Hi everyone,
Just thought I'd introduce myself. Don't want to bore you but I'm brand new to all this so please be gentle with me. 35 year old male from Glasgow who's married but generally not happy with what's going on in the bedroom department, and haven't been for some time, so I have finally plucked up the courage to try this out and see how it goes. My wife is very bi-curious but is very insecure with her sexuality and has an inherent fear that if we did entertain another female I would bring it up in a sort of bad way the next time we argued, which I definitely wouldn't. So these frustrations have led me here basically. Am hoping for as much variety as I can possibly get. I am very straight so I don't feel I could entertain any mmf liasons, unless I knew the guy well enough to know that there would definitely be no contact between myself and him, but apart from that, I'm open to any suggestions any of you may have. I don't have a pic on my profile as I have a very public job, but keep my private life strictly private, however, anyone wishing a pic are welcome to request one and I will be more than happy to oblige (Just in case anyone out there thinks I look like Shrek). I hope to talk with you all soon.
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Hiya Rocknrollstar 
Welcome to the site
Has your wife seen this place at all? Cant work out from your post if it's just you, or you both (if Mrs rocknrollstar is there too, then helloooo :wave: ). But if not, why not introduce her to it - then you can both start in the same place and explore together
Both take things real slow, maybe get on the social scene beforehand which would give you both a chance to talk over stuff with likeminded people, whilst at the same time, having a cracking night out.
So long as you both take things real slow and stay within the wariest persons comfort zone, there should be no problems.
Have fun! :D
Welcome to the site
Has your wife seen this place at all? Cant work out from your post if it's just you, or you both (if Mrs rocknrollstar is there too, then helloooo :wave: ). But if not, why not introduce her to it - then you can both start in the same place and explore together
Both take things real slow, maybe get on the social scene beforehand which would give you both a chance to talk over stuff with likeminded people, whilst at the same time, having a cracking night out.So long as you both take things real slow and stay within the wariest persons comfort zone, there should be no problems.
Have fun! :D
:welcome:
Hope you enjoy the site.
The only piece of advice I can give you is that you need to be very sure of your relationship (in all departments) before you look for meets otherwise it will cause problems for you both, and take it slow.
There has been loads of advice given in past threads by members a lot more eloquent and experienced than I am, I'm sure someone will be along that can point you in the right direction
kaz xx
Hope you enjoy the site.
The only piece of advice I can give you is that you need to be very sure of your relationship (in all departments) before you look for meets otherwise it will cause problems for you both, and take it slow.
There has been loads of advice given in past threads by members a lot more eloquent and experienced than I am, I'm sure someone will be along that can point you in the right direction
kaz xx
Warming the Bed
hello and welcome, enjoy your stay
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Hiya Rocknrollstar
Welcome to the site
Has your wife seen this place at all? Cant work out from your post if it's just you, or you both (if Mrs rocknrollstar is there too, then helloooo :wave: ). But if not, why not introduce her to it - then you can both start in the same place and explore together
So long as you both take things real slow and stay within the wariest persons comfort zone, there should be no problems.
Have fun! :D
Yes my wife knows about the site but is quite reserved shall we say. As for the social scene, this is something I need to get more info on as, like I said, I am very very new to this, so if anyone can advise I'd be really happy to learn about it.
Thanks
Sex God
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Hiya Rocknrollstar
Welcome to the site
Has your wife seen this place at all? Cant work out from your post if it's just you, or you both (if Mrs rocknrollstar is there too, then helloooo :wave: ). But if not, why not introduce her to it - then you can both start in the same place and explore together
So long as you both take things real slow and stay within the wariest persons comfort zone, there should be no problems.
Have fun! :D
Yes my wife knows about the site but is quite reserved shall we say. As for the social scene, this is something I need to get more info on as, like I said, I am very very new to this, so if anyone can advise I'd be really happy to learn about it.
Thanks
Reserved as in she doesn't want to know, or reserved shy? You used a lot of 'I' rather than 'we' in your post. I'm with Kaz on this; the relationship needs to be strong to consider doing this, or it will crumble. To be honest, it doesn't appear to be strong, reading your posts. This site isn't a quick fix for 'unhappiness in the bedroom department'.
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Hiya Rocknrollstar
Welcome to the site
Has your wife seen this place at all? Cant work out from your post if it's just you, or you both (if Mrs rocknrollstar is there too, then helloooo :wave: ). But if not, why not introduce her to it - then you can both start in the same place and explore together
So long as you both take things real slow and stay within the wariest persons comfort zone, there should be no problems.
Have fun! :D
Yes my wife knows about the site but is quite reserved shall we say. As for the social scene, this is something I need to get more info on as, like I said, I am very very new to this, so if anyone can advise I'd be really happy to learn about it.
Thanks
Reserved as in she doesn't want to know, or reserved shy? You used a lot of 'I' rather than 'we' in your post. I'm with Kaz on this; the relationship needs to be strong to consider doing this, or it will crumble. To be honest, it doesn't appear to be strong, reading your posts. This site isn't a quick fix for 'unhappiness in the bedroom department'.
No I meant reserved shy. She knows all about this site. Also, our relationship is very very strong otherwise we wouldn't even be considering doing this. We're not wet behind the ears, my wife is just very shy and finds it difficult to socialise initially, but once she is comfortable with the people and surroundings she is the life and soul of the party, it's getting her to the party that's the hard bit.
Warming the Bed
If you cant get her to the party get the party to her!
Welcome to sh
Welcome to sh
Well then, I would say, get involved with the forums a little bit - shove your opinions in wherever you have one, let us get to know you and vice versa. Then meet people just socially.
Just enjoy the whole journey, don't try and charge ahead
Whatever you do, whatever your limits are, just make sure you have fun the whole time, no pressure, just enjoy
Just enjoy the whole journey, don't try and charge ahead
Whatever you do, whatever your limits are, just make sure you have fun the whole time, no pressure, just enjoy
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Reserved as in she doesn't want to know, or reserved shy? You used a lot of 'I' rather than 'we' in your post. I'm with Kaz on this; the relationship needs to be strong to consider doing this, or it will crumble. To be honest, it doesn't appear to be strong, reading your posts. This site isn't a quick fix for 'unhappiness in the bedroom department'.
Totally agree, i think couples who use the site are asking (and will probably end up) in trouble if one of them needs "encouragement" to get involved.
In a relationship encouragement can sometimes cross the boundaries to pressurisation as the other person doesnot want to let their partner down or hurt their feelings and so tries to please the partner by getting into something they donot want to do!!
I think it would be wise to talk about things VERY VERY seriously and find out if you BOTH REALLY want to be involved in the lifestyle, its not for everybody after all.
We spoke and thought very long and hard before joining the site and made sure it was a mutual decision that suited and pleased both of us.
If its a mutual decision :welcome: to the great site of SHeaven and we hope you have fun and find happiness etc
Sex God
We were let down last week by a couple, the female of which got cold feet. We didn't get an answer when we tried to 'phone and text. We decided not to go and until this evening, didn't know what had happened. However, we gave them the benefit of the doubt and asked why, when we saw them online. Had the apology but we've said they need to really sit down and talk before arranging to meet anyone else.
I think the cold feet shows that they haven't. You BOTH have to be sure.
I think the cold feet shows that they haven't. You BOTH have to be sure.
