We rarely go in the chat rooms but we do meet up with single guys and we will always do the following:
Picture - has to be presentable
Profile & name - must be well written and incite to character
Ads - Again to judge character
Post history - Character
We realise that most people don't want to post a full face pic on this Site but there are just so many guys around the minority that do certainly get ahead. If you want to get ahead, you have to brave and put up a really presentable (and recent) picture of yourself. We normally ask for a clear face and full body, naked and aroused.
As has been said before 'heavy cummers' 'stud fuckers' and anyone with the slightest dodgy picture, profile, advert or name will generally not get a reply from us.
We could go on for hours about things we have seen, but then again so could most couples - suffice to say that if you a reasonably good looking guy, and you can prove it and you can write an imaginative advert and profile then we would likely be interested (JUST WAIT UNTIL YOU SEE OUR AD THOUGH !! TA .
Be honest with yourself and look at your own profile - the answer to your success, or troubles, is most likely to be in there somewhere.
Good Luck
I want to say that, the idea and reality of a single guy walking into a swinging scenario and being able to dictate terms is almost impossible.
However a couple is in this position almost at any stage in the relationship. To call the shots in whatever terms they want. And they are usually the ones who practise that kind of behaviour indiscriminately.
So when I hear stories or talk about couples fending off hordes of rampant men; with whatever fascinating tips and techniques, I think this is just (and in the most polite of terms) completely redundant.
This apparanet need to present an image of being either vulnerable to or vigilant of being taken for fuck fodder is stale and useless.
Hi Duncan,
I hope I understood your post correctly. Looking through the thread it seemed to me that overall couples/single females were giving advice on the type of approach they prefer.
It seemed many prefered a more subtle approach to direct very sexual demands.
People are just saying what their individual preferences are I thought?
I do agree that when it comes to a one to one meet a couple can control what they want etc.
Hello all again.
Really pleased that everyone has some really good comments and that some can just "vent their furstrations".
Fabio's last comments I think hit the nail on the head, as, I think we all know, there is a pecking order, like it or lump it, the couples do hold sway over everything in my opinion? This is simple logistics. Because there are overwhelmingly a massive bias of single males to couples to single females. This leads to an inevitable pecking order (even if people dont do it intentionally) because, quite simply, there are less to go around (in crude terms- sorry)
The only way to perhaps redress the balance would be to be far more intolerant of the "misbehaving" members and "sinbin" them for a couple of weeks at a time,and operate a strick "three strike rule" meaning if you are reported 3 times you are out? Or perhaps have a quota on single males joining versus couples/fems to at least keep a sane ratio? In real terms, I dont think this practical, (apart from the sinbin idea) but as there is no natural selection, it is the only way of culling numbers into a more balanced membership?
Blimey lots of good answers here...
On the whole a sinbin concept sounds great but similar suggestions have been mooted before (partic regards people not turning up for meets if i recall) and run into problems. The decision making on banning or suspending someone needs to have an appeal process to prevent someone being picked on and so the whole thing can just become unwieldy.
Really the only answer is for all rooms to be moderated by a dispassionate observer with 'godlike' power to boot anyone offensive.
In the absence of that we should all just practice defensive chatting..ie be nice and considerate to everyone regardless of their status. If they become annoying then ignore them but at least show them the courtesy of saying "sorry, i'm not going to chat with you anymore".
Worth pointing out though that everyone is looking for different things.
When we go in the chatrooms - well - we always feel a bit awkward cos we never really know what to say, so the whole social thing doesn't really work for us. That and we really don't like spending ages on chat or msn; we much prefer talking on the phone or actually meeting for a drink. So yes, people who say "I live nearby" are in with a chance because basically the less time we have to spend typing in a chatroom with a load of people we're never going to meet, the better; If we can say, ok, fine, come to the pub down the bottom of our road, we'll be wearing red, that's great. If they don't turn up... we'll have gone to the pub. If they do, we'll have met them and it's far easier to judge people that way we find. Oh... but we almost never (ermmm is it? yeah, actually never) shag in the first date anyway, so living nearby is an advantage, it means we don't have to ask someone to drive up from Birmingham twice. And it is just sexy to know that there are people in the streets you walk down every day who have seen you naked (but again, we never show our faces on cam).
Ms Tomu DOES enjoy giving strip shows, and we've enjoyed having sex on cam; she enjoys the fantasy of actually becoming a stripper or a porn star. Of course we don't enjoy people being abusive or rude.
We don't mind being whispered at - probably prefer it to talking in the main room, and didn't realise people find it so offensive.
In answer to Duncan's point - We agree with the sentiment, that nobody (man, woman or couple) deserves to be objectified and treated as a plaything (unless of course, they want to); but on the other hand we think it's our right to say "this is what we will and won't do", as much as it is yours or anyone else's.
but i could be wrong there lol as i said in my last post men who pester you to get naked (in my experiance) arnt after real meets at all just a image to wank over so asking to see me bent over and showing you my 'chocolate starfish'
will get you nowhere at all with me and yes i know that makes me a crap nymphos :lol2:
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ops: :lol: ), it's annoying getting a dozen cheap, throw away lines coming in when you're trying to concentrate on a convo in the room. Imagine trying to hold a conversation with someone while there's a half dozen people whispering in your ear. You bloody couldn't and it'd annoy the hell out of you!
