clubs v private meets

5 Jul 2005

Ive done "the search button is my friend" thing and found nowt so here goes.
Weve noticed from time to time in threads that some say "never been to a club" or " we only swing in clubs"(us) redface

or "we only do arranged meets" so why is this? .What makes people go for one and not the other?, i know some people do both but for some it is one or the other.
We do the club thing for several reasons,
choice of people to swing with,
if it goes tits up you have other options
no expectations (from all sides)
you can decide on the spot or as the evening wears on what it is/ who it is you want , another couple , a couple of couples, mmf, ffm mmmf etc, etc,
So what is it you prefer and why ?

5 Jul 2005

it takes loads of varieties to make a fruit salad
at the end of the day we all like different things / enviorments
interestingly is it those that used discos when younger for pulling ? prefer clubs as they get older ?

5 Jul 2005

Quote by SXBOY
interestingly is it those that used discos when younger for pulling ? prefer clubs as they get older ?

Definately not! Swingers clubs have nothing in common with discos :shock:
I prefer clubs to private meets pretty much for the reasons dino said - namely, with private meets, if you get bored / don't like the people or whatever, you are a bit stuck for other things to do with the time ! With a club there are many more options, there's more to watch, more to do, it's a more buzzy environment than a private residence, plus the sauna, jacuzzi etc that most private homes don't have!

5 Jul 2005

Personallyi like going to clubs better than private meets and my reasons are
You don't have to waste time sending pics only to find thats all they after mad

You don't have to spend weeks chatting on messenger only to find out its not going anywhere.
B4 going to a club u don't have to worry about if they going to like you or not cause you not going to meet anyone you just going and see whos there wink

Everyone there is genuine
You can see everyone and everyone can see you so its easy to see who u like and who likes you
Theres more to chose from in a club
If the guys done b4 me i can go find another guy :wink: lol
Can have a Jacuzzi in a club, well most have them anyway.
I meet as a single woman as well so clubs are a safe place to go on my own.
theres lots of reason really, i just find private meets to much hasstle, all the pic sending, arranging to meet, finding somewhere to meet, turning up and having them tell u ur not their type after all or having to tell them they not mine etc etc
I just like clubs better lol

5 Jul 2005

We decided that we prefer clubs rather than private meets,this is because there is more variety than just one off meeets also you may meet up and not hit it off and have wasted a whole night that could have been better spent at a club.

5 Jul 2005

Quote by bluexxx
interestingly is it those that used discos when younger for pulling ? prefer clubs as they get older ?

Definately not! Swingers clubs have nothing in common with discos :shock:
thats apoint i am trying to establish ,,your view is different to mine soo worth exploring peoples view ?

5 Jul 2005

I prefer private meets because I am way to embarrassed and shy to pull at a club redface

5 Jul 2005

Quote by Dawn_Mids
I prefer private meets because I am way to embarrassed and shy to pull at a club

soooooooo sweet surprised

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5 Jul 2005

we prefer private meets coz its cheeper than going south of the border every weekend to play :P
then again if we were staying down south id have to say we would prob prefer the clubs

5 Jul 2005

Well you've all sold me on the idea....
Next time I'm within 50 miles of a club I'll be sure to join...
Just a shame they're all miles and miles away from north yorkshire :cry: :cry:
lol

5 Jul 2005

Quote by bluexxx
interestingly is it those that used discos when younger for pulling ? prefer clubs as they get older ?

Definately not! Swingers clubs have nothing in common with discos :shock:
I prefer clubs to private meets pretty much for the reasons dino said - namely, with private meets, if you get bored / don't like the people or whatever, you are a bit stuck for other things to do with the time ! With a club there are many more options, there's more to watch, more to do, it's a more buzzy environment than a private residence, plus the sauna, jacuzzi etc that most private homes don't have!
Bugger, does that mean my white suit's no good then wink

5 Jul 2005

For us its a matter of no choice, ie strangely enough there ar eno clubs on the island
We would like to go to a club one day though

5 Jul 2005

Clubs are OK but why pay good money when you can arrange a meet for free and you know the people you are meeting are compatible? The last time I was at a club, my ex girlfriend didn't fancy anyone so we ended up leaving early as she got bored. (Leaving me to nurse my swolen gland!)
Oh and now I'm single, a club would be a nightmare! The single blokes at the club seem to get no luck and wander around each couple, spending time with them for the couple to go upstairs with another couple! Don't know if they faired any better in the group rooms??
Saying that, I do enjoy the club scene but won't be going back unless I find a female to go with me.
Cheers
Mark X

5 Jul 2005

Quote by markhayman
The last time I was at a club, my ex girlfriend didn't fancy anyone so we ended up leaving early as she got bored. (Leaving me to nurse my swolen gland!)

So.... she didn't even fancy you then rotflmao

5 Jul 2005

Quote by bluexxx
The last time I was at a club, my ex girlfriend didn't fancy anyone so we ended up leaving early as she got bored. (Leaving me to nurse my swolen gland!)

So.... she didn't even fancy you then rotflmao

the probelm with some is they only go to clubs to play with others the idea of having a drink and a jacuzzi and shagging their own partner don't cross their mind, i go to clubs as much to get out, have a chat and a drink, dip my toes in the jacuzzi as for the sex if i only have sex with paul i don't class that as a bad night, some do tho they think cause they payed money they expect sex and say things like ...well i could shag the wife at home for free which is true but its nice 2 get out together and shag in other places too wink

5 Jul 2005

The last thing I wanted was to shag her! I could have saved the cash and did that at home.

5 Jul 2005

It's horses for courses. We've never done private meets, we started swinging in the club scene and just carried on. We only do clubs and very occasional parties or meets with couples we already know. Because of that we've never had a timewaster.
Also, it sounds as if it can be difficult to get a foursome sorted as a private meet, so how hard would it be to sort out 5 or 6 couples for group fun as a private meet? At a club you can do that every week without a problem just by turning up and clubs have the facilities and atmosphere that private houses don't, as others have said.

5 Jul 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
The last time I was at a club, my ex girlfriend didn't fancy anyone so we ended up leaving early as she got bored. (Leaving me to nurse my swolen gland!)

So.... she didn't even fancy you then rotflmao

the probelm with some is they only go to clubs to play with others the idear of having a drink and a jacuzzi and shagging their own partner don't cross their mind, i go to clubs as much to get out, have a chat and a drink, drip my toes in the jacuzzi as for the sex if i only have sex with paul i don't class that as a bad night, some do tho they think cause they payed money they expect sex and say things like ...well i could shag the wife at home for free which is true but its nice 2 get out together and shag in other places too wink

The first time we went to a club we only shagged each other......other people watching us was just as exciting!

5 Jul 2005

we like to do both meet at clubs and private meets just cos your meeting someone it don't mean you will have sex with them but just to have a drink and say hi is nice to as the next time you meet you wont feel so embarrassed and you will have lots more to talk about biggrin

5 Jul 2005

Hmmmmm...bit of a poser is this. Nice one Dino, good test of the old grey matter, just what I needed after a long day at work.
I've never really tried to compare the different aspects of swinging as I find each has it's own merits, however, now I've thought about it here's how I see each environment. In the clubs I find little if any real intimacy. The focus seems to be more on the performing of the act as opposed to the foreplay leading up to it. Foreplay in clubs tends to come in two varieties, the basic 'brace yerself' and the extended 'brace yerself...here it comes'. I do find though that clubs are great when we get an unexpected sitter for the evening and it's too late to make any real plans. On a social level I would much rather be in a swing club as opposed to a vanilla club. I tend not to talk too much when I'm out on the vanilla scene as I hate shouting to compete with the volume level of the music
Private meets at home are by far my favourite. I love the intimacy, the slow build up, kissing...touching...teasing, kind of a long slow seduction that involves all of me and not just my cock. I guess the time limit on the rooms in the club could be a reason why it always seems so rushed there, as opposed to the 'got all night' attitude I have at home.
A third aspect I have to look at is dogging. Over the last couple of months we've visited sites around our local area. The first couple of times we went nothing happened, other than the odd car or van would come and park close by. This was enough to make us nervous so we'd just go park up somewhere quieter and keep it to ourselves so to speak. The next time we went, Lisa gave me the most fantastic bj, made all the better because of the four or five watchers stood by the car. It was an amazing experience and we wanted more. However, Lisa needed the lil girls room so we drove off to find somewhere quiet for her. We had intended to return and pick up the show where we left off but some numpty decided to follow us so we just went home.
The last time we went was just amazing, we put on a full show and it was the horniest thing knowing a whole crowd of people were watching it. Afterwards we chatted with the people there, they were very polite and also amazed it was our first ever full show. This has now become our favourite pastime when we get the 'unexpected sitter' .
Dunno if this will help anyone come to any conclusions about their own experiences but, thanks for the thread mate, I've enjoyed this one. biggrin

5 Jul 2005

Quote by iain_nw
Foreplay in clubs tends to come in two varieties, the basic 'brace yerself' and the extended 'brace yerself...here it comes'.
I guess the time limit on the rooms in the club :shock: could be a reason why it always seems so rushed there, as opposed to the 'got all night' attitude I have at home.

You're meeting the wrong people and going to the wrong clubs then. wink

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

5 Jul 2005

We prefer clubs to private meets. As naughtynymphos said it is just a lot less hassle then sending e-mails and pics. Waiting for the response, the cost of hotels etc. We have only done 2 meets one good one bad. We took the bad one as a sign that it wasn't for us

5 Jul 2005

Quote by markhayman
The last thing I wanted was to shag her! I could have saved the cash and did that at home.

see now personally i think thats a terrable thing to say, is ur partner not worth spending money on and taking out? do u only pay out to shag other people? confused

6 Jul 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
The last thing I wanted was to shag her! I could have saved the cash and did that at home.

see now personally i think thats a terrable thing to say, is ur partner not worth spending money on and taking out? do u only pay out to shag other people? confused

We have gone to clubs and not even shaged each other but still had a good time. Clubs are not just about sex but are a social event.

6 Jul 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
The last thing I wanted was to shag her! I could have saved the cash and did that at home.

see now personally i think thats a terrable thing to say, is ur partner not worth spending money on and taking out? do u only pay out to shag other people? confused

I thought it was a bit nasty too. Maybe that's why she's now his ex rotflmao

6 Jul 2005

Quote by bluexxx
The last thing I wanted was to shag her! I could have saved the cash and did that at home.

see now personally i think thats a terrable thing to say, is ur partner not worth spending money on and taking out? do u only pay out to shag other people? confused

I thought it was a bit nasty too. Maybe that's why she's now his ex rotflmao

well i was going to comment on the fact she was now his ex girlfriend but thought i best not cause i'm not known to be a nasty person :angel:
:haha:

6 Jul 2005

Quote by northwest-cpl
You're meeting the wrong people and going to the wrong clubs then. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

You may well be onto something there smile

Our club experiences are very limited and I guess could still be called first impressions. Still, we live and learn and we're definately up for some re-education :twisted: :twisted:

13 Jul 2005

I find and it is purely personal that clubs are by far the best way to come in contact with other couples for the following reasons
you preserve your anonymity because you can interact within the club and nobody knows where you live or any of your details and remember most couples are more concerned about meeting a couple then the real problem of getting rid of one you don't like..!!!
another good reason for clubs is you are coming in contact with a large number of people to select from without feeling obliged to any of them there for you are less likely to make a false decision about who to swing with.
and if you're looking for single men you will encounter less problems with stalkers and other idiots because they will be scrutinised by other club members and will soon get bad for misbehaviour.... :P