Why do we (me included) browse other peoples profiles and do nothing about it expecially when both parties have things in common or/and are looking for the same things?
Is it because we fear rejection or possibly think the other party is out of our league or wouldnt be interested?
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Quote by Geminifemale
Why do we (me included) browse other peoples profiles and do nothing about it expecially when both parties have things in common or/and are looking for the same things?
Is it because we fear rejection or possibly think the other party is out of our league or wouldnt be interested?
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A bit of what you said and also though i may find a lot in common there may also be somthing that makes me think no wont happen. Also i dont trawll profiles looking for people i come across them in chat rooms and then look at profile then will try and strike a convo if the profile looks ok.
Also some look at profiles just to see who they are talking to or just being nosey
Also some look at profiles just to see who they are talking to or just being nosey
A little bit of all of the above, for me I guess.
Often I will have a nose when reading threads, to maybe help see where they are coming from.
I think fear of being labelled as a pest would prevent me more, than the fear of rejection, in using a profile to break the ice and make an initial contact.
Often I will have a nose when reading threads, to maybe help see where they are coming from.
I think fear of being labelled as a pest would prevent me more, than the fear of rejection, in using a profile to break the ice and make an initial contact.
No idea. I look at loads of profiles as I am nosey but haven't said hello to anybody at all yet - i suppose it's because the people I find attractive I'm not confident would find me attractive in any way. I'm pretty insecure like that as I'm fully aware my look is an acquired taste... it could also be the fact that I'm here more for the social side of things and aren't really looking for a meet.. well, unless there's anyone out there with a thing for black clad skinny goth blokes ;)
That said, if someone wanted to drop me a line I'd be more than happy to have a chat
That said, if someone wanted to drop me a line I'd be more than happy to have a chat
Quote by fem_4_taboo
nope, for me it would be because i take a look to see more about people ive seen in forum threads, who are attending munches, or who i have seen in the chat rooms.
i feel the profiles are that , a profile, not a ad.
xx fem xx
Yes I agree, a profile is just a description of yourself, who you are and what you are looking for.
For me, looking at a profile means I'm interested in what the person has to say, what they look like (if pics), what their interests are. A good profile can say a lot about a person and their personalities. Looking at a profile doesn't mean I'm showing an interest in them sexually (well not all the time lol
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I look at profiles as part of the mod thing, but also to try and see if I can get a better feel of the person who is posting, it might be a picture or a few more words, but it helps me when I am reading posts. One of the big advantages for me when I went to munches ands socials was meeting folk because afterwards their posts took on a different life, I read them with the persons accent or any odd mannerism I picked up at the time it added another dimension and made reading posts more interesting than before.
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Quote by davej
I look at profiles as part of the mod thing, but also to try and see if I can get a better feel of the person who is posting, it might be a picture or a few more words, but it helps me when I am reading posts. One of the big advantages for me when I went to munches ands socials was meeting folk because afterwards their posts took on a different life, I read them with the persons accent or any odd mannerism I picked up at the time it added another dimension and made reading posts more interesting than before.
You noticed it then
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Quote by fem_4_taboo
nope, for me it would be because i take a look to see more about people ive seen in forum threads, who are attending munches, or who i have seen in the chat rooms.
i feel the profiles are that , a profile, not a ad.
xx fem xx
Yup, same here (plus I may have a quick nosey at some of the pictures as well :twisted: )
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I look at profiles because they are there lol!
No, seriously, it's when they strike a chord on the forum or I am curious to learn more about them.
I'll admit I also look at the gallery section too!
Hey, it's loads of sexy pics, it's only human to go and look lol and again something may strike a it turns out they are not to far away and looking for a certain things where I think I may appeal to them then I'll send them a respectful PM.
No, seriously, it's when they strike a chord on the forum or I am curious to learn more about them.
I'll admit I also look at the gallery section too!
Hey, it's loads of sexy pics, it's only human to go and look lol and again something may strike a it turns out they are not to far away and looking for a certain things where I think I may appeal to them then I'll send them a respectful PM.
Quote by niceandgentle
I look at profiles because they are there lol!
No, seriously, it's when they strike a chord on the forum or I am curious to learn more about them.
I'll admit I also look at the gallery section too!
Hey, it's loads of sexy pics, it's only human to go and look lol and again something may strike a it turns out they are not to far away and looking for a certain things where I think I may appeal to them then I'll send them a respectful PM.
and when you like what you read you get a
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Quote by easy
nope, for me it would be because i take a look to see more about people ive seen in forum threads, who are attending munches, or who i have seen in the chat rooms.
i feel the profiles are that , a profile, not a ad.
xx fem xx
Yup, same here (plus I may have a quick nosey at some of the pictures as well :twisted: )
I perve too. Trouble is there are times when I think 'Wow that is one tasteful set of pics of a beautiful woman'. I want then to convey that message and usually don't 'cos I think they'll think I'm coming on to them. (I only come on to those with whom I'm friendly).
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Quote by Gothic-punk
No idea. I look at loads of profiles as I am nosey but haven't said hello to anybody at all yet - i suppose it's because the people I find attractive I'm not confident would find me attractive in any way. I'm pretty insecure like that as I'm fully aware my look is an acquired taste... it could also be the fact that I'm here more for the social side of things and aren't really looking for a meet.. well, unless there's anyone out there with a thing for black clad skinny goth blokes ;)
That said, if someone wanted to drop me a line I'd be more than happy to have a chat
there are some of us about, i adore marilyn manson :twisted:
Earthy xx
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Quote by Geminifemale
Why do we (me included) browse other peoples profiles and do nothing about it expecially when both parties have things in common or/and are looking for the same things?
Is it because we fear rejection or possibly think the other party is out of our league or wouldnt be interested?
Exactly that
Quote by Geminifemale
Why do we (me included) browse other peoples profiles and do nothing about it expecially when both parties have things in common or/and are looking for the same things?
Is it because we fear rejection or possibly think the other party is out of our league or wouldnt be interested?
We read we respond, we get replies and we meet up! Anything after that is purely down to if we all get on enough.. Really find it odd people can just browse..
If you want to play guys get pro-active.. rejection is all in your mind, I mean who cares? If you get rejected so what, it wasn't going to happen was it but if things work out as they certainly do theres some great people out there thinking the very same as you eh... have fun, its why your here surely!
Mike and Ju xx
I have a quick peek at peoples profiles now and again but thats usually because ive read their posts or spoke in the chatroom and like to know a little more about them. I do feel a little shy about doing it to people that i know can see whos been looking though incase they think im stalking them.
Louise xx
Louise xx
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Quote by westerross
I perve too. Trouble is there are times when I think 'Wow that is one tasteful set of pics of a beautiful woman'. I want then to convey that message and usually don't 'cos I think they'll think I'm coming on to them. (I only come on to those with whom I'm friendly). .
TBH I don't see too much of a problem doing that. You'll get one of 3 things happen;
1) Sod off creep!
2) Thank you very much.
3) nothing.
First one and last one's I'd ignore, the second one I'd probably have a nice chat with via PM.
I think it'd work better for people like us because we're both very up-front about our situations. I don't swing and you only come on to people you know.
I think I'd be very flattered to get a PM saying I love your pics (if I actually had any posted up. Actually I might add a gallery as I've got a few pics).
I am always nosing profiles. But I think that profiles, postings, opinions and general 'character' all come across as different and individual things. So I don't use an equation to 'assess' people with. I just enjoy each for their own merits, and try not to fix an opinion as its generally not needed.
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Quote by easy
I perve too. Trouble is there are times when I think 'Wow that is one tasteful set of pics of a beautiful woman'. I want then to convey that message and usually don't 'cos I think they'll think I'm coming on to them. (I only come on to those with whom I'm friendly). .
TBH I don't see too much of a problem doing that. You'll get one of 3 things happen;
1) Sod off creep!
2) Thank you very much.
3) nothing.
First one and last one's I'd ignore, the second one I'd probably have a nice chat with via PM.
I think it'd work better for people like us because we're both very up-front about our situations. I don't swing and you only come on to people you know.
I think I'd be very flattered to get a PM saying I love your pics (if I actually had any posted up. Actually I might add a gallery as I've got a few pics).
Well if you think I'm gonna perve yours just so you can say 'Sod off Creep' - think again.
Mind you I'd accept a few 'SoCs' from a certain Countess!!!
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) of the people posting or who we're chatting to.
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Talking of profiles, has anyone ever noticed that at the bottom of each profile page it says X's (the person's nic) Actitivities. Is this a joke or a genuine error? :lol:
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Quote by MikeNorth
Talking of profiles, has anyone ever noticed that at the bottom of each profile page it says X's (the person's nic) Actitivities. Is this a joke or a genuine error?
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