because we arnt stress heads. Anyway, larger women tend to have more testerone which although a male hormone, in women controls the sex drive!
As for smaller women not having chips on their shoulders, believe me they do, you should see some of the "hate pms" ive recieved in the past!!
Sex God
Quote by foxylady 123
I guess what im saying is either extreme of the size spectrum is gloing to be a turn off cos they have their own size issues that overpower any sexuality.
Agreed, and unfortunately, those "issues" are perpetuated not just by the fat/skinny people themselves, but by those who promote them. And I can't help noticing that the "BBW" brigade are by far the more guilty of the two camps: How many times a day do we read on this site the posts of desperate single men paying lip service to the supposed charms of grotesquely obese women, simply because they recognise that this website is dominated by them? And how gleefully do some of those fat women denigrate their smaller counterparts, casting aspersions on their worth as women in order to make themselves look better? I've yet to encounter any skinny women with quite such enormous chips on their shoulders.
No , no i think you have got it wrong Ice Pie , as the last poster said fat (for that read anything abouve a size 14 in the eyes of the media and below a certain other size yet to be determined but probably about a size 26 after whic we are talking obese) women tend to be hapier. We eat without guilt we dont exercise to obssesion and we arent skinny because we arnt stress heads. Anyway, larger women tend to have more testerone which although a male hormone, in women controls the sex drive!
As for smaller women not having chips on their shoulders, believe me they do, you should see some of the "hate pms" ive recieved in the past!!
Going by what you've just said, I'm not surprised skinny people hate you. You've just confirmed everything I said about the superior attitudes of fat people.
I love to see people from both ends of the spectrum enjoy their size, certainly there are areas I`d improve personally, but none of these are down to my height (or lack thereof), or my being not being buxom. I love being little. I love the way guys dangle me when they meet me at munches 
, and I love being able to have the mindset that is able to celebrate the perks being small brings!
In a BDSM world where much of the emphasis is upon tall dominant women, I am going to have sooo much fun trying to be `Venus the mini dom` at Blue`s party! :bounce:
Now I`ve said that, I go back and actually read the thread shall I?
Venusxxx
, and I love being able to have the mindset that is able to celebrate the perks being small brings!In a BDSM world where much of the emphasis is upon tall dominant women, I am going to have sooo much fun trying to be `Venus the mini dom` at Blue`s party! :bounce:
Now I`ve said that, I go back and actually read the thread shall I?
Venusxxx
I use dress sizes as they are more readliy understood by women than bady mass.
As for being overwieght being necessarily less healthy, i think i dissagree, to a point. All evidence shows , and here my gp had to agree with me, that being a little over weigth can help women going through the menopause!! IAs a size 18 I certainly feel much healthier than I ever did as a size 12, I certainly have less colds, flu etc. Some not all think people do tend to be obssesives, (not a clinical diagnoses just an observation) on many subjects
As for being overwieght being necessarily less healthy, i think i dissagree, to a point. All evidence shows , and here my gp had to agree with me, that being a little over weigth can help women going through the menopause!! IAs a size 18 I certainly feel much healthier than I ever did as a size 12, I certainly have less colds, flu etc. Some not all think people do tend to be obssesives, (not a clinical diagnoses just an observation) on many subjects
Sex God
Apologies if someone's already said this but no, big is NOT always beautiful. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, right? So someone might look at me and think 'yuk fat cow' , then look at another larger lady and think 'wow'. It's more than a size issue, it's about perception of a person as a whole. I do think that some women use the BBW label incorrectly sometimes. It's very hard to say that thin people are nicer or fat people are nicer and restrict yourself to one or the other. Some larger ladies do get very defensive when turned down (seen it in chat rooms) and either end up pleading to be fucked or moaning and saying that the person is wrong/don't know what they're missing. Well, they aren't wrong. It's everyone's right to turn someone down on whatever grounds they like. Just because you're fat doesn't mean people should give you a chance because you're calling yourself BBW.
I do agree with you on the whole idea of the media portraying the idea that thin women are better. However, being a large lady hasn't stopped some women from being successful (Dawn French, Jo Brand, Alison Moyet). These women, and others, have the confidence to stand up and do what they do very well and sod what people think of them.
I'd shag Dawn French any day in preference to Kate Moss, but that's because I think that DF is lovely and KM is a bloody ugly cow, not because she's skinny.
I do agree with you on the whole idea of the media portraying the idea that thin women are better. However, being a large lady hasn't stopped some women from being successful (Dawn French, Jo Brand, Alison Moyet). These women, and others, have the confidence to stand up and do what they do very well and sod what people think of them.
I'd shag Dawn French any day in preference to Kate Moss, but that's because I think that DF is lovely and KM is a bloody ugly cow, not because she's skinny.
BMI is crap, they brought that nonsense into the military and some of the fittest men and woman I know were promptly labelled obese, I am talking men who can run a marathon in full kit, hell my aerobic instructor was told she was obese and she did not have a gram of fat on her.
Speaking of chips on shoulders though try to avoid doing it out of your arse. I was a size ten until I had two kids, now I am 16, I can get down to 12 with stringent dieting but unless I keep it up my size inevitably creeps back up and I figure life is too short to live on carrot sticks. I have no problem with slim women, good luck to them, but I do have a problem with the pressure that goes with it which has put many women into an early grave.
Speaking of chips on shoulders though try to avoid doing it out of your arse. I was a size ten until I had two kids, now I am 16, I can get down to 12 with stringent dieting but unless I keep it up my size inevitably creeps back up and I figure life is too short to live on carrot sticks. I have no problem with slim women, good luck to them, but I do have a problem with the pressure that goes with it which has put many women into an early grave.
OOh what a is entitled to their own preferance but in my opinion they shouldnt go on at those they dont prefer.
Big can be beautiful depending on the individual.I was a size 26 and i really wasnt me at all i had no confidence and i think it at a size 16-18 i am a lot more happy with myself,and also i think that shows.I still have weight to loose but for now i have some self esteem.
Some women of a size 26 can look absolutely stunning where as some just look uncomfortable like i size 12 women look gaunt while others look depends per person and as they say beauty is after all in the eye of the beholder!!!
Personally i think more "realistically" sized women should be portrayed in the media,after all thats what most of us are,not stick insects.
Dawn well bloody said you look
hwoar:
Big can be beautiful depending on the individual.I was a size 26 and i really wasnt me at all i had no confidence and i think it at a size 16-18 i am a lot more happy with myself,and also i think that shows.I still have weight to loose but for now i have some self esteem.
Some women of a size 26 can look absolutely stunning where as some just look uncomfortable like i size 12 women look gaunt while others look depends per person and as they say beauty is after all in the eye of the beholder!!!
Personally i think more "realistically" sized women should be portrayed in the media,after all thats what most of us are,not stick insects.
Dawn well bloody said you look
hwoar: Sex God
Been back and read the thread now 
I have been recently described as a BBW, although I don't see myself that way. I am just me.Good on you, Alex. Where can I take you?
My motto is "i am me, take it or leave it"
Blimey, what have I started!!!!
feel almost embarrassed to have chosen my nickname as BBW now.
At the end of the day, I love me, my hubby loves me, my mates and family love me and that wouldnt change whether i was a size 26, 16 or 6
I think i look good, i am happy and thats that.
Alex_female i think you are right, we are what we are!
By the way it was lovely to meet you on saturday you gorgeous girl
feel almost embarrassed to have chosen my nickname as BBW now.
At the end of the day, I love me, my hubby loves me, my mates and family love me and that wouldnt change whether i was a size 26, 16 or 6
I think i look good, i am happy and thats that.
Alex_female i think you are right, we are what we are!
By the way it was lovely to meet you on saturday you gorgeous girl
Sex God
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BMI is crap, they brought that nonsense into the military and some of the fittest men and woman I know were promptly labelled obese, I am talking men who can run a marathon in full kit, hell my aerobic instructor was told she was obese and she did not have a gram of fat on her.
That sounds unlikely but yes Spitfire it is a bit hit and miss, a better indicator of health is body fat percentage.
Just to make one thing clear to everyone, my post is NOT concerned with wether people look nice, sexy or attractive. I'm purely commenting on things from health point of view.
There's a worrying trend in this country to rationalise and joke about being unhealthy, being overweight is seriously unhealthy, end of.
I just wish to add one thing to think about - it does not matter how fit and healthy you may be, we will still all end up 6ft under! If being thin and staying thin makes you miserable all you gain are extra years of misery. On the other hand if you are happy being thin and enjoy exercising and keeping fit then good luck to you.
At the end of the day life is not a rehearsal and it is a shame to see so many people unhappy with how they look and not enjoying their lives.
Roger xxx
Ok, read the thread. I like being small for me......I enjoy not being medium because I love attention, I really do! :mrgreen: I won`t however place too much value upon appreciation given via superficial means only. I need people to like me for what is inside also. Over a period of two years I did once put on three stone. It didn`t suit me at all so I lost it, I just didn`t have the build to carry it off and make it look attractive. Attraction is always going to be part visual, so I don`t disregard the fun that being seen as attractive brings. I love it! As should larger people whose size visually appeals to others. Health is something that should always be a consideration of course, for both large and small.
I agree with Ice, after so many years of enduring the Westernised Ideal of beauty, sometimes it does feel like the BBW are reciprocating the same attitude in retaliation. I`ve read many a celebratory articles aimed at larger women, which will involve comments concerning `bag of bone women`, or `stick insects`. Sad really, for the capability in enjoying your own body should be found independantly of having to do this. Both `camps` are guilty of derogatory remarks, I just hope that the SH membership are capable of being above this. After all it`s the unprejudiced attitude I thought existed here which keeps bringing me back.
Venusxxx
I agree with Ice, after so many years of enduring the Westernised Ideal of beauty, sometimes it does feel like the BBW are reciprocating the same attitude in retaliation. I`ve read many a celebratory articles aimed at larger women, which will involve comments concerning `bag of bone women`, or `stick insects`. Sad really, for the capability in enjoying your own body should be found independantly of having to do this. Both `camps` are guilty of derogatory remarks, I just hope that the SH membership are capable of being above this. After all it`s the unprejudiced attitude I thought existed here which keeps bringing me back.
Venusxxx
Interesting thread.
I think I have to agree with both Freckledbird and Venus.
I don't have any particular like or dislike for any shape or sized person (although I have to admit that I wouldn't have a clue what to do with a woman with big tits!
), any more than I am more attarcted to someone with blonde, red or black hair. I am generally attracted to a person for soooo many things - so it really doesn't make any difference whether they are big or small - if I am attracted to them I am attracted to them.
As for ME as a person - I spent many years yo-yoing between sizes 22 and 18. And I spent ten years working on becoming a size 12 -14. As the latter I am a much more confident person - but I don't think I can put that down to merely my change in size. Changing my size was a part of a whole number of changes I made to my life and how I related to the world.
I look back now and I can honestly say I had no fewer "passes" made to me at size 22 than I have at size 12 - BUT my attitude to those compliments, passes, flirtations - whatever you want to call them - HAS changed. Before I had so little self esteem it was awfull!! I still battle to take a compliment - but I feel a lot better about myself. But - as I say - I don't think that I can purely place that into a littel box labelled "size".
Does ANY of that make sense? Or am I just rambling on incoherently?
I think I have to agree with both Freckledbird and Venus.
I don't have any particular like or dislike for any shape or sized person (although I have to admit that I wouldn't have a clue what to do with a woman with big tits!
), any more than I am more attarcted to someone with blonde, red or black hair. I am generally attracted to a person for soooo many things - so it really doesn't make any difference whether they are big or small - if I am attracted to them I am attracted to them. As for ME as a person - I spent many years yo-yoing between sizes 22 and 18. And I spent ten years working on becoming a size 12 -14. As the latter I am a much more confident person - but I don't think I can put that down to merely my change in size. Changing my size was a part of a whole number of changes I made to my life and how I related to the world.
I look back now and I can honestly say I had no fewer "passes" made to me at size 22 than I have at size 12 - BUT my attitude to those compliments, passes, flirtations - whatever you want to call them - HAS changed. Before I had so little self esteem it was awfull!! I still battle to take a compliment - but I feel a lot better about myself. But - as I say - I don't think that I can purely place that into a littel box labelled "size".
Does ANY of that make sense? Or am I just rambling on incoherently?
Sex God
I have to admit that I wouldn't have a clue what to do with a woman with big tits!
Same as you would a woman with small tits, just takes a bit longer
Bev
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