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Ice_Pie
Sex God
Quote by hateitorloveit
Reading some of the posts here makes me so sad. I am a " nasty piece of work" because I like sex. What am I supposed to do? Go through life not getting what I want? Not discuss what i want with my partner? Just accept it...

What you do is accept that you have no right to try to persuade her to do something which, according to you, she has clearly stated she doesn't like. If you can't do without it, find someone compatible. Simple.
Morbius
Orgasminator
Quote by marmalaid
I know naughty thanks. You are right. It is just nice to discuss it. Although to be honest this has left me feeling more confused and to be honest quite down on myself.

Quite ironic that really...
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hateitorloveit
Warming the Bed
Quote by Ice Pie
Reading some of the posts here makes me so sad. I am a " nasty piece of work" because I like sex. What am I supposed to do? Go through life not getting what I want? Not discuss what i want with my partner? Just accept it...

What you do is accept that you have no right to try to persuade her to do something which, according to you, she has clearly stated she doesn't like. If you can't do without it, find someone compatible. Simple.
I said that in the first place. But then everyone jumped on me because I said I would dump her if we couldn't get this sorted out!
Ice Pie - why did you call me a nasty piece of work. What have I done so wrong?
Happy__Cat
Sex God
Quote by marmalaid
I know naughty thanks. You are right. It is just nice to discuss it. Although to be honest this has left me feeling more confused and to be honest quite down on myself.

Quite ironic that really...
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bluexxx
Sex God
Quote by hateitorloveit
Well i hope my girlfriend is keen on me. This started off with me wanting some head. It has now got me questioning everything. I do think I am a nice person. I'm not a sex fiend. I just like to hnest and upfront about what I want. If you don't tell someone what you want how can they know.
I wish I had never started this.

OK serious answer....
Have you asked her WHY she doesn't like sucking cock?
Perhaps you should think fo some reasons why she might not like it.... maybe your cock smells and she is shy about telling you (sorry to make it personal, but it is possible confused ); maybe she has been forced to give head in the past and now has a mental block against it; maybe she doesn't like sex with men much really anyway :? :? :? ; maybe there is no deep-seated reason and it is just something she prefers not to do; maybe she likes the idea but is afraid she will be crap and will disappoint you so she just says she doesn't like it...... the point is you won't know til you ask her!
Only you can decide whether you want to go without BJs....if you REALLY can't and you see no way forward, yes, you should leave her...... selfish yes, but better than living a lie. If your sex life is otherwise cool, and the rest of your relationship is cool too, ask yourself whether having BJs is really that important and worth the pain of splitting up over :? .
Over to you mate :? :? :?
naughtynymphos1
Sex God
Right i have a idea
This is a swinging site right??
well why don't you guys meet a single guy and see if she sucks his cock and then you will know if its you or her?
Just a thought
Ice_Pie
Sex God
Quote by hateitorloveit
Reading some of the posts here makes me so sad. I am a " nasty piece of work" because I like sex. What am I supposed to do? Go through life not getting what I want? Not discuss what i want with my partner? Just accept it...

What you do is accept that you have no right to try to persuade her to do something which, according to you, she has clearly stated she doesn't like. If you can't do without it, find someone compatible. Simple.
I said that in the first place.
No you didn't. You made a big speech about your needs, demonstrated utter contempt for hers, and asked for advice on how to persuade her to do something she doesn't like. And you still haven't answered the question about how you would react if she did the same to you.
naughtynymphos1
Sex God
Quote by Ice Pie
Reading some of the posts here makes me so sad. I am a " nasty piece of work" because I like sex. What am I supposed to do? Go through life not getting what I want? Not discuss what i want with my partner? Just accept it...

What you do is accept that you have no right to try to persuade her to do something which, according to you, she has clearly stated she doesn't like. If you can't do without it, find someone compatible. Simple.
I said that in the first place.
No you didn't. You made a big speech about your needs, demonstrated utter contempt for hers, and asked for advice on how to persuade her to do something she doesn't like. And you still haven't answered the question about how you would react if she did the same to you.
You know i never thought about it like that
So if she asked you if it was ok to shag you with a strap on and u said no and she left you, be honest and i mean totally honest would u feel that was ok or would you think 'well that was a bit over the top the bitch?'
meat2pleaseu
Sex God
Quote by naughtynymphos1
Right i have a idea
This is a swinging site right??
well why don't you guys meet a single guy and see if she sucks his cock and then you will know if its you or her?
Just a thought

Im willing to sacrifice myself for this task wave
naughtynymphos1
Sex God
Quote by meat2pleaseu
Right i have a idea
This is a swinging site right??
well why don't you guys meet a single guy and see if she sucks his cock and then you will know if its you or her?
Just a thought

Im willing to sacrifice myself for this task wave
piss off i'm trying to get rid of the hubby for the night here lol
hateitorloveit
Warming the Bed
Ice Pie - Why are you so aggressive? I am looking for advice on how to solve a delicate sexual problem. I have made it clear that I am looking for ways to keep everyone happy. I have no idea why you are making an argument out of it. Surely it is better for me to ask advice so i can approach this in a way that will not hurt anyone. Isn't that the mature reasonable thing to do?
if she asked me to do the same thing I would consider it and if I didn't want to do it I would tell her that and accept any effect that had on the relationship. Hey maybe I would tyr it and like it, who knows. I like sex.
Ice_Pie
Sex God
Quote by naughtynymphos1
You know i never thought about it like that
So if she asked you if it was ok to shag you with a strap on and u said no and she left you, be honest and i mean totally honest would u feel that was ok or would you think 'well that was a bit over the top the bitch?'

If it was that important to her I would probably think she was pretty shallow, but I wouldn't object to her leaving on those grounds. What I would object to is if she tried to persuade me after I said I didn't want to.
hateitorloveit
Warming the Bed
By the same token there are lots of things I dislike sexually. I hate having woman on top. I hate doggy style. All of my girlfriends have lived that although some have complained a bit...
...suppose that does make me look at this in a different light...
...see maybe it wasn't such a bad idea to start this thread...now I have weathered the storm of abuse...
marmalaid
Sex God
Quote by hateitorloveit
Ice Pie - Why are you so aggressive? I am looking for advice on how to solve a delicate sexual problem. I have made it clear that I am looking for ways to keep everyone happy. I have no idea why you are making an argument out of it. Surely it is better for me to ask advice so i can approach this in a way that will not hurt anyone. Isn't that the mature reasonable thing to do?
if she asked me to do the same thing I would consider it and if I didn't want to do it I would tell her that and accept any effect that had on the relationship. Hey maybe I would tyr it and like it, who knows. I like sex.

Ice isn't agressive, just unswerving in his opinions sometimes. If you ask questions without answering he'll remind you. That's all.
Ice is great, he'll happily show you the knife and tell you what he's going to do with it before he kicks you in the knackers biggrin
Quote by hateitorloveit
...see maybe it wasn't such a bad idea to start this thread...now I have weathered the storm of abuse...

Friendly ribbing, surely.
Ice_Pie
Sex God
Quote by hateitorloveit
Ice Pie - Why are you so aggressive? I am looking for advice on how to solve a delicate sexual problem.

I'm not being aggressive, and there's nothing 'delicate' about it, it's simply a matter of someone's personal choice, which you don't seem to respect. You are looking for advice on how to persuade someone to do something she clearly doesn't want to do, so you tell me who's being aggressive. dunno
naughtynymphos1
Sex God
Quote by Ice Pie
You know i never thought about it like that
So if she asked you if it was ok to shag you with a strap on and u said no and she left you, be honest and i mean totally honest would u feel that was ok or would you think 'well that was a bit over the top the bitch?'

If it was that important to her I would probably think she was pretty shallow, but I wouldn't object to her leaving on those grounds. What I would object to is if she tried to persuade me after I said I didn't want to.
sorry i wasn't asking you i was asking loveitorhateit, i was just wondering how he felt the other way round.
My mistake for not putting names lol
Unknown User
Quote by Ice Pie
You know i never thought about it like that
So if she asked you if it was ok to shag you with a strap on and u said no and she left you, be honest and i mean totally honest would u feel that was ok or would you think 'well that was a bit over the top the bitch?'

If it was that important to her I would probably think she was pretty shallow, but I wouldn't object to her leaving on those grounds. What I would object to is if she tried to persuade me after I said I didn't want to.
Whats wrong with a little gentle persuasion if you have said no to something
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redstilletto
Sex God
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personally i think she the girl who dont like sucking cock should dump him
evil
Unknown User
Quote by redstilletto
:doh:
personally i think she the girl who dont like sucking cock should dump him
evil

Well it dosn't look like a relationship that is going to work does it lol
mr__powers1
Sex God
Quote by hateitorloveit
This is really getting me down. Why can't life be simple.

Fuck me just because your present girlfriend won't give you a blow job you think it's the end of the world........why don't you wait until something really serious happens to you then you're have something to worry about!......so she won't give you a bj...so what!...you can still have a fulfilling sex life without that.......
marmalaid
Sex God
Quote by da69ve
This is really getting me down. Why can't life be simple.

Fuck me just because your present girlfriend won't give you a blow job you think it's the end of the world........why don't you wait until something really serious happens to you then you're have something to worry about!......so she won't give you a bj...so what!...you can still have a fulfilling sex life without that.......
It's always amazed me how you can talk with your mouth full like that Dave lol
hateitorloveit
Warming the Bed
You think my girlfriend should dump me? Why? What have I done wrong? Is it wrong to discuss these things and have these thoughts.
And seriously if someone says they don't like something is it wrong to try and find pleasant non-pressurised ways to bring them out of their shell and get them to try something which most women seem to love. Is that really so wrong?
I'm asking advice here, and I have stated this several times, to approach in a way that doesn't put her under pressure.
mr__powers1
Sex God
Quote by marmalaid
This is really getting me down. Why can't life be simple.

Fuck me just because your present girlfriend won't give you a blow job you think it's the end of the world........why don't you wait until something really serious happens to you then you're have something to worry about!......so she won't give you a bj...so what!...you can still have a fulfilling sex life without that.......
It's always amazed me how you can talk with your mouth full like that Dave lol
Years of practice!!......
meat2pleaseu
Sex God
Quote by hateitorloveit
By the same token there are lots of things I dislike sexually. I hate having woman on top. I hate doggy style. All of my girlfriends have lived that although some have complained a bit...
...suppose that does make me look at this in a different light...
...see maybe it wasn't such a bad idea to start this thread...now I have weathered the storm of abuse...

How can you dislike a woman on top? so much more to play with (well a couple of things), never met a woman who doesn't get an extra something from doggie, so maybe you should try these a little more and she might relax with you a bit and get more adventurous.... then who knows what she might fancy trying next
Unknown User
Quote by da69ve
This is really getting me down. Why can't life be simple.

Fuck me just because your present girlfriend won't give you a blow job you think it's the end of the world........why don't you wait until something really serious happens to you then you're have something to worry about!......so she won't give you a bj...so what!...you can still have a fulfilling sex life without that.......
So here we are on a swinging web site saying you can have a fulfilling sex life without a blow job lol
Ice_Pie
Sex God
Quote by marmalaid
Ice isn't agressive, just unswerving in his opinions sometimes. If you ask questions without answering he'll remind you. That's all.
Ice is great, he'll happily show you the knife and tell you what he's going to do with it before he kicks you in the knackers biggrin

I say what I see Marms, you know that, and what I see here is a guy who doesn't seem to realise the other person's wants are just as important as his. If the incompatibility is too much to compromise on and he feels the need to move on, fair enough, but it's this idea of trying to persuade her against her express objection that strikes me as overly selfish, and yes, aggressive.
naughtynymphos1
Sex God
Quote by meat2pleaseu
By the same token there are lots of things I dislike sexually. I hate having woman on top. I hate doggy style. All of my girlfriends have lived that although some have complained a bit...
...suppose that does make me look at this in a different light...
...see maybe it wasn't such a bad idea to start this thread...now I have weathered the storm of abuse...

How can you dislike a woman on top? so much more to play with (well a couple of things), never met a woman who doesn't get an extra something from doggie, so maybe you should try these a little more and she might relax with you a bit and get more adventurous.... then who knows what she might fancy trying next
for someone who loves great sex and wants a fulfilling sex life your very limited to what possitions u enjoy confused
hateitorloveit
Warming the Bed
Quote by meat2pleaseu
How can you dislike a woman on top? so much more to play with (well a couple of things), never met a woman who doesn't get an extra something from doggie, so maybe you should try these a little more and she might relax with you a bit and get more adventurous.... then who knows what she might fancy trying next

Thats a good point. I just get bored when a girl is on top. I like to be in charge and fuck a girl like an animal until she starts crying and stuff. I am quite dom. Maybe thats why I like head so much.
But my new girlfriend is very dom as well so we kinda clash there. She loves going on top. Oh fuck it, I'm doomed.
naughtynymphos1
Sex God
Just another thought
as i said b4 this is a swinging site right?
well why not meet couples and get a bj of their mrs?
Unknown User
Quote by hateitorloveit
You think my girlfriend should dump me? Why? What have I done wrong? Is it wrong to discuss these things and have these thoughts.
And seriously if someone says they don't like something is it wrong to try and find pleasant non-pressurised ways to bring them out of their shell and get them to try something which most women seem to love. Is that really so wrong?
I'm asking advice here, and I have stated this several times, to approach in a way that doesn't put her under pressure.

If she doesn't like doing it, she probably won't want to do it no matter how gentle the persuasion.