Couples ~v~ Singles...

8 Apr 2009

I think I've just had a taster of what it's like to swing as a couple!! :shock:
And I'm staying single!!!
A friend and I are trying to hook up and arrange a threesome with a bi male. You'd think that would be fairly straightforward, or at least I did! I figured we'd just need to have a poke round the chatrooms and would find someone fairly easily. Not so! I've been there skiving all afternoon and there aren't very many people who actually seem that keen for a meet. Now I've never had anyone waste my time before so I guess that makes me one of the lucky ones but now I know what people mean. Attractive male with a really great attitude and eyelashes to die for amongst other things and me. I didn't think that was too shabby a prospect even if I do say so myself!!
Can we find someone we both like? No. We have similar taste in men which I suppose is a headstart and I know for a fact that we'd have no bother finding a woman to join in but trying to find a bi male is proving difficult. I've spoken to people this afternoon with no profile details or it states that they are straight on their profile but apparently bi and just not admitting it, bi men who one or neither of us are attracted to and a load without pics or married playing away from home. Quite frankly I'm thinking my swinging on a school night has come to an end before it's started and I'm going home to watch telly!!
I don't think I've ever really appreciated how difficult it is for a couple to find a single (never mind a couple!) to play with!
Surely it shouldn't be this hard? :giggle:
Well surely it should be hard but you know what I mean! :rascal:
Having looked at it from the other side I can safely say that I love being able to please myself and meet who I want to meet and fuck and if I ever contemplate getting into another relationship I'm going to come back here and read this thread all over again to remind myself why it's much more simple being single!
I don't really want this to be a moaning thread cause I'm sure we've all read/experienced that before but I'd quite like a discussion on how it can possibly be so difficult. Are there ways we could make it easier for ourselves? How do you fulfil a fantasy when it seems we're all having the same troubles in finding people to fulfil them with us?

8 Apr 2009

I soooooo know what you mean DG.
I am glad (at times) that I only have to suit myself. I went to a club recently with a fuckbuddy and I wasn't entirely comfortable checking folk out as a couple... I think I'll stick to it just being me!

8 Apr 2009

I hate looking for a meet as a couple confused

Dek has a totally different "want list" to me. People he wants us to meet don't usually impress me and vice versa - hence we normally play alone :lol2:

9 Apr 2009

Thats why we dont meet couples wink

There has only ever been two couples that we both agreed on and actually played with and that was also down to a fact we got/get on so well with them and had met socially (plus I give one of the ladies earache via text/pm on a regular basis). lol

Also, I feel a bit odd getting my kit off in front of another lady but with these two, I knew them so well as I knew I would not be made to feel uncomfortable or anything. Saying that, I would at some point, like to meet a single girl, but not sure if that would be with Mr NWC or on my own. Not something I have explored but I do have an increasing curiosity redface

We now only meet singles and even though it is males we meet, we both do have a say in who we meet (althought Mr NWC is not physically playing with them). We both need to feel comfortable and at ease with the person and both feel that we can trust the person. Not an easy task when there are two of you to please lol

However, would I swing as a single? I wouldnt swing as a single as long as I am in this relationship and considering I hope that I will always be in this relatioship, then I doubt it will be an issue. However if I was single, I can see it would be 'easier' to find 'suitable' friends, but the safety aspect would also worry me.
In other words, Im waffling again and not a clue what Im on about, redface

9 Apr 2009

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Thats why we dont meet couples There has only ever been two couples that we both agreed on and actually played with and that was also down to a fact we got/get on so well with them and had met socially (plus I give one of the ladies earache via text/pm on a regular basis).
Also, I feel a bit odd getting my kit off in front of another lady but with these two, I knew them so well as I knew I would not be made to feel uncomfortable or anything. Saying that, I would at some point, like to meet a single girl, but not sure if that would be with Mr NWC or on my own. Not something I have explored but I do have an increasing curiosity
We now only meet singles and even though it is males we meet, we both do have a say in who we meet (althought Mr NWC is not physically playing with them). We both need to feel comfortable and at ease with the person and both feel that we can trust the person. Not an easy task when there are two of you to please
However, would I swing as a single? I wouldnt swing as a single as long as I am in this relationship and considering I hope that I will always be in this relatioship, then I doubt it will be an issue. However if I was single, I can see it would be 'easier' to find 'suitable' friends, but the safety aspect would also worry me.
In other words, Im waffling again and not a clue what Im on about,

:rascal:

9 Apr 2009

Off to locate my satnav wink

9 Apr 2009

Quote by Dirtygirly

A friend and I are trying to hook up and arrange a threesome with a bi male. You'd think that would be fairly straightforward, or at least I did!

I don't know why, have you not heard me moan about this exact thing on..umm...a few occasions lol

9 Apr 2009

Quote by Serendipity

A friend and I are trying to hook up and arrange a threesome with a bi male. You'd think that would be fairly straightforward, or at least I did!

I don't know why, have you not heard me moan about this exact thing on..umm...a few occasions lol

:giggle:
I have... I have no idea why I didn't remember that though! innocent

9 Apr 2009

I'm telling ya, it's not the single bi females that are rocking horse poop/hens teeth/the holy grail! lol

9 Apr 2009

Quote by Serendipity
I'm telling ya, it's not the single bi females that are rocking horse poop/hens teeth/the holy grail!

No... we're facilitators! They're in hiding!! :giggle:

10 Apr 2009

I think a lot of blokes fantasise about being with another man but when it actually comes down to it it's a different thing altogether.
That's why in chat or email you'll probably get a bit of interest but when it comes down to a meet you won't get many who'll sign up for it. They'll give their excuses about how busy they are.

10 Apr 2009

Quote by ScoobySmudge
I think a lot of blokes fantasise about being with another man but when it actually comes down to it it's a different thing altogether.
That's why in chat or email you'll probably get a bit of interest but when it comes down to a meet you won't get many who'll sign up for it. They'll give their excuses about how busy they are.

Exactly :thumbup:
Fantasy becoming a reality for most is just too much. I ran an ad. on here for relaxed, fit bi males for a small gang bang with a very attractive female friend of mine - she is the business by anyone's measure and there was a lot of interest. Probably around 60 replies (which based on a male running the ad. was good).
As the time drew closer we had PM's from some guys saying 'can't we meet as a 3-some as I don't want anyone else to know I like cock?' We also had one guy that we invited immediately make himself at home with her and then started to brush aside any male contact 'I'm not into that mate!' kinda comments - needless to say, he was shown the door. We were quite explicit about what we were looking for and any of the guys there knew that.
Having recently got reinvolved in mmf scenarios and now finding them incredibly horny, moreso than mm encounters (some of my gay pals would fall off their seat if they read that), I can honestly say it isn't easy to find a bi bloke to join me and the female pals I play/might play with that works for all 3 of us, and us him ;)
I'm also BIG into kissing and that's like a big 'no no' for a lot of bi guys. Having been in scenarios with males and females where the male wouldn't kiss me, I've decided I probabaly wouldn't do it again (DG - add that to the criteria!) I've also chatted with one bi bloke with a view to a bi-mmf 3 some but they said that he'd want me to wear a condom while he sucked my cock and vice-versa but that there was no need when the female was sucking! FFS, not only is that extremely insulting, it's also a bit worrying as to how they might perceive and make decisions around safe sex and risk. Don't get me wrong, I don't use condoms for sucking - ALWAYS for fucking but it's about consistency I guess!
Anyway, rant over... Scooby, you struck a chord - any chance you can get to Edinburgh on the 20th April, with DD's permission of course? ;) Ask DG - she'll explain everything cool

10 Apr 2009

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Off to locate my satnav

You have my address, right? :rascal:

10 Apr 2009

Quote by BIoke
Anyway, rant over... Scooby, you struck a chord - any chance you can get to Edinburgh on the 20th April, with DD's permission of course? ;) Ask DG - she'll explain everything

I like your thinking!! :rascal:
So Scooby... how about it?! :giggle:

10 Apr 2009

as oral as worlass is, I have to arrange all of our meets as she won't spend the time on here that a meet needs. As she is the most fussy woman on the planet it is tedious for me to arrange.
I much prefer meeting with worlass but really get annoyed at all the arranging. We are hoping to get 'into' clubbing as neither of us needs to get to know someone well before we fancy them. That has it's challenges tho' as our previous experiences haven't been the best for us.
Some people, as others have mentioned, also like the 'idea' of swinging with a 'stranger' much much more than the reality.

10 Apr 2009

Quote by Dirtygirly
I'm telling ya, it's not the single bi females that are rocking horse poop/hens teeth/the holy grail!

No... we're facilitators! They're in hiding!! :giggle:
Actually, I should add that there are a few (and I do mean a FEW) who know exactly what they're about and show up and are fantastic - they more than make up for the ones who don't!
So don't give up hope, just accept that you may have a few lets downs on the way to finding a good 'un!

10 Apr 2009

Quote by Serendipity
I'm telling ya, it's not the single bi females that are rocking horse poop/hens teeth/the holy grail!

No... we're facilitators! They're in hiding!! :giggle:
Actually, I should add that there are a few (and I do mean a FEW) who know exactly what they're about and show up and are fantastic - they more than make up for the ones who don't!
So don't give up hope, just accept that you may have a few lets downs on the way to finding a good 'un!
I suspect we might have just hit the jackpot!! :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:

12 Apr 2009

a while back we had a meet arranged with a female friend and her fb but her fb let her down a couple of days before hand so after a bit of discussion we decided to find a stand in and thought we wouldn't have any trouble due to the ammount of guys that would messages or whisper in chat " i'm just xx miles from you wanna meet"
so off we trotted to chat and posted on LMU but yet not one of them were free ffs
plenty of talk but once thier walking skills were needed they ran in the other direction :shock:
but then we also had the problem that we were having a hard time agreeing on which guys we liked i always thought this gal had similar taste to me as she liked my mr but some she suggested were not up my alley at all
finally we did get a guy that actually i had no idea wat he was like till we got there and she did choose quite well in the end well for the social side of the evening he fitted in well and we all chatted like old friends but well later once we retired to the bedroom well the poor guy was not prepaired for wat a mffm situation was all about and retreated to another room whilst we made the most of the remaining ffm situation that was left :rascal:
this is why we gave up trying to arrange meets just found it easier to stick with clubs

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