sounds like a lot of these boys have got some growing up to do...........
sounds like your in a relationship for the sex rather than enjoying someones company and just wanting to be with them......not good. she does sound like a manipulative lil bitch tho so what the hey you probly make a good couple! of course if she is the type of lass that cant even bear to touch a cock that could be a prob,i had a gf like that for about 7 months and it wasnt the best. it was doubled the stress when i found out she wouldnt let me go down on her!!!!! what a strange girl she was......turning down a tongue-lashing! wierd thing was that she dumped me in the end for being too affectionate, and cos i ran out of money trying to get her out of debt.
Here's my take.
A relationship, whether it be an intimate and monogamous one, or a friendship, or a tolerance of someone that you clash with on occasions but in the main you are affable, is a compromise.
If there's something that really pisses you off then do something about it, if it's not really that important to you then let it slip.
Let's change the context a little, imagine that you have a habit that she finds distasteful, like, maybe knitting! You would love it if she would come to the Knitting Society on a Wednesday, but she just doesn't want to, what would you do?
It depends how important it is to you, if it's critical, the be all and end all in your life then make tracks, if you are prepared to compromise and just not discuss the knitting then that's great. Coercion ain’t gonna work, mate. Change your priorities or change your girlfriend.
I don't think this guy deserves anger because it's important to him, although I do think his priorities are out, he has a right to set them for himself.
Chris
That is it exactly Marmalaid. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying a relationship is all about great head...but I do want a relationship where we can fulfill each others needs. i just have to work out if this is something that can be sorted. But I want to do that through reasonable, unpressured adult discussion rather than coercion.
Is it wrong of me to feel this way about sex? Am I sick? I mean I like sex. It is important to me. I want a great sex life and with girlfriends of the recent past I have had it.
Blowjobs aren't that bad are they? I have had girlfriends who couldn't keep off the thing. I love going down on a woman. I don't want to be some bitter old man looking back on my life and cursing at my sexual repression.
This is really getting me down. Why can't life be simple.
Reading some of the posts here makes me so sad. I am a " nasty piece of work" because I like sex. What am I supposed to do? Go through life not getting what I want? Not discuss what i want with my partner? Just accept it...
One of guys said you think my girlfriend doesn't actually like me. Maybe that is true and I will have to discuss that with her. But how can I phrase that "I don't think you like me because you aren't willing to do things to please me" without putting pressure on her...
i do not think your a nasty piece of work lol
everyone on here wants a good sex life thats why we are here, if i had only been going out with someone for such a short time and i felt unhappy about something i would tell them if it didn't change i would leave, how on earch can you look long tearm if you not happy after a couple of months.
Right, thats it!
Wheres the, killing yourself with a samurai sword, emoticon?
I know naughty thanks. You are right. It is just nice to discuss it. Although to be honest this has left me feeling more confused and to be honest quite down on myself.
Well i hope my girlfriend is keen on me. This started off with me wanting some head. It has now got me questioning everything. I do think I am a nice person. I'm not a sex fiend. I just like to hnest and upfront about what I want. If you don't tell someone what you want how can they know.
I wish I had never started this.