Now that ive had a chance to chat with a few of you, and ive read the many postings to my original question, and ive also read profiles and as some say 'got a feel for the person behind the posting' I admit maybe some of what i initially said was hasty, based on past experiences and didnt take into account what apears to be a quite unique cross section of like minded people in this group.
I desperately dont want to waste anymore of my life in a sex free environment, but I couldnt see a way to enjoy it with the type of strangers i had previously met.
I hope that will all change now, and thank you everyone for helping me to see that.