I see you as confident.
For me, from an 'attractiveness' perspective the main difference between confidence and arrogance is somebody using their 'attractiveness' explicitly = arrogance. The most attractive people I've/we've met are those that don't know it.. or at least don't flaunt it or use it.. hmmmm, that doesn't make much sense but it did in my head - I'll re-think it and re-word it later...
This thread is spookily timely as I've just sent a PM to somebody about a possible meet and said that somebody's demeanor was coming across as possibly arrogant and that it was the easiest way to switch me off...
I love confidence on the other hand and rarely go for people who don't have some element of self belief and 'get up and go' about them as I find that kinda stuff really attractive.
Arrogance is one of those words used to belittle the confident.
Self assured confident people are often described as arrogant by those who are intimidated by that.
I also think arrogance is one of those 'ugly' emotions, which is often turned on to win arguments, bringing to an end reasonable discussion.
I'm confident in that I know my limits and to some extent my strenghts..
I know that I go mostly unnoticed by most girls, and that a lot of girls just are not into me...and on the other hand a small group of girls find me instinctively attractive and sexy.
I'm trying to narrow down "what sort of girl" that is..lol...I do have an idea..but I will not say, otherwise I'll just blow my chances..lol
anyway, knowing that most girls just don't dig me, I don't really get a chance to become arrogant...which contributes in some measure to a general shyness (in real life, that is... being shy on the internet is just dumb..)
I have been called arrogant, I admit to confident. To be arrogant i would have to disregard others opinions. I hope I never do, at least not with considering them first.
Travis
Tune I have to argue with your statement "True - and sometimes confident people fall into the trap of disregarding other people's feelings, which from an objective viewpoint is arrogance." on two levels.
I dont accept that failing to consider other peoples feelings is arrogance on any level. I do accept that failing to consider any other opinion than your own is. So if a poster tries to make folk angry with their posts I dont perceive that as arrogant more narcissistic. But as you say shades of grey and balance is all etc. On a personal level I work very hard at ensuring I do not take responsibility for any emotions other than my own. If the poster debates issues without listening to the other posters then I do regard them as arrogant.
I still think its a word that means lots of things to lots of different people and is bandied about a fair bit unfairly. My eldest is an able young man and is less proud self assured and confident than many of his contemporaries. He avoids attention amongst his peers to avoid being labelled "arrogant" which I think is a bit sad.
Hope this makes sense these things work better in my head than they do in writing.
Great post whips and looked like considered deep opinions to me not waffle.
I have been told I come across as confident in most situations but I don’t always feel confident, I have never been told I came across as arrogant perhaps that is because I very rarely feel confident.
Maybe both confidence and arrogance is something other people see in you, and not always what we see in ourselves.
I`ve been told i`m a confident person, but dont always feel it. And i would never describe myself as attractive, or advertise myslef as such because attractive is different for all of us. However people who think that being attractive is all they have to offer dont really cut the mustard
One can border on the other,but in the end its in the eye of the beholder. What is attractive to one person maybe not attractive to another.
.. to both... ïŠ