i just been using the chat room for a few hours today and some of yesterday and it seems like unless your sorta known no one really talks to you..but the problem is how do you get known?
See what i mean?
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Errrrr, dunno. When I joined the forum I just barged in on a few conversations, that seemed to work 
. I'm not that familiar with the chat room so I don't know whether that would work there. Whether it be the forum or the room, be polite and patient and people will accept you, no problem
. I'm not that familiar with the chat room so I don't know whether that would work there. Whether it be the forum or the room, be polite and patient and people will accept you, no problem 
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I am no authority on the subject, but i can only give you my experiences. The more you watch the banter in the main room, the more you get to know those who come in regular.
OK, you may be looking to meet people...but bear in mind that not everybody is. Consider it a local pub kind of place. You wouldn't just barge in and ask a complete stranger to go to bed with you, but people do respond to others who are non-pushy and funny.
People will go out of their way to chat to you, once they know that you are courteous and can have a laugh.
Good luck! :bounce:
OK, you may be looking to meet people...but bear in mind that not everybody is. Consider it a local pub kind of place. You wouldn't just barge in and ask a complete stranger to go to bed with you, but people do respond to others who are non-pushy and funny.
People will go out of their way to chat to you, once they know that you are courteous and can have a laugh.
Good luck! :bounce:
Hi Paul, as an ex chat roomee I am afraid there is no one answer to solve your ills.
On a chat room like this one of course there are groups of friends that know each other well and tend to spend most of their time chatting to each other . Thats just natural you feel the conversation is of such a general nature that you would not be rude and intrusive by joining in feel free to make a comment and test the water.
If your comments to the cliques go unanswered just move on.
There are always plenty of others sitting on the sidelines just watching the room waiting for somebody to say something interesting(and thats the tricky bit) that may seduce them into conversation."Anyone fancy a shag?" does not elicit the required response ...although, I must confess, I haven't tried it myself.
Also be aware that the majority of people in the room are going to be males looking for (but usually not finding) some action. This doesnt always promote garrulous behaviour.
Asking for help on issues often invokes a response or a clear definition of who you are and what your looking for can also reap its rewards.
The mods are usually a good bunch and give good oral and site characters like judyTv are also good orators and helpful as well.
So its really up to you ...if you sit there like a shrinking violet then you'll most probably shrink. Be cheerful, polite, friendly and inobtrusive and I am sure you will get your rewards.
Good luck
Patience (as in dogging) is the key word.
On a chat room like this one of course there are groups of friends that know each other well and tend to spend most of their time chatting to each other . Thats just natural you feel the conversation is of such a general nature that you would not be rude and intrusive by joining in feel free to make a comment and test the water.
If your comments to the cliques go unanswered just move on.
There are always plenty of others sitting on the sidelines just watching the room waiting for somebody to say something interesting(and thats the tricky bit) that may seduce them into conversation."Anyone fancy a shag?" does not elicit the required response ...although, I must confess, I haven't tried it myself.
Also be aware that the majority of people in the room are going to be males looking for (but usually not finding) some action. This doesnt always promote garrulous behaviour.
Asking for help on issues often invokes a response or a clear definition of who you are and what your looking for can also reap its rewards.
The mods are usually a good bunch and give good oral and site characters like judyTv are also good orators and helpful as well.
So its really up to you ...if you sit there like a shrinking violet then you'll most probably shrink. Be cheerful, polite, friendly and inobtrusive and I am sure you will get your rewards.
Good luck
Patience (as in dogging) is the key word.
I am a regular in the chatroom and totally agree with what niceguysdoexist and Andy has said.
You get a lot of guys in there asking "anyone fancy a shag, ive got a 10 inch dick". That attitude gets you nowhere.
Then you get the ones that say hi and then instantly ask for pvt. 9 times out of ten when you say no a pvt, they do it anyway.
The secret is, to join in, get to know people, try not to sound like a 15 year old gagging for a shag and dont piss anyone off by being pushy and sending unwanted pvts.
You just have to bear in mind that single guys in there hugely outnumber the fems and couples.
Just remember to be patient and polite and you will be fine.
If all else fails and you see me in there, come and pester me, i will look after you
Shelly XXX
You get a lot of guys in there asking "anyone fancy a shag, ive got a 10 inch dick". That attitude gets you nowhere.
Then you get the ones that say hi and then instantly ask for pvt. 9 times out of ten when you say no a pvt, they do it anyway.
The secret is, to join in, get to know people, try not to sound like a 15 year old gagging for a shag and dont piss anyone off by being pushy and sending unwanted pvts.
You just have to bear in mind that single guys in there hugely outnumber the fems and couples.
Just remember to be patient and polite and you will be fine.
If all else fails and you see me in there, come and pester me, i will look after you
Shelly XXX
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If all else fails and you see me in there, come and pester me, i will look after you
shelly my dear, do you EVER pass up an excuse for a bit of a tart? good girl
;-)paul, ditto to all of the above. sit back for a while, watch who's a reg, say hi, be funny, don't push. throw in the odd line to convo's that look 'open' and keep just saying hi to those you recognise. in time the regs will be less wary and will start chatting back, even if it's only a hi in return! it won't take long to get chatting, but it will STILL take you ages to get a meet, unless you're very very lucky! t'is the only way forward in my experience!
as one single male to an other ((( assumed ))) we have a hard time in there cos of the numpty's shelly mentioned. but trust me patience reaps it's own rewards in time.
neil
