Ok, following on from a thought that occured to me while reading the confidence thread.
Do you find you are more confident with your clothes on than off?
I guess for me I have to say yes.
Lets face it us women ( and some men ) can put the right clothes on that hold us in and make us look better in all the right places. I admit that when I am naked I am very aware that my stomach is not as flat as it was when I was 18, that my thighs are not as firm as when I was 18 and then my breasts don't sit where they did when I was 18. Oh FFS why was I not having a shit load of sex when I was 18 ?!?!?
However, I do also have to add that for me now if it has gotten to the point of nakedness then I would like to think my partner(s) are more into the whole package ( i.e. My mind as well ) and not just what I look like.
EDIT: Do you wonder sometimes if you are being deceptive though. I mean, with the right clothes it may lead a guy/girl/couple to think you look better under those clothes than you really do?
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Confidence .. clothes on or off ??
Quote by Abilene
I admit that when I am naked I am very aware that my stomach is not as flat as it was when I was 18...
That's my main bug bear, but it's more psychological than anything else.
On a recent visit to a club, I couldn't decide what to wear and I told dammie I'd like to have a very sheer bady doll type thing for club wear.
Even though it would be totally see though, the fact that I could feel material covering my stomach made me feel more comfortable.
Am I strange?
Sex God
Yep! I agree with everything you said in that post :thumbup:
im not one for confidence anyway, but a while back i got bullied into wearing a tuxedo for a munch, felt very awkward, but by the end of the night, had some lovely compliments from some peoples whose opinion i value, so by the end of the night, i was feeling very confident, so yes, clothes can help
wheras the clothes on a woman wouldnt be so important, for me, as i have to like the person, no outfit would make me change my mind, i either like the person or i dont, which would in turn determine whether i wanted to be with that person or not
wheras the clothes on a woman wouldnt be so important, for me, as i have to like the person, no outfit would make me change my mind, i either like the person or i dont, which would in turn determine whether i wanted to be with that person or not
Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
the fact that I could feel material covering my stomach made me feel more comfortable.
Am I strange?
Nope, I totally understand. Like the short skirt I had on at the Wigan munch .. I would NEVER have worn that without pantyhose ( tights I think y'all call them ).
Sex God
I think it depends on whether I've got an erection or not.
Clothes on + erection = not confident
Clothes off + erection = confident
Clothes off + no erection = not confident
Clothes on + no erection = neutral.
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Clothes on + erection = not confident
Clothes off + erection = confident
Clothes off + no erection = not confident
Clothes on + no erection = neutral.
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Quote by essex34m
wheras the clothes on a woman wouldnt be so important, for me, as i have to like the person, no outfit would make me change my mind, i either like the person or i dont, which would in turn determine whether i wanted to be with that person or not
I totally agree. My point is though, that because I know what my flaws are ( to me ) then I wear things that make me feel more comfortable about them which in turn makes me more confident.
By the way ... if you are referring to your outfit at Darks munch then ...yep, you looked hot !!
Quote by Abilene
wheras the clothes on a woman wouldnt be so important, for me, as i have to like the person, no outfit would make me change my mind, i either like the person or i dont, which would in turn determine whether i wanted to be with that person or not
I totally agree. My point is though, that because I know what my flaws are ( to me ) then I wear things that make me feel more comfortable about them which in turn makes me more confident.
By the way ... if you are referring to your outfit at Darks munch then ...yep, you looked hot !!
i was, and thank you
Sex God
Definitely more confident with clothes on.
Quote by goose35
Clothes on for me but again like with my last confidence thread post i feel a little better about myself with them off
Then you just confused me ( which is not hard to do ) cos you just said all in one sentence that you feel better with them on and off ... so which is it?
Sex God
:shock: on, omg most definitely on. fgs could you imagine? the horses would stampede and the sheep would be throwingg themselves off cliffs 
no, has too be on for me
unles of course one has become intimate, in which case its off off off, day or night :lol2:
no, has too be on for me
unles of course one has become intimate, in which case its off off off, day or night :lol2:
Quote by Abilene
Clothes on for me but again like with my last confidence thread post i feel a little better about myself with them off
Then you just confused me ( which is not hard to do ) cos you just said all in one sentence that you feel better with them on and off ... so which is it?
i feel confident with them on
Don't worry Abi i have done a few nonsencical (sp) posts tonight
Sex God
Far more confident with my clothes on
I think I get more confident with clothes off as i get older. Wearing clothes that feel good can give you a boost, no doubt.
I particularly like being naked lately (I especially like my cock at the moment!), but haven't really been in any groups of people naked apart from in a playroom at a club recently. I am at ease with my body presently and quite like it so have no qualms about being naked - I just need the opportunities now! gimme gimme gimme
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I particularly like being naked lately (I especially like my cock at the moment!), but haven't really been in any groups of people naked apart from in a playroom at a club recently. I am at ease with my body presently and quite like it so have no qualms about being naked - I just need the opportunities now! gimme gimme gimme
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Sex God
Quote by Abilene
sex?
eighteen?
outrageous!
lp
Oh yeah .. cos you are so innocent. Ha !!! Don't MAKE me tell tales out of class young man !!!
:shock: :shock:
Quote by Freckledbird
sex?
eighteen?
outrageous!
lp
Oh yeah .. cos you are so innocent. Ha !!! Don't MAKE me tell tales out of class young man !!!
:shock: :shock:
and you, FB.... shhh
anyway... whats this thread?
oh yeah... clothes on... *speciality* clothes! :twisted:
sometimes
>>edit: & how does one do that *double quote* thing anyway?<<
double QUOTE I said! blimey
Sex God
well to be honest when naked i feel more at ease
i do hide when wearing clothes in respect of what i wear to creat images
what u see when naked is the real me i can't hide and i find that the type of people who are comfy with me and thus i can relax more
i do hide when wearing clothes in respect of what i wear to creat images
what u see when naked is the real me i can't hide and i find that the type of people who are comfy with me and thus i can relax more
In terms of swinging: until I feel comfy in my surroundings then I would say clothes on, as soon as I start to feel relaxed then suddenly I gain confidence very quickly and surprise whoever i'm with LOL.. clothes... what clothes, I had clothes?.
Clothes then come off and I am absolutely as confident without them as with them. It's just getting to that zone where I feel relaxed and chilled out enough with the surroundings.
I also find that sexier - watching someone grow in confidence as they relax is attractive to me and undressing is all part of the fun!
xxxx
Clothes then come off and I am absolutely as confident without them as with them. It's just getting to that zone where I feel relaxed and chilled out enough with the surroundings.
I also find that sexier - watching someone grow in confidence as they relax is attractive to me and undressing is all part of the fun!
xxxx
Quote by essex34m
im not one for confidence anyway, but a while back i got bullied into wearing a tuxedo for a munch, felt very awkward, but by the end of the night, had some lovely compliments from some peoples whose opinion i value, so by the end of the night, i was feeling very confident, so yes, clothes can help
wheras the clothes on a woman wouldnt be so important, for me, as i have to like the person, no outfit would make me change my mind, i either like the person or i dont, which would in turn determine whether i wanted to be with that person or not
I would have loved to have seen you in a tux... I get verrrry turned on by a man in a nice suit.
Master of Sex
During the summer I visit a local naturist beach regularly and I always think women look better without their clothes however 'imperfect' their bodies. The body to me looks good even if it has flab, droops or wrinkles. I mourn that women feel so insecure about their bodies but am reconciled to it. My own body is nothing fantastic but I am confident to go naked. To me nakedness means not having to apologise and hide oneself.
Few of us are perfect; so what?
Few of us are perfect; so what?
