Visited a high-profile club with my swing partner for the first time last night. We were both a touch on the nervous side but with more than a hint of excitement too.
On getting to the venue and after being shown around we disrobed and headed to the wet area where we sat and chatted to each other while we gathered our bearings about how to become a bit more involved.
We decided to go for a drink and so perched ourselves on a sofa next to the TV in an area that was already heavily populated with couples who were obviously regulars and knew each other well. Without wanting to appear brash and to go steaming into a conversation we might have known absolutely nothing about, we stayed on the fringes. We carried on chatting to each other but also occasionally glancing at the TV.
One of the large group then started complaining that the TV - that was on when we arrived in the bar area - was a distraction. An incredibly rude young lady then said, gesturing at us "Well it's those two that are watching it, none of the rest of us could give a fuck."
Excuse me? I wouldn't talk to a dog like that, let alone two people who have feelings like anybody else does. Like I said, we weren't expecting to be welcomed with open arms and legs by people but is a bit of humility too much to ask?
This, combined with single males feigning ignorance about the notion of a COUPLES ONLY room, has left us a bit unsure about whether we'd like to go again.
I'm aware that this is all a bit whingey, possibly even a bit soft, but it's really angered my partner and I.
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Quote by Mr Writer
I'm aware that this is all a bit whingey, possibly even a bit soft, but it's really angered my partner and I.
Personally I dont think that it is in the least bit whingey or soft and I have no doubt that it did anger you. Make sure you either name the club here or failing that, put a "suitable" review on the clubs page.
Quote by fruity1976
Ive never been to a club but would like to sometime but that kinda thing would definetly put me off! Put it this way if thats the way they are would you really have wanted to swing with any of them with an attitude like that!!
Definitely not. She was a 'fit but you know it' case who I felt was looking down her nose at us as clear newbies.
As if I care. She may be good looking but the laughs and the conversations about anything and everything that I can have with my swing partner far outweigh anything this spiteful little madam could ever offer me. So ner!
Fuck that and no offence but Im really not into overly "fit" people but then I suppose we all just have different tastes I thihnk theres definetly more ina persons personality than in their looks so much so that Id have to say Im more turned on by personality than looks although I am fussy too so.........??? I dunno suppose just not always too easy to please or sommit like that!
I think if I went to a club with loads of fit people Id feel really uncomfortable?? Be like playing a part in invasion of the bodysnatchers haha
I think if I went to a club with loads of fit people Id feel really uncomfortable?? Be like playing a part in invasion of the bodysnatchers haha
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Why do "fit" people think they can do that to others!! Makes me mad!!!!! If I got that sort of treatment anywhere I'd be pissed off!!!. I would do as others have suggested and post a review on the club involved! That is just "crap"!!!!
aRSeexx :color:
I dunno, beautiful.
You, on the other hand....
See? It's just another form of bigotry. Not all "fit" people are tossers.
Sex God
I agree with those who say that you should definitely post a review on the club website and the club section in here.
I notice you say it was a "high-profile" club. The one I go to is one of the more down-to-earth ones, both in clientele and surroundings, and I have never experienced any such "superior" behaviour by anyone there.
Such behaviour is unforgivable, but sadly not entirely unexpected. I suppose some people are bound to feel insecure in such an environment, and an easy way out of that is to try and make someone else feel insecure instead.
Mike.
I notice you say it was a "high-profile" club. The one I go to is one of the more down-to-earth ones, both in clientele and surroundings, and I have never experienced any such "superior" behaviour by anyone there.
Such behaviour is unforgivable, but sadly not entirely unexpected. I suppose some people are bound to feel insecure in such an environment, and an easy way out of that is to try and make someone else feel insecure instead.
Mike.
Sex God
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Why do "fit" people think they can do that to others!! Makes me mad!!!!! If I got that sort of treatment anywhere I'd be pissed off!!!. I would do as others have suggested and post a review on the club involved! That is just "crap"!!!!
aRSeexx :color:
I dunno, beautiful.
You, on the other hand....
See? It's just another form of bigotry. Not all "fit" people are tossers.
Huh? Fit? People who are conscious of being fit are Tossers! Bigotry? What the fluck that's got to do with it?
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It's just another form of bigotry. Not all "fit" people are tossers.
I agree with you Vix - 'cos you is fit and not a tosser
!!But these people obviously were!! SO I shal pre-phrase my answer to stipulate only these particular fit people
LOL........I think she was complimenting you rainbows.
Mind you...............can't say I blame her
I think its important not to sway to far from the original post.....Not been to loads of clubs,but from what I know of the staff in clubs we have attended,they would be horrified to think a new member/members would be treated in this the staff dont care and wouldn't do something to help the newcomers,then the club just isn't worth attending.
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Personally I dont think that it is in the least bit whingey or soft and I have no doubt that it did anger you. Make sure you either name the club here or failing that, put a "suitable" review on the clubs page.
Sadly, I don't think the club reviews page is being updated FeeBee
Anyone know different on this? Do the SH hosts post on here?x C.
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Personally I dont think that it is in the least bit whingey or soft and I have no doubt that it did anger you. Make sure you either name the club here or failing that, put a "suitable" review on the clubs page.
Sadly, I don't think the club reviews page is being updated FeeBee
Anyone know different on this? Do the SH hosts post on here?x C.
You just need to PM Mark - the site owner/administrator. And yes, he does post - look for the bloke with the scary hair!!
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewpost/352811.html#352811
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You just need to PM Mark - the site owner/administrator. And yes, he does post - look for the bloke with the scary hair!!
Have done. None of my reviews made it but I didn't know who to PM. Will see what he says. (I think the scary hair is a tribute to the David Lynch film Eraserhead btw)
Orgasminator
Quote by Vix
Huh? Fit? People who are conscious of being fit are Tossers! Bigotry? What the fluck that's got to do with it?
Calm down, dear. Its only an advert.
"hello mum, i'm on the TV"
"Well get of him and put your clothes back on before your father gets home."
:lol: :lol: Damn I think I've been watching to much telly, especially will and grace... which I'm off to watch now
only been to the 1 club myself G.O.E in leicester twice with SH people twice alone, and that sort of asttitude wouldnt be looked kindly on
Its like the old saying "most the really fit fuckers have shit for brains, the normal people can hold a conversation"
well it wasnt an old saying but it is now :P my apologioes to the really fit ladies here as I am not implying you have shit for brains....you wouldnt stil be here if you did
Its like the old saying "most the really fit fuckers have shit for brains, the normal people can hold a conversation"
well it wasnt an old saying but it is now :P my apologioes to the really fit ladies here as I am not implying you have shit for brains....you wouldnt stil be here if you did
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my apologioes to the really fit ladies here as I am not implying you have shit for brains....you wouldnt stil be here if you did
He He He ........and I'm saying nowt about Mrs Comparison being really fit and having shit for brains cos she'd kick my head in when she gets back from Goa...........lol
Hi - Mark's just PM'd me saying there's a big backlog of reviews on the clubs pages. Running a couple of 'hobby' websites in my spare time and with the time pressures of normal life I know how hard it can be to keep everything up to date. Maybe a dedicated 'club review' thread in the forum could be a possibility?
Back on the original post of this thread - I'd add my support to everyone else that has posted here; but also say maybe let's not blow it up too much - the comment might have been a crass attempt at breaking the ice or just someone opening their mouth without their brain in gear and probably regretting it later. We all make mistakes. Not saying forgive or forget, but maybe writing it off as a one-off bad night might be a simple and positive option too.
I think the singles going into the couples room is a bit off - someone (pref a regular) should have reported it and the management come down firmly, but after the fact it's much harder to do anything. Again, I'm not wanting to play devil's advocate so much as just try and see a way forward. The sort of behaviour you mention always gets my goat, but of course I have usually thought of a contsructive/witty/sensible way to handle it by the time I get home rather than on the spot when it's needed.
Better luck next time - and rest assured most clubs don't see such behaviour (quite interested to know which one it was - PM me if you don't want to name and shame but feel ok about letting me know).
All the best xxx Chris :therethere:
Back on the original post of this thread - I'd add my support to everyone else that has posted here; but also say maybe let's not blow it up too much - the comment might have been a crass attempt at breaking the ice or just someone opening their mouth without their brain in gear and probably regretting it later. We all make mistakes. Not saying forgive or forget, but maybe writing it off as a one-off bad night might be a simple and positive option too.
I think the singles going into the couples room is a bit off - someone (pref a regular) should have reported it and the management come down firmly, but after the fact it's much harder to do anything. Again, I'm not wanting to play devil's advocate so much as just try and see a way forward. The sort of behaviour you mention always gets my goat, but of course I have usually thought of a contsructive/witty/sensible way to handle it by the time I get home rather than on the spot when it's needed.
Better luck next time - and rest assured most clubs don't see such behaviour (quite interested to know which one it was - PM me if you don't want to name and shame but feel ok about letting me know).
All the best xxx Chris :therethere:
