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Lambchop. Yes - I have felt that way - and yes I have tried. But you know what - I am glad I never made it. PM me if you need to chat. I'll give you my phone number if nec and will be here all night for you if you need it. Because it does help to talk. And no I won't patronise. Big hugs to you!!!!!!
aRSexx :color:
And don't apologise - you have nothing to apologise for!
aRSexx :color:
And don't apologise - you have nothing to apologise for!
Warming the Bed
Hi lambchop...... things cant be that bad.... look on the bright side, no matter what happens out there you always have friends to talk to here.... it will work out what ever it is.....
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has anyone here felt so down that they wanna end it all? I cant see the point of it al anymore and dont want to be aound? soz if this post isnt wanted but i feel people on here are the most genuine people in the world. sorry
Yep, so down with no visible way out, the most desperate of feelings it is.
I don't know your circumstances Lambchop, so can't offer any advice whatsoever. The only thing I can tell you is that things DO and WILL get better eventually - and it's well worth the wait.
In the meantime tho, a hug from me :therethere:
Sexlightened
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Lambchop, we have met briefly, once. Do not make me drive to Manchester at this hour of night.
Get your butt into my pm box, anyone's pm box, hell, you can even have my phone number :shock:
many of us have been there luv - its late, you've had stuff going round in your head for hours, and none of it will make any sense or unravel so you can see any light through the grey fog or a solution to the problem.
If you're drinking, pour it away, right now, make a note of the number Cocoa has given you and please, take one of us up on the offer of a listening ear.
and I'm not kidding about driving over there either.
Get your butt into my pm box, anyone's pm box, hell, you can even have my phone number :shock:
many of us have been there luv - its late, you've had stuff going round in your head for hours, and none of it will make any sense or unravel so you can see any light through the grey fog or a solution to the problem.
If you're drinking, pour it away, right now, make a note of the number Cocoa has given you and please, take one of us up on the offer of a listening ear.
and I'm not kidding about driving over there either.
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Please, please please call somebody if you feel so low. You have had good advice on this thread from people who clearly understand and care. Take it from another who has been there that you really must not be alone if you feel this way. If there is nobody at home with you then you must know that you have somebody to call if it gets too much for you to bear. Remember too that you can get better and you really must hold on.
I have sent a pm with my number, and please, you must call any one of us that has offered to talk to you. You can call me anytime of the day or night, I know that the nights can be worse when it's quiet.
Good sound advice there R n M :thumbup:
Lambchop-we have chatted briefly but I think you would be better off talking to the people who know. I haved lived with depression so I can understand a lot of how you are feeling, but I am not qualified to suggest what you can do next. Cocoa has posted a good number : . If you would prefer to chat to a more 'medical' person then NHS Direct is 0845 46 47. If you just need a chinwag my moby no is available.
There are plenty of people here who are willing to help you out-you may feel you have no close family or friends but you may be suprised.
Minx x x
Sexlightened
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Lammy hun, there's lots of good advice already given so not much more I can say. except that talking to someone is always the best way to deal with this. It might not seem ideal talking over the phone to someone you don't know like the Samaritans but sometimes just being able to air your concerns with someone can help you get things into perspective and don't forget these people are trained to point you in the right direction.
I hope you wake up feeling better, even a little is a start and you know our pm boxes are always open.
Take care hunni :therethere:
I hope you wake up feeling better, even a little is a start and you know our pm boxes are always open.
Take care hunni :therethere:
i know we have never met lambchop but my thoughts are with you
most of us feel along those lines from time to time for one reason or another, whats the point? nobody will miss me? why do i bother?
well as you can see from this thread people do care about you & would miss you as would many others, some very good advice has been given here so please get down to your doc & have a chat
as darkfire said if you are drinking pour it away it will make everything a lot worse (i know from a personal battle im having!) it stops you from sleeping & thinking rationally!
i know im at the other end of the country but if there is anything i can do just let me know!
most of us feel along those lines from time to time for one reason or another, whats the point? nobody will miss me? why do i bother?
well as you can see from this thread people do care about you & would miss you as would many others, some very good advice has been given here so please get down to your doc & have a chat
as darkfire said if you are drinking pour it away it will make everything a lot worse (i know from a personal battle im having!) it stops you from sleeping & thinking rationally!
i know im at the other end of the country but if there is anything i can do just let me know!
i have came dangerously close to taking that wrong, and final decision, even to this day, i still have "what if i wasnt here" thoughts
but more to the point, what if i was here?
with each day it gets better
with each day, there is more that i want
with each day im finding that im not the person i have hated for so long
with each day, i find that i have better friends than what i have realised, even if i dont take advantage of their friendship
you have had some offers of an ear to bend from some excellent people, some of whom i have met, and if they seem great on a forum, i can tell you, it doesnt even compare to how they are in the flesh
and if anyone makes the point that i dont take advantage of my friends, i cant give you an answer that would keep you quiet ;)
but more to the point, what if i was here?
with each day it gets better
with each day, there is more that i want
with each day im finding that im not the person i have hated for so long
with each day, i find that i have better friends than what i have realised, even if i dont take advantage of their friendship
you have had some offers of an ear to bend from some excellent people, some of whom i have met, and if they seem great on a forum, i can tell you, it doesnt even compare to how they are in the flesh
and if anyone makes the point that i dont take advantage of my friends, i cant give you an answer that would keep you quiet ;)
Sex God
LambChop me ole mucker, I know exactly what you’re going through, as some of the good folks on here already know I have been living with chronic depression for the last 7 months now, hens my sporadic disappearances from the site, and yes, over that time I have contemplated it on several occasions.
I have had a huge amount of support from some people on here who I would regard among my closest friends, even though I have never met most of them. Because of this help and support (and I guess the medication) things are slowly turning around, it feels a little like floating to the surface from the bottom of a very deep ocean, long long way to go, but finally heading in the right direction.
Please please take the advice given, use those phone numbers, talk to people who so obviously care, if you want to chat to me one quick PM and my phone number will be on its way to you.
I know there is no light at the end of the tunnel at the moment, but take it from someone who’s on the journey with you, it is there, you just have to reach out and take the advice of how to find it.
All the very best to you mate, I hope you can work it out, my phone is available 24/7
I have had a huge amount of support from some people on here who I would regard among my closest friends, even though I have never met most of them. Because of this help and support (and I guess the medication) things are slowly turning around, it feels a little like floating to the surface from the bottom of a very deep ocean, long long way to go, but finally heading in the right direction.
Please please take the advice given, use those phone numbers, talk to people who so obviously care, if you want to chat to me one quick PM and my phone number will be on its way to you.
I know there is no light at the end of the tunnel at the moment, but take it from someone who’s on the journey with you, it is there, you just have to reach out and take the advice of how to find it.
All the very best to you mate, I hope you can work it out, my phone is available 24/7
Sex God
essex34m? :thumbup:
lambchop,
i know it all too well, and have suffered from occasionally suicidal depression most of my life. only 2 years ago i came as close to throwing in the towel as i ever want to get, and have the scars to show for it, but you know what? things change. things get better. at one point, the only thing that kept me going was this site, and the people on it. use it. my life is immeasurably better than it was, though a long way from perfect, but if i'd thrown in the towel i would never have had that chance?
if you're feeling so down that you think you might be a danger to yourself, you MUST talk to someone. talk to your doctor, a counsellor, friends, samaritans, anyone that will listen to you while you unload. if you're not comfortable talking face to face or over the phone, just google "depression forums" and you'll find any number of sites where you can do exactly that, populated with people who know what you're going through, and will go all out to help.
if you don't talk to other people, what happens is you end up talking to yourself, and those conversations tend to lead you still further into that little dark place that seems to only have one exit! DON'T GO THERE!
believe me, no matter how hopeless or bleak things seem now, you WILL in time come out the other side, and you'll thank god you did! often, the night is darkest just before the dawn.
best wishes,
neil x x x ;)
lambchop,
i know it all too well, and have suffered from occasionally suicidal depression most of my life. only 2 years ago i came as close to throwing in the towel as i ever want to get, and have the scars to show for it, but you know what? things change. things get better. at one point, the only thing that kept me going was this site, and the people on it. use it. my life is immeasurably better than it was, though a long way from perfect, but if i'd thrown in the towel i would never have had that chance?
if you're feeling so down that you think you might be a danger to yourself, you MUST talk to someone. talk to your doctor, a counsellor, friends, samaritans, anyone that will listen to you while you unload. if you're not comfortable talking face to face or over the phone, just google "depression forums" and you'll find any number of sites where you can do exactly that, populated with people who know what you're going through, and will go all out to help.
if you don't talk to other people, what happens is you end up talking to yourself, and those conversations tend to lead you still further into that little dark place that seems to only have one exit! DON'T GO THERE!
believe me, no matter how hopeless or bleak things seem now, you WILL in time come out the other side, and you'll thank god you did! often, the night is darkest just before the dawn.
best wishes,
neil x x x ;)
Sex God
A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a
$ bill. In the room of 200,he asked, "Who would like this $20 bill?"
Hands started going up. He said, "I am going to give this $20
to one of you but first, let me do this. He proceeded to crumple up the $20 dollar bill. He then asked, "Who still wants it?" Still the hands were up in the air. Well, he replied, "What if I do this?" And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty. "Now, who still
wants it?" Still the hands went into the air. My friends, we have all learned a very valuable matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not
decrease in value. It was still worth $20. Many times in our lives, We are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who DO LOVE you. The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know,but by WHOM WE ARE. You are special - Don't EVER forget it."
I think that just about sums it up Lamby!!
Love
Firelizard xx
$ bill. In the room of 200,he asked, "Who would like this $20 bill?"
Hands started going up. He said, "I am going to give this $20
to one of you but first, let me do this. He proceeded to crumple up the $20 dollar bill. He then asked, "Who still wants it?" Still the hands were up in the air. Well, he replied, "What if I do this?" And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty. "Now, who still
wants it?" Still the hands went into the air. My friends, we have all learned a very valuable matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not
decrease in value. It was still worth $20. Many times in our lives, We are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who DO LOVE you. The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know,but by WHOM WE ARE. You are special - Don't EVER forget it."
I think that just about sums it up Lamby!!
Love
Firelizard xx
Sex God
Quote by firelizard
A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a
$ bill. In the room of 200,he asked, "Who would like this $20 bill?"
Hands started going up. He said, "I am going to give this $20
to one of you but first, let me do this. He proceeded to crumple up the $20 dollar bill. He then asked, "Who still wants it?" Still the hands were up in the air. Well, he replied, "What if I do this?" And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty. "Now, who still
wants it?" Still the hands went into the air. My friends, we have all learned a very valuable matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not
decrease in value. It was still worth $20. Many times in our lives, We are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who DO LOVE you. The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know,but by WHOM WE ARE. You are special - Don't EVER forget it."
I think that just about sums it up Lamby!!
Love
Firelizard xx
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I really want to say a big trhank you to you all,I appreciate the words of encouragment and well wishes. I have been to see the doctor today and we are coming up with a plan of action. I have used the sites I have been given and its nice to know that i'm not alone and that I'm not the only one who feels like this.
I cannot express my gratitude enough
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I cannot express my gratitude enough
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I really want to say a big trhank you to you all,I appreciate the words of encouragment and well wishes. I have been to see the doctor today and we are coming up with a plan of action. I have used the sites I have been given and its nice to know that i'm not alone and that I'm not the only one who feels like this.
I cannot express my gratitude enough
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Just
{{{{{HUGS}}}}}
You are amongst friends who care!
Hiya Lambie
It seems ive found this thread pretty late, but have my input anyway. Im giving it to you if you like it or not! Heres a few facts for you to mull....
Look at all these posts-lots of which have come from people who, just like you, have felt there was only one way out.
FACT :They are all invariably glad they didnt use that way! What does that tell you?
FACT: When you are at rock bottom, the ONLY way is up. (thanks Yazz)
FACT: I am, invariably always right. So listen!
FACT: You even contemplate it again, and I'll personally kill ya!
FACT: You HAVE friends, you just didnt realise it.
:therethere:
You know where my pm box is too!
It seems ive found this thread pretty late, but have my input anyway. Im giving it to you if you like it or not! Heres a few facts for you to mull....
Look at all these posts-lots of which have come from people who, just like you, have felt there was only one way out.
FACT :They are all invariably glad they didnt use that way! What does that tell you?
FACT: When you are at rock bottom, the ONLY way is up. (thanks Yazz)
FACT: I am, invariably always right. So listen!
FACT: You even contemplate it again, and I'll personally kill ya!
FACT: You HAVE friends, you just didnt realise it.
:therethere:
You know where my pm box is too!
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I really want to say a big trhank you to you all,I appreciate the words of encouragment and well wishes. I have been to see the doctor today and we are coming up with a plan of action. I have used the sites I have been given and its nice to know that i'm not alone and that I'm not the only one who feels like this.
I cannot express my gratitude enough
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Oh Lambchop
Bluddy good for you hunny 
Looks like your optimism is beginning to show it's face, one little step already :kiss:
By facing things going to the doctor and the determination to get this sorted - looks to me like your strength of character is coming to the fore as well - well what do ya know!! Two little steps already!!!! :kiss:
Stick at it and good luck with your plan of action, cos it realy is worth it. :kiss:
