Change of mind after ejaculation

hi guys, I've had a long standing fantasy for a while now. When my wife is riding me doggy style, after I ejaculate into her, I want her to immediately move up and straddle my face forcing me to clean her up. However the second I ejaculate I totally change my mindset and push her away even though she is very keen to have me clean her out. Why do I change my mind? How can I get over this? Anyone had similar mind changes the second they ejaculate? Cheers.

perhaps you have not tasted ur own cream yet and dont know if you ;ll like it --    try wanking into your hand ( on ur own ) and try a few mouthfuls for starters  -  licking out can follow later    just a thought 

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hi guys, I've had a long standing fantasy for a while now. When my wife is riding me doggy style, after I ejaculate into her, I want her to immediately move up and straddle my face forcing me to clean her up. However the second I ejaculate I totally change my mindset and push her away even though she is very keen to have me clean her out. Why do I change my mind? How can I get over this? Anyone had similar mind changes the second they ejaculate? Cheers.

 The brain is the biggest sex organ, according to science and endless anecdotal anecdotes. ?Perhaps, after the physical conscious act is achieved in your own mind's fantasy, the reality becomes something else. 

How to get around this requires forethought about where your fantasy will actually lead you and you should ask yourself the question,  is your fantasy really one that you want to live out and does the end game meet your wife's desires and fantasies too?

hi been there and done that.

i am just the same i want to but as soon as i shoot the whole idea changes and i cant go through with it keep trying and its the same every time, seems very strange to me too !

Had that feeling many a time.. I always say to D, once I come,  get off and suck my cock clean..but once I have cum, the urge passes me by and I tell her not to bother.. although she had done it many a time.I like nothing more than chatting about exciting horny things during sex..but has soon has I have cum they are soon forgotten and the urges pass.. it's all about the orgasm.. once that happens all the endorphins are released and you feel satisfied at that point. Like Bell412 says,  your brain is the biggest sex organ. I think,  the older you get this becomes more comment to you.  

that is the same with me and I have cleaned up when we have had 3somes but only before I spunked

I must agree with Mr & Mrs Bad, you can do anything you feel, prior to that moment, then all sexual urges close down. Two ways we have found is the lovely lady to wipe some in your mouth whilst you are still ejaculating, or cum deep inside her and ask her to get you horny again by any means, if your lucky the urge returns and you can then enjoy foreplay eating your own warm cum from her. Only managed this once but was great to do, we worth a try!

When I fancy this I ask Lin to scoop my spunk off herself (or me) and feed it to me...she always obliges and it works every time. Another cert is after completing a bj, instead of swallowing she kisses me and we share spunk and her pussy juices. Love it :-)

B J method is perfect, as the lady pushes the cum into your mouth at temperature. Do we all agree that our own tastes good?

@ sensicum. Perhaps you need to explore chastity and orgasm denial. It's quite simple. You get locked, your wife holds the key, she gets to fuck who she wants and you get to clean up. All the while, your mind will be full of willingness to satisfy HER desires and if you do a good job, she might release you from your cage and reward you with a ruined blow job. If your wife reads this. I can guarantee she'll be leaking into her knickers at the thought :lickface:

Hi we had a similar situation, love the thought of it then pop and all desire to taste it gone. We got past this by me cumming in Mrs A's mouth and then her kissing me and pushing it back into my mouth, had to do it a few times before we got past it, now no issues with licking it from anywhere.

Hi guys, UPDATE we've been playing about with ruined orgasms recently. My wife has taken me very close to the point of no return and I've dribbled out some cum into her hand without the feeling of a full ejaculational release. This still keeps me with my pre cumming horny mindset and she's fed my cum into my mouth from her hand. I gobbled it down no problem and have got used to the taste. It's her birthday next week and she wants me to fully ejaculate into her then sit on my face and have me clean her up. I'm a bit nervous but at least I'm used to the taste now. She wants me to not cum all week so I have a full load. Wish me luck...

You can imagine how many men I see, who once they have cum have second thoughts about the whole thing! xx

good luck dande

I like the taste of my own cum but I have to wait about 5mins and keep it warm before I can really injoy it. Try just keeping your cock inside your partner for 5mins then taste her. good luck

This is the normal physiological response in men post-orgasm and it signals the start of the refractory period during which it's not possible for him to have further orgasms. At the point of ejaculation, oxytocin and prolactin are produced by the body. Prolactin suppresses dopamine which is key in sexual desire, hence the rapid loss of feelings of desire.

I'd happily demonstrate :love:

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This is the normal physiological response in men post-orgasm and it signals the start of the refractory period during which it's not possible for him to have further orgasms. At the point of ejaculation, oxytocin and prolactin are produced by the body. Prolactin suppresses dopamine which is key in sexual desire, hence the rapid loss of feelings of desire.

i've always wondered what the score was regarding this unhappy state of affairs.. used to drive the wife nuts!! almost feel like texting her now with the explanation.. sorreee ex missus x lol ;)

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  Anyone had similar mind changes the second they ejaculate? .

 It's physiological. When a man comes, he goes into what's called a "refractory period", during which time it is physically impossible for most men to maintain arousal due to a cocktail of brain chemicals. One of these is Prolactin, which represses the desire hormone dopamine and often causes sleepiness. There is an evolved reason why this happens: Most men are incapable of multiple orgasms because It is painful and potentially damaging to maintain arousal once you have come. The prolactin is thus a defense mechanism. Ladies, if you've had a kidney stone, the pain of excessive male arousal is almost identical, just in case you were curious, i.e. fucking excrutiating. If your man is deficient in Prolactin, when you're done congratulating him for his staying power, pity him for the pain he doesn't want to tell you about.

I think it is easier to clean up another man's cum than to clean your own.

Same... Would love it.. and I just assumed it would be easier with the wife being more forceful.. but we've still not managed it.. odd..

I often lick out my partner once I've cum inside her.

The first couple of times were challenging with the desire going once I'd cum but now it's no problem and we often have sex now with the sole intention of her getting licked to massive orgasm after I've filled her

i just love to lick a spunky clit but it has to be another guys spunk

My problem has been that once I cum, my mood changes so I try to cum last. That means I can get up to all kinds of filthy things.

I’d love to drink another man’s cum from his wifes arsehole

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hi guys, I've had a long standing fantasy for a while now. When my wife is riding me doggy style, after I ejaculate into her, I want her to immediately move up and straddle my face forcing me to clean her up. However the second I ejaculate I totally change my mindset and push her away even though she is very keen to have me clean her out. Why do I change my mind? How can I get over this? Anyone had similar mind changes the second they ejaculate? Cheers.

Don't cum fully. Edge and let cum leak out. You will still be aroused enough to do it then.

If you cum first it’s only right that you lick your missus to orgasm. That’s when you get to eat your cream pie.

We both love snowballing my spunk, and the technique we’ve found that works for us is that after I’ve cum Sharon keeps it nice and warm in her mouth for a good while before kissing me deeply and transferring my creamy load into my mouth before I gladly swallow it for her.

There is no way I could even think of doing that immediately after I’ve spunked, but if she gives me a minute or two before dribbling it into my mouth and kissing me it is absolutely wonderful!

Once I have cum. All I want then is a cup of tea. 🤣

I love doing this after some young guy has shot his seed deep inside my wife. We then share the proceeds with some sexy kissing mmmmm😋

It’s not uncommon to change your mind after you have cum. I too can lose interest afterwards but not always these days. I try to cum last but that’s no good in this scenario is it? Keep trying and one day you will be so horny, you’ll do it