Am i in the minority ? or am i just strange ?
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Quote by icewolf89
I am really not comfortable getting them :shock: ,just dont enjoy it and cant relax while its friends say they love doing it and find it strange i dont enjoy got any ideas as to how i might start enjoying or suggestions.
Am i in the minority ? or am i just strange ?
I enjoy BJ's so much, giving and receiving, but i remember i did worry with my first partner that i wasnt clean enough, what do you think about when it is happening maybe it is psychological?
BB :idea:
Sex God
ooohhh
You need to speak to the offical SH fluffers :P
You need to speak to the offical SH fluffers :P
Quote by icewolf89
I am really not comfortable getting them :shock: ,just dont enjoy it and cant relax while its friends say they love doing it and find it strange i dont enjoy got any ideas as to how i might start enjoying or suggestions.
Am i in the minority ? or am i just strange ?
l tell them not to use the vacuum cleaner
:lol: :lol: 
Sex God
I don't think you are strange Ice, I'm not as anti as you, but I would rather go down, or as our American Friends say give head, to a lady, rather than be receiving a blow job.
John
John
Sex God
With lips like yours Debbie, I could forgive you anything.
John
John
Sex God
If you get them to take their dentures out first you might be able to relax mate.
:rotflmao: 
Casanova
A while back i had a bj from a complete stranger (I too was not over keen on them)
It was the most awesome thing i had ever sexually experienced, i was completly
drained of energy afterwards.
I remember England beat Argentina 1-0 on the same day!
Day to remember that one was!
It was the most awesome thing i had ever sexually experienced, i was completly
drained of energy afterwards.
I remember England beat Argentina 1-0 on the same day!
Day to remember that one was!
Casanova
Quote by icewolf89
I am really not comfortable getting them :shock: ,just dont enjoy it and cant relax while its friends say they love doing it and find it strange i dont enjoy got any ideas as to how i might start enjoying or suggestions.
Am i in the minority ? or am i just strange ?
Sorry mate but you are strange. Blow jobs are the best. Send your female friends my way
Hiya Wolf,
I know what you mean. I could never see how anyone could enjoy giving a blow job and that used to make me think that Kit was only giving me a blow job because she felt she 'had' to.
Nowadays though, I realise that many women can get as much pleasure out of giving a blow job, as blokes can get out of receiving one. So I enjoy the pleasure Kit gets when giving a blow job, and that makes the experience awesome. I think you can believe what your girlfriends say, relax and look at it as something you are doing together, rather than something being done to you.
On to whether or not you should send your girlfriends over to those truly appreciate receiving a blow job, I suspect it is a matter of perspective. Those who think like us are clearly, considerate, caring lovers, - capable of the empathy and sophistication required to link your own level of pleasure to that of your partners and work with them on a carnal journey towards mutual sexual fulfillment and ecstacy.
Everyone else is just a Neanderthal thug consumed by a strange fixation on their own pleasure.
lhk
Kat
I know what you mean. I could never see how anyone could enjoy giving a blow job and that used to make me think that Kit was only giving me a blow job because she felt she 'had' to.
Nowadays though, I realise that many women can get as much pleasure out of giving a blow job, as blokes can get out of receiving one. So I enjoy the pleasure Kit gets when giving a blow job, and that makes the experience awesome. I think you can believe what your girlfriends say, relax and look at it as something you are doing together, rather than something being done to you.
On to whether or not you should send your girlfriends over to those truly appreciate receiving a blow job, I suspect it is a matter of perspective. Those who think like us are clearly, considerate, caring lovers, - capable of the empathy and sophistication required to link your own level of pleasure to that of your partners and work with them on a carnal journey towards mutual sexual fulfillment and ecstacy.
Everyone else is just a Neanderthal thug consumed by a strange fixation on their own pleasure.
lhk
Kat
God there are some great topics around here!
Just to add my two penneth. Definitely something that I adore, however I much prefer to give than to receive. Absolutely correct post earlier in that some women love giving a b-j. This obviously can cause a dilemma because you don’t always know if the lady really wants to or not.
When you get to that level with someone and you know exactly what the both of you like then it can be so intense – especially when you get into 69’s. Therefore from a first night perspective it does not always work out well because you just don’t know each others like’s/dislikes well enough.
As an aside, what do you do if the person you are with likes to give, but is just not very good at it. It is not necessarily a case of practise makes perfect. If it is just a one night thing, personally I find it extremely difficult to say that it could be better. I just feel uncomfortable providing “feedback†during the throes of passion.
Again, once you get to know that person you can drop clues into the conversation that would enhance the oral fun. Obviously this must be a two way thing so we both learn.
Everybody’s different – that’s what’s so great about us. The joy of discovering what turns another person on, be it oral, bondage or whatever, and then to enact what you have learnt is the most intense and satisfying feeling for me.
Just to add my two penneth. Definitely something that I adore, however I much prefer to give than to receive. Absolutely correct post earlier in that some women love giving a b-j. This obviously can cause a dilemma because you don’t always know if the lady really wants to or not.
When you get to that level with someone and you know exactly what the both of you like then it can be so intense – especially when you get into 69’s. Therefore from a first night perspective it does not always work out well because you just don’t know each others like’s/dislikes well enough.
As an aside, what do you do if the person you are with likes to give, but is just not very good at it. It is not necessarily a case of practise makes perfect. If it is just a one night thing, personally I find it extremely difficult to say that it could be better. I just feel uncomfortable providing “feedback†during the throes of passion.
Again, once you get to know that person you can drop clues into the conversation that would enhance the oral fun. Obviously this must be a two way thing so we both learn.
Everybody’s different – that’s what’s so great about us. The joy of discovering what turns another person on, be it oral, bondage or whatever, and then to enact what you have learnt is the most intense and satisfying feeling for me.
Quote by KitKat
Hiya Wolf,
I know what you mean. I could never see how anyone could enjoy giving a blow job and that used to make me think that Kit was only giving me a blow job because she felt she 'had' to.t
wow you no you have just help me loads here Kate
............as i don't like Mr Debs giving me oral for this reason... and cannot relax........ think he is just doing it to please me and not him..............I think its because us women here so many story's from men saying stuff like ..........here we go muff diving or down to the gravy and all that ............. 
ops: :oops: wolf maybe your reason is the same as mine
But in fact i love giving BJs...... but have to take loads of brakes as it give me jaw ache after a while :oops: :oops:
Glad to be of help Debs - hold that thought next time you are approaching an oral orgasm! Quote by beebeep
first partner that i wasn’t clean enough, what do you think about when it is happening maybe it is psychological? BB :idea:
I can agree with that, I had that problem, and also the concern that I was degrading the other person by making them do an act in which I thought they didn't get anything in return, made me think I was being selfish.
Happily got over it
Just to add my two-pence worth. I used to feel very self conscious when receiving a blow job. In fact I used to loose my erection which in turn would make me feel even more self conscious. I used to try and avoid receiving BJ’s and pull my partners head towards me for a kiss instead. I don’t know what changed really but now I love a good BJ - and there is a big difference between a good BJ and a bad one. Teeth are a no-no especially if you’ve got pointed fangs (well it feels like it sometimes). Tongue around the helmet is wonderful and noise is good. I think that if you feel your partner is really enjoying herself/himself then that’s the most important aspect and I love partners that can’t get enough spunk. 
Personally I enjoy giving head more than having a man go down on me and making me orgasm that way cos I am rubbish after an orgasm induced by oral sex - completely jellified and ticklish and you might as well truss me up and suspend me from the ceiling as you will get no sense out of me. Giving head is great tho, especially is the man is in the right position, my preference being with him standing or sitting up so that i am in knelt between his legs - makes swallowing a lot nicer!
I have met one man who could not orgasm from a blow wasn't into them anyway but all my other boyfriends tend to enjoy them - i had one that used to pass out after he had one
Is it the technique that puts you off?
I have met one man who could not orgasm from a blow wasn't into them anyway but all my other boyfriends tend to enjoy them - i had one that used to pass out after he had one
Is it the technique that puts you off?
I used to think about this one quite a bit - especially when I was "on the turn" and not enjoying sex with blokes. I still enjoyed giving a blow job. I often wondered if, for me, it was a "control" thing. It gave me control. May also explain why some blokes don't like receiving? They don't like giving up the control?
So yes - I guess I am one of those girls who likes giving - but no no no no to coming in my mouth. Yuck.
aRSex :color:
So yes - I guess I am one of those girls who likes giving - but no no no no to coming in my mouth. Yuck.
aRSex :color:
