Quote by blueandpink
My thoughts entirely
does that make me part of a clique as i am agreeing with you??
pink x
No, we had a vote and you got a black ball
Stormy, your're talking in riddles, what d'ya mean?
pink x
I think they use this in groups to reject someone from a group... I think! :lol:
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Quote by blueandpink
My thoughts entirely
does that make me part of a clique as i am agreeing with you??
pink x
No, we had a vote and you got a black ball
Stormy, your're talking in riddles, what d'ya mean?
pink x
It's called blackballing. Not a strange sexual practice I'm afraid. When someone wants to join a club the voting members have to out either a white ball or a black ball into a bag. If you get one black ball you're rejected.
Sex God
My thoughts entirely
does that make me part of a clique as i am agreeing with you??
pink x
No, we had a vote and you got a black ball
Stormy, your're talking in riddles, what d'ya mean?
pink x
It's called blackballing. Not a strange sexual practice I'm afraid. When someone wants to join a club the voting members have to out either a white ball or a black ball into a bag. If you get one black ball you're rejected.
Ah i see now, thx Jaymar and Keeno. OK I'll get me coat
bloody damn i thought Stormy was asking me on a bowling date
Sex God
Quote by jaymar
I have noticed in the past that people have had really warm welcomes by loads of people in here but when they come to make threads of their own or post some more the welcomers are nowhere to be seen until there is something they don't agree with!... I think everyone in here should admit that on occasions some people will only stick to posting on threads of people they know unless there is something to argue about.
Talking of whether or not to welcome newbies posting, I must admit that I judge people a fair bit by their choice of nic. I think you can tell a lot about someone by their choice of nic, and however charming their first posts might seem, I would not feel inclined to welcome someone with a nic like "Hardcock4u".
Not long ago I saw a couple complaining that they were being ignored in chat. Their nic? Suckandfuck, or something like that. I wasn't really surprised.
Of course people are free to choose the nic they like, but they cannot avoid being judged on their choice. 
Sex God
Quote by Happy Cats
I dont post much in here now, but looking from the outside I dont think there is a clique, just a lot of names I dont recognise. I dont believe it is anymore or less cliquey here than elsewhere or real life.
bloody hell look who's ruffin it
hi m8 not seen you for ages
you goin the "NW" ?
clique :roll: ye! right! :wink:
Quote by MikeNorth
Talking of whether or not to welcome newbies posting, I must admit that I judge people a fair bit by their choice of nic. I think you can tell a lot about someone by their choice of nic, and however charming their first posts might seem, I would not feel inclined to welcome someone with a nic like "Hardcock4u".
Not long ago I saw a couple complaining that they were being ignored in chat. Their nic? Suckandfuck, or something like that. I wasn't really surprised.
Actually Mike, that's a really good point as you've just made me realise that I do it too, without even thinking
:P
Sex God
Quote by Happy Cats
you goin the "NW" ?
I wanted to but apparently I dont know the right people
:laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove:
want me to put a word in for you?
im on the door
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: Quote by Bloke2005
Talking of whether or not to welcome newbies posting, I must admit that I judge people a fair bit by their choice of nic. I think you can tell a lot about someone by their choice of nic, and however charming their first posts might seem, I would not feel inclined to welcome someone with a nic like "Hardcock4u".
Not long ago I saw a couple complaining that they were being ignored in chat. Their nic? Suckandfuck, or something like that. I wasn't really surprised.
Actually Mike, that's a really good point as you've just made me realise that I do it too, without even thinking
:P
I have to admit to being totally guilty of this too.
Some names I read actually repulse me.
I actually wanted to start a thread about it a while back but thought it may end up upsetting some people.
Sex God
Quote by Kiss
Talking of whether or not to welcome newbies posting, I must admit that I judge people a fair bit by their choice of nic. I think you can tell a lot about someone by their choice of nic, and however charming their first posts might seem, I would not feel inclined to welcome someone with a nic like "Hardcock4u".
Not long ago I saw a couple complaining that they were being ignored in chat. Their nic? Suckandfuck, or something like that. I wasn't really surprised.
Actually Mike, that's a really good point as you've just made me realise that I do it too, without even thinking
:P
I have to admit to being totally guilty of this too.
Some names I read actually repulse me.
I actually wanted to start a thread about it a while back but thought it may end up upsetting some people.
and your point :? :roll:
Right Bloke, you have started a right old debate here you right old debate starter (could i have gotten another right in there?). I am now officially starting a clique on SH, to be in it you have to either be a swinger, interested in swinging, have heard about swinging or been on a playground swing at least 3 times for longer than 1 minute.
Or alternatively be a member of SH!!
Anyone wanna join?
Or alternatively be a member of SH!!
Anyone wanna join?
Quote by Srne
Right Bloke, you have started a right old debate here you right old debate starter (could i have gotten another right in there?). I am now officially starting a clique on SH, to be in it you have to either be a swinger, interested in swinging, have heard about swinging or been on a playground swing at least 3 times for longer than 1 minute.
Or alternatively be a member of SH!!
Anyone wanna join?
Can i join please :bounce:
This clique thing raises it's head every so often and I've been a member now coming up 3 years and have often been "accused" of being in such and such a clique!
In all walks of life, in all areas, so called cliques appear and personally I've put it down to a bit of jealousy and insecurity. And I've been guilty of an accuser and the accused!
In the playground at school there's always a group that you "want to be part of", at work there's always the haves and have nots, on the internet there always those who appear to be having more fun and more in jokes .. generally they are the people who take time to get known, who put effort into posting and listen/watch twice as much.
The site isn't cliquey unless you just want status and don't want to put any effort into being known!
Cx
In all walks of life, in all areas, so called cliques appear and personally I've put it down to a bit of jealousy and insecurity. And I've been guilty of an accuser and the accused!
In the playground at school there's always a group that you "want to be part of", at work there's always the haves and have nots, on the internet there always those who appear to be having more fun and more in jokes .. generally they are the people who take time to get known, who put effort into posting and listen/watch twice as much.
The site isn't cliquey unless you just want status and don't want to put any effort into being known!
Cx
Has anyone else noticed that the peeps with the more,ahem, hardcore names don't tend to stick around long in the forums? With a few exceptions, of course. I think there are perhaps two possible reasons.
unwittingly alienate other forumites who, perhaps equally unwittingly, find themselves gravitating towards someone called "Doncasterdave", and away from "PussyPounder". First impressions count-and if you have a hardcore name IMHO you'll work harder to prove you're not looking for a quick shag site and that you'll fit in with the community.
've put very little thought into a name, and how it will lead to them being percieved as they're only here for a quick shag anyway.
unwittingly alienate other forumites who, perhaps equally unwittingly, find themselves gravitating towards someone called "Doncasterdave", and away from "PussyPounder". First impressions count-and if you have a hardcore name IMHO you'll work harder to prove you're not looking for a quick shag site and that you'll fit in with the community.
've put very little thought into a name, and how it will lead to them being percieved as they're only here for a quick shag anyway.
I was going to call myself Johnny Alpha but didn't think anyone would get the joke, then decided on 'deperate4ashag' but thought that too obvious.
I didn't want to use my usual net name as I use that for work as thay are too tight to give me a work emaiil address despite emailing me stuff all the time, and didn't want it showing up on a google search when the mayor or somone was trying to contact me, so I chosse the name I have here which kind of describes me to non-freaky people but doesn't narrow it down enough for me to be immediately identifiable... till I remembered I had put pics up, so I made them private.
Oh - what puts me off?
I really should take notice of the actual topics when I am responding and stuff but I do tend to blabber on about nothing (you'll all learn to ignore most of what I post as irrelevent) - but, yeah.
What was the topic again?
Oh! I know!
What puts me of!
Off even! (see what I did there - I noticed my own typo and instead of just editing it I drew attention to it! I am so cool and alternative...
Where was I?
Well, as my primary reasson for being here isn't actually to get laid - I see that as a possible bonus of making new friends - anything that's 'Just come to me, cum and go' is nowhere near my scene.
I fully respect that and understand that the whole annonymity thing is a huge appeal, but it just doesn't appeal to me.
I would never go dogging, for instance, but I'd happily go to a big party where everybody was... ahem... getting it on with everybody else... but I'd want to at least know something about the people I was connecting with sexually. That may make me sound a bit prudish, but it's just the way I am.
Sex has to be fun - which means I have to connect on some level with any partners I have - I can't do the completely annonymous thing without getting all maudlin.
I am making no sense. I should just go to bed...
I didn't want to use my usual net name as I use that for work as thay are too tight to give me a work emaiil address despite emailing me stuff all the time, and didn't want it showing up on a google search when the mayor or somone was trying to contact me, so I chosse the name I have here which kind of describes me to non-freaky people but doesn't narrow it down enough for me to be immediately identifiable... till I remembered I had put pics up, so I made them private.
Oh - what puts me off?
I really should take notice of the actual topics when I am responding and stuff but I do tend to blabber on about nothing (you'll all learn to ignore most of what I post as irrelevent) - but, yeah.
What was the topic again?
Oh! I know!
What puts me of!
Off even! (see what I did there - I noticed my own typo and instead of just editing it I drew attention to it! I am so cool and alternative...
Where was I?
Well, as my primary reasson for being here isn't actually to get laid - I see that as a possible bonus of making new friends - anything that's 'Just come to me, cum and go' is nowhere near my scene.
I fully respect that and understand that the whole annonymity thing is a huge appeal, but it just doesn't appeal to me.
I would never go dogging, for instance, but I'd happily go to a big party where everybody was... ahem... getting it on with everybody else... but I'd want to at least know something about the people I was connecting with sexually. That may make me sound a bit prudish, but it's just the way I am.
Sex has to be fun - which means I have to connect on some level with any partners I have - I can't do the completely annonymous thing without getting all maudlin.
I am making no sense. I should just go to bed...
Quote by Bloke2005
Yes, it's the 'clique' word that pops up ever so often on here so I thought I'd create a post about it
So what are they really and do they really exist?
Are they only called that because people who ain't 'in them' (and shouldn't be) but want to be and can't... in fact, if they got 'in' they'd discover that there isn't really a clique at all - just a group of similar people who know how to conduct themselves and get along as a result. I think it has a lot to do with possessing basic social skills...
Are there really cliques here, there and elsewhere and what can we do about them or do we need to do anything at all?
Is there a Forum clique, a Chat clique, a Munch clique, a Social clique, a Dogging clique or is is really just that we each like different things and prefer sharing similar environments with similar people to enjoy them? I think so
What do you think?
I dont think there are cliques, more like there are regular users and there are less regular users, more regular users get to 'know' each other more and hence have more in jokes etc than thos (like me) who dont really have a flucking clue what's going on!
Not cliques just heavy users,medium users and light users.
Sex God
well, i'll tell you, when i first joined, this place was rife with pigging cliques. there was the chatroom clique, the forum clique, the i'm so not in the chatroom / forum clique, and wouldn't wanna be in 'em anyways, so i'm sticking with the not in the chatroom / forum clique clique, and then there was the newbie clique just wishing they had the option to decide if they wanted to be in a clique or not, and the clique of those who just generally looked down their noses at everyone elses cliques, in an ironic kinda way, knowing that they were in a their own little clique anyways, and so on.
bluddy cliques wherever you looked! course, i was in all of 'em at some point. i was sometimes even in several of 'em simultaneously, once i'd learned all the code words and funny handshakes and stuff. was always fairly easy to penetrate their borders and infiltrate, you know? ;)
i think part of that is maybe because the oldies have got a bit fed up repeating themselves. i could post on lots of threads, but i get halfway through the typing, and think 'neil, you must have posted this same loada bollox a million times already!' and i mostly hit the back button. no reflection whatsoever on the thread, the poster, whatever. just, if it bores me to tears typing the damn thing, i sure as hell ain't gonna bore anyone else with it! ;)
that does inevitably mean i only really post when . . .
a) someone on my wavelength leaves something dangling that gives me the chance to post something different.
b) someone not on my wavelength posts something a bit naive, that i might be able to shed some light on.
c) someone posts some out and out shite that gets the ole blood boiling.
these days i tend to avoid option c wherever poss, and i ain't reg enough to pick up on a and b. nowt to do with cliques. it's a matter of how much time do i have, and how can i make the most of that time? inevitably, that means i spend most of my time chatting shit with the people who get me?
i'd just about go so far as to say there are those who give the appearance of cliquishness, very occasionally, but generally they ain't so precious about it that they'd pass up on new recruits that may, or may not, be on their particular wavelength. ;)
neil x x x ;)
bluddy cliques wherever you looked! course, i was in all of 'em at some point. i was sometimes even in several of 'em simultaneously, once i'd learned all the code words and funny handshakes and stuff. was always fairly easy to penetrate their borders and infiltrate, you know? ;)
Can I ask a question for the people who have said "no there are no cliques."? Do you honestly and openly talk to new people after the initial welcomes? I would suggest that most do.. but there are some who do not and I've noticed this.
I have noticed in the past that people have had really warm welcomes by loads of people in here but when they come to make threads of their own or post some more the welcomers are nowhere to be seen until there is something they don't agree with!
... I think everyone in here should admit that on occasions some people will only stick to posting on threads of people they know unless there is something to argue about. Is this fear of rejection from their pals?
i think part of that is maybe because the oldies have got a bit fed up repeating themselves. i could post on lots of threads, but i get halfway through the typing, and think 'neil, you must have posted this same loada bollox a million times already!' and i mostly hit the back button. no reflection whatsoever on the thread, the poster, whatever. just, if it bores me to tears typing the damn thing, i sure as hell ain't gonna bore anyone else with it! ;)
that does inevitably mean i only really post when . . .
a) someone on my wavelength leaves something dangling that gives me the chance to post something different.
b) someone not on my wavelength posts something a bit naive, that i might be able to shed some light on.
c) someone posts some out and out shite that gets the ole blood boiling.
these days i tend to avoid option c wherever poss, and i ain't reg enough to pick up on a and b. nowt to do with cliques. it's a matter of how much time do i have, and how can i make the most of that time? inevitably, that means i spend most of my time chatting shit with the people who get me?
i'd just about go so far as to say there are those who give the appearance of cliquishness, very occasionally, but generally they ain't so precious about it that they'd pass up on new recruits that may, or may not, be on their particular wavelength. ;)
neil x x x ;)
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hi all..first post for her. i was wondering if the fems found that they had no problem with cliques....as a fem is welcome into most rooms/chat.... i can understand how hard it is for the guys, as they have to say some thing pleasent to get past us fems... ...got to ask is this a fair thing to say guys...?????
...got to ask is this a fair thing to say guys...????? I'm not sure I'd go along with the place being rife with cliques, but it's certainly easy to think it is. It seems to me there's a core group who have a similar mindset and so are drawn to each other whilst seeming unapproachable by those who don't share that mindset. That core group make up most of the posts, probably as a result of the "outsiders" not knowing or maybe even wanting to fit in, thereby making the forum seem very cliquey indeed.
Now, that may mean that actually, yes, there is a clique, or it may simply be a fact that like minded people are going to become more established. I know from mainly lurking that there's less obvious seperate cliques now than a couple of years ago (which makes fitting into a comfortable one much harder) but as a perpetual outsider I definitely feel there is an unwritten code of conduct which has to be followed to be accepted - Ie there is very much a clique of sorts.
More importantly, does it matter if there's a clique? To me, yes and no. On the one hand feeling more comfortable interacting in the forums might (on a wannashag level) help in meeting and undressing people, as well as generally being pleasant simply to have a laugh. But on the other hand, not fitting right in might make any friendships/ meetings that do arise from the forum more meaningful as to not be part of the clique suggest at least common not shared mindsets, if that makes sense?
Having said all that, if there is a screwed up sleep pattern insomniac perv clique looking for new recruits, point me in the right direction!
Now, that may mean that actually, yes, there is a clique, or it may simply be a fact that like minded people are going to become more established. I know from mainly lurking that there's less obvious seperate cliques now than a couple of years ago (which makes fitting into a comfortable one much harder) but as a perpetual outsider I definitely feel there is an unwritten code of conduct which has to be followed to be accepted - Ie there is very much a clique of sorts.
More importantly, does it matter if there's a clique? To me, yes and no. On the one hand feeling more comfortable interacting in the forums might (on a wannashag level) help in meeting and undressing people, as well as generally being pleasant simply to have a laugh. But on the other hand, not fitting right in might make any friendships/ meetings that do arise from the forum more meaningful as to not be part of the clique suggest at least common not shared mindsets, if that makes sense?
Having said all that, if there is a screwed up sleep pattern insomniac perv clique looking for new recruits, point me in the right direction!
