Just a thought (or five).... When you are online:
Can you still flirt with people you know you do not find attractive in RL?
Can you still flirt with people you don't really respect/like or does their have to be at least something about the person you like to freely flirt?
Is it easier to flirt with people you don't know or those you do know?
Do you finding it easy to flirt with pretty much anyone or do you need to want to flirt with your flirtees?
As a flirtee - do you take any serious notice of the flirter?
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Can you still flirt with people you know you do not find attractive in RL?
Not as much as one i find attractive though i've only met one person other than at a munch.
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Can you still flirt with people you don't really respect/like or does their have to be at least something about the person you like to freely flirt?
If i dont respect or like them on first immpressions then no. But i can flirt when i have a better understanding of them and need to learn to be comfortable when they are around.
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Is it easier to flirt with people you don't know or those you do know?
Those i don't know if my latest posts are anything to go by.
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Do you finding it easy to flirt with pretty much anyone or do you need to want to flirt with your flirtees?
I need to want to flirt though that hasn't happend as much as when i first came on here
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As a flirtee - do you take any serious notice of the flirter?
Ahh the old signs again and if you find the answer to that someone tell me
Flirting in the forum doen't mean they or you want more than that and theres where i find it difficult.
In fact i havent done much flirting lately at all. Ive seen some negative comments about such things in the forum recently and it has put me of both flirting and posting in general a bit. But i think that has made me a bit of a missery lately and intend to have a re think and forget what others think.
When you are online:
Can you still flirt with people you know you do not find attractive in RL?
I never really know when I'm flirting anyway, I tend to use humour a lot as a deflection - whether people take that as flirting or not I don't know. I'd find it hard to knowingly flirt with someone whose online persona I didn't find at least likeable
Can you still flirt with people you don't really respect/like or does their have to be at least something about the person you like to freely flirt?
Bugga, I think I've just answered that one.
Is it easier to flirt with people you don't know or those you do know?
I'm not that good with people I've not had several conversations with - unless they're particularly easy to talk to so I'd say it was easier with those I know.
Do you finding it easy to flirt with pretty much anyone or do you need to want to flirt with your flirtees?
Like I've said I'm not really good at knowing what is and isn't flirting, I find it easier if I have a certain rapour with them.
As a flirtee - do you take any serious notice of the flirter?
Not really. I'd say that 95% of the flirty banter that goes on is merely light-hearted.
H.x
Can you still flirt with people you know you do not find attractive in RL?
I never really know when I'm flirting anyway, I tend to use humour a lot as a deflection - whether people take that as flirting or not I don't know. I'd find it hard to knowingly flirt with someone whose online persona I didn't find at least likeable
Can you still flirt with people you don't really respect/like or does their have to be at least something about the person you like to freely flirt?
Bugga, I think I've just answered that one.
Is it easier to flirt with people you don't know or those you do know?
I'm not that good with people I've not had several conversations with - unless they're particularly easy to talk to so I'd say it was easier with those I know.
Do you finding it easy to flirt with pretty much anyone or do you need to want to flirt with your flirtees?
Like I've said I'm not really good at knowing what is and isn't flirting, I find it easier if I have a certain rapour with them.
As a flirtee - do you take any serious notice of the flirter?
Not really. I'd say that 95% of the flirty banter that goes on is merely light-hearted.
H.x
I used to think when I was good at it until I came on here... the straight blokes are the worst... with the gay blokes... and I mean the genuinely straight ones as opposed to the 'three pints of lager and, whoops a cock up yer bum' straight ones ;)
da69ve, dammie and others... you know who you are - you all do it
I personally find it very endearing :P
da69ve, dammie and others... you know who you are - you all do it
I personally find it very endearing :P
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I used to think when I was good at it until I came on here... the straight blokes are the worst... with the gay blokes... and I mean the genuinely straight ones as opposed to the 'three pints of lager and, whoops a cock up yer bum' straight ones ;)
da69ve, dammie and others... you know who you are - you all do it
I personally find it very endearing :P
what happened to to discretion...... :lol:
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I used to think when I was good at it until I came on here... the straight blokes are the worst... with the gay blokes... and I mean the genuinely straight ones as opposed to the 'three pints of lager and, whoops a cock up yer bum' straight ones ;)
da69ve, dammie and others... you know who you are - you all do it
I personally find it very endearing :P
what happened to to discretion...... :lol:
I'll show you discretion in 4 weeks
Quote by Bloke2005
I used to think when I was good at it until I came on here... the straight blokes are the worst... with the gay blokes... and I mean the genuinely straight ones as opposed to the 'three pints of lager and, whoops a cock up yer bum' straight ones ;)
da69ve, dammie and others... you know who you are - you all do it
I personally find it very endearing :P
what happened to to discretion...... :lol:
I'll show you discretion in 4 weeks
damn.......where doing it now......flirting!
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Just a thought (or five).... When you are online:
Can you still flirt with people you know you do not find attractive in RL?
No, not at all.
Can you still flirt with people you don't really respect/like or does their have to be at least something about the person you like to freely flirt?
Nope
Is it easier to flirt with people you don't know or those you do know?
I'm a crap flirtI'm a bit too direct :twisted: - if I do it to people I know, they think i'm joking, or worse, being 'off' with them, and people I dont know get scared :lol:
Do you finding it easy to flirt with pretty much anyone or do you need to want to flirt with your flirtees?
I need to want to do it, personally I see flirting and I see banter. Flirting suggests someone's testing the water and may be interested, but if they're then off doing the flirting thing with everyone else, I'm done :lol: If i flirt, and flirt properly, its because i'm interested and want to :twisted:
As a flirtee - do you take any serious notice of the flirter?
I'm afriad not. There's so much incessant flirting - moving from one person to the next til someone reciprocates (doesnt matter who type flirting) I tend to ignore it if its thrown in my direction, unless it arrives in pm :twisted:
Quote by PoloLady
Just a thought (or five).... When you are online:
Can you still flirt with people you know you do not find attractive in RL?
Yes. (that might become clear further down)
Can you still flirt with people you don't really respect/like or does their have to be at least something about the person you like to freely flirt?
No. I can (publicly) flirt with people I don't necessarily have the hots for, but not with people I actually dislike.
Is it easier to flirt with people you don't know or those you do know?
If I'm in a flirtatious mood, it doesn't really matter how well I know them - or not. But there has to be a certain response for me to continue.
Do you finding it easy to flirt with pretty much anyone or do you need to want to flirt with your flirtees?
As above really
As a flirtee - do you take any serious notice of the flirter?
I don't get "flirted at" very much these days, but I've always viewed the public/forum flirting as part of the fun, bollox and banter of the place. The "serious" "intentional" "shall we take this a stage further" type is normally done in private.
I suppose it depends how "flirting" is defined.
Again . . . . . . One man's xxxxxxxx is another's yyyyyy
(that I feel the need to say - ) That's not a dig. It's just an observation
Quote by goose35
In fact i havent done much flirting lately at all. Ive seen some negative comments about such things in the forum recently and it has put me of both flirting and posting in general a bit. But i think that has made me a bit of a missery lately and intend to have a re think and forget what others think.
Now it seems there is more to be said on this subject. I didnt realise when i posted my first response.
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As a flirtee - do you take any serious notice of the flirter?
I'm afriad not. There's so much incessant flirting - moving from one person to the next til someone reciprocates (doesnt matter who type flirting) I tend to ignore it if its thrown in my direction, unless it arrives in pm :twisted:
Now when do you PM ?
As a single bloke i feel daunted sending a PM for the first time and the one time it happened i had to be told to do it in the forum its self. Hence my flirting within the forum when i joined this site i thought that was part and parcel off what happened here.
I dont want to be labled among those who bombard fems with a PM on the off chance.
I joined this site to have fun online and off and lately i find myself having to defend actions or comments i make aimed with the sole intention of having fun which is no fun.
I did curb this fun in serious posts and now it seems to have gone all together hence the reason for me spending more time in the chatrooms again.
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Now when do you PM ?
As a single bloke i feel daunted sending a PM for the first time and the one time it happened i had to be told to do it in the forum its self. Hence my flirting within the forum when i joined this site i thought that was part and parcel off what happened here.
I dont want to be labled among those who bombard fems with a PM on the off chance.
I joined this site to have fun online and off and lately i find myself having to defend actions or comments i make aimed with the sole intention of having fun which is no fun.
I did curb this fun in serious posts and now it seems to have gone all together hence the reason for me spending more time in the chatrooms again.
It really does piss me off when the actions and comments of some have the effect of stopping people post.
When do you move/carry on flirting via PM ???
Try this as an idea Goose.
Liken it to a pub.
You're sat round a table of 10/20/30 people having a giggle with bollox and banter.
At what point would you lean into someone to say something "private" ?
That's pretty much the way I used to think it.
I'm not saying it "works" - just an idea of a view.
:thumbup:
Quote by goose35
As a flirtee - do you take any serious notice of the flirter?
I'm afriad not. There's so much incessant flirting - moving from one person to the next til someone reciprocates (doesnt matter who type flirting) I tend to ignore it if its thrown in my direction, unless it arrives in pm :twisted:
Now when do you PM ?
As a single bloke i feel daunted sending a PM for the first time and the one time it happened i had to be told to do it in the forum its self. Hence my flirting within the forum when i joined this site i thought that was part and parcel off what happened here.
I dont want to be labled among those who bombard fems with a PM on the off chance.
I joined this site to have fun online and off and lately i find myself having to defend actions or comments i make aimed with the sole intention of having fun which is no fun.
I did curb this fun in serious posts and now it seems to have gone all together hence the reason for me spending more time in the chatrooms again.
Goose, everyone's different I guess. Me, I'll pm if I feel it would be welcome - i dont pm with the intention of asking for a meet straight off - those type of pm's are the ones that fems dont like (in my oppinion) :dunno: I cant see any wrong in chatting with people in pm - it depends entirely what the motives are for those pm's though, and if you flirt in pm and it isnt reciprocated - then I'd take it as a 'i'm not interested, thanks' - but that doesnt mean we cant continue to chat :dunno: not sure any of that makes sense :lol: does in my head :dunno:
I see alot of profiles on here that say things like 'dont pm me if i dont know you' etc etc - and i'm not sure if this is what you mean Goose , but, comments like that are usually for and directed at people who do the 'blanket coverage' 'random have-a-bash' pm bombarding. I dont see a problem is pm'ing Hello to someone you 'know' from the forum or chat , it'll either get replied to and start a conversation/ flirting/ email tennis/ see where it leads.... or it wont. I really cant see why you would cause offence by bantering in the forum then pm'ing to say hi personally on the back of that and see where it goes :dunno: - that's NOT bombarding fems with a pm on the offchance, that's doing what everyone else does, imo
, it'll either get replied to and start a conversation/ flirting/ email tennis/ see where it leads.... or it wont. I really cant see why you would cause offence by bantering in the forum then pm'ing to say hi personally on the back of that and see where it goes :dunno: - that's NOT bombarding fems with a pm on the offchance, that's doing what everyone else does, imo Quote by PoloLady
I dont want to be labled among those who bombard fems with a PM on the off chance.
Surely that is only likely to happen if that is what you are doing
No not doing that.
The only PMs so far is the one stated after flirting and being told to PM which started us chatting ect before meeting which is exactly how i intended things to happen when i joined as not getting to know people before anything is not my cuppa tea.
Maybe the fact i often think i bet she gets loads of mail put me off sending myself along with other things like reading singns ect. hence the off chance statment as i need chat first.
At the end of the day it has been a struggle but that hasnt put me off or anything as its made me more relaxed and less impatient for meets which helps the getting to know you pm's and chats easier. Its just the moving on further and how i read it thats off whack.
Any other advice please PM as im digressing here
But thanks for the advice
Can you still flirt with people you know you do not find attractive in RL?
Online yes, face to face probably Dammie said, it can be with someone I wouldn't fancy but not someone I dislike
Can you still flirt with people you don't really respect/like or does their have to be at least something about the person you like to freely flirt?
I have to at least like or respect that person for me to flirt with them. I can't say there's anyone in here I dislike but tyere are some I wouldn't go out of my way to flirt with
Is it easier to flirt with people you don't know or those you do know?
It doesn't matter if I've met them or not but I have to have at least spoken to them for a while before I set my flirting in progress
Do you finding it easy to flirt with pretty much anyone or do you need to want to flirt with your flirtees?
I can slip a flirt in just about anywhere though there are some I want to flirt with out of choice :twisted:
As a flirtee - do you take any serious notice of the flirter?
Not really. It depends how/where/when it's being done.
Online yes, face to face probably Dammie said, it can be with someone I wouldn't fancy but not someone I dislike
Can you still flirt with people you don't really respect/like or does their have to be at least something about the person you like to freely flirt?
I have to at least like or respect that person for me to flirt with them. I can't say there's anyone in here I dislike but tyere are some I wouldn't go out of my way to flirt with
Is it easier to flirt with people you don't know or those you do know?
It doesn't matter if I've met them or not but I have to have at least spoken to them for a while before I set my flirting in progress
Do you finding it easy to flirt with pretty much anyone or do you need to want to flirt with your flirtees?
I can slip a flirt in just about anywhere though there are some I want to flirt with out of choice :twisted:
As a flirtee - do you take any serious notice of the flirter?
Not really. It depends how/where/when it's being done.
When you are online:
Can you still flirt with people you know you do not find attractive in RL? To some extent yes but not to the point of being false/misleading
Can you still flirt with people you don't really respect/like or does there have to be at least something about the person you like to freely flirt?I couldn't seriously flirt with someone I didn't respect and to respect someone I have to like them
Is it easier to flirt with people you don't know or those you do know?I find it easier to flirt with people I know in some way be it chatroom/forum/PM, but the nature of the chatrooms mean you do flirt with people you don't know very well
Do you find it easy to flirt with pretty much anyone or do you need to want to flirt with your flirtees? Obviously it's easier to flirt with flirtees (is that a real word? lol) but I find it easy(ish) to flirt with new people
As a flirtee - do you take any serious notice of the flirter? Sometimes if you can gauge how serious they are being ;)
Can you still flirt with people you know you do not find attractive in RL? To some extent yes but not to the point of being false/misleading
Can you still flirt with people you don't really respect/like or does there have to be at least something about the person you like to freely flirt?I couldn't seriously flirt with someone I didn't respect and to respect someone I have to like them
Is it easier to flirt with people you don't know or those you do know?I find it easier to flirt with people I know in some way be it chatroom/forum/PM, but the nature of the chatrooms mean you do flirt with people you don't know very well
Do you find it easy to flirt with pretty much anyone or do you need to want to flirt with your flirtees? Obviously it's easier to flirt with flirtees (is that a real word? lol) but I find it easy(ish) to flirt with new people
As a flirtee - do you take any serious notice of the flirter? Sometimes if you can gauge how serious they are being ;)
Can you still flirt with people you know you do not find attractive in RL?
No. And I hope they wouldn't with me either, but I'm sure some people do, so I tend to take people flirting with me with a large pinch of salt. I'm less of a flirter and more of a 'pay a person a genuine' compliment kinda gal.
Can you still flirt with people you don't really respect/like or does their have to be at least something about the person you like to freely flirt?
I don't think I have ever flirted with a person I don't like/respect (at the time). I don't really believe in telling people what they want to hear, otherwise you could find yourseld in a very difficult situation.
I'm the kind of person that likes/needs to know where I stand, so if somebody didn't like me but didn't have the guts to just tolerate me quietly and even went as far as flirting with me I think I'd be quite annoyed. I'd rather just know and move on.
Is it easier to flirt with people you don't know or those you do know?
With those I know. Although my girlfriend thinks I flirt with everybody and anybody, which I'm not, it's just my way I suppose. But there is a difference between being nice and going all out to flirt with somebody. :rascal:
Do you finding it easy to flirt with pretty much anyone or do you need to want to flirt with your flirtees?
If I find somebody attractive, be it their personality or physically I find it very easy to flirt, sometimes a bit too easy.
As a flirtee - do you take any serious notice of the flirter?
It depends, if it's only in the forum and there are lots of and :lol: all over the post, then probably not! But if it continues into PMs and texting/phone etc then I might begin to believe they are really interested.
No. And I hope they wouldn't with me either, but I'm sure some people do, so I tend to take people flirting with me with a large pinch of salt. I'm less of a flirter and more of a 'pay a person a genuine' compliment kinda gal.
Can you still flirt with people you don't really respect/like or does their have to be at least something about the person you like to freely flirt?
I don't think I have ever flirted with a person I don't like/respect (at the time
). I don't really believe in telling people what they want to hear, otherwise you could find yourseld in a very difficult situation.I'm the kind of person that likes/needs to know where I stand, so if somebody didn't like me but didn't have the guts to just tolerate me quietly and even went as far as flirting with me I think I'd be quite annoyed. I'd rather just know and move on.
Is it easier to flirt with people you don't know or those you do know?
With those I know. Although my girlfriend thinks I flirt with everybody and anybody, which I'm not, it's just my way I suppose. But there is a difference between being nice and going all out to flirt with somebody. :rascal:
Do you finding it easy to flirt with pretty much anyone or do you need to want to flirt with your flirtees?
If I find somebody attractive, be it their personality or physically I find it very easy to flirt, sometimes a bit too easy.
As a flirtee - do you take any serious notice of the flirter?
It depends, if it's only in the forum and there are lots of
and :lol: all over the post, then probably not! But if it continues into PMs and texting/phone etc then I might begin to believe they are really interested. Can you still flirt with people you know you do not find attractive in RL?
I find I flirt with most, its not meant to be disrespectful but I do...
Can you still flirt with people you don't really respect/like or does their have to be at least something about the person you like to freely flirt?
If I don't like them I try not to even talk to them... let alone flirt! If respect is lost for whatever reason no I would not flirt either.
Is it easier to flirt with people you don't know or those you do know?
Both are just as much fun...
Do you finding it easy to flirt with pretty much anyone or do you need to want to flirt with your flirtees?
I find it easy.... and fun!
As a flirtee - do you take any serious notice of the flirter?
No never take anything serious on here... if after we met I would though and often do!
Mike xx
I find I flirt with most, its not meant to be disrespectful but I do...
Can you still flirt with people you don't really respect/like or does their have to be at least something about the person you like to freely flirt?
If I don't like them I try not to even talk to them... let alone flirt! If respect is lost for whatever reason no I would not flirt either.
Is it easier to flirt with people you don't know or those you do know?
Both are just as much fun...
Do you finding it easy to flirt with pretty much anyone or do you need to want to flirt with your flirtees?
I find it easy.... and fun!
As a flirtee - do you take any serious notice of the flirter?
No never take anything serious on here... if after we met I would though and often do!
Mike xx
:shock: I was actually thinking about this very subject today PL... It was mainly the last question "As a flirtee - do you take any serious notice of the flirter?" that I was thinking about... Wierd :lol2:
Cheers Dammie, I dont need to type it all out :thumbup: :lol2:
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Just a thought (or five).... When you are online:
Can you still flirt with people you know you do not find attractive in RL?
Yes. (that might become clear further down)
Can you still flirt with people you don't really respect/like or does their have to be at least something about the person you like to freely flirt?
No. I can (publicly) flirt with people I don't necessarily have the hots for, but not with people I actually dislike.
Is it easier to flirt with people you don't know or those you do know?
If I'm in a flirtatious mood, it doesn't really matter how well I know them - or not. But there has to be a certain response for me to continue.
Do you finding it easy to flirt with pretty much anyone or do you need to want to flirt with your flirtees?
As above really
As a flirtee - do you take any serious notice of the flirter?
I don't get "flirted at" very much these days, but I've always viewed the public/forum flirting as part of the fun, bollox and banter of the place. The "serious" "intentional" "shall we take this a stage further" type is normally done in private.
I suppose it depends how "flirting" is defined.
Cheers Dammie, I dont need to type it all out :thumbup: :lol2:
Sex God
Can you still flirt with people you know you do not find attractive in RL?
Yes.
Can you still flirt with people you don't really respect/like or does their have to be at least something about the person you like to freely flirt?
Yes.
Is it easier to flirt with people you don't know or those you do know?
About the same.
Do you finding it easy to flirt with pretty much anyone or do you need to want to flirt with your flirtees?
As above
As a flirtee - do you take any serious notice of the flirter?
Yes if it means I can get me leg over. :grin:
Yes.
Can you still flirt with people you don't really respect/like or does their have to be at least something about the person you like to freely flirt?
Yes.
Is it easier to flirt with people you don't know or those you do know?
About the same.
Do you finding it easy to flirt with pretty much anyone or do you need to want to flirt with your flirtees?
As above
As a flirtee - do you take any serious notice of the flirter?
Yes if it means I can get me leg over. :grin:
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i think that it all depends on your sex?. Women flirt for fun and don't seem to care who they flirt with. Men flirt in the vain hope that they might sometime get into someones knickers, so they will flirt with anything that they might have a remote chance with
What if you don't flirt at all and just head straight for the pants? :twisted:
