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Black, white or asian... we're all the same underneath.

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Hi guys,
I hope you all don't think I'm a miserable cow, although my recent posts will imply that I am rolleyes
I'd just like to point out something I said in another post, which (as I'm part of a minority group) really gets my goat!
I am black. I don't mind if people like blacks or they don't, each to their own, but please don't tell me 'oooh, I've never had a black woman', or 'i fancy trying black p***y' cos that really upsets me. I am a woman first, and black second. Being black is just a description of my colouring, and not part of my essence. I am no different in bed than a white woman, and to think otherwise is like saying that I have two clitorises and a tail. (Is someone with freckles any different in bed to someone without? No.)
Please don't think that I don't understand there is a novelty factor about being with a black or asian person, because I do. I'd just like people to have a think about what they say a little before saying it.
In a society which is getting better about racial issues, lets not go back the other way.
kiss :rose:
Don't take it to heart, RV. Even someone as polite as me has been known to say something quite crass and then apologised profusely for being an eejit! As long as they are aware that they said something wrong and understand why, hopefully they won't make the same mistake again. I for one am looking forward to meeting you next week, but don't pick on me 'cos of my freckles!!
Mal
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I have to say that on occasions I have said that I like to see Sue with a black guy which I have on a few occasions but must agree with what your saying.
I have been guilty of not thinking before speaking but to be honest it didn't occur to me that it was a problem, my mistake.
We all have our fantasies. Some guys like blondes while others like brunetts but that doesn't mean they are being offensive by saying so.
If I have caused offense to anyone may I take this oppertunity to say SORRY.
Pete.
To be honest, thats whats good about this forum - unless a picture is added or something is given as info all people have to go on is the essence of the contributor.
No preconceptions are (hopefully) made and it's the humour and the attitude (good or bad) that seeps through the moniter.
I've been laughing, sighing and consoling people on here and I've not a clue as to 99% of their physical attributes - it's actually nice to not know for my part.
I, for example, had not seen the post you mention and had not assumed you were of any particular colour - but I could tell that you were a humourous and articulate lady joining the board and finding her feet like many of us on here.
I'd like to think I'm not unique in this thinking ?
Carpathian
Some people think that going with a black or asian lady has some kind of novelty live in multi cultural society.I treat people as a person,rather than anything thing you are different in taste or ethnic background im not bothered,i wish more people had a similar the person inside that is the important thing.
All women are different in sight, smell and sexual experience I suppose, but that is it.
Hiya Red Velvet, I liked the way you put it in this post, rather than the topic heading, although both are equally true.
I have often thought that although swinging is the one thing everyone in here has in common, and the thing that brings us together, it is our differences which we value the most and which we are most protective of.
I'd just like people to have a think about what they say a little before saying it.
Kit has often been complimented on her skin, and some would ask, How is this different from someone complimenting you on your skin? Frustrating truth is, it is different! rolleyes
In a society which is getting better about racial issues, lets not go back the other way.
8) Hope we are better at "getting there" than the railway companies! wink
lhk
Kat
This below is for all those who insult ethnic peoples in general and not for the majority of forum users.....
CROCODILES HAVE LITTLE EARS AND BIG MOUTHS
An old addage, but one I kinda like. Some people are just never gonna learn, and that is life innit? It is like the guys who say they have never slept with a proper blonde, or had a twosome.....to these sorts it is a trophy hunt? Most guys, the decent sort I assume frequent this forum have an idea about a thing they would like to do, but do not brag about it in company because we all have a fetish to some extent? Please excuse the ASSHOLES, their are many and many more yet to surface. So if anyone fancies painting up in bright flourenscent colours and pretending we are all aliens...drop me a line? We are all the same in the dark for goddams sakes and we just wanna shag after all....? Basic truth here for all you dumb assholes who have no tact, no thought and no furkin brains
The issue really is about tact and politeness. Looks-wise, toned blondes do it for me and I'm not ashamed to admit that, but it doesn't mean that I'm going to think that anyone who isn't a toned blonde is less of a person! Some people might have a preference for men, women, she-males, Asians, orientals, blacks, whites, people with multi-coloured hair, or freckles lol . There is nothing wrong with expressing such preferences provided it is done in the appropriate way. Objectifying anyone for a particular trait they possess is wrong, no matter what that trait (is trait the right word here, probably not!) is.
Hi Red Velvet,
We cant believe that some people are so crass, however no matter what your ethnic background there appears to be a minority of people within the swinging community who consider any swinger as an easy lay and that they can say what they wish to you. Apparently us swingers have no feelings and this minority can treat us as they wish.
Hang in there Red Velvet, we are not all bad I promise you!! Some of us consider the person and the personality first and foremost.
Hi there i am sorry if i upset you, nothing bad was ment by make it up smile Have fun.
Bless you Fisher, as I said, I'm not ostracising you; just refering to the contact I've had with others in the past. You were the straw that broke the camels back lol
But thanks for all your views peeps, glad to know I'm not alone and not being overly touchy about the subject!
So. I'll take this opportunity to advertise myself as a gorgeous black specimen in need of cuddles from willing fems and couples! rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Now was THAT your ploy all along?????
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it could well have been!? How could I miss an opportunity!
kiss
Go girl!!!
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Quote by RedVelvet
So. I'll take this opportunity to advertise myself as a gorgeous black specimen in need of cuddles from willing fems and couples! rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

Me, me, me, me, me!!!! smile kiss
Seriously though, having come into this thread a little late, I can imagine how you feel about this. I've had several emails lately saying that the guy particularly likes my type... I tend, when I'm in the mood, to ask what that type is! The thing is it varies, for some I'm a "mature woman who will teach", for others I'm a "game girl", a "cuddly girl", I have a good face, or a warm or fun nature. I may be all those things, but at the end of the day I choose to get to know people a bit before taking things further... I'm a package bursting with goodies (when I'm in a positive mood, as I am now). I've made the mistake with some people mentioning that I've done some BDSM in the past, and then been confronted with repeated comments about "please don't hurt me"!!!
I don't want to be liked for having good boobs, being tall or any other one thing, take me as a whole, even if perhaps some parts of me don't fit your ideal, or don't take me at all! Compliments, from someone who like the package are of course welcome! ;)
Errr, I'm sorry, not entirely sure how that turned into such a ramble.... but I hope you get the idea.
RedVelvet, you're a fantastic woman, in every way!!! <hug>
Talk soon,
Mandy
{hugs Mandy, as a whole}
Some of us understand, Mandy, fear not !
Carpathian
P.S. Oh, and thank you !
Mandy <hug>
As a black bbw game dom with good boobs and looks to another (white one)... you are welcome to cuddle me anytime. rotflmao
I can feel a group hug coming up!!!
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Hi RedVelvet and welcome to the Forum.
As Carpathian has eloquently expressed, generally speaking we are responding to people on here without having a clue what they look like. I think that is rather nice as it means that there are no preconceptions - we are merely responding to what they have written.
I hope you have a great time here. Most of the people are fabulous and very genuine. Look forward to meeting you at the NW munch.