Blurring the boundaries.

9 Sep 2008

Do you keep your swinging and 'nilla friends separate? Do you make sure they never meet?
Or do they mingle? From our point of view, those who have become trusted friends usually end up in our real lives, too.
Eg; A single male forumite has stayed here overnight- as a mate- and has also visited when on a road trip.
Had logistics not gone tits up, we would have been spending a couple of days camping- with the kids- in the garden of another SH couple.
An on off/in out (oops) fwb has not only been to stay here, but he shared our family xmas holiday, too. In fact, he was taking the kids off skiing on his own, and mucking in making Daleks on xmas morning. It's hard to imagine being more intermingled.
I understand completely if you do keep them seperate- especially if you don't know them that well. I'm very choosy about who I let into my "inner sanctum"
How do you eat yours?
(Thanks for reminding me Mar- meant to do this one ages ago wink

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9 Sep 2008

Nope, vanilla friends to me are just people who haven't been converted yet :twisted:

9 Sep 2008

eeeeerrrmmm what do you mean by vanilla friends?

9 Sep 2008

Quote by Ego_kai_esy
eeeeerrrmmm what do you mean by vanilla friends?

Hiya & welcome wink

Vanilla in here usually refers to people with "normal" sex lives. Vanilla = plain/unflavoured.
HTH :thumbup:

9 Sep 2008

Well or it might just mean dirty dirty pervy people who just haven't told us yet about their nasty ways mad

9 Sep 2008

Quote by Ego_kai_esy
Well or it might just mean dirty dirty pervy people who just haven't told us yet about their nasty ways

A little lost, but if you say so.

9 Sep 2008

What I'm trying to say is that recently we opened up to a friendly couple that we considered "vanilla" and as it turned out they were hardened swingers :P

9 Sep 2008

Quote by Ego_kai_esy
What I'm trying to say is that recently we opened up to a friendly couple that we considered "vanilla" and as it turned out they were hardened swingers :P

ha ha ha i thought i was the only one,a regular customer who i so respect asked me if i could entertain his wife...shocked, speechless,gob smacked,i thought i was dreaming his wife is hot too...
back to the topic at hand,have got couple of swingers on my facebook i get confused all the time and call them by their swinging heaven usernames,so confusing living double life,but hey...

9 Sep 2008

My mum has met one swinger friend (obviously didnt tell her how we met) some excuse or other :lol2: luckily we live in the same town so easy enough to explain
A vanilla friend also has been to house parties which was a social swinging party and also to a social i organised through this site (all were made aware)
And been away for the weekend with other swingers and family (camping) with my son
Have met alot of family of one sh'er but they do know she swings
Could say the boundaries get blurred :giggle:

10 Sep 2008

My swinging friends have intermingled with my vanillas and family but I don't let on how we met. I don't differentiate between my friends, just don't let on the real reason for our meeting.

10 Sep 2008

Quote by winchwench
Do you keep your swinging and 'nilla friends separate? Do you make sure they never meet?
Or do they mingle? From our point of view, those who have become trusted friends usually end up in our real lives, too.

I keep my SH friends and Van friends seperate in virtual terms. They're all together on FBook but I only add the people I know, trust and respect in any event. I have no qualms they will divulge my hobby. If I had any doubt I'd just delete them.
I love all my friends either Van or SH in different ways and for who they are not where I've met them, the only difference is that the SH pals know my little secret lol

I've been in a situation before with SH friends and their family has been there, it's a case of knowing to keep my mouth shut and respecting the house that I'm in and the people I'm with.
I'm probably typical of a lot of people in that trust and respect are the main factor if the two friendshipt groups happen to cross.

10 Sep 2008

Jaymar, you have secrets? :gagged:

10 Sep 2008

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Jaymar, you have secrets? :gagged:

oh yesssss! :grin:

10 Sep 2008

So is it deceitful or just practical? wink

10 Sep 2008

Quote by duncanlondon
So is it deceitful or just practical?

what my secrets? i don't do deceitful, couldn't be tattered with the hassle.. I don't make a good liar anyhooo...
oh no my secrets are joint SH ones with Jay :wink:

10 Sep 2008

There's a couple of vanilla friends that we let attend our social that we arranged before.
We knew that they were very open minded and would enjoy the socialising but we didnt and still don't tell them exactly what , where and when we get up to thing's, that remains private.
Louise xxxxxxxxxxx

10 Sep 2008

Quote by Ego_kai_esy
eeeeerrrmmm what do you mean by vanilla friends?

you need to go to Ibiza mate, you are the spitting image of the one of the owners of manumission rotflmao

Well mine cant really mingle as all my sh friends live silly miles away rolleyes

but it has happened once and got the third degree as to why they had not seen her since :haha:

11 Sep 2008

Quote by jaymar
Do you keep your swinging and 'nilla friends separate? Do you make sure they never meet?
Or do they mingle? From our point of view, those who have become trusted friends usually end up in our real lives, too.

I keep my SH friends and Van friends seperate in virtual terms. They're all together on FBook but I only add the people I know, trust and respect in any event. I have no qualms they will divulge my hobby. If I had any doubt I'd just delete them.
I love all my friends either Van or SH in different ways and for who they are not where I've met them, the only difference is that the SH pals know my little secret lol

I've been in a situation before with SH friends and their family has been there, it's a case of knowing to keep my mouth shut and respecting the house that I'm in and the people I'm with.
I'm probably typical of a lot of people in that trust and respect are the main factor if the two friendshipt groups happen to cross.
We totally agree with you xxx