i have read this interesting post and seen it split abit.
im a paid up member of a forum that promotes swinging, i would say at the moment im not a swinger as i have yet to play so to speak even if i have commented a little bit. i have a job that would have no effect whats so ever on me, to be honest im still waiting to find the so called desperate house wife that wants a tradesman to help her so to speak.
But arnt we a minortiy group ? should we not be having goverment funding and help to get other members of society understand us? there are plenty of other groups that get this help or am i just being facetious
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I have several face pics on my profile and occasionally make them public. But I do not choose to have them freely accessable all of the time because I do worry about what would happen if someone from work were to see them. It isn't anything to do with being ashamed of my sexual identity, it's to do with not wanting to explain my sexual identity to work collegues unless I choose to.
I am openly bisexual with all friends and family and with most of the people at work, but there are still people I choose not to tell. It's my choice. Nothing to do with shame or guilt, lots to do with ' Too much effort to enlighten some people, I'd much rather not make the effort'
I suppose it also has to do with the nature of my work - I work with children and there are people knocking around who don't think anyone with any kind of sexuality that deviates from what they percieve as normal should be allowed within ten miles of children. A complete load of bollocks, yes, but not something I can be arsed arguing with at work. So I choose to remain vaguely annonymous-ish.
I am openly bisexual with all friends and family and with most of the people at work, but there are still people I choose not to tell. It's my choice. Nothing to do with shame or guilt, lots to do with ' Too much effort to enlighten some people, I'd much rather not make the effort'
I suppose it also has to do with the nature of my work - I work with children and there are people knocking around who don't think anyone with any kind of sexuality that deviates from what they percieve as normal should be allowed within ten miles of children. A complete load of bollocks, yes, but not something I can be arsed arguing with at work. So I choose to remain vaguely annonymous-ish.
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Does it change my ability or inabilty to do my job? NO.
As for declaring it to my work... Either I can do my job, or I can't. My sexual preferences and choice to/not disclose private details do not define my brain power nor work abilities.
Hmmm. Good viewpoint, but all the assholes AT work are just that....assholes. Deviation from the norm is not allowed (for others)
Things get more interesting if your worplace arranges blood donor sessions. They get even more interesting if you have been to a GUM clinic with an STI. If you do, and you have any arrangement with your employer for employment medicals (etc), you would be well advised to not have the clinic give details of your illness and/or treatment to your gp.
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I hope not!I don't see it's any business of employers what your sexual habits are
So why the need for hiding who you are?
Turning this on it's head. Why should I tell my employers about my sex life? Vanilla's aren't expected to reveal if it's their thing to go to a nightclub on the pull and pick up a different partner every weekend, so why should I tell my employers about my sexual preferences? Who I have sex with, when, why and how I have sex with them concerns no-one else but the people actually having that sex.
True Say,
If i was to go to a night club on a saturday nite and pull i would be cal a stud,but because i go to a swinging club i would be classed as some one who is rong.
Some people at work have a hint that i am in the scene but no1 has had the bulls to ask, would i tell the truth, how i would i deal with it, i am not sure.
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I'm a teacher - some might see that as a bit of a conflict, when I'm supposed to teach children about morals and sex within a secure loving relationship.
I think that has more to do with a very odd convention regarding this "sex in a secure loving relationship" thing...
OK, so for some people monogamy works, and that is great for them and happy ever after. But for some people it doesn't work, and within an honest and trusting relationship (such as those enjoyed by many SH couples) an open and adventurous sex life can be enjoyed.
As we hear many times over in the press, some quite "respectable" sorts are involved in some truly horrific activities... Most swingers are pretty chilled out people, comfortable in their own skin and generally quite trustworthy (hello, can you imagine going into a vanilla club and trusting naked strangers to abide by your wishes and limits?).
Also the swinging scene is quite small, and so people tend to protect their reputations by behaving in a way that compared with many folks in vanilla life is exemplary, open and communicative...
I don't really have a "killer punch" point here... I'm just dismayed by the small-mindedness, hypocrisy and intrusiveness of the teachers' employer, and offended by the journalism. It makes me sad, angry and protective.
Hence, no face pics on profile. I may be a single male (insert cliche here), but chances of my boss recognising my penis from my ad... well, it's not huge! (the penis that is
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