Hi all,
We are a couple who are contemplating trying something new, we are very nervous and not sure what the best way is to try, do we first go to a club, or do we post/answer ads, for meets with couples who are in the same situation?
We just want same room fun, play games with maybe a little touching, but ultimately with own partner, my wife said she may play with the female, and be plyed with, i would maybe up for touching male slightly.
Have most people done the club thing first? or have they gone in at the personal level?
We hope someone could give us some pointers as to the best route forward, if it is to be a club, where are the ones in devon?
Look forward to hearing from anyone.
pNh.
My view would be go to the clubs first.
If you set up a meet with a couple and don't like them, or they don't like you, you're stuffed really, aren't you? There is also the feeling of being obliged to do something in 1-2-1 meetings so as not to dissapoint or waste anyone's time whereas at a party you are free to go as far as you want. You could also spot some folks you think you'll get on with and arrange to meet them in private at a later date.
Hxx
Hiya pNh,
First, the things you are considering are the things that every couple have to consider when they begin to swing, so everyone in here has either been through it, is going through it, or is about to go through it.
Kit and I decided to go for a club first, then at the last moment (well - almost) changed our minds and went for a personal meeting. We are very glad we did as it resulted in a wonderful weekend.
It is a personal choice, we thought that at a club we would have more freedom to sit back and choose how much we wanted to be involved, and were worried that a personal meeting would have more pressure to 'go through with it'.
In the end, it was not like that. The meeting was very relaxed and open and there was no pressure, other than the natural first time nerves.
No easy answers, it very much depends on the type of people you are.
Heathers advice is always good. There is a recent string about Chameleons which may help you, it sounds like that is the sort of introduction you are looking for?
Good luck, and keep asking questions.
LHK
Kat
I think it depends what you're looking for in an experience, but on the whole clubs are probably easier, provided you're not going to be put off by the amount of single guys that go to these places. Perhaps you could try a club that has a couples night - plenty do these days.
I think first and foremost you need to sit down and consider what type of swinging experience you'd prefer...
This is a massive sweeping generalisation, but I think it might help:-
If you're looking to swing with people you actually like, enjoying talki as well as the sex... maybe to meet regularly, or at least more than once, then a more private 1-2-1 meeting with another couple, or a small number of couples would be the better option.
If you're looking for a 'no strings attached' one night stand mad night of sex... just feeling horny, and want to be stimulated by seeing or participating on folk having sex.... then a club would be the better option.
Again, I'll repeat that this is a massively simplistic view... but not a bad starting point from which to start.
If you're worried about feeling under pressure in a 1-2-1 meet, then a) you're already with the wrong couple and b) it's not that much better at a club if you're paranoid and feel like the only folk not joining in.
Oh, and one small rule that you really should always remember...
Agree together on your boundaries - what you will do, and what you won't. NEVER EVER change those rules 'on the fly' whilst you're swinging. Even if your partner agrees at the time. It's a massive source of potential trouble the morning after.
Changing your rules is fine... but always change them in the cold light of day!...
Good Luck!!!!!
/TheKid