Bye for a while.....

9 Nov 2004

This place is great,there are so many great people on here,but ive come to the conclusion over the past few weeks that this is more for Clare than for me.
I will still keep an eye on everything (and Clare lol

)and post occasionally,but i don't feel that i can fully enjoy all that goes on at the moment.
I love the munches and the parties and that definately won't stop,but ive always felt like i'm in the background while everyone pays all the attention to probably sounds like a post for attention but its not its a feeling ive had for a long time and i don't want to carry on feeling like the one who is like that.
We are still going to organise the next munch and i'll be active in that,but when it comes to the general posting it'll be Clare that carries on doing all of that.
I'll still chat on MSN to all of those out there that weve got to know but for the near future thats going to be it.

9 Nov 2004

And just as i was getting to bloody well know you too !!!!!
See you in a couple of weeks biggrin

9 Nov 2004

Well I didnt have a clue till i was told to read this,this morning :shock:
But i must admit he has been feeling a bit unappreciated lately all round(except by me of course) When we arranged the munch he felt very much like although he was doing as much work as I was that he just didnt get as much credit for it!
i think the fact that when people have anything to say via pm to both of us and they send it to me irks him a little too.
I recon that its a culmination of things and he's feeling down all round due to his work being crap.
Steve honey don't stop posting,how the devil will i take the piss out of you if you don't post??? lol

9 Nov 2004

Is this your way of saying than Clare has taken away your pc privilages Steve confused

: :?:
Have you been a nuaghty boy :?:

:smackbottom:
Dont put up with oppresion....
Keep posting and fight for your rights..
biggrin

:D

9 Nov 2004

awwwwwwwwww steve dont go
red ~sighs ~
i enjoy reading yours and claires posts
please
please
stay confused

9 Nov 2004

steve, its much harder to take you seriously now weve witnessed you obliviously groping around by our feet looking for money that wasnt there dunno

Actually it was funny and yes clearly you are being serious on this thread. In which case , the way we understand it is that we can still look forward to your oft thought provoking threads..albeit with reduced frequency sad

foxys x

9 Nov 2004

Steve you will be missed :cry:
I enjoy your posts and your sense of fun. I understand your reasons for going but come back soon
all the best Steve stay well wink

9 Nov 2004

sorry to see your going
keep in touch
Vicky xxxxx

9 Nov 2004

Quote by Steve_Lincs
This place is great,there are so many great people on here,but ive come to the conclusion over the past few weeks that this is more for Clare than for me.

This from someone who's racked up 1000 posts in 3 months... :shock:
Steve, withdrawing from the forum is a sure-fire way of making sure everyone pays more attention to Clare than they do to you. C'mon, stay. You two are a couple and it wouldn't be the same with just one of you buzzing around. You're one of the most real men on here (and personally, I have to say, a bit of a role-model for me as someone who manages to be masculine without being a drunken uncaring lout) and I'm sure nobody here wants to see you withdraw.
Besides, you have better hair than Clare. :rude:

9 Nov 2004

Awwwwwwwwwwwww!!
BABY COME BACK biggrin

9 Nov 2004

Steve...
Take a break..
Relax a while...
Regroup....
And come on when you feel you can. It does you good to stop for a while.... I have many times and you get a new zest for it.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder ....?

9 Nov 2004

Sorry to hear thar mate.
Hope you will return soon.

9 Nov 2004

Ack Steve, from someone who is married to a guy who not only doesn`t post a great deal, but also has to attend 4 munches, spend a couple of weekends with friends, and meet up with regulars at the SMB before he relaxes with people well enough for them to get an idea of the person...............I`d say you really don`t have a great deal to worry about. Some things take a little longer with some than they do others, eventually most of us get there in the end!
Venusxxx

9 Nov 2004

Quote by Steve_Lincs
I'll still chat on MSN to all of those out there that weve got to know but for the near future thats going to be it.

I assume "the near future" means you'll be back tomorrow.

9 Nov 2004

AWW thats a shame steve, but baz feels the same thats why he does,nt post sad

He just leaves it to me , he would rather be involved in physical ie; munches, meets etc and would,nt mind getting involved with organising something from time to time
:therethere:

9 Nov 2004

Hi babe..... well I will definately miss your posts so u better carry on speaking to me!! Kinda understand where you're coming from.. devil_in_part feels the same way.. But I just wanted to let you know that you are appreciated and loved just as much as Clare!!! Stay in touch passionkiss

9 Nov 2004

Quote by xxdevil69
Hi babe..... well I will definately miss your posts so u better carry on speaking to me!! Kinda understand where you're coming from.. devil_in_part feels the same way.. But I just wanted to let you know that you are appreciated and loved just as much as Clare!!! Stay in touch

I think Satin feels the same too sometimes, probably less so now but he has certainly said the same in the past.
I think you have to put it in perspective Steve - people do want to know you as YOU, not just cos you're attached to Clare lol

9 Nov 2004

I'n no sociology expert, but it strikes me that this i only a natural state of affairs, men love to chat to women, women love to chat to, erm, other women. As everyone likes talking to women single men are fine with that, but partners such as you, Steve, like Mars and Morbius and Baz, and no doubt a dozen others feel second best to their lady. I don't think it will ever change Steve, I think it's something you either have to accept, or 'let the missus do the talking', again like Blue, Venus, Calista, Ann.
Chris

9 Nov 2004

Alternatively you could try sticking something in Clare`s mouth :twisted:
Venusxxx

9 Nov 2004

Quote by VenusnMars
Alternatively you could try sticking something in Clare`s mouth :twisted:
Venusxxx

Need some other things to keep both hands occupied too though wink

9 Nov 2004

Steve mate!
sometimes we all need a rest. i go whole afternoons sometimes without posting! rolleyes

you're part of the topsy turvy world that is SH! everyone who posts gives something to the site, even if it doesn't feel like it at times. i've tried leaving, considered deactivation several times, even asked for it not so long back, but somehow i just keep plodding on cos i'd miss it too much.
keep going mate. we all have ups and down on here, just like the site in general does. they always pass.
chin up fella
neil x x x ;)

9 Nov 2004

Now you`re just being greedy........ rolleyes

Venusxxx

9 Nov 2004

Steve, as a contributer to this forum you are appreciated.
I wish my fella would get on here and post so everyone could get to know him better, but he won't right now because he is shy and feels like he might say the wrong thing.
Be brave and keep in touch, if only through PM.
kiss

9 Nov 2004

steve......
i hope that you don't go..... just like little gem said, you are very much appriated and you were one of the people i was most looking forward to meeting at the munch!!!!
and besides... no one ever finds the exit door round here!!!! we attach a bungee cord to everyone....
keep in touch and i'll be expecting more arsenal abuse if we ever lose again.....
see you at your 30th...
sean xxxxxxxxxxxx

9 Nov 2004

Sounds like you have issues which need to be resolved. Perhaps a break would be for the best.
I wish you well.
x

9 Nov 2004

Dawn_Mids = 2092 lol

Ian_Mids = 227 dunno

Dawn :silly:

9 Nov 2004

mike was here waaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyy before me.. but i have about 4 or 5 times as many posts as he does!
i honestly think it is a girl thing... we chat more.... and are social in a different way to men.

9 Nov 2004

Quote by Steve_Lincs
I will still keep an eye on everything (and Clare )and post occasionally,but i don't feel that i can fully enjoy all that goes on at the moment.
I love the munches and the parties and that definately won't stop,but ive always felt like i'm in the background while everyone pays all the attention to Clare.

I agree with Ellissamay, it sounds as if there are other issues here.
If you look around the forum you will see that there are lots of couples on here where for the majority of time, only the woman seems to get atttention or does much posting.
Women naturally chatter more than men, so of course if they post more, then obviously they will receive more replies and more " attention " .
Blue, Dawn, Ann, myself and many others all post far more than our partners, but maybe they are more content to stay in the back ground dunno

Claire says your job is not a happy one, so that coupled with other general feelings are bound to make you unhappy.
I hope it will all soon pick up for you
Tracy-Jayne

9 Nov 2004

I can only echo whats been said - I'm far more liable to post a PM to a woman than a man.I am far more at ease with women than men.
Steve,you are one of the most interesting posters on here,funny and really should develop that side of yourself here,its enriching for all of us to share that with you.
You are not in Clares shadow at all - she is admired too but you are a person in your own course she gets attention - shes also a brilliantly witty and caring 're quite a team the two of you - you are both needed here.

9 Nov 2004

Fuck me!! - another attention seeking post.......................... mad

We get this in the chatroom too, and I say the same now as I say in there, if ya dont bloody well like it, there's the door ---------------------------->