bit on the side

17 Jun 2006

:shock: im going get hammered for this post but here goes :cry:
im married yet have found a girlfriend who my wife is very friendly with, however niether will share me with the other and wont do three in bed, each know i love them both so theres no behind the back shit, i tell my wife how i feel, mixed emotions alll two ladies get on really well and we often go out as a unit to pubs parties or just to the beach. so though we dont make love as a threesome or anything we are a close mix, i make love to both of then (apart) i really would love us to be a trio , yet my wife says because we are friends it is wrong for her but if i was a stranger the ties wouldnt be there for her and if it was shit then there would not be any fallout.
though i understand this i feel swinging with a total stranger is less meaningful as with a partner who you feel for and will be there thick and thin.
anyway the question is how would you handle this situation dump the g/f force them together, hold on to what i got , be the boss and give orders, personally i would love it to happen but cant see the result being a trio meeting, any nice honest advice welcome and thanks for reading smile

17 Jun 2006

Quote by 4playinc
:shock: im going get hammered for this post but here goes :cry:
im married yet have found a girlfriend who my wife is very friendly with, however niether will share me with the other and wont do three in bed, each know i love them both so theres no behind the back shit, i tell my wife how i feel, mixed emotions alll two ladies get on really well and we often go out as a unit to pubs parties or just to the beach. so though we dont make love as a threesome or anything we are a close mix, i make love to both of then (apart) i really would love us to be a trio , yet my wife says because we are friends it is wrong for her but if i was a stranger the ties wouldnt be there for her and if it was shit then there would not be any fallout.
though i understand this i feel swinging with a total stranger is less meaningful as with a partner who you feel for and will be there thick and thin.
anyway the question is how would you handle this situation dump the g/f force them together, hold on to what i got , be the boss and give orders, personally i would love it to happen but cant see the result being a trio meeting, any nice honest advice welcome and thanks for reading

You've answered your own question .....
Think of it in these terms .... how much will a divorce cost you both financially and emotionally? Then if you go with the g/f is she ever going to trust you, because lets face it the time you didn't get your own way you ditched and did it anyway?
Personally I think you're going to do yourself more favours if you buckle ya pants and stick with your wife ... who knows, your patience and understanding may lead her to consider swinging in the future? dunno

Cx

18 Jun 2006

hiya 4playinc as far as i see it everyone is happy with the way things are apart from you because you would like to have both of the ladies in your life together & your wife isnt keen on that idea,but from what you said she may be willing to play with someone else who isnt so close to you both?
i dont see the problem dunno

if it isnt broken why mend it??
just enjoy you threesome social life & making love to the two women you love seperatly & if they decide to play with others all the better smile

as long as everybody is happy with the situation be happy & enjoy life biggrin

:D

18 Jun 2006

I see 2 women in the picture here who are open minded and respectful to each other - yet have certain boundaries.
I see you, who claims to have feelings for both yet is considering trying to force them into doing something neither would be comfortable with for your own gratification.
My advice would be to get them both on here so we can find them a half decent bloke who's gonna respect their wishes and be just as interested in theirsexual gratification as his own, then they can both kick you to the kurb!
Well you did ask. biggrin

18 Jun 2006

Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
I see 2 women in the picture here who are open minded and respectful to each other - yet have certain boundaries.
I see you, who claims to have feelings for both yet is considering trying to force them into doing something neither would be comfortable with for your own gratification.
My advice would be to get them both on here so we can find them a half decent bloke who's gonna respect their wishes and be just as interested in their sexual gratification as his own, then they can both kick you to the kurb!
Well you did ask.

You read my mind hunni worship

18 Jun 2006

Quote by HornyLittleBlondeBint
My advice would be to get them both on here so we can find them a half decent bloke . . .

Quote by HornyLittle(PTL)Bint
. . . . . who's gonna respect their wishes . . . .

:wave: :wave:

Quote by HornyLittleCSBint
. . . . and be just as interested in their sexual gratification as his own . . . .

:wave: :wave: :wave:
Well she did say halfdecent :grin:

18 Jun 2006

:doh:
I think tramper's still on a bit of a high after attending his first munch last night :shock:

18 Jun 2006

we think that u have a nerve even asking... you have two women that are willing to share your time and you are not satisfied with that...we dont think you would be happy with whatever you were offered and would always want more...we just hope that the two women in your life find out what you are really like and then you will be left with nothing but your two hands....

18 Jun 2006

Is this a wind-up or what?

18 Jun 2006

How would you feel if your wife fancied one of your male friends and - as you so eloquently put it "tried to force you together" even though you're straight but it really turned her on? But hey... you don't fancy it so she just carries on screwing him too?
Or.... she realised what she had been missing when her and her friend made love and they both told you to sling your hook and they got together? :rascal:
If you play with fire you are probably going to get burnt!

18 Jun 2006

I love having a bit on the side.
With steak, a little dijon mustard.
With pork, a little apple sauce (with lumps - not the baby food type stuff)
With chicken, a few garlic mushrooms.
With a curry, lots and lots of coriander.
With spicy meatballs (homemade) a little grated parmesan.
:thumbup:

18 Jun 2006

Quote by Tramper
Well she did say half decent :grin:

There's not an ounce of decency in you, ya nasty little troll ! poke

Did I just read he was at the munch? :shock: So glad I didn't go now bolt

18 Jun 2006

Quote by Sassy-Seren
Did I just read he was at the munch? :shock: So glad I didn't go now

He was Sassy..... He was very well behaved as well :shock:
Well apart from when he was dirty dancing with me that is redface

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18 Jun 2006

Quote by 4playinc
im going get hammered for this post but here goes...
....any nice honest advice welcome and thanks for reading

niceadvice in my experience is only ever considered as being nice if it's what the person being advised wants to hear. You assumed (correctly) that you'd get hammered for this post and still expected niceadvice. So which planet exactly are you currently residing on?

18 Jun 2006

4play-I think you should be grateful for what you have got and respect your wife's feelings. I certainly don't think you should try and 'force them together' (that was a joke yes?) or' be the boss and give orders' (another joke I hope) or you may well end up single.
Minx x x

18 Jun 2006

Quote by Shireen_Mids
Did I just read he was at the munch? :shock: So glad I didn't go now

He was Sassy..... He was very well behaved as well :shock:
Well apart from when he was dirty dancing with me that is redface

ops:
Yes and there's photographic evidence of them dancing with nothing but a pole between them :shock:
Shireen and Tramper sitting in a tree......... rotflmao

18 Jun 2006

:giggle: :giggle: :giggle:

18 Jun 2006

Just be thank full for what you've got.....if the ladies are happy with the present sitiuation,leave it at that .....or you may end up with nothing if you push it.....

18 Jun 2006

First deserve, and then desire biggrin

18 Jun 2006

Quote by markz
First deserve, and then desire

Bloody hell, that's a bit profound for you Markz :shock:
You had a shag?

19 Jun 2006

Quote by daveanddebbie69
we think that u have a nerve even asking... you have two women that are willing to share your time and you are not satisfied with that...we dont think you would be happy with whatever you were offered and would always want more...we just hope that the two women in your life find out what you are really like and then you will be left with nothing but your two hands....

All that and More!
Mike

19 Jun 2006

The bottom line is respect. I have a similar situation. We both play, but my wife will only play one to one. I respect that! Is there something you would say no to? How would you feel if you were pushed? She is your wife and your partner, not your property.
Ask, yes but no means no.

19 Jun 2006

thanks fo all the answers, some i agree with some hurt but true , and then thers the humour, thats why this site is great cos there is a weird honesty here :P