Hello,
for those couples that meet by arrangement, I am curious to know: which one of you is in charge of the communications and organising?
I've been trying to troubleshoot my failed couple connections and probably the only pattern I can see emerging is that prior to meeting I spoke almost exclusively with the man-part of the couple. I've heard from others that it is customary for the women to do the communicating (whether it's a woman joining a couple or two couples meeting). My couple-guys always assure me their women are keen, but the women are never available to chat - though obviously present at our meetings! I wonder if I should take that as lack of enthusiasm on the part of the women, and be more cautious if they do not show a modicum of self-generated enthusiasm? But then I also know that women esp. mothers are often buried under endless tasks and schedules... Am I missing something obvious here?
Mrs does most of the talking for us, Mr is the quiet shy one. She likes to ensure the other Cpl are fully aware of us and our limits before a meet, so no one gets in too deep. Mr will chat in the rooms, but Mrs responds to the winks and messages also.
If she chats with a male and the female is never around to chat, we assume she is not really involved and don't take any talk of a meet seriously.
I (the male too) also tend to do most of the initial chatting. Mainly because I'm the one that logs in almost everyday, whilst Mrs T tends to only login twice a week when we are on cam. Mrs T is very fussy, and I wouldn't dream of wasting my time, hers or a prospective meet if I didn't think she would be attracted to them or I didn't like the approach he had made.
The final decision is joint, but rests mainly with Mrs T because she won't meet anyone she doesn't find attractive.
I should add that like most on here, the final decision is a joint one, I won't "take one for the team" so I would never expect Sasha to do so no matter how attractive I find the female. Swinging is great fun, but it has never been worth losing my relationship for.
'Her fear of embarrassment or rejection tends to put her off, which is why she tends to stand behind me in these situations'
When I read this I couldn't help but click on your profile....Mrs Cubes the very thought that someone might reject you.....
Sasha on the other hand doesn't have to look far to find someone more sexually attractive than me :lol: 
