Hi guys,
well who else could I go to for advice?
My other half has always hankered after going to a swingers club. Having now shaped up (a lot!) I may just be warming to the idea.....
However, my problem is this. Having done a couple of swaps in the past, its transpired that Im the jealous type (although not obsessively), and he's not. Simple as.
However, he gets off (bigtime) on seeing me with other guys, so thats the "swinging scenario" we've settled into.
My question, therefore is how would this go down at a club/party?
The only one near to us is a place in Maidstone (not sure if its ok to name names but they are on this site) They hold parties on a saturday, with alternate sats allowing "select" single males- so this would obviously be the time to go.
Does anyone have any advice or info they could share?
Many thanks in advance
X W X
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Clubs - a sticky predicament....
My partner and I are in exactly the same situation..................I shag other guys, he doesn't shag other women.
Most clubs will have couples that go off and do their own thing, so you shouldn't have any shortage of guys available to keep you amused. Just because you go as a couple it doesn't mean you both have to participate.
We normally tend to go on a night when single guys are admitted though...............just gives me more choice
Most clubs will have couples that go off and do their own thing, so you shouldn't have any shortage of guys available to keep you amused. Just because you go as a couple it doesn't mean you both have to participate.
We normally tend to go on a night when single guys are admitted though...............just gives me more choice
Thanks, as always guys- thats reassuring.
Still have lots of "OMG everyone will be prettier/ slimmer /younger than me" issues to resolve though!
And thats before I even start the "what am I gonna wear" bit....
Is this normal....LOL!
And has anyone ever been to said place (pleasures)?
Be bad,
W
Still have lots of "OMG everyone will be prettier/ slimmer /younger than me" issues to resolve though!
And thats before I even start the "what am I gonna wear" bit....
Is this normal....LOL!
And has anyone ever been to said place (pleasures)?
Be bad,
W
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Thanks, as always guys- thats reassuring.
Still have lots of "OMG everyone will be prettier/ slimmer /younger than me" issues to resolve though!
And thats before I even start the "what am I gonna wear" bit....
Is this normal....LOL!
And has anyone ever been to said place (pleasures)?
Be bad,
W
we all go through that i did and im a size 22 bbw, i went to a small place in leeds and i was fine they make you feel really welcome and just remember everyone as been in your shoes at some point so they no how you feel at the end of the day you dont HAVE to play, just go suss it out on your first visit thats what i did.
Sex God
as long as you let people know beforehand when you are talking what your preferences are ... then it shouldn't really matter at a club or a party... only thing i would say is, wherever you do decide to play, just make sure there is an even mix of couples/singles.... only beacuse i have been in clubs where it has been overun by single guys, and people have felt intimidated......
i am sure you will have fun... now that you have said that i bet you are going to be overun by pm's...
sean xxxxxxxxxxxx
i am sure you will have fun... now that you have said that i bet you are going to be overun by pm's...
sean xxxxxxxxxxxx
I just wanted to say please don't worry about what you look like when you go to a Club....as long as YOU feel sexy then you shouldn't have a problem because the guys will pick up on it and they'll see you as sexy as well.....
I'm a BBW as well but that doesn't put guys off in the least.....I get loads of action at clubs so please don't worry hun!!
Like Steph said, my Inbox is always open if you fancy chatting about things.....
I'm a BBW as well but that doesn't put guys off in the least.....I get loads of action at clubs so please don't worry hun!!
Like Steph said, my Inbox is always open if you fancy chatting about things.....
Thanks for the reassurance guys- you're worth your weight in gold! Only 2,489 more confidence boosting comments needed before I believe them!!!! (typical woman, I know!)
Anyway, just noticed someone has posted a ? about pleasures in maidstone- will keep a close eye on that.
Now, what to wear...........................
Anyway, just noticed someone has posted a ? about pleasures in maidstone- will keep a close eye on that.
Now, what to wear...........................
Casanova
While it's true that 95% of parties out there are for couples only, there are some geared up for couples where the ladies like the attention of multiple males (simultaneously and/or consecutively) You will find that these parties are great for mixing with likeminded people who share you preferences, and there will also be a good selection of guys there (usually carefully chosen if the organisers has anything about them) to play with.
It's a case of looking out for the right kind of party, and if you are going to a club, not picking the couples-only nights.
Hope that this helps.
It's a case of looking out for the right kind of party, and if you are going to a club, not picking the couples-only nights.
Hope that this helps.
Sexpert
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Thanks for the reassurance guys- you're worth your weight in gold! Only 2,489 more confidence boosting comments needed before I believe them!!!! (typical woman, I know!)
Well here's another "confidence boosting comment" for you ... we have both looked at your photos and think you look great and anyway, who cares what other people think ... if you feel good about yourself, no matter what you look like, what other people think doesnt mean s**t.
It may sound a little strange and even silly but I, Mrs Squirtee, have taken to looking at myself in the mirror just before I go to bed and saying "yeah, you look good tonight"
... it's hard at first but I must admit it does make you feel a little better about yourself. Yes you do feel a bit silly and big headed at first but the more times you do it, the easier it gets and the more confident you become. If you dont like the whole package, just focus on one or two things about yourself you do like, could be your boobs, bum, legs ... well you get the idea ... try it and you just never know 
Awwww shucks!
you guys are sooo sweet!
I'd try standing in front of the mirror complimenting myself- but the snag is the other halfs always in front of it! Cant blame him though- he's lost 5 stone in just over a year & is now working out regularly. We now refer to him as Cat from red dwarf!
Anyway- nice to know all my blood sweat & tears hasnt gone to waste ( & I mean blood literally- I do martial arts now twice a week!) and there are people out there who think im shaggable!
Couldnt agree more that sexy comes from within - I know some very sexy big people & very unsexy slim people. I think that confidence shines though & draws people to you.
Thanks again guys you really, truly are luuurvelly
you guys are sooo sweet!
I'd try standing in front of the mirror complimenting myself- but the snag is the other halfs always in front of it! Cant blame him though- he's lost 5 stone in just over a year & is now working out regularly. We now refer to him as Cat from red dwarf!
Anyway- nice to know all my blood sweat & tears hasnt gone to waste ( & I mean blood literally- I do martial arts now twice a week!) and there are people out there who think im shaggable!
Couldnt agree more that sexy comes from within - I know some very sexy big people & very unsexy slim people. I think that confidence shines though & draws people to you.
Thanks again guys you really, truly are luuurvelly
Warming the Bed
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Awwww shucks!
you guys are sooo sweet!
Yup, we just ooze charm, winchwench! Never mind your size or dress-sense, if your personality is anything like your posts, you'll fit right in.
If you get stuck in
ops: both of you will have some wonderful experiences. :D :D This is Pico (female half), wanted to let u kno that we've been to pleasures a few times and it is feckin blindin! Really good atmosphere, there's a bar downstairs (u take your own drink and they look after it) and it really feels like being in a pub/bar atmosphere. Trust me I know how you feel about going first time.....but there is NO pressure to do anything, infact we went last Sat and didnt play with anyone. Sorry, I'm writing War and Peace here!!! We are also the same (altho I do worry that I am obsessively jealous. lol) I play but Blue watches or plays with me. This has never been a problem because....well it's each to their own, if you know what I mean. It's a great bunch of people who go there, totally non-judgemental. As you get into conversation with peeps you discover what they are there for....kinda like "oh so do you both play?" and it's easy to say "Pico plays but I just love to watch". Last Sat I was asked by a lady if I was bi (bless her, she was playing with my hair for ages but I didn't give her the green light) and I suppose she wanted to know if I would play with her. Oh by the way you have NOTHING to worry about in the looks department.....you may find you fitted in more before your weight loss, hey i'm just being honest. Normal people not models. Try it and you'll be hooked!lol Hope this has been some help cos Itell it how it is, no bull sh it. xxx
Sex God
Your feckin gorgeous, whats the matter with you woman 
Please please please stop feeling negative. I bet theres a thousand and more guys on this site would be grateful just for you to aknowlage(sp) them, let alone anything else.
Be positive, your scrumptiously delicious. make the best of what you are and enjoy it for gods sake.
time stops for no man (or woman) trust me, I know :roll:
now go geddem gal
Please please please stop feeling negative. I bet theres a thousand and more guys on this site would be grateful just for you to aknowlage(sp) them, let alone anything else.
Be positive, your scrumptiously delicious. make the best of what you are and enjoy it for gods sake.
time stops for no man (or woman) trust me, I know :roll:
now go geddem gal
i remember my first time I went to a swinging club, I had all the same things running through my mind, do I look fat? will everyone stare at me? I had hardly any confidence and it didnt matter how many times hubby told me I was sexy it wouldnt sink in until I started getting attention from others and now, well lets say im not shy any more 
:lol: :lol:
oh and about what to wear, id go for something that is at least comfortable as alot of sexy clothing can be very uncomfortable
hope you have a lovely first experience
:lol: :lol: oh and about what to wear, id go for something that is at least comfortable as alot of sexy clothing can be very uncomfortable
hope you have a lovely first experience
