Perusing the threads in this section (Let's Meet Up) I am dismayed at the the 'holier than thou' attitude of a few who constantly respond to folks posting general "Hey lets meet" one liners and the like.
Not only is it more tiresome than the one line acts, it makes this particular forum unwelcoming. I know there has been a debate about the quality of threads that appear on here, but there is more than enough advice plastered across the site for any who wish to stand out from the usual crowd, so why continue to heckle? It's boring folks...jack it in and let the threads rise or fall on their merits, not your tiresome 'holier than thou' comments ( and I am not referring to the excellent thought out advice offered by Mods like Harry O etc, who actually offer sage advice and intuition, I mean those who respond with the sarky one liners...go and find something better to do you guys!)
It is a "Let's Meet" section, people may post their invites etc as they see fit ( as long as it is not against AUP or containing insults ect) and though it may not be for you, someone somewhere may just be intrigued by the one-liner and respond and begin a line of communication.
Back off....relax....enjoy....and let others do so in the way they feel appropriate...after all what the f@#k does it matter to you if they fail in their efforts?
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Yeah, you have a point... as someone who is sometimes sarcastic (no, never, I hear you all cry 
), I have curbed it a bit since we debated this in a thread in the cafe. I don't know what that thread was called, but the upshot was to let the naff posts slip quickly out of sight by not replying to them, but keeping the good ones on top for a while by commenting on the "goodness" of the post. That's my memory of it anyway - someone correct me if I've got that wrong.
In defence of the sarcasm, however... it is sometimes VERY difficult not to reply to the sheer silliness of some people's posts. I think some of the comments that look sarcastic are indeed a light hearted way of helping the poster to improve. I think all the forum regulars get tired of reading the silly one liners that some young lads post (it is usually young lads, but not always). They assume it is a shag fest on here. People are sick of telling them it isn't, and sometimes sarcasm is used just to lighten the day a little.
Anyways, those are just my thoughts on the issue. I can see both sides of this problem. I don't really think there is an answer to this one, unfortunately.
), I have curbed it a bit since we debated this in a thread in the cafe. I don't know what that thread was called, but the upshot was to let the naff posts slip quickly out of sight by not replying to them, but keeping the good ones on top for a while by commenting on the "goodness" of the post. That's my memory of it anyway - someone correct me if I've got that wrong.In defence of the sarcasm, however... it is sometimes VERY difficult not to reply to the sheer silliness of some people's posts. I think some of the comments that look sarcastic are indeed a light hearted way of helping the poster to improve. I think all the forum regulars get tired of reading the silly one liners that some young lads post (it is usually young lads, but not always). They assume it is a shag fest on here. People are sick of telling them it isn't, and sometimes sarcasm is used just to lighten the day a little.
Anyways, those are just my thoughts on the issue. I can see both sides of this problem. I don't really think there is an answer to this one, unfortunately.
In defence of the sarcasm, however... it is sometimes VERY difficult not to reply to the sheer silliness of some people's posts. I think some of the comments that look sarcastic are indeed a light hearted way of helping the poster to improve.
Not sure some of the postees would agree having seen their less than polite responses. :lol: Stuart
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Nice to see you're back Stu, couldn't keep away, eh?
It does get a bit addictive, doesn't it?
So you disappeared after telling everyone you were leaving and then came back with the same complaint you left with, but under a different name.
And the point is.........?
Mal
It does get a bit addictive, doesn't it?
So you disappeared after telling everyone you were leaving and then came back with the same complaint you left with, but under a different name.
And the point is.........?
Mal
Quote by mal609
Nice to see you're back Stu, couldn't keep away, eh?
It does get a bit addictive, doesn't it?
So you disappeared after telling everyone you were leaving and then came back with the same complaint you left with, but under a different name.
And the point is.........?
Mal
Hmmm, the point is....well you are a mod on here and yet you blatently abused and attacked posters on the "lets meet" thread. You overstepped the mark, I told you so and as a result of myarguments you changed your mind and changed the thread!!!
If you had been right then you would have had the courage of your convictions and defended your thread, but as all can see if they revisit it, you offer no defence, leave the argument to others and then change it to the very thing I suggested! Don't mess with me, if you have a problem say it, I don't take sarky remarks I prefer a straight fight!
As to my point, it remains the same...if you cannot understand or appreciate the argument then poor you. Maybe you could enrol on some basic literacy courses at your local college!
I find it more than interesting that your thread appeared at a time when the the more senior members of the site were absent, and I believe that had they been available at the time they would have more than opposed it!
Your comments were purile, childish and to be frank... boring! I know you believe yourself to be the most amazing swinger that this country posesses..aka..the gent, but knowing your comments upon meeting people in the flesh, I have to say that you are lucky that someone hasn't exposed you for who you really are......mouth in gear...brain ten miles away!
Your modding has F****d me off beyond comparison, you believe you are something special when you know that deep down you are nothing but a danger to the quality of this site!
Is this a personal attack...well yes it is....but only on the basis of your pathetic posts regarding this particular thread!
I returned cos I still wanted to chat with some of the greats on here ( people who I know are my genuine friends,,,Fred & Wilma...Mark and Helen.......Carpy, Artificer, KitKat , Jags, Will and Sappho, misschief, steve _g to name a few.
Your attempt to to raise sarcasm..and score points is sadly misplaced, my reasons for returning are genuine,. I sought to cause no harm to anyone, yet you felt the need to score points against me....you sad git....when do you delete me?
Stuart of the "Mal changed his thread because of me" variety.
Mal,
How many times do you need it spelling out to you? This is a forum.......people can post what they want, when they want within the rules of the forum......sarcasm is the lowest form of wit and you are the lowest form of life in my opinion.
I have had the misfortune of meeting you once, at the last NW munch, You made a snide comment that I didn't "look like my pictures "and totally ruined my night. I notice you still have the signature of "AKA the gent" well not in my experience....... Gentlemen know how to act in public, and know how to treat a woman, you dont. I know others who know you will disagree and thats fine, they have their opinion and I have mine. You made a snap judgement of me, this is my snap judgment of you!
Why dont you just back off, it is, because of people like you, and your attitude' that the genuine people are dropping out of the forum like flies. But who can blame them? I haven't posted for a while to for the same reason, and will stop for good now.
This kind of infantile behaviour just isnt worth it anymore, I have far more going on in my life to worry about.
This constant nit picking and slagging off sessions that you call "modding" is pathetic so I shall leave you to it, good luck to you.
I am not usually a person who would wish to upset, anger or hurt anyone, however Mal didn't think twice about making me feel like shit on his shoe so why should I? I had tried to leave all this behind me but after those unnecessesary comments I cant. I apologise to anyone else that this may offend. All my love to the wonderful people I have met on this forum.
Stop with the holier than thou bit........go on do the forum a favour.
From a very angry, upset, and thoroughly pis**d of with you and your attitude Fran
:x :x :x :x :x :x :x
How many times do you need it spelling out to you? This is a forum.......people can post what they want, when they want within the rules of the forum......sarcasm is the lowest form of wit and you are the lowest form of life in my opinion.
I have had the misfortune of meeting you once, at the last NW munch, You made a snide comment that I didn't "look like my pictures "and totally ruined my night. I notice you still have the signature of "AKA the gent" well not in my experience....... Gentlemen know how to act in public, and know how to treat a woman, you dont. I know others who know you will disagree and thats fine, they have their opinion and I have mine. You made a snap judgement of me, this is my snap judgment of you!
Why dont you just back off, it is, because of people like you, and your attitude' that the genuine people are dropping out of the forum like flies. But who can blame them? I haven't posted for a while to for the same reason, and will stop for good now.
This kind of infantile behaviour just isnt worth it anymore, I have far more going on in my life to worry about.
This constant nit picking and slagging off sessions that you call "modding" is pathetic so I shall leave you to it, good luck to you.
I am not usually a person who would wish to upset, anger or hurt anyone, however Mal didn't think twice about making me feel like shit on his shoe so why should I? I had tried to leave all this behind me but after those unnecessesary comments I cant. I apologise to anyone else that this may offend. All my love to the wonderful people I have met on this forum.
Stop with the holier than thou bit........go on do the forum a favour.
From a very angry, upset, and thoroughly pis**d of with you and your attitude Fran
:x :x :x :x :x :x :x 
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I moved it!Blue is right, this was discussed and it was established that the best way forward was to respond to posts we liked, and leave those we don't.
My position is that if there is a post which REALLY gets up my nose, I will comment on it, not on the original post, but in the cafe, on the grounds that if someone has the right to post something, I have the right to respond.
However, with that in mind, the steam room string was created. Now, if a posting REALLY gets up my nose, I will nip off into the steam room and say "This post has REALLY got up my nose!"
The purpose of the Lets Meet Up forum is clearly stated in the introductory blurb, however, what is also clearly stated is the purpose of the site, which is to provide a resource for thinking, serious Swingers. These two do not always make easy bed fellows.
lhk
Kat
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Blue is right, this was discussed and it was established that the best way forward was to respond to posts we liked, and leave those we don't.
My position is that if there is a post which REALLY gets up my nose, I will comment on it, not on the original post, but in the cafe, on the grounds that if someone has the right to post something, I have the right to respond.
However, with that in mind, the steam room string was created. Now, if a posting REALLY gets up my nose, I will nip off into the steam room and say "This post has REALLY got up my nose!"
The purpose of the Lets Meet Up forum is clearly stated in the introductory blurb, however, what is also clearly stated is the purpose of the site, which is to provide a resource for thinking, serious Swingers. These two do not always make easy bed fellows.
lhk
Kat
Wow just read this thread and it has made me really sad and unhappy!!!!!!!! There seems to be a tension of what is acceptable in here which keeps cropping up and I just think everyone is taking it too seriously!! Everyone including moderators are on here voluntarily and no one has any more rights than the next. I agree KitKat the Lets Meet Up was set up for swinging couples so maybe it should be split again as what has happened with dogging to create an area where singles who want to meet for sex can post!!!!! However those who put up lewd messages in any area should just note the amount of responses they get are usually nil. I didnt come here to be abused as a woman nor to abuse men - and boy am I capable of doing that. Honesty works and not everyone in here would be our mates in real life so lets not kid ourselves in cyber its any different but bloody hell life is tough enough out there without making people feel crap virtually. Dont think by the way that hasnt happened to me because it has and it will again and I will have to brush myself down take a good hard look at me in the mirror and say boy you are gorgeous. Why? because the most important person who cares about you is you.
So come on the posts in the forum keep flooding with people who are feeling hurt. Solutions can be found and Fran get your arse back in here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!xxxxxxxxx
Corrie
Mod
Can I just point out to anyone who reads this, there has been no contact between myself and Stu and Fran, other than in open forum. We have never conversed by PM or email.
I am a moderator, not a god. If there is a dispute I listen to both sides of it before I make a decision. If anyone wishes to revisit this particular thread, they will see that you are the only ones objecting – no-one else. Yes, I changed it, so what? Wasn’t that the point of your argument? I do take advice on these matters, I don’t just cave in. I’m not perfect and never professed to be, who is?
Straight fight?
So not averse to slagging off other Site members, then?
And not averse to some sarcasm either?
You have never met me, you know nothing of my background or my educational level. I take it you have heard of ‘people who live in glass houses…?’
Blatently - blatantly
Purile - puerile
Posesses – possesses
Unnecessesary - unnecessary
Sorry, you lost me on this one. Firstly, there is no ranking structure amongst the Mods on the Forum, so no Mod is more senior than another. Secondly, there is a facility on here to be onsite and ‘hidden’ and even the Mods can use this and some do frequently. Mods do discuss what happens on the Site.
I urge the young lady to read her partners’ earlier posts. Sarcasm for one and not another? Slightly unbalanced argument, don’t you think?
You are absolutely correct about the comment I made. However, perhaps telling the whole story might clarify it. When I was introduced to you, you were stood alongside Fred. I incorrectly assumed you were Wilma. Of course you didn’t look like your pic, because you don’t look like Wilma! We spoke probably less than 30 words. When my mistake was pointed out to me, I immediately apologised. Not later that night, not several days later – immediately.
Totally ruined your night? Get real. This happened 3 months ago and if it was such a big issue I’m pretty sure I would have heard about it before now. So why bring it up now?
I will point out to you both that, having taken the time to go through your posts, it is very apparent that your ‘contribution’ to the Site is minimal. You have offered assistance to only 4 people and welcomed rest of your posts are made up of general banter and your requests for meets. There is absolutely nothing wrong with any of that, whatsoever. It was mentioned to put into perspective your contribution. Some people take and others give. I ‘give’ a lot more to this Site than I think you can actually comprehend. It has been mentioned previously exactly what Mods do and the amount of time and effort we put in to make this Site as good as it is.
Your attack on me was vitriolic, aggressive, uncalled for, personal and based on a lack of facts. I will not look for an apology, as I know it would not be forthcoming.
However, I shall also point out that this is also against the Site’s AUP. As you have requested in your ‘post’ you no longer wish to remain members, you will be aware that all your logins have now been disabled.
Many people have been banned for less, very few have been banned for more.
This has been aired in public as the attack was in public. I do not want any further comment in public either. This is a Site to have fun and meet people. If anyone has any comments, good or bad, please use the PM system. This is now locked.
Mal
Hmmm, the point is....well you are a mod on here and yet you blatently abused and attacked posters on the "lets meet" thread. You overstepped the mark, I told you so and as a result of myarguments you changed your mind and changed the thread!!!
If you had been right then you would have had the courage of your convictions and defended your thread, but as all can see if they revisit it, you offer no defence, leave the argument to others and then change it to the very thing I suggested! Don't mess with me, if you have a problem say it, I don't take sarky remarks I prefer a straight fight!
I am a moderator, not a god. If there is a dispute I listen to both sides of it before I make a decision. If anyone wishes to revisit this particular thread, they will see that you are the only ones objecting – no-one else. Yes, I changed it, so what? Wasn’t that the point of your argument? I do take advice on these matters, I don’t just cave in. I’m not perfect and never professed to be, who is?
Straight fight?
‘Stu...of the "goading &...." variety’– a direct quote of yours
Hey Guys, have u checked out 307's website?
Maybe he shouldn't be on this site, just thinking that the only folks I know who like that kind of thing are pre-pubescent kids and half wits, no I take that back, the ones I know of are full wits!!
But then again, maybe this is hard evidence to prove my theory!:dunno: :dunno: :dunno:
Stu of the "Fran and variety"
So not averse to slagging off other Site members, then?
‘I went to bed last night as the match sticks could no-longer hold my heavy eye-lids open, I had waited in vain for my sparring partner to return and demonstrate his verbal agility upon his keyboard, and could hold out no-more.
Still I awoke this morning in eager anticipation that the said member would have left his witty riposte through the wee small hours! Yet again, I was disappointed to find tallnhairy (awright mate!) was still the last postee...
Now I look again, still awaiting, but to no avail!
Then I recalled, I bet copy has to be in by this time in the afternoon, maybe the promised story was too difficult to obtain? Still, the one being made up now about Gareth Gates is bound to be as big as any swingers one!!!
LOL...yes, I am joking Ukdogger....if you still visit us, just wondering why you hurl an insult and then run?’
‘Sorry, I can often come over as sarcastic, maybe wind people up, express my opinions too strongly, but I never abuse them and if I am wrong I will say so and
And not averse to some sarcasm either?
As to my point, it remains the same...if you cannot understand or appreciate the argument then poor you. Maybe you could enrol on some basic literacy courses at your local college!
You have never met me, you know nothing of my background or my educational level. I take it you have heard of ‘people who live in glass houses…?’
Blatently - blatantly
Purile - puerile
Posesses – possesses
Unnecessesary - unnecessary
I find it more than interesting that your thread appeared at a time when the the more senior members of the site were absent, and I believe that had they been available at the time they would have more than opposed it!
Sorry, you lost me on this one. Firstly, there is no ranking structure amongst the Mods on the Forum, so no Mod is more senior than another. Secondly, there is a facility on here to be onsite and ‘hidden’ and even the Mods can use this and some do frequently. Mods do discuss what happens on the Site.
Your comments were purile, childish and to be frank... boring! I know you believe yourself to be the most amazing swinger that this country posesses..aka..the gent, but knowing your comments upon meeting people in the flesh, I have to say that you are lucky that someone hasn't exposed you for who you really are......mouth in gear...brain ten miles away!
Your modding has F****d me off beyond comparison, you believe you are something special when you know that deep down you are nothing but a danger to the quality of this site!
Is this a personal attack...well yes it is....but only on the basis of your pathetic posts regarding this particular thread!
I returned cos I still wanted to chat with some of the greats on here ( people who I know are my genuine friends,,,Fred & Wilma...Mark and Helen.......Carpy, Artificer, KitKat , Jags, Will and Sappho, misschief, steve _g to name a few.
Your attempt to to raise sarcasm..and score points is sadly misplaced, my reasons for returning are genuine,. I sought to cause no harm to anyone, yet you felt the need to score points against me....you sad git....when do you delete me?
Stuart of the "Mal changed his thread because of me" variety.
How many times do you need it spelling out to you? This is a forum.......people can post what they want, when they want within the rules of the forum......sarcasm is the lowest form of wit and you are the lowest form of life in my opinion.
I urge the young lady to read her partners’ earlier posts. Sarcasm for one and not another? Slightly unbalanced argument, don’t you think?
I have had the misfortune of meeting you once, at the last NW munch, You made a snide comment that I didn't "look like my pictures "and totally ruined my night. I notice you still have the signature of "AKA the gent" well not in my experience....... Gentlemen know how to act in public, and know how to treat a woman, you dont. I know others who know you will disagree and thats fine, they have their opinion and I have mine. You made a snap judgement of me, this is my snap judgment of you!
You are absolutely correct about the comment I made. However, perhaps telling the whole story might clarify it. When I was introduced to you, you were stood alongside Fred. I incorrectly assumed you were Wilma. Of course you didn’t look like your pic, because you don’t look like Wilma! We spoke probably less than 30 words. When my mistake was pointed out to me, I immediately apologised. Not later that night, not several days later – immediately.
Totally ruined your night? Get real. This happened 3 months ago and if it was such a big issue I’m pretty sure I would have heard about it before now. So why bring it up now?
Why dont you just back off, it is, because of people like you, and your attitude' that the genuine people are dropping out of the forum like flies. But who can blame them? I haven't posted for a while to for the same reason, and will stop for good now.
This kind of infantile behaviour just isnt worth it anymore, I have far more going on in my life to worry about.
This constant nit picking and slagging off sessions that you call "modding" is pathetic so I shall leave you to it, good luck to you.
I am not usually a person who would wish to upset, anger or hurt anyone, however Mal didn't think twice about making me feel like shit on his shoe so why should I? I had tried to leave all this behind me but after those unnecessesary comments I cant. I apologise to anyone else that this may offend. All my love to the wonderful people I have met on this forum.
Stop with the holier than thou bit........go on do the forum a favour.
From a very angry, upset, and thoroughly pis**d of with you and your attitude Fran
I will point out to you both that, having taken the time to go through your posts, it is very apparent that your ‘contribution’ to the Site is minimal. You have offered assistance to only 4 people and welcomed rest of your posts are made up of general banter and your requests for meets. There is absolutely nothing wrong with any of that, whatsoever. It was mentioned to put into perspective your contribution. Some people take and others give. I ‘give’ a lot more to this Site than I think you can actually comprehend. It has been mentioned previously exactly what Mods do and the amount of time and effort we put in to make this Site as good as it is.
Your attack on me was vitriolic, aggressive, uncalled for, personal and based on a lack of facts. I will not look for an apology, as I know it would not be forthcoming.
However, I shall also point out that this is also against the Site’s AUP. As you have requested in your ‘post’ you no longer wish to remain members, you will be aware that all your logins have now been disabled.
Many people have been banned for less, very few have been banned for more.
This has been aired in public as the attack was in public. I do not want any further comment in public either. This is a Site to have fun and meet people. If anyone has any comments, good or bad, please use the PM system. This is now locked.
Mal
