Of those who use the forums.....would you say this was a lifestyle choice that was going to, or that had lasted over the years......weather you be playing once a week/month/night.....That you felt was a part of you/your relationship/marriage.
Insomuchas that you couldnt imagine not doing it, or being in a monogamous sex life again
or that it was/is something you are dabbling in to see what its like and dont intend to stay long, or that you could look back and say...."yep I can say I tried it"
this all made sense in my head.......what i think Im trying to say is, do you see yourselves as always doing this, or is it a short lived thing to pep up a waning sex life/enhance an already good one/try something new.
I think I can safely say I/we're dabblers, and Im sad to say I think that, for me certainly, its been taken as far as it could, or that I want it to be taken.....weather this will change in the future or not I dont know.
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Sex God
Being a single person on here, I suppose I'm mid-way between being a dabbler and a lifer. I'd love to think that I have a really exciting, debauched and stimulating sex life ahead of me for many, many years to come but I don't exactly know what form that will take.
If I were to find myself in a relationship and my partner was 100% set on monogamy then fair enough - he'd just have to be a great shag to keep me interested!
Erm... I've not really answered your question have I?
If I were to find myself in a relationship and my partner was 100% set on monogamy then fair enough - he'd just have to be a great shag to keep me interested!
Erm... I've not really answered your question have I?
Sex God
Neither... I've retired.
Ooh, Boney.
How can I answer this?
Cowbag. (TM Splendips)
It's been a part of our reationship from word go. Literally. Before I met the OH, I'd have deemed myself a one man woman. Well, a string of one men- but one at a time.
Then a fair few debauched years later comes the realisation that I still am at heart.
But by this point, there are two men. :confused:
I guess I've never gotten 100% from any sexual experience I wasn't 100% relaxed about. I trust these two utterly. What's more- between the two of them they tick all my boxes. There are a very definate two sides to my coin- one of them sorts my head while the other sorts my tail. That sounds so wrong.
So now we're in this situation- long may it continue. I won't give up hubby, and I don't want to give up my fwb.
So, having been there & done that, and having bought a T-shirt in every shade- I can safely say that I'm a one man woman with two men. Or a one horned two eyed fying purple people eater. I'm not sure.
:doh:
How can I answer this?
Cowbag. (TM Splendips)
It's been a part of our reationship from word go. Literally. Before I met the OH, I'd have deemed myself a one man woman. Well, a string of one men- but one at a time.
Then a fair few debauched years later comes the realisation that I still am at heart.
But by this point, there are two men. :confused:
I guess I've never gotten 100% from any sexual experience I wasn't 100% relaxed about. I trust these two utterly. What's more- between the two of them they tick all my boxes. There are a very definate two sides to my coin- one of them sorts my head while the other sorts my tail. That sounds so wrong.
So now we're in this situation- long may it continue. I won't give up hubby, and I don't want to give up my fwb.So, having been there & done that, and having bought a T-shirt in every shade- I can safely say that I'm a one man woman with two men. Or a one horned two eyed fying purple people eater. I'm not sure.
:doh:
Sex God
Swabbler me!
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Sex God
When I was with MrFB, it was just another part of what we did. A lifestyle choice, yes. He's gone now and I'm alone and it's still my choice, but mainly for all the friends I have. I don't know that I'm likely to be in a monogamous relationship ever, now (maybe too old for starting all that relationship stuff again?)- most of the people I get on with best are in this lifestyle too, in one form or another.
Sex God
Im definitely a one man woman but I've discovered that I like women sometimes too so although we do only dabble, I think we're likely to be doing it for a while yet 
I don't know if I'm a lifer or a dabbler.
I am not keen on "lifestyles", I just do things that I enjoy for as long as I enjoy them.
I wouldn't describe myself as a swinger much as I wouldn't describe myself as a straight male cd bi curious shoe fetishist although such a label would be equally valid.
I am not keen on "lifestyles", I just do things that I enjoy for as long as I enjoy them.
I wouldn't describe myself as a swinger much as I wouldn't describe myself as a straight male cd bi curious shoe fetishist although such a label would be equally valid.
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....I wouldn't describe myself as a swinger much as I wouldn't describe myself as a straight male cd bi curious shoe fetishist although such a label would be equally valid.
Didn't I meet you at a Dogging site the other night near that picnic table and were you wearing Tweed?
Sex God
I was a career swinger :twisted: currently having time out :cry: but I will be back :twisted: :twisted:
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I would never say that swinging is a lifestyle choice, I don't know what it is about that phrase but the whole idea of a "lifestyle choice" makes me want to scream
It's just part of my sex life, which I hope will be active for a few more decades yet! I like variety in sex so I'd imagine that swinging will remain part of that, not necessarily a constant but as and when I want it along with all the others things I enjoy
It's just part of my sex life, which I hope will be active for a few more decades yet! I like variety in sex so I'd imagine that swinging will remain part of that, not necessarily a constant but as and when I want it along with all the others things I enjoy
We are dabblers at the mo. Only met 1 person so far a couple of times and its been a lot of fun. Just taking it one step at a time as we dont want anything to affect our relationship, that has to come first.
Realy interested in looking at the club scene in future though, just have to see what happens
Realy interested in looking at the club scene in future though, just have to see what happens
Ummm I joined this site for NSA sex as I was single and didn't want the hassle of a relationship.. and got a shag within a week :P
however many years later and I am in a relationship- we met in a nightclub- and we are both swingers and neither of us would have it any other way.
Were I to separate from worlass and I met someone else I wouldn't entertain a relationship with someone who sought to have a monogamous relationship with me. I don't want to do it. I have no need to do it. I don't want that from any partner I have. Sex to me is a hobby and I would no more ask someone to give up hobby than I would give up sex for them.
I can't think of any reason why I would 'have' to be monogamous and that isn't the issue really. Swinging is a hobby pure and simple some people do it well and others not so well. Some people invest time into it some people think that having all the 'gear' makes them an expert.
I just like it and I get as much out of it as I put in.
Did that make any sense? I felt like I was trying to explain it (again) to my bessie mates who thought that when worlass moved in that we would 'settle down' which was seemingly a euphemism for 'being monogamous'
however many years later and I am in a relationship- we met in a nightclub- and we are both swingers and neither of us would have it any other way.
Were I to separate from worlass and I met someone else I wouldn't entertain a relationship with someone who sought to have a monogamous relationship with me. I don't want to do it. I have no need to do it. I don't want that from any partner I have. Sex to me is a hobby and I would no more ask someone to give up hobby than I would give up sex for them.
I can't think of any reason why I would 'have' to be monogamous and that isn't the issue really. Swinging is a hobby pure and simple some people do it well and others not so well. Some people invest time into it some people think that having all the 'gear' makes them an expert.
I just like it and I get as much out of it as I put in.
Did that make any sense? I felt like I was trying to explain it (again) to my bessie mates who thought that when worlass moved in that we would 'settle down' which was seemingly a euphemism for 'being monogamous'
As with a few others on here we joined the site as a couple in a relationship looking to further our sexual adventures and gain new experiences.
Fast forward 4 years and we are now singles who swing together. We found that the site offered us something we had perhaps always fantasised about but never really pursued as we, like most vanilla couples, thought swingers were all weirdos. Thankfully we braved the unknown and met some fantastic, liberated and great people(and a few weirdos :shock: ).
Myself and miss srne are not together in a relationship but both missed the freedom, excitement and fun we had swinging and just meeting ppl from the site, and on occasion put our add back up and reply to a few that catch our eye.
We have only actually had 2 meet ups since we decided to call time on our relationships, once with a couple who I have become good pals with, and one with a single male whom we never saw again.
We dont use the site that regularly now and I (mr) pop on every now and again to read the forums and reply to a few adds stating the old "we are a swinging only couple who meet separately" which strangely never gets a reply. I do miss the days when we used to open our inbox an be inundated with replies to meet as a couple but like a lot of the single guys I have spoken to have said, you get out of the site what u put in an I'v been a bit of an occasional visitor of late so cant really expect too much.
So............lifer or dabbler?
To be continued.............
Fast forward 4 years and we are now singles who swing together. We found that the site offered us something we had perhaps always fantasised about but never really pursued as we, like most vanilla couples, thought swingers were all weirdos. Thankfully we braved the unknown and met some fantastic, liberated and great people(and a few weirdos :shock: ).
Myself and miss srne are not together in a relationship but both missed the freedom, excitement and fun we had swinging and just meeting ppl from the site, and on occasion put our add back up and reply to a few that catch our eye.
We have only actually had 2 meet ups since we decided to call time on our relationships, once with a couple who I have become good pals with, and one with a single male whom we never saw again.
We dont use the site that regularly now and I (mr) pop on every now and again to read the forums and reply to a few adds stating the old "we are a swinging only couple who meet separately" which strangely never gets a reply. I do miss the days when we used to open our inbox an be inundated with replies to meet as a couple but like a lot of the single guys I have spoken to have said, you get out of the site what u put in an I'v been a bit of an occasional visitor of late so cant really expect too much.
So............lifer or dabbler?
To be continued.............
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As with a few others on here we joined the site as a couple in a relationship looking to further our sexual adventures and gain new experiences.
Fast forward 4 years and we are now singles who swing together. We found that the site offered us something we had perhaps always fantasised about but never really pursued as we, like most vanilla couples, thought swingers were all weirdos. Thankfully we braved the unknown and met some fantastic, liberated and great people(and a few weirdos :shock: ).
Myself and miss srne are not together in a relationship but both missed the freedom, excitement and fun we had swinging and just meeting ppl from the site, and on occasion put our add back up and reply to a few that catch our eye.
We have only actually had 2 meet ups since we decided to call time on our relationships, once with a couple who I have become good pals with, and one with a single male whom we never saw again.
We dont use the site that regularly now and I (mr) pop on every now and again to read the forums and reply to a few adds stating the old "we are a swinging only couple who meet separately" which strangely never gets a reply. I do miss the days when we used to open our inbox an be inundated with replies to meet as a couple but like a lot of the single guys I have spoken to have said, you get out of the site what u put in an I'v been a bit of an occasional visitor of late so cant really expect too much.
So............lifer or dabbler?
To be continued.............
Wow - blast from the past - hope you guys are well x
Sex God
Ello Srne 
I feel sad.....kind of a failure TBH.......I cant explain it in a coherent way, so I will just babble away for a wee while if I may........
Although swinging hasnt been a raging success for us, I/we have had some really good times, and some very horny times. We've definately had a hell of a lot of new experiences, having been totally monogamous since we met aged 14 & 15.
I personally have made a lot of good friends on here both real life ones and cyber ones, which I value a hell of a lot.....some of those lasted.....some petered out for one reason or another.
I dont know weather its because I am pregnant and/or because of hormone fluctuations, but Ive gone off sex, and thinking back on low days I do feel kind of dirty and cheap for doing what I have done....hence the reason for feeling like a failed swinger.
I so wanted it to be a regular thing we could enjoy for years to come, and for the most part I am sorry that its all fizzled out.....like I say, maybe its hormonal/tiredness/baby related and will all come back and soon we will be back raring to go.
One of the reasons I dont wanna go completely is cos of the people ive made friends with, I'd hate to lose that completely and I feel that they wouldnt continue into real life if I was to leave altogether.
what can I say Im a hormonal and soppy pisces who needs a damn good kick up the arse!! :kick:
yours.....dabbler but wannabe lifer, cheshire xxx
Although swinging hasnt been a raging success for us, I/we have had some really good times, and some very horny times. We've definately had a hell of a lot of new experiences, having been totally monogamous since we met aged 14 & 15.
I personally have made a lot of good friends on here both real life ones and cyber ones, which I value a hell of a lot.....some of those lasted.....some petered out for one reason or another.
I dont know weather its because I am pregnant and/or because of hormone fluctuations, but Ive gone off sex, and thinking back on low days I do feel kind of dirty and cheap for doing what I have done....hence the reason for feeling like a failed swinger.
I so wanted it to be a regular thing we could enjoy for years to come, and for the most part I am sorry that its all fizzled out.....like I say, maybe its hormonal/tiredness/baby related and will all come back and soon we will be back raring to go.
One of the reasons I dont wanna go completely is cos of the people ive made friends with, I'd hate to lose that completely and I feel that they wouldnt continue into real life if I was to leave altogether.
what can I say Im a hormonal and soppy pisces who needs a damn good kick up the arse!! :kick:
yours.....dabbler but wannabe lifer, cheshire xxx
Sex God
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Ello Srne
Hands off, I saw him first! :twisted:
Yeah, but - sod off! :kiss:
Share? :twisted:
Sex God
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Retired dabbler here.
Does that mean you've retired from dabbling to become a lifer then??
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I feel sad.....kind of a failure TBH.......I cant explain it in a coherent way, so I will just babble away for a wee while if I may........
Although swinging hasnt been a raging success for us, I/we have had some really good times, and some very horny times. We've definately had a hell of a lot of new experiences, having been totally monogamous since we met aged 14 & 15.
I personally have made a lot of good friends on here both real life ones and cyber ones, which I value a hell of a lot.....some of those lasted.....some petered out for one reason or another.
I dont know weather its because I am pregnant and/or because of hormone fluctuations, but Ive gone off sex, and thinking back on low days I do feel kind of dirty and cheap for doing what I have done....hence the reason for feeling like a failed swinger.
I so wanted it to be a regular thing we could enjoy for years to come, and for the most part I am sorry that its all fizzled out.....like I say, maybe its hormonal/tiredness/baby related and will all come back and soon we will be back raring to go.
One of the reasons I dont wanna go completely is cos of the people ive made friends with, I'd hate to lose that completely and I feel that they wouldnt continue into real life if I was to leave altogether.
what can I say Im a hormonal and soppy pisces who needs a damn good kick up the arse!! :kick:
yours.....dabbler but wannabe lifer, cheshire xxx
Shut the feck up woman. Go have a good cry.
If it's had it's time, it's had it's time. As for regrets, they're futile. Leave them behind.
Some of us will be your friends forever & ever. Deal with it.
Sex God
I think we are definately lifetime/career swingers but only physically do it possibly three or four times a year. To us swinging is more than just having recreational sex, it is about how we relate to each other and other people we meet. It is a freedom that allows us to talk about our fantasis and about our desires, it is about being open and honest with each other and being able to say 'oh I fancy him/her' and knowing that there is definately no reason to be jealous or hurt by it.
So when it comes to the physical swinging I suppose we are 'dabblers' but the emotional side, we are definately lifers
and Mrs BD, I bet you are absolutely blooming as a result of all those little hormones doing somersaults all round your body
So when it comes to the physical swinging I suppose we are 'dabblers' but the emotional side, we are definately lifers
and Mrs BD, I bet you are absolutely blooming as a result of all those little hormones doing somersaults all round your body
Sex God
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I think we are definately lifetime/career swingers but only physically do it possibly three or four times a year. To us swinging is more than just having recreational sex, it is about how we relate to each other and other people we meet. It is a freedom that allows us to talk about our fantasis and about our desires, it is about being open and honest with each other and being able to say 'oh I fancy him/her' and knowing that there is definately no reason to be jealous or hurt by it.
So when it comes to the physical swinging I suppose we are 'dabblers' but the emotional side, we are definately lifers
and Mrs BD, I bet you are absolutely blooming as a result of all those little hormones doing somersaults all round your body
See, now that's what I would love to find: to me that's sort of the holy grail... till then, can I be a single lifer?
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I think we are definately lifetime/career swingers but only physically do it possibly three or four times a year. To us swinging is more than just having recreational sex, it is about how we relate to each other and other people we meet. It is a freedom that allows us to talk about our fantasis and about our desires, it is about being open and honest with each other and being able to say 'oh I fancy him/her' and knowing that there is definately no reason to be jealous or hurt by it.
So when it comes to the physical swinging I suppose we are 'dabblers' but the emotional side, we are definately lifers
and Mrs BD, I bet you are absolutely blooming as a result of all those little hormones doing somersaults all round your body
See, now that's what I would love to find: to me that's sort of the holy grail... till then, can I be a single lifer?
You mean your looking to have nookie with Mary Magaline.....if you believe the da vinci code that is...not that dan brown wrote about Mary having lesbian sex with Nola but you know what I mean, If fact as good as the book is imo...why not add a bit of that...i'm rambling now...signing off
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