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the forum socials are so far apart!!!!!!!!!!!!
and always very well attended.....
but when was the last one near london?????
may??
noticed etfcboys just started a thread for the next one (november) :bounce: :cheers:
so the room ones r good fill ins.......and some of the chat socials are advertised on here anyway
and always very well attended.....
but when was the last one near london?????
may??
noticed etfcboys just started a thread for the next one (november) :bounce: :cheers:
so the room ones r good fill ins.......and some of the chat socials are advertised on here anyway
Sex God
Quote by neilinleeds
i've only speed read the 5 pages, so apologies if this is redundant, but darkfire that divide has always been there. there's always been a seperation between chat, forum, and ad users. some crossover obviously, but they have always been fairly distinct and seperate groups of users, as long as i've been here?
that seperation is still evident at munches, when i continually find myself pondering a name badge i don't know cos they are chat users. i'm not sure we are any more divided than we have ever been? natural gravitation to the medium that suits us best.
socials and munches have always been arranged on the forum, and chat users have had to make a conscious effort to log into the forum, which used to mean registering and activating a forum account just so you could post an interest. in some cases that caused problems cos the forum user organising didn't know the chat user asking for an invite. these days it's easier, but that doesn't change the fact we have fairly disticnt communities. if forum users now have to prove themselves to chat room based organisers, it's kinda even handed? so long as the invite is open to all, i don't see a problem?
neil x x x ;)
:thumbup:Thats what I was wanting to say, but I kinda got hung up on other issues.
It is actually easier now to integrate than it was before the changes because of the unified log in system. Thanks for reminding me about the forums registration thingies Neil! :kiss: What a faff that was!
We used to have to register for the chatrooms, register for the photo adverts using an email address and register for the forums too (I guess thats why so many were left with multiple accounts in the change over).Then it was very divisive and only a small amount of people from chat and adverts crossed into the forums. I was a chatroomer and only joined the forums because a forumite had come to the room to bully us all to log into the boards in order to break the most users online record! :lol: Thats why loads of us oldies have the same join date! (yeah we beat the record at a whopping 107 people! or something like that! :lol: )
The nightmare of finding out 'who was who' often lead to having people vouch for others far more regularly back then. Now, you just click on their profile button and it shows you all the information an event organiser could want to make sure the person/people asking for an invite is real. If gut instinct tells you to get more information then a simple PM or conversation can sort that aspect out too.
Not everyone will know absolutely everybody in person, so I'd expect a chatroom based social to be as well organised as a forum based one, with all the same precautions, thought and effort gone into it. I'd have no problems with someone from the chatroom asking me for more information in order to get an invite, afterall, they might not know me either.
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Gem. x
to be honest i think this is a resurrected forum / chatroom social munch debate which i was party too earlier in the year. still some interesting views but like someone else said i've only speed read this due to time factor, however lots of forum users views keep stating the chatroom peeps don't come into forum to get known etc, but do forum users reciprocate ie do they really venture into chatrooms it works both ways to get known.
can't post on individual comments as never made notes while reading 5 pages, tut. still all i wanna say is due to lack of meets here in notts/ derby area we started local socials here in january and they've grown in number since, from 11 at first meet to 42 at last meet. it's held in a vanilla public house and we've not had 1 single disturbance, we get 3 single fems most months who will tell you they feel very safe coming to them.
please don't be put off by lots of guys attitude in the chatroom, while they maybe 50 miles away on a computer full of bravado, if and i say if (cos like says 90% don't show) if they turn up they are the quiet ones, anyone especially single females should feel comfortable attending a local social just as much as they should attending there local pub,
can't post on individual comments as never made notes while reading 5 pages, tut. still all i wanna say is due to lack of meets here in notts/ derby area we started local socials here in january and they've grown in number since, from 11 at first meet to 42 at last meet. it's held in a vanilla public house and we've not had 1 single disturbance, we get 3 single fems most months who will tell you they feel very safe coming to them.
please don't be put off by lots of guys attitude in the chatroom, while they maybe 50 miles away on a computer full of bravado, if and i say if (cos like says 90% don't show) if they turn up they are the quiet ones, anyone especially single females should feel comfortable attending a local social just as much as they should attending there local pub,
just spent a merry hour or so reading all the pages and pages of thought on the subject of social meets vs forum munches and although we are way too new on this site to be able to offer a definitive answer we do feel we have something to say - and who knows it could be of some help and assitance to some.
as members of the site who have organised a number of succesful social meets we would offer the following thoughts/observations
1. yes these meets are cliquey - generally invites are given exclusively to no more than 10/20 people who have chatted regularly and have enjoyed each others 'company' in one or more rooms.
2. although every single person attending the meet is nervous the nerves disappear very quickly once the handshakes and smiles start appearing
3. the meets are open to any person(s) who have made an impression within any room that any of the regular room attendees use - but are only given out in confidence (normally by pm) with precise location staying secret till a few hours before
4. we would freely invite any of the forum regs/mods/chat room ops or forum users to come and join us in chat (most evenings in server 3 - BBW's etc) and you'll see that the deadhead brigade get short shrift and that most evenings there is a lively chat ranging over many subjects- although obviously not in the same depth that is done on the forum
if you can spend a few hours in the same chat room as us and still feel threatened or wary of social meets then perhaps chat room socials really are not for you - on the other hand we find an open mind will often lead to an open invitation to great socialising - whatever form that socialising takes
we hope that this adds to the debate and hopefully the invitation may lead to a few more crossovers - till eventually chat OR forum is not an option but crossover is the norm.
laff n chilli
as members of the site who have organised a number of succesful social meets we would offer the following thoughts/observations
1. yes these meets are cliquey - generally invites are given exclusively to no more than 10/20 people who have chatted regularly and have enjoyed each others 'company' in one or more rooms.
2. although every single person attending the meet is nervous the nerves disappear very quickly once the handshakes and smiles start appearing
3. the meets are open to any person(s) who have made an impression within any room that any of the regular room attendees use - but are only given out in confidence (normally by pm) with precise location staying secret till a few hours before
4. we would freely invite any of the forum regs/mods/chat room ops or forum users to come and join us in chat (most evenings in server 3 - BBW's etc) and you'll see that the deadhead brigade get short shrift and that most evenings there is a lively chat ranging over many subjects- although obviously not in the same depth that is done on the forum
if you can spend a few hours in the same chat room as us and still feel threatened or wary of social meets then perhaps chat room socials really are not for you - on the other hand we find an open mind will often lead to an open invitation to great socialising - whatever form that socialising takes
we hope that this adds to the debate and hopefully the invitation may lead to a few more crossovers - till eventually chat OR forum is not an option but crossover is the norm.
laff n chilli
Quote by redwine_lover
Personally I feel more (shall we say) uncomfortable with a bunch of drunks who THINK they know me (even though we have never met before) and therefore THINK it is acceptable to be over familiar.
i must admit is does feel kinda wierd when you go to a munch and people come over to you and start talking to you like thier your best m8 and your stood there thinking "who the hell are you" :shock:
i often think that when u come and talk to me!! who the feck is she???? do i know her lol
RWL
xxx
yeah yeah
Quote by the_Laird
Personally I feel more (shall we say) uncomfortable with a bunch of drunks who THINK they know me (even though we have never met before) and therefore THINK it is acceptable to be over familiar.
i must admit is does feel kinda wierd when you go to a munch and people come over to you and start talking to you like thier your best m8 and your stood there thinking "who the hell are you" :shock:
Maybe they are just starstruck at seeing you NN
......awake
oh excuse me while i stop laughing and get off the floor
We've never been to a munch as living in Norfolk they are all quite a we've never been invited to one as you usually have to know someone who can vouch for you. Now chat room socials are alot easier to attend they are usually local to start with and you dont have to know anyone just turn up and introduce yourself. Obviously you do have to be in the chat room to know about the 've been to one such social and it was a nice relaxed event and lovely to put faces to names.
Quote by Laff_n_Chilli
the social i am tryiong to sort has been posted in the LMU and chat forum, and i also post a link in chat every now and then,
pls help us - wat is the LMU??
LMU is a section of the forum called LEts Meet Up, where you can see info for socials munches and meets, found in the swinging heaven forum index
Sex God
Quote by markandnicky
LMU lol
how much of a forumite do i sound lol
That's it now, you've blown it!
Orgasminator
Quote by Laff_n_Chilli
the social i am tryiong to sort has been posted in the LMU and chat forum, and i also post a link in chat every now and then,
pls help us - wat is the LMU??
OoOoO going totaly off topic...
I see you're from conwy, I know a lovely couple from there... had many a great night in the little pub on the quay that is half built into the castle wall, and watching the river festival a couple of years back.
Money permitting I so want to visit there again as its such a lovely place and within 20mins drive you can be in the middle of no-where and were it not for the fact there was a road you are almost in the wilderness of un-touched and modernised land.
I took loads of pictures of the bridge and got into a real deep and meaningfull chat to the lass who was working there (she was cute, but I didnt want to scare her by showing my portfolio, lol)
Also the tinyest house was errrrrm, tiny, lol, probably the pre-cursor to londons over priced and stupidly small housing, lol.
