BodyLanguage

16 Oct 2005

Quote by HornyLittleBlonde

edited to add:- I find that usually if you're out with other swingers, behaviour tends to be a hell of a lot more flirty, more touchy-feely etc, bewteen both males and females, and fem to fem - but, there's a fine line between what's acceptable touchy-feelyness and what's not, depending on the individual. Does that make sense? :confused:

I'd also add that the level of flirtiness depends on how well you know the person.
I've been in social situations where I've been with friends and someone has put their arm around me/touched my bum/kissed me and then someone I don't know thinks it's ok for them to do the same.
Errr No rolleyes

This is a good point you should know the person well enough first so that you alredy know the boundarys this way everythings so much simpler!
Try your best to get to know her even more the rewards will be greater if shes intrested.
Good luck biggrin

16 Oct 2005

id feel like a bit of a leech if i started feeling up people i knew just to say hello.
i guess i would expect the female in question to be thinking 'why cant this fella use his two feet and stand up properly?'

16 Oct 2005

<<<<<<<<<< wouldn't object to that kind of greeting from lancyuk whether he had to crouch or not! ;) :twisted: :rascal:
I have a good story about body language and misreading it from when I was a newbie swinger..... you know... before all you lot corrupted me!
Anyway, to the point.... we were on the bed in the couples room playing with each other (I know... how perverse! :shock: ) and this couple we were tlaking to came in and lay next to us. She moved closer and closer to the point where she was touching me. I moved over and made some prattling comment about there never being enough room on the bed blah blah, laugh laugh.... moves over. The girl on the other side of me got the oral session of her life off this woman.... how gutted was I. redface

And a tiny bit embarressed too at my lack of knowledge at reading the signs! lol

Gem. xxx -full moon = horny gem

16 Oct 2005

Quote by Darkfire
(1) Oooo Ok, firstly, you blokies need to understand that when out with other girlies vanilla stylee (lol) all women have a secret code. Usually its not so secretive in that we disappear off to the toilets in twos to talk about you. Now, at the risk of being bitch-slapped by every fem on here for enlightening you and divulging information for the 'other team' ..........other times, its soooo discreet anyone of male species doesnt notice - series of little looks, nods or the oh-so-subtle :thumbup: thumbs-up behind your back that lets our girlfriends know 'I'm cool, come find me later'. Then there's the wide-eyed 'WTF??? :shock: ' look, which means ' :jagsatwork: dont you friggin dare move I might need bailing out in a minute' look. :lol: The eye-roll , which means ' this blokes a complete knob, get me out of here!' .......there are lots more!.
(2) The hand on waist thing .... vanilla style, I personally would find this pretty 'leery'. Unless you're really pissed and need to lean on someone/something in order to maintain a vertical position, holding her waist is a bit 'intimate'.
You could just gently lean in toward her, or literally talk into her ear like everyone else does in a club atmosphere. Most people might do the not-too-over-friendly-but-I-like-physical-contact arm touch too - but by holding her waist you are effectively 'pulling her into you' (its the same with hips, ass and lower back) - and unless she wants your full on attention, she'll be subconciously screaming to her friend to 'get me outta here'!!
(3) You describe her/them as being a little 'off' with you anyway. :dry: Now either:
(a) she just aint interested
(b) her mate was under specific "dont let me do anything stupid tonight" instruction
or (c) They've 'heard' something about you they dont like and usually under these circumstances you may as well walk round with a neon sign saying 'lurgy' on it!!!! :lol:
or (d) You interrupted a 'girlie night out' :shock: - sometimes when a woman says 'hello', she does it out of politeness and recognition, and sometimes its not an open invitation to do the sin of all sins and 'come hijack the conversation and come between whatever chat me and my mate- i-havent-seen-all-week were having before you decided to come stick your oar in'!! :roll: :lol:
(4) You mention that this is a reoccuring theme - now, assuming we're talking local women who might know you/ know of you to say hello to in the street.....I'd go with option 3c above :shock: - in which case you need to ask her outright at the earliest convenient opportunity. This gives her the upper-hand because she's put in a position where she has the power to 'enlighten' you and many women, in my oppinion, just love an opportunity to tell guys a few home truths! :sticky: :jagsatwork:
Now, if its a reoccuring theme that also runs with strangers, my advice is to stop eating garlic.....use listerine.....invest in a good deoderant.....see where I'm coming from?? :lol:
Hope this helps! :lol:

:laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove:
True true lol i love it we still manage to head fuck them even when they know us though
t

16 Oct 2005

It's sooooooo true! lol

One raised eyebrow can alert my girlfriends that I think he's a complete jerk and they sometimes relish watching me get out of the situation! :lol:
I was in a club today and this guy thinks because I've had a conversation with him twice that he allowed to put his hand in the middle of my back and stand so close his skin touches mine on his arm <shudder>
He gives me the creeps and I wish he'd take the hint and move away from me.... so I think it's not so much a case of making the body language gestures but knowing when to retreat.
kiss

Gem. x

16 Oct 2005

You just chose the wrong girl to be touchy feely with! Some girls like it others don't...
poke

16 Oct 2005

Yep, I'd definately brand someone a perv if they decided that they needed to place their hand on my waist (or anywhere else for that matter) just to have a conversation. Some people are just too damn polite to tell you to get off, but there are some that aren't, so you're probably quite lucky :shock:

17 Oct 2005

My advice is keep your hands in your pockets and your trousers on until you're invited to take them off. :twisted:
Hope this helps :P

17 Oct 2005

I hate people who feel they need to touch you to talk

17 Oct 2005

yeah i'm afraid if a guy came up to me and put his hand on my waste i would tell him politely to piss off!
Its just not the done thing confused

17 Oct 2005

Think yourself lucky, if a male Tarantula goes blundering in shouting give us a shag without reading her signals/bodylanguage first,he gets chewed up and spat out. sad

Everyone has an inner 18" of personal space, if you enter that uninvited, then add some form of restraint, most people's natural reaction is to fight back and re-establish their comfort zone. They then normally keep on going. :upset:
PR